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When we are trying to seduce someone, we use many ways to draw attention to ourselves, especially women. She wears her best clothes, uses her favorite perfume, offers a dazzling smile, asks her friends what she should do to get “that guy” to like her, and she often daydreams of that guy whom she believes could be her “prince charming.”

From the moment that we make our dreams become reality, dating consists of smiles, hugs, kissing, long walks, talking, taking pictures together and so on. Basically, it is the time where we get to know each other. When we turn from wondering to truly knowing that this is the man we want to marry, we move on to another part of dating, where we make plans up until the wedding.

When we are married, our daily routine becomes an enemy in our lives. If it isn’t nurtured properly, it will bring monotony into our lives. But wait, how do you seduce your spouse daily?

1. The daily smile, the everlasting receiving smile. When he comes home, smile at him and ask him about his day.

2. Always try to kiss him daily, kiss him passionately or “make-out” and make it an important part of your marriage.

3. Send loving text messages, emails, and so on. “I love you very much” “Have a great day." Let your heart guide you on what to say.

4. Try to always have meals together. Make this something that is sacred in your life.

5. Don’t limit makeup or using perfume for certain days, like when you go out, or when you go to parties. Do this for him on any day, even if you are going to stay at home and just watch a movie together.

6. Walking around holding hands, hugging, and always maintaining physical contact is essential to all of this.

7. One thing that you cannot forget to do, or to keep off your list of “things to do to seduce your husband” is know how to (and doing it) make his favorite meal. Even if you don’t really know how to cook, these are times where it is OK to ask for guidance from a friend or family

To maintain this love, this seduction, it is required to make sacrifices and to actually try. But the woman is not solely responsible for this, the man is also responsible. Yet you, as the woman, can show him the way. I mean, who doesn’t like to be loved, pampered and taken care of?
Seduce or conquer requires action
The word “conquer” in the English language, is classified as a verb. Every verb is an action word. Therefore it is important to act on this and practice this as a part of your everyday life, especially in your marriage.

“A relationship is a seed to a garden; it needs to be taken care of daily.” – Renato Cardoso and Cristiane Cardoso – Casamento Blindado.

Seduction is nothing more than demonstrating your love and devotion to your partner. It’s very important that the both of you feel this with every gesture.
“Days that are the exact same are like a river that runs backwards, it doesn’t go anywhere.” – Sandy – Dias Iguais
Prioritize your marriage and your relationship
According to the years you have been married, when your children and grandchildren come, we tend to not prioritize each other as we did in the beginning. Still, as partners, we need to remember that our grandchildren and children will one day raise families of their own. Then we will only have each other to support and care for.

Seduction isn’t only for young couples that are just starting their married lives. It is for everyone from the moment that you decide to be married together. It will help remind you of the beginning of your marriage. It will come as a daily fight, but with the years it will bring joy and happiness, and every hard moment that you go through together is worth the experience as you will learn to deal with these everyday trials.

Use your power as a woman, wife and mother, as they will use their special charm for you and you will be a happy couple.

Now, my dear friends, prepare yourselves, because the worst of it is coming! As you read, treat the exposed information as counsel on how to be better, not as demeaning. Ask yourself, would you put up with yourself if you were your own husband, fiancé, or boyfriend?
So, take a deep breath and read about 15 things that make men want to disappear, along with what the woman says to do so:

1. The Trouble Makers

Most readers will agree with this one. A man gets easily annoyed when a woman cannot let go of the things she does not like. Men do not like a woman who tries to solve problems by arguing about it in front of everyone.
To onlooker: “What you looking at? Don’t you see that he is got someone already?”

2. The Drama Queens

The dramatic women love to create a storm in a glass of water. Crying helps them seem more convincing.
“That outfit is awful! I’m not going anymore! You can go by yourself, if you like!”

3. The Jealous

Among the worst complaints are against those women who are almost neurotically untrusting.

“Who is that woman in front of us? She’s looked in the rear-view mirror twice now!”

4. The Yellers

You have no clue how annoyed a man gets with shouting.

YOU DON’T EVER LISTEN TO ME! YOU WOULD MUCH RATHER TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS!”

5. The Fault Finder

She is the type of woman that finds faults in everything. Nothing is the way she wants it.
“It would have been better had you done it my way.”

6. The Bad-Humored

Are generally straight-faced and smile very little.
“What you laughing at?”

7. The Madonnas

These women do not like the fact that men have freedom of choice. They believe that men do not know how to use their agency well or even that they do not possess the maturity to do so. Generally, they act as if they were his mother.
“You are no longer allowed to use that shirt! It is horrific!”

8. The insecure

These women do not think they are worthy of their companions. They always question themselves about their feelings and the man’s taste in women.

“You think that she’s prettier than me, don’t you? I bet if she looked this way, you would totally go after her and leave me behind.”

9. The indecisive

Single boys have a lot to say about this attitude. They show interest in a girl and she shows interest back, but she soon acts distant. Boys feel very confused with this type of attitude.

Those men that are no longer single also have their own two cents to put in. Not being able to pick which clothes to wear, which place to go, and other similar decisions leaves men impatient and irritated.
“I don’t know, what do you think?”

10. The Subjective

These are the women with the inability to be direct or state what they want. They think that men have a crystal ball attached to their brains. Not only do they hope that the man will guess what they are thinking, they hope that he deciphers the "woman code," which is given through looks, small gestures, a nose scratch or any other similar signs.
“You just don’t understand me.”

11. The Overly-Attached

Emotionally dependent women are a burden to men. They do not understand that men need to breathe, have some personal time, and demonstrate total dependence on their love. These kinds of women are similar to gum on a shoe.
“You haven’t even left yet and I already miss you!” “Without you, I would die!”

12. The Sloppy

The greatest complainers are married men, since single women don’t usually make this mistake during dating times. Men like having a good-looking woman by their side!
“People need to stop worrying about the small details.”

13. The Digger

Think more about the things that she can obtain by relating with a man, than the type of person he is.
“What year was your car made again?”

14. The Vulgar

Women like to fish for attention at whatever cost, including being revealing in their attire.
“My body is beautiful, so I’ll show it.”

15. The Liars

They do not like to do things openly and do not feel comfortable exposing the truth. They prefer to omit a fact or two to telling the truth.

“I don’t know what you are talking about.”
Well, there you have it, women. These complaints do have a foundation, don’t you think? So, don’t get angry about it. But fight the stereotypes and make a few changes to improve your relationships and yourselves.

This article was originally published on nurturingmarriage.org
. It has been republished here, with permission.
Taking the plunge and getting hitched can be a bit overwhelming. There's the initial stress of planning the wedding, but that stress pales in comparison to the ongoing responsibility of actually
being married . Perhaps that's one of the reasons why the for marriage has climbed to 27 for women and 29 for men.
But there are some serious advantages to marrying young.

We're a bit biased when it comes to discussing the ideal age for marriage — primarily because we were married when both of us were the ripe old age of 21. We were so mature, so established in life, so ready to be married ... Okay, not really. But we were confident, determined and in love. With no clue what lay ahead, we committed with all our hearts to sharing our lives together.

We recognize that there are plenty of people still searching for that "special someone." If that happens to be you, please don't get discouraged. Do what you can now to better yourself and prepare for your own marriage — whenever that time comes.

That being said, here are three legit reasons to marry young.

1. You quickly learn that money is not the key to happiness

Most couples who marry young start out with little to nothing — and that might even be an understatement. The fact is, when you marry young, neither spouse has had time to accumulate much of anything when it comes to wealth or financial stability. It's quite possible that, on the day of your wedding, you'll be able to fit all your worldly possessions in the trunk of your beater car and count all your savings using just your fingers and toes.

And believe it or not, that's to your advantage.

Not only do dire financial circumstances teach you very valuable financial lessons (like , saving and living on a budget), but they also teach you the timeless principle that money cannot buy happiness. When you first marry, you won't have a big house to come home to, a fancy car to drive or even many groceries in the refrigerator, but you will have your love for each other — and that love will make you feel truly rich.

2. You aren't too entrenched in your own habits

Getting married is a huge change, and there are many . Though madly in love, you and your spouse are still two very different people with very different ways of doing things. Married life is very different from single life.

When you marry young, you aren't as deeply entrenched in your own habits and ways of doing things. As a result, the transition to married life is much smoother. Rather than butting heads over whether to buy 1% or 2% milk or how to properly wash the dishes (or any of the million other petty things couples argue about), you and your spouse will establish your own habits and ways of doing things together . By marrying young, the transition to married life doesn't feel so much like an encroachment on your personal space or an infringement on your privacy.

3. You grow closer together by growing up together

We look back at our wedding pictures and think we look like babies. And we
were young! The fact is, when we got married, we still had a lot of growing up to do (and still do). But as we've matured in all aspects of life, we've also grown closer together. We've had to learn hard lessons together. We've had to work through tough challenges together — but we've been together, side by side through it all. We have shared more memories, more life together.

Together, you and your spouse will apply for programs in school, study late into the night for exams, earn degrees, move from coast to coast or even across the world for internships and jobs. You'll learn to be parents, you'll enjoy summer vacations to the beach or the mountains, you'll move and buy your first home ... The list goes on. Marrying young allows you and your sweetheart to write the early chapters of your lives together so you can better understand and shape the

Here are four things you can do to help your husband feel comfortable sharing his true feelings:

1. Watch your tone

One powerful way to help your husband understand that he is free to express his feelings is to speak kind words in a gentle voice. Your tone of voice sets the mood. Avoid words that are harsh and argumentative. A loud, angry tone of voice could raise your spouse's defensive walls.
A shrill, critical tone of voice may make him shut down and refuse to share his true thoughts. A whiny, manipulative tone of voice could cause your husband to roll his eyes and give up on the conversation. As you speak kind words, in a gentle voice, your husband will feel safe in your presence. He will feel comfortable sharing his opinions and emotions because he can trust you to be
with him , not against him.

2. Paraphrase his words

One popular couples counseling technique is called "mirroring." It helps couples break out of argumentative ruts and focus on what the other person is saying.
The pattern goes like this: listen, paraphrase back the words, check for correct understanding and then share your own comment. As each person follows the pattern of listening, repeating and checking for correctness before commenting, it helps keep the conversation positive.
This skill helps each spouse focus on what the other person is saying, rather than thinking about what to say as soon as the other person takes a breath. Conversations rarely turn into heated fights. Couples that use "mirroring" are able to calmly communicate, whether the conversation is simply to enjoy bonding together or problem-solve a disagreement.

3. Share your feelings too

Emotions can strengthen relationships. The friends that know you best are probably those who have seen you in a variety of emotions: anger, sadness, frustration, fear, insecurity, and joy. As you share emotions with your husband, your bond will deepen. (This is especially important when you are discussing differing opinions.)
When disagreements develop, take some time to really ponder on your own emotions. Has your opinion formed out of fear, worry or jealousy? Does your desired action lead you to feel joy, security or comfort? Own your feelings. Be careful not to cast blame on another person.
When you have discovered how you truly feel, share those insights with your husband. Explain to him how your opinion was formed and which emotions are driving your thought process. He will feel more comfortable trusting you with his true emotions if you can open up and share what is inside your heart.

Also, allow him time to formulate what he is feeling. It's possible that your husband doesn't know how to label the emotion he feels, so as you name your feelings, you are teaching emotion words that can help him.

4. Talk about your day-to-day lives

Make time for casual conversation in your marriage. Talk about work, challenges with your kids, friendships, the news or weather. Tell jokes and reminisce about your favorite memories. The more frequently you talk with each other, the easier it is to communicate when you disagree.
Sometimes couples stop talking in order to avoid fights. Avoiding a conversation heightens anxiety at home. Anxiety and fear breed mistrust and defensiveness, neither of which will produce a productive conversation. A pattern of daily conversations about the silly, the mundane, the joys, and the goals of life keeps a couple talking about things that will bond them together.

Frequently talking and listening strengthen a couples' ability to handle minor mishaps because there is already an established pattern of communicating.

Say "thank you"
Dan's acknowledgement of my efforts in his behalf, and on behalf of our family, took on new meaning after my mental health crisis. When I did resume my household duties, they were much more appreciated.

Work together

It meant a great deal to me when my Dan would lend a helping hand with the cleaning, dishes and household maintenance without being asked to do so. The tasks became a shared burden, and the load was definitely lightened. More importantly, my feelings of worth increased when I felt that he cared for my health and well-being.

Encourage the children to be helpful

In his desire to lift my load, Dan encouraged the children to be more helpful. When they saw him pitch in, they, too, were more willing to help with their household duties. When we worked together as a family, things were done much more quickly.

Share affection

Dan would walk up behind me while I was cooking or doing dishes and give me a hug. This sharing of affection soothed my troubled spirit and helped me to relax as I was putting forth effort on his and the children's behalf. I felt more loved and appreciated when he exhibited personal attraction to me as his companion.

Assure me of my worth

When I did talk about feeling like I wasn't worth anything, Dan would listen to my feelings, and then assure me that I was worthwhile to him, our family and to the Lord. He helped me to remember that what I was doing as a wife and mother was important, not just now, but eternally.

Allow me to pursue my hobbies and interests

When Dan suggested that I join a club or take some time to do what I wanted to do, I felt a sense of freedom. I was able to enjoy being with friends, and at the same time, develop my talents and abilities without feeling that I had taken something away from the family in the process. Our children could see my happiness increase, and encouraged my involvement as well.

Take time to be together

Dan helped me make arrangements for our children's needs so that he could take me with him on outings. I felt more fulfilled as a spouse, and as a mother of my children, because he took the time to do something with me that we both enjoyed.

The efforts of my husband in my behalf helped to reduce my default thoughts of worthlessness. He never complained when I went to my appointments, because he knew how much I needed the additional support and strength the doctors and counselors provided.

I learned that in relationships, it is important to replace "I" with "We." When my husband and I worked together, both in our household responsibilities and in teaching and caring for our children, we fortified our marriage and strengthened one another.

During this difficult time in our lives, we learned firsthand that both husband and wife are critically important in the family unit -- not just in the duties each fulfills, but in the support and strength we give to one another!

As a young mother with four kids, all ages four and under, I was suffering from lack of sleep and lack of patience, and I in desperate need of practical parenting advice. Here are 10 tips that I know now, because of what I learned then. Hopefully you’ll find them helpful too.

1. Think before you speak

Take a deep breath and a few seconds before you react to whatever has happened. Remember once said you can’t take the words back. Are you going to use words that are cruel or unkind?

2. Remember stuff is replaceable, your child isn’t

You never want your child to think your stuff is more important to you than he is. Walls, carpet, and furniture can be cleaned, broken ceramic can be pieced back together but a broken child is much harder to repair.

3. You must be willing to carry out the punishment you give

Many times I’ve been caught in the trap of “If you don’t improve your behavior, you won’t be able to do x.” When the behavior doesn’t improve, I’m the one staying home with the disobedient child. Or the entire family misses the activity. Neither one is ideal. Before you make the punishment make sure it is something that you are actually willing to carry out.

4. Their disobedience is not a personal attack against you

Most of the time your child has not hit someone, broken something, lied to you, or found any other number of ways to be naughty in order to hurt you. They might not have liked what you said, or a punishment you gave, but if you take the personal attack out of the action, some of the anger will leave as well.

5. Smaller eyes may be watching and small mouths will repeat anything you say at completely inconvenient times. If you have younger children, everything you do is open for discussion with neighbors, teachers or even a stranger at the grocery store. Be aware that what you say while disciplining one child may be repeated by another.

6. Sometimes you need to leave the room and cool off

When emotions are running high and you can’t seem to calm yourself or your child down, it’s okay to take a time out. Separate yourself from the child and the situation. Once separate, say a prayer, call your spouse, count to 100 or do anything else to enable yourself to return and calmly speak with the child and resolve the situation.

7. Focus on the behavior that needs to change

Anytime you are disciplining your child, the message you want heard is that behavior needs to change, not that the child is a bad person. When discussing the incident and deciding on the punishment, you need to make sure both are focusing on the behavior that needs to change.

8. Learn what is age appropriate

Are you expecting your 4-year-old to be as responsible as his 10-year-old brother? Are you expecting your 8-year-old to be 16? Do some research to learn not only what to expect from your child that is age appropriate but what behaviors are common for his/her age group.

9. Even if it isn’t funny now, it will be later

If you can learn to laugh at it, the situation won’t become a tragedy. That time the lasagna spilled all over the kitchen, or when the twins tried to climb into the dishwasher, will someday be a funny story that once happened in your life. This moment that seems so awful will not last forever.

10. You love them

This is by far the most important thing to remember. I hope to always say that I love my children, but when they’ve colored all over the new car (inside and out) with permanent marker or accidently been left alone at nap time with safety scissors, it's hard to remember. It is good to take a deep breath and remember how much you love them. When I check on my sleeping angel children each night I can’t help but filled with love for them, regardless of what they’ve done that day. It is this image I try to recall when I’m dealing with their disobedience.

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oyin17:
Must u insult him? Blackett change!!

Don't worry dear, we are already in the change era, he will change with time

himkers:
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U can do the same

You just hit the grocery store, and your fridge is overflowing. But do all those things actually belong in the refrigerator? The thing is, most fresh fruits and vegetables can survive without refrigeration — along with some other interesting foods, too.
According to the US Department of Agriculture , there are two types of bacteria that cause problems. Pathogenic bacteria leads to food-borne illnesses, and spoilage bacteria changes the way foods look, smell, and taste. When food develops dangerous levels of pathogenic bacteria, it could look, smell, and taste normal while still being dangerous. But when spoilage occurs, something can taste gross but won’t necessarily make you sick. Confusing, right? Here’s a list of 31 items that will do just fine outside the fridge.

1. Potatoes: When too cold, starches found in potatoes turn to sugar, yielding an off flavor. Keep potatoes stored in a paper bag in a cool, dark cupboard or drawer. Same goes for sweet potatoes.

2. Honey: Your luscious honey will turn to crystallized gunk if it is stored in the fridge. Store it at room temperature and out of direct sunlight for happy honey.

3. Tomatoes: Tomatoes actually start losing their flavor and become quite mushy if left in the fridge. Leave on the counter and use when they have a slight give to the outside skin.

4. Apples: Apples, just like tomatoes, start to loose flavor and texture after spending time in the fridge. Leave them on the counter, and toss them in the fridge for 30 minutes prior to eating if you want a crisp bite.

5. Onions: The best place for onions is in a paper bag in a cool, dark cabinet or drawer. If stored in the fridge, they soften and impart an oniony scent on nearby foods.

6. Peanut butter: Peanut butter does just fine stored in a cool, dark cupboard.

7. Bread: You might be tempted to store bread in the fridge, but it actually dries out faster. Instead, store it in a cool cupboard or bread box for a fresh slice.

8. Bananas: Leave those bananas on the counter, and if they turn brown before you get to them, toss them in the freezer to make banana bread at a later date.

9. Most oils: Pretty much all oils are safe to store at room temperature. If the oil has a lower saturated-fat content, such as safflower or sunflower, it will benefit from being kept cool, so store it in a dark cabinet or the fridge door.

10. Avocados: Store avocados on the counter and any leftovers in the fridge. But they’ll lose flavor, so it’s a good idea to use a whole one when making the cut.

11. Peppers: Red, green, yellow, and even chili peppers are just fine stored in a paper bag in a cool cupboard or drawer.

12. Winter squash: Acorn, spaghetti, and butternut do best when stored at room temperature.

13. Citrus: Store oranges, lemons, and limes at room temperature on your kitchen counter. Just be careful not to bunch them too closely, or they will tend to mold.

14. Berries: Fresh berries already have a short shelf life, so leave them out of the fridge and eat them within a day or two of purchasing.

15. Melons: Most melons do best outside the fridge. Once refrigerated, they tend to break down and become mealy. After cutting, if any are remaining, store them in the fridge.

16. Ketchup: Yup, your ketchup is just fine in your pantry — even after it has been opened. Because of the amount of vinegar and preservatives, it will do just fine (think ketchup packets at your favorite fast-food restaurant).

17. Jam: Due to the high amount of preservatives in jams and jellies, they are also OK to store in the pantry after opening.

18. Stone fruits: Stone fruits aren’t friends of the fridge, so leave them on the counter until they’re ripe, and then eat.

19. Pickles: Another item high in preservatives, mainly vinegar, pickles will stay crisp in the pantry. But, if you’re a fan of cold ones, store them in the refrigerator door, which leaves the coldest spots of the fridge for items that really need the space.

20. Garlic: Store garlic in a paper bag in a cool, dark spot, and it holds its wonderful flavor for weeks.

21. Hot sauce: Make more room in your fridge, and store hot sauce in your pantry — even after it has been opened. All the preservatives and spices keep it safe for topping your eats.

22. Spices: Ground spices do not need to be refrigerated. Ever.

23. Coffee: Many think coffee deserves a special place in the fridge or freezer, but it actually is best at room temperature so its natural oils can really flavor your favorite cup of joe. Buy in small batches for really fragrant, and rich, morning coffee.

24. Soy sauce: Yes, there is more than enough natural preservatives (salt) in soy sauce for it to remain safe if stored at room temperature.

25. Some salad dressings: Just like other condiments, most salad dressing, especially ones that are vinegar- or oil-based, are just fine stored outside the fridge. Cream-, yogurt-, or mayo-based dressings should be stored in the fridge.

26. Nuts: Nuts are just fine stored in a cool, dark spot.

27. Dried fruits: No need to refrigerate. Nope.

28. Cereal: Cereal is wonderfully happy in the pantry.

29. Vacuum-packed tuna: You might not be sure, but that tuna has been sealed, just like in a can, so it’s more than fine stored at room temperature.

30. Herbs: If you pick up fresh herbs from the grocery store, instead of stuffing them back in the suffocating plastic bag, place them in a water-filled glass jar on your kitchen counter, creating an herb bouquet to use while cooking.
31. Real maple syrup: As with honey, that maple syrup will crystallize and get goopy if stored in the fridge.

BoiledPlantain:
Anylady that does this will throw me in a comatose of Love.
Unfortunately some ladies will never learn.
They'll still ask for recharge cards 5 times In a week.

asking for recharge cards is a sign of love too. That mean she love all in you include your pocket

Mhizkel:
Crazy bawo?





I'm sorry op, i don't want a crazy boyfriend

Ao ni fe were lagbara olorun

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Mhizkel:
Exactly what i'm doing dear

Thanks babe

Sorry I didn't say am the one that wrote the article, so please let us give ourselves some respect pls! Thank you and God bless

Sorry I didn't say am the one that wrote the article, so please let us give ourselves some respect pls!

Mhizkel:
Yeah! Because it's an anonymous forum that's why you have to act in a mannerless way?
I don't pay your bills cos i'm still paying mine..
I can't feed you cos you not a baby...
And why should i give you strength when i'm not God..
Talking about lane, i bet you didn't consider that before posting on this thread..
We all know is a forum and all forms of biggotic attitude is allowed...But please, show some manners!

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babe just take am cool with him.

Nothing is better than being in a relationship where the guy is head over heels in love. If you want to make a guy crazy about you, it only takes a little bit of patience. The following steps will make it easy for him to fall completely in love with you.

Wear Perfume or A Specific Scent

In the past, researchers have performed studies that have shown that scent is one of the most powerful memories. Even when we cannot remember where we smelled a scent, we recall smelling it in the past. It may sound superficial, but picking a specific scent can make guys fall head over heels for you. Choose a flirty perfume and dab a little on the wrists. Before long, he will associate that smell with being around you.

Be Involved With His Friends and Family

If your friends hated the guy, it would make you question your relationship. The same thing goes for your date. Guys are loyal to their close friends and family. Learn how to get along with his friends and ask genuine questions about his family. If you honestly care about his close connections, he will be crazy about you.

Enjoy Your Life

It may not seem relevant, but enjoying your life is attractive. No one wants to spend time with a downer. If you are constantly depressed, it will only drive him away. Someone who is confident and loves their life is attractive. Learn how to enjoy your life and your guy will fall head over heels for you.

Be Independent

Men tend to be turned off by girls with low self-esteem or a clingy nature. Be independent and show that you can get by on your own. Your independence is attractive and a surefire way to keep his interest.

Stay Beautiful

What is on the inside may matter most, but your personality was not the first thing he noticed. Even though we like to think that looks do not matter, the truth is that they matter greatly. In long-term relationships and marriages, it is easy to let your looks slip. Whatever you did to attract him originally, you should keep doing. Whether it was curly hair or a natural look, that style is what attracted him to you.

Parasites Not Welcome

When we fall in love, it is far too easy to become wrapped up and excessively clingy. You may want to spend all of your time with him, but constantly sticking to him will only push him away. A little absence will make the heart grow fonder. When he needs space, let him have it. By knowing when to be close and when to stay away, you will make him go crazy for you.

Jealousy

Jealousy is one of the worst things anyone can do in a relationship. Some ladies try to flirt with other guys or spend all their time with friends in an effort to make their love interest jealous. In some relationships, this may work. For most relationships, a delicate balance of together time and friend time will serve best. You want to give him enough time to miss you and not so much time that it makes him jealous. If you have already made it official and are going out, flirting with others should be stringently avoided.

Don’t Be Afraid to Be Unique

No two people are exactly the same and there is no reason you should try to be. You have unique qualities and you should let them shine. These attributes set you apart and are attractive to your significant other. Don’t be afraid to let your individualism and unusual traits out.

Learn to Listen

If you want to catch your crush, you have to listen. Everyone likes to feel like someone cares and wants to pay attention to them. The best way to show that you care is to listen to what he says. Guys like it when the girl they care about cares about them too. Instead of always talking about your own passions and interests, let him speak his mind. He may not always be as vocal with his feelings, but he will open up eventually.

Be Yourself

You have to be yourself. If you are pretending to have different qualities or attributes, your guy will be falling for a lady that is not you. Over a few weeks or months, he will discover that what he is dating is a fraud. Likewise, a guy who is not interested in who you are at the start is not a person that you will end up spending your life with. You need to find a guy who likes you for who you are. Make sure to be yourself and he will be crazy for you.

Stick to these ten tips and you are sure to make your crush fall head over heels. Be yourself and be involved in his life. If he thinks you care about his life, he will love you for it.

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dechandel:
It serves as a head rest most times

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dechandel:
It serves as a head rest most times

NL Anthem!!

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nmynae:
Men are logical and understand that woman are emotional beings. Truth is, overtime, they find an overly emotional woman irritating and as much as he loves her, he wants to be as far away from her as possible. So he stops being emotionally available and then she starts complaining:"he doesn't love me anymore", "he's distant", "he doesn't listen"...

Every man wants an emotionally stable woman and yeah, there are women that can handle it.

Be his "fragile" little girl but "man up" when you need to and then he can call you his best friend because he knows you can handle it when the sh*t hits the fan.

....I don't know if I make sense sha

100% right

missclasssy:
Op don't forget these

Wearing double bras just to exercise or workout.

Bending to select groceries at the market is like you are doing an open show for all to see.

ha! u are on your own ooooo missclaassy am still a virgin ooo make u no spoil me

Omo I like it big tho

There are some struggles, only girls with big breas'ts understand. Some people dream about getting bigger brea'sts. But we should say that big b00bs are not always a good thing.

1. You should wear two bras when exercising. No matter how sporty and supportive they claim to be. They are never enough. Running turns into hell. No matter how many bras you wear.

2. Shirts with buttons never fit correctly. No matter what size you buy, they are gapping at your chest. And this is not an effect you wanted to achieve. And if a shirt fits you across your chest – it is big everywhere else.

3. Buying a swimming suit is a real challenge. Very often you have to get bigger size of the top.

4. Usually bras comes in boring colors: black white and nude. It is hard to find a large size cup of cute bright color. And strapless bras are a taboo.

5. Putting a bra in the morning is like an exercise. And the time when you can take it off is the happiest moment of the day.

6. Your cute pendants and necklaces can get lost in your cleavage.

7. It is hard and uncomfortable to sleep on your stomach.

8. Even basic outfits can look too extravagant and s exy on you. For example Nollywood Actress, Yvonne Jegede, says she should not be blamed if her clothes are not big enough to cover her very big bo obs.

9. Many people think that it is OK to ask your bra size. And it is not.

10. And the last, but not the least – your friends don`t understand your complaints. Simply because they see no problems in having a large chest

konkoowon:
The influence of the media is having both the good and bad impact on d society.

but percentage of bad impact on society is more than good

Parents want to do all they can to make their children's lives the best they can be, but in their eagerness to help, sometimes they inadvertently do things that can sabotage that bright future they hope to build for their offspring.

Every parent knows from the moment their children burst onto the scene they have a long road ahead filled with sleepless nights, dirty diapers, parent-teacher conferences and band concerts or soccer games. In your eagerness to you're your children, you may inadvertently do things that can sabotage that bright future you hope to build for their offspring.

Here are a few ways you may be hurting your child's future without even realizing it.

Hovering

If you find you spoil your children, you can't let go, you get involved in every little issue, you give in to every demand, or you know the latest and greatest toys for every age and stage, you're probably a helicopter parent.
Being overly involved doesn't help a child: it hurts his future.

a study showing that "overparenting young adults breeds narcissism and poor coping skills," which then leads to more anxiety and stress.

So how can you land and be properly involved but not overly so?
becoming a coach, rather than a cheerleader, for one, and looking at the big picture of the child's life story, allowing him or her to make mistakes and deal with the natural consequences.

Overscheduling

Sports, music and dance lessons or volunteering can easily fill up afternoons, evenings and weekends. If your children are tired, irritable, not enjoying the activities they always found to be fun before, having lower grades, and being needy, chances are your kids have more on their plates than they can chew.

While the soccer lessons, ballet class and pep club can teach your kids valuable skills, overscheduling can rob your family of the time and energy needed to build strong ties. That makes this bad habit one that should be broken.


Ignoring the influence of media

Do you hand your kids the phone when you need to do some business, make dinner or chat with a friend? The American Academy of Pediatrics warns of the potential harm of media: "Studies have shown that excessive media use can lead to attention problems, school difficulties, sleep and eating disorders, and obesity. In addition, the Internet and cell phones can provide platforms for illicit and risky behaviors."

The AAP recommends that parents limit screen time to no more than one or two hours of entertainment-related media each day, create "screen-free" areas at home, and offer non-electronic options such as books, newspapers and board games.
In addition, parents would should teach their children to evalute and understand the role of media and its effects on their emotional health.

Damaging the environment

Every day, waste and pollution pose a threat to the environment. Pollution from individual vehicles and companies fills the air with particles and gases that most experts say are contributing to climate change as well as making it difficult for people to breathe day to day. Children and adults alike struggle with asthma, for instance.

states that 1 in 11 children and 1 in 12 adults have asthma, with about nine people dying from it every day, and costing the U.S. about $56 billion every year.
Not only does it pose a threat to your family's health, think of what the earth will be like for your children and grandchildren in 50 years.

Every parent and child can do something to make our Earth better now and for the future. Check out from Free To Choose Network to educate your family about the various ways you can improve the future for your children and help the environment.

mystiqueDZ:
eat,sleep,sex.....

u said that?

delishpot:
Another "women must take all the blame for a mans action" topic

no b me said that ooo

The truth hurts, but it's a truth you must face if you care about your relationship

By nature, most women are more emotional than men. That's not a bad thing when those emotions lead to empathy and caring. But let's talk about those "over-the-top" emotional responses to what life dishes out. How you deal with life's events has everything to do with how happy your marriage is.

Here are a few signs that you're being a little too emotional for your hubby to handle.

1. He stops telling you the truth

Some women can't handle the truth. They fall apart. As a result, their husbands end up hiding the truth to avoid the tirade of emotions poured out upon them. A man can handle just so much of that, and then, like a trip to the dentist, he'll avoid it — even if it means lying to his wife.

2. He isn't as romantic as he used to be

Too much negative emotion from you will diminish your husband's romantic feelings. It's hard to feel tender, loving thoughts of intimacy with a person who is emotionally volatile. If this side of your relationship is suffering, look to what your emotional outbursts (or "silent treatments" — another form of emotional response) are doing to discourage your husband from being more loving and vulnerable.

Counselor, Shannon Ethridge, , "Women share part of the blame when their husbands pull away from them emotionally. Sometimes, it is the women's attitudes or behaviors that have caused the men to become frigid. It is not that love has died between them; it is just that the husband has shut down emotionally because of how his wife treats him."

3. He zones out when you talk

It's as if he has turned off his hearing aids and his mind is far away from anything you are saying. He doesn't hear you. He doesn't want to hear you. He's
tired of hearing you because you so often erupt into emotional overdose. Guys can do that. They just "turn you off" after awhile It's their survival mode. If you want hubby to hear you, tone it down a little, and be rational.

4. He avoids talking to you about things that upset you

This is different from lying to you. This is your husband's decision to keep things to himself rather than talk to you about them. That way, he doesn't have to lie to you. He doesn't want to upset you, so he keeps quiet. But life comes with challenges, and both you and hubby must be able to talk about and effectively deal with whatever happens. You both need that kind of emotional maturity from each other.

5. He stays away from home longer
No man wants to come home to a barrage of emotional outbursts — crying, sulking, making demands ... That's too great a burden to bear. He'll find somewhere else to go where he doesn't have to endure it. Staying late at work becomes more appealing. The local bar becomes a place to drown out miseries — only to cause more later. Don't let your emotional reactions drive your man to unhealthy outlets.

6. He loses his temper

Sometimes, a guy's automatic response to an out-of-control wife is to holler at her. He simply doesn't know how to deal with her and resorts to yelling at her to stop. He may blast her with a volley of insults that have been building up inside him. If this happens, calm down . It will do wonders to help your husband be calm. While you aren't responsible for his temper, you should evaluate your part in it.

7. He seeks companionship with someone else

It may be his buddies. Hanging out with them is much less stressful than hanging out with a sobbing, complaining wife. A little time with buddies can be a good thing, but when this becomes hubby's escape, that's evidence he's not wanting to be where his wife's emotions are in full swing. Worst of all, don't nudge your husband into the arms of a calm, understanding "other woman." You be the understanding woman in his life.

Takeaway tip

. In essence, take care of yourself by eating properly. Get enough sleep. Take breaks now and then — even just a walk in the sunshine can help keep your emotions in check. Make the effort, and not only will your man love you for it but your life will be much happier.

familyshare.com/marriage/7-signs-youre-being-too-emotional-for-your-husband?Wendy