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paul100:
You must be very stupid for saying that.Your body is growing as you gets more matured but your brain is far far behind.Always looking for attention.I pity the guy dating you if at all you are not a side chick or you are not dating yourself.Millenniumlady, grow so that nairaland guys will stop insulting you up and down.Stay Safe

etrange:
Lol... you are but but you seem sad.

_{You'll achieve your dreams before the end of this year regardless of how impossible it might seem. You'll no longer think that living in Canada is such a big deal that people would have to lie about it. This is my prayers for you.}

Moralgladiator:
NL and useless girls are like 5&6.

Prymestrr:
Must you show yourself Keep your business to yourself, we all know what hustle you do with your Iphone

Trampy:
What of if this itel phone is his side-phone and he has an iPhone X Max as his main phone? Do they date people according to the type of phone they use or according to the affecrion u have towards that person. Na wa o. End time children.

Ruggedniggaone:
I hope your father is using iPhone 11

DukeofMbaitoli:
You must be very young..like really really young.

However, if you are up to 20 and you still think like this then I am afraid....that is stupidity

Millenniumlady:
Awwwww this is a welcome development. Op why are you using itel hope you're not in a relationship because I can't imagine what the so call lady is going through by dating someone that uses that phone.

etrange:
For all it's worth, I live in Canada.

Mindlog:
Newly registered username, another tale.

LinLinGentle:
Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS NOT THE DEVIL. I HAVE JUST BEEN UNFORTUNATE TO BECOME A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY MEN SUFFER ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I finally succeeded and my family arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ''euphoria'' phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media!

She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my citizenship and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

THE SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

UPDATE:

Divorce has now been filed. I also recently got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.

xendra:
Nobody is as entitled as a Nigerian man, yet they'd be the first to scream "entitled" towards a lady for asking anything in return.

plus their level of insecurity and low self esteem is out of this world.

xendra:
parent of those days caused it, they wanted to preach decency to children but they couldn't be decent themselves to set example

And they were educating a girl child about sex they refused to scold the Male child. ignoring the fact that it takes 2 to tango and the Male child should have got more education because he has the upper hand.

Parents failed. Now?
If the foundation be destroyed what can anyone do?

xendra:
Well men do this all the time and when we tell them to stop y'all want to shut us up,

now that it's a woman what should I say?

Men started it, and they made it look so cool now every woman wants to try. Who doesn't like cool things

xendra:
show off (rolls eyes)

xendra:
make all of una just serious dey find virgins, with una community prick....mtchwww

xendra:
guy, white women are gold, you must never stop trying or give up on your love for her, she will come around. if you dare leave her you will be stuck with all these "annoying" "dependent naija girls o

Bharekta:
https://www.nairaland.com/5876180/photos-supermodel-zara-abid-aboard

https://bluebloodz.com/index.php/2020/05/23/video-41-bodies-recovered-in-pakistan-plane-crash/

https://bluebloodz.com/index.php/2020/05/23/pakistani-plane-crash-2-people-pulled-out-alive-from-wreck-of-airbus-a320-that-crashed-in-karachi-see-photos/

mira4u:
Same way I made your numerous accounts you use to bully people here banned. This will be banned a second time if you don't learn how to behave. No one caused your predicament so you can't take it out on anyone here. I'm watching you closely!!

maxevans:
Really? why...

ValCon888:
That plane came in too fast. Fatalities were inevitable.

I don't think the pilot had a choice landing in a densely populated area if not an abandoned or isolated field would have been preferable.

Only the black box can tell us what really happened.

RIP to the dead.

UjuJoan2:
Why are men of these days so lazy and dependent on women? I just dont get it.

So if his wife buys him a car he will drive it happily? What about pride? Chivalry? What about self dignity?

That aside, do you know the bond between the lady and her mother? So because he gave her a ring, he thinks he is now more important than her own mother? What has he done to earn such privilege?

Lazy men everywhere looking to live off their wives. If your friend cannot keep trekking let him buy himself a car, simple!

Ellegacy:
Never really done any crazy stuff under the influence of alcohol other than the occasional hangover and sometimes I get hospitalized for it.

Most the most craziest, wanted to recharge 500N card, I ended up recharging N5K.

The thing off me i swear. The highness commot immediately I saw the debit alert.

Ghostrye:
Was working@ a hotel and I let my customers walk out without paying with a smile on my face and a swagger in my steps, It was until the next day that I knew what I had done. Luckily I was only drunk for half the day and not the whole day otherwise I for no collect salary go house that month

HeadShot:
Opinion of parasites are irrelevants...
Buhari the king of parasites and tribalism will surely give way one day...

Then a southerner will hand over NCDC and NECO to the north
While... Immigration... Customs.. Police.. Dss..NNPc... DPR... Army... INec... NSA.. Defence.. Etc will be firmly held by the south..

SweetCunt97:
No need

SweetCunt97:
Lol, because you've been conditioned to think ladies do not concern themselves with such talk na. Took kung-fu classes in school so I know a Lil about self defense

xendra:
this stay at home does not favour everybody, SMH
OP that is not even love machine, its roll-on chai! abi na me no see am well?