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Waitooo, are you people being sarcastic or for real? |
Fellas, if you found out your girlfriend/wife was sleeping with another woman, would you consider it cheating? Ladies, if you found out your boyfriend/husband was sleeping with another man, would you consider it cheating? |
Well, I'm an NL girl and my pic ended up on the "Beauty of South Easterner Women" thread with countless of compliments from NL guys. Thus, this thread is rubbish cuz babes like me are also bored enough to visit NL! |
^^^^^ Don't be stoooooooopid, just answer the questions accordingly. |
I have a new love interest who's Warri. I'm typically only familiar with Igbo boys, thus I've learned all their movements before they even move a bone. But Warri is a new territory for me and I'm completely unfamiliar with them. Now, the issues are, I'm in North America while he's in London, UK. We don't have any mutual friends, so I have no one to sike to get gists I'm a bit concerned because he's very handsome, tall, well educated professional, works as an engineer for a major international oil company. Very well put together and very much 34. For some odd reason, I find it difficult to believe a man with all those qualities at his age is still single. And I truly don't subscribe to entertaining men who are already spoken for. I've done a thorough investigation on his facebook page and there isn't any signs of a wife/girlfriend anywhere near his wall/photos. Thus, is there a way for me to verify his martial status all the way from North America? |
@IZUKWU Awwww, thanks sweeetie!! |
No common flowers No common chocolate No common teddy bear No common card NO bleeping NOTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! All my beauty is going to waste!! |
If the babe pays for her own flight, would the guy still make sexual advances at her? |
my friend here in yankee has a boo in Naija. They talked about her coming to naija to visit but for some reason, her guy doesn't feel like he should foot the bills. How does all this across the ocean relationships work? Who foots the bills? |
, is it that he's finding other women desirable or the possibility of him exposing ur to STDs? |
Well, perhaps I should have clarified? The said guy and I have been "talking" for 2 years. I'm extremely "unsure" of him hence why I've held him in the "friendship zone." The least he could have done was offered and allowed me the option to refuse! And no, I wouldn't have thought he was a mugu. Why would that make him a mugu? I'm not just some random girl he picked from a club last week. Na wa for you people!! Where are all the fyne girls for Canada, Yankee and Jand wey fit understand wetin I dey yarn? |
@OP Go ahead, girl!!!! |
[quote author=tpia@ link=topic=840475.msg9911888#msg9911888 date=1325916278]i do trust you're ok because your posts say otherwise. trying to drive traffic to nl? [/quote]I guess you missed the post where I explained that I never directly ask? Look for it and leave me alone!! ![]() |
[quote author=tpia@ link=topic=840475.msg9911481#msg9911481 date=1325901433]@ topic toronto to buffalo is about 2-3 hrs. I know that route. Poster, since you say you've had guys drive you that same route in the past, then was this particular guy actually wrong with his statement. You were thinking of your own convenience only while he looked at the bigger picture. Boy friend, male friend, man friend, all are male and you didnt say any of your female friends drove you.[/quote]First of all, I didn't ask him to drop me off. Neither did I mention or disclose my previous drop offs. All I said was I planned to bus there. Shey, grayhound dey travel from Bay Street to BUF? Thus, in your mind (and his mind) where did you get "Going to America to visit my boyfriend[b]ssssssssssssssssssssss?[/b]) Naija men sef!! Second, why would my girlfriends commute such distance to drop me off? Abi, dem no get work? Dem no get boyfriends or ish to do? Bros, na wa for you ooo ![]() |
randyorton: Why you mad, son? [quote author=omo_to_dun link=topic=840475.msg9910970#msg9910970 date=1325890444][font=Courier new]I surmise that this was why you were riled up.[/quote]Not at all! randyorton:Please don't impose your wife/sisters/mother/girlfriend's conditions on me ![]() [/font] |
kokoye:The drive from where I am to BUF is about 2hrs. I've had guys do this for me in the past, so, why shouldn't he? And plus, I didn't ask him to give me ride, neither have I had to "ask" in the past. Well, at least not directly. But lets not lose focus, lets get back on track. This isn't a one time occurrence, Nigerian men always do this to me. I give them a 5 sentence paragraph, and all they do is seek out one keyboard and construct a whole different story that is none related to my original paragraph. |
[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=840475.msg9909326#msg9909326 date=1325872988]did you fall from a tree this morning? [/quote]Care to expand? |
And they tend to only select one word out of a story and build their own story from it. For example, I recently booked a flight to Nigeria. And while I was ticket searching, the most reasonable price from Toronto was double the amount of the one I found departing from Buffalo, NY. So, I decided to book the buffalo ticket and plan to use greyhound services from Toronto to BUF if I'm unable to find someone to drop me off. Anyways, I have this one dude that's been toasting me (mind you, he didn't even contribute to my flight ticket ), so, I was explaining to him the situation and why I decided to fly out from BUF instead of Pearson. The response I received from him came at me from left fields, "AH, so you are going to America to visit your boyfriends and you will be using greyhound. Why are you being a cheap girl." What the heck Naija men, bikonu, help me understand where be drew that conclusion from my explained traveling arrangements. |
Maybe the same reason why men cheat and lie to their girlfriends? ![]() |
Ghanaian men ![]() |
Their preference, perhaps? |
[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=838273.msg9897839#msg9897839 date=1325735465]I'm not fighting you! It's just a discussion [/quote]You come off really strong and its difficult to dialogue with someone with such harsh tone. You can be passionate about something and still project your POV in a more pleasant tone. Its cool tho. |
^^^^^^ Na fight? okay, Im done!! Toodles!! @OP, all the best with ur dilemma. Don't forget to pray, submit all to God's hands. Ask for his guidance and for his will to be done. If you wish to walk away, ask him for strength. Trust me babe, prayers work wonders in these sort of situations! Best of luck. |
[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=838273.msg9897745#msg9897745 date=1325731414]No, I do not. I'm not one of those people that's gonna sit around and wait till I see news of her demise on some Nigerian newspaper all because I was "coming off a bit too strong". [b]You mean to tell me that if your daughter or sister came to you and tells you that they are with a man who is treating them like this despite their attempts to to talk to him and resolve the issue, you'd tell them to just stay? [/b]Is that what you're saying. From one human being to another, yes I cannot dictate her life but as a young woman, I will not sit by and watch my sisters suffer all because of these ridiculous belief that we should always try to work things out in a relationship. Some relationships are only meant to be resolved by putting a complete end to it. And no I am not being insensitive.Time and time again, I have seen my African sister subject themselves to such treatment while people sit by and do nothing. I for one will not be one of those people. If you or other people want to be such people then go ahead, be my guest but I will have no part in that. I have seen the nature of some men and how they treat women. I have seen the looks of despair and pain in the eyes of the youths that come to the youth center I work at so I refuse to stand by and not say or do anything. Smh, my sister why oh why are you doing this to yourself. If he is dragging you away and ripping your dress while drunk, why wouldn't you expect his to become violent?[/quote]Okay calm down, take a long breather and an ice cold glass of water ontop. Please, refer to me where I suggested she should stay? Perhaps, re-reading my inputs for better comprehensions is in order? All the same, my sole input on this issue is; matters of the heart is something that should be handled delicately. You can offer your advice without imposing and telling people what they should or should not do! I sincerely think she should re-evaluate her relationship with this man. And parting ways seems to be the most rational option at this point. Precisely from an outsiders standpoint. However it should be done on her own terms. |
@Inked, Although I co-sign with all you have said, however, don't you think you're coming off a bit too strong? And a tad insensitive to her situation? |
3ndy: You're clearly unhappy now and things will most likely get worst after marriage ![]() So, which do you think your family would prefer, a broken un-official engagement orrrrrrr a divorce case? Why do you care so much about other people's input on this? You are the one that will marry and live with him for the REST of your life, not them. I'm not saying you should leave him, its not my place to direct your life. However, you should seriously consider all angles of your relationship before you jump the broom. Marriage no be child's play. |
3ndy:And you hope to marry this man? Oga ooooo |
It would be interesting to sit-in on a Naija divorce proceeding. |
What's the difference between a submissive wife and a submissive husband? Why does the notion of a submissive husband bear negative connotation whereas a submissive wife is most men's dream? No wonder many of our women are in useless marriages! |
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