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Missyford31:
She still shouldn't be hiding her own money tho.
Either way I dunno much how it all works in naija really. Relationships stuff is so different

God bless you abeg

MrTAnonymous:
If your story is true, alaye free her. Why use loan money to finance a girl that is already showing you signs of golddigging, eh?

E be like say bomb sef dey una head, we don't want to hear your story again, case closed. And please reedit your post, too many grammatical errors.

Incase you don't know na me talk

no bro I meant loan for the house I was building

Yet I find it difficult to make love to her she always gives me though time even place me on condition at times I can't tell her my pains to her because she judge me so quick and doesn't know how to encourage someone

BornSnner9:
Damn

You too need to understand each other more.. she still seem like a good girl and all you need do is always correct, caution and tame her..

Most ladies are like that but that doesn't make her a hoe.. it's just being selfish and you can help her do away with such habit because you two are in this together.. since she pointed out your lavish spending as why she hid her own from you, it is not something you should be mad at ( considering that she has only a little amount and she's being protective of it)..

Don't get it twisted love is a beautiful thing

but if I waste more money on her its no lavish bro spare me that biko she is not my first gf and she's not the first I'm doing this to

Soi forgives her and we continued dating
Then she did something annoying that I can take my mind of she fell ill and needed money to treat herself although she is working now so she had over 100k in her account and I asked her to take from her savings and take care of herself despite the discomfort she refused to take she said she doesn't want to touch the money because its for school so I. Was annoyed that t could you not take care of yourself not even me this time so I borrowed money and send to her before she wound herself for my neck then when she recovered I told her that if you die tiday that no eh in your account that you don't want to touch its the bank officials that would enjoy that money you don't take life serious at all
Another thing she did was her hair her hair looked unkept so I used money for my building project I've collected loan too so I was broke then I asked her that she should make her hair foe like 3 months my gf left her hair like that she when j challenged her again she said since I refuse to pay fir the hair she would leave it like that I'm the one that will be ashamed of her not her this statement broke me and was then I questioned her that why is she always expecting me to do everything for her Atleast she is working I'm not asking her to spend on me she should Atleast do things on her own once in a while that would have shown that she wants to do too but she can't do much instead on saying I should do everything for her
Another thing is that she has never cooked for me before neither has she washed my clothes but the day I asked her why don't you want to do these she said she can't do it because I've not paid her bride price she can never do that, I thought she was joking then one weekend she cane around I was washing she sat beside me she didn't even say anything like to assist me in washing neighbors were like what type of wife are you you can't even assist your bf in washing his clothes she went inside my room and I intentionally left my room scattered she went inside and slept on my bed unkept when I finished washing I had to come inside my room and tidy up everywhere on my own again she didn't even say let us do it together I felt bad that and is this who I want to marry she??

dingbang:
I really dont understand some guys walahi.


You know your gf has no responsible parents to cater for her needs, you saw these and went ahead to date her, didn't you know psychologically, she will see you as her daddy figure?

Second you didn't give her money, and you are now angry that someone is giving her money...what kind of wicked human being are you?

If you aren't ready to finance her then you give way to someone who is more financially bouyant than you.


You cannot just see problem and run into it and start complaining why the problem is a problem.

I'll only reply to sensible mentions

read and understand before you comment bro

Good day guys i have a gf which i love so much until recently i didnt allow the love blind me.
When I first met this my gf she is very calm and humble if you put water in her mouth tell her bot to swallow it she wont so all these made me feel she is better than my ex until recently she started showing some attitudes, although she is alone no father no mother sge stays with a friend and her parent not that she is fatherless its just that her dad is irresponsible so i made up my mind to help her be a better person in life.
So along the lines as I was helping her sge started feeling its my responsibility to always do what her father could have done for her forgetting i have my own responsibility too.
I started seeing some signs in her when we stayed tigrther for a year at first we traveled for a friend's mother in-law burial i spent money to lodge us in hotel and to feed and to transport from lagos down to abeokuta to and fro for the both of us the total money I spent was about 50k, then when we got there we started preparing for the burial then she got dressed and she asked that what about money for make up I told her I don't have nothing on me again can't you take money from your pocket and just use it to do the make up do you want to kill me she flared up and was angry and told me she doesn't have any money on her, at the end of the day I don't know where she got money from she did the make up then after the event we were about going back to our hotel room then my friend asked may be I was with my ATM card I told him no but my gf has her card with her then I sent my gf account number to him to transfer money so he can withdraw it, so I got back to the hotel room I was playing game with my gf phone then message came in credit alert it appeared on her phone notification bar that the account was credited with 3k and the total was now 10k I felt bad and disappointed that she lied she had no money then I challenged her she told me its not her money but for some ones money then I scold her that why does she have to do that I thought we are meant for each other and not against each other where I lack you are to assist even if its a little I know you don't have much but Atleast then she uttered a sentence that she knows if she tells me she has money I would spend it lavishly because I give out money any how I felt disappointed by this statement. I felt bad that night I gave her money to go and get food and eat while I slept in anger then when we came back to lagos I called her attention to what she did and how her reaction has always been towards money that it made me feel she is with me because of what I was giving her then she got mad flared up and was screaming what sort of rubbish statement are my making that she is not after my money then I told her ok fine let live together for 6 month and don't expect any money from me she got mad and said its not possible that why would I date her and not take care of her she left my presence in anger and didn't talk to me for days she later came back to appologise that she is sorry

OkuFaba:
She is girlfriend not wifey, you only owe faithfulness to wifey..

My guy, Dive into any available kpekus and come out proud like a king.

Women are like bunch of palm fruit, anybody can come and pluck the seed, but lass lass, na one person go carry the whole bunch go house

bro I'm only scared about pregnancy because she actually wants me back

I'm typing this in shame and depression
I broke up with my ex for like 2 years now I started dating NY gf I'm currently with
We've been together for almost 2 years now but the thing is that I met my ex last week Friday we hugged and fisted for a while then the love flame started burning because we loved each other so much before I broke up with her so she invited me to her residence I visited her we gisted had fun but I couldn't resist her she hugged me telling me how she missed me now she went ahead to plant a kiss on my lips then before I knew it we had sex I've been depressed ever since then and felt guilty I don't know what to tell my gf I'm so ashamed of myself and the worst part of it was that we had it unprotected
I know you guys would rain curses on me so before you do that I'm already raining it in myself

Good day guys
I have learnt a lot inn this forum I've learnt so many things but I'm mostly active in the properties and romance section.
So let me get straight down to business, the reason I created this thread are numerous but I would only talk about few which.
Firstly in this forum anything you want to do just don't listen to most if the advise they would give to you only take the ones that would work for you.
A year ago I posted on this section and here is the link https://www.nairaland.com/4270497/how-caan-save-year-build Going through the thread you would see some people gave good advice and some insulted me but I took the good advice and guess what I'm almost roofing my project this time I built 3 unit of a room self contain then a 3 bedroom bungalow and 2 shops in front of it on a plot of land.
So guys please don't let anybody talk you down
And please i need you guys help on how much a stone coated sheet cost and how much will it cost to roof a 3 bedroom bungalow.
Thanks guys

I had so many girls crushing on me but my ex was the only girl that told me she wants ne and wants us to have something serious.
As a sharp guy that I am I ignored her and friend zoned her but she never gave up she call every now and then I do give her attention like ordinary friends I would crack up jokes for her make her laugh anytime she had a bad day I speak words of encouragement into her make her feel lively I never knew all what I was doing was making her fall inlove until the day she asked to see me and she told me I might see her as a LovePeddler or a cheap girl but she wants to be honest with me then she told me see in inlove with you I want you in my life I just want you in my life I've been with different guys but you are different I don't want to miss out please just be my boyfriend I laughed I asked her if she was serious, she said she was then I started joking then she started crying that she told me her intentions but I was laughing at her and then I just broke up with my ex that was not giving me attention and was cheating on me so I had no choice than to accept her 3 months after accepting her I got a brand new car we did a lot of things together she was fun to be with she understand my mood and I do same to her mood too everything went well for 5 years when I was planning to settle down with her then boom one of her ex showed up and crashed everything we broke up and I had to leave its been 2 years we broke up and I'm with someone else now but she still begs me to come back that she has missed everything about me she wants me back she doesn't cars to be the second wife which I don't want although I still give her what she wants but I'm avoiding her because she wants sex with ne so badly and wants to have my baby too

You no like 1 million

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Can't believe a grown up man like me was moved to tears
This life is not judt balance

Dude you are pointless here so if a girl adds up it means she's suffering you don't think at all go check what happens when there is pea e of mind in marriage or relationship you instantly add up and glow be it boy or gorl

DenreleDave:
My fellow guys, I know how it feels when a lady turns down your request.... I have been in your shoes before and I can tell how its hurts

Nevertheless, don't be bothered because a lady turned you down, what you should focus on is how to improve your self so that when she sees you in the next coming years, she will envy you and want a comeback with you...

Example: I have an ex that I loved so much then.. I did everything to please her and she still fvcked up later... That was 2015... But now, I can't see her naked and get erection.... She Don fat and look less beautiful than b4.....

2ndly, there is this lady I like so much during my ND days, she was in business admin, I was in banking and finance but our lecture hall is beside each other... Very beautiful and nice shape..

Today, I saw her in the bank... I think she is married and she Don fat small... I began to wonder if this is the same lady I trip for then in school.....

So guys, focus on getting better than b4... Don't feel sad bcox she turned u down.... U may see her 3 years later and thank God that u never approached her......

Note: all I'm saying is don't waste ur useful life wanting to please a lady.. Develop ursef and see ladies striving to please you.

Be wise... Focus on ur life rather than shaping ursef for a woman to accept u

kingreign:
did I tell you I was in search of a car?
I am only giving you a fair honest advice. Nothing more.

Thanks.

leave am how much Is big daddy now that you are selling old car for 620 why don't I just add 180k and get big daddy oga better reduce price or your car remain like this without buyer

Oga na sinutisis infection you get its as a result of common cold infection Amoxicillin is enough to treat it
It happened to me during lock down and that's what I used to treat it

I met her in my 100L days... But she said she got a boyfriend in Lag. But she made it known to me how really bad her boyfriend is treating her.
She is very loyal type of girl that she told me she can't cheat on her boyfriend despite all my trial and effort to win her heart to me!

Fast forward to 100L second semester, she called me on phone and asked if I was around that she has something to tell me. She came to me sobbing really bad and crying. She explained to me her boyfriend called her on phone and asked for a breakup.

I felt sorry for her because she narrated how she was dis-virgin by the guy.

So she slept over that night ... And eventually we started dating......

It's been over a year we have been dating now... She is so sweet and loyal ...

Not until she called me last month, her ex came with his new car to see her at home.

I was very surprised about this... But she said nothing attached, he just came to apologise...

But after few days... Her ex began to chat her up on insta... And promising her heaven and Earth that she should give her another chance....

She screenshoted everything to me herself.....


Plz I deeply need advice... What should I do to keep this girl from going back to her ex... Cuz her ex is financially okay than me....�...


Am afraid... Plz what should I do guys?

Man I was once in your shoe, I went through almost same thing as you were doing.....
My gf met her ex after we dated for 2 years I asked her to go for one either me or her ex if she chose her ex over me I won't feel bad she insisted its me she wanted bro after 5 years of hiding and seeking I discovered she was still going back to her ex not that I wasn't financially stable but girls can deceive at the end I broke up with her,
her ex got married to her best friend they had children now.
She is still roaming about jumping from one guy to the other ...... And here I am planning to settle down with my new found love
My guy talk to her at the same time plan to exit so you don't get hurt the feelings she has for her ex I'd strong and her ex knows all her weakness if you are not careful you would see her back in the hand of her ex and she would start giving you attitudes.
Use your head bro be smart you deserve peace of mind

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It has been developed by the Madagascar Institute of Applied Research (IMRA) but has not been tested internationally.


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“This herbal tea gives results in seven days,” Rajoelina announced at its official launch on Tuesday.

“We can change the history of the entire world,” he said, after downing a dose. “Two people have now been cured by this treatment.”

Mainstream scientists have warned of the potential risk from untested herbal brews.

There is currently no known cure for coronavirus, which has infected at least 121 people in Madagascar and more than 2.6 million worldwide.

Yet military officials on the Indian Ocean island nation say the infusion would be better than nothing.

“It will strengthen immunity,” said military doctor Colonel Willy Ratovondrainy on state television, as troops launched a mass distribution campaign.

In pairs, soldiers followed people through Antananarivo’s narrow alleyways into their homes.

“Good morning, we are here to distribute the COVID-Organics tea,” one of them said.

Jean-Louis Rakotonandrasana gratefully accepted the free packet of herbs.

“We are eager to try this infusion since we saw president Rajoelina drink it on television,” the 58-year-old said.

Most of Madagascar’s 26 million inhabitants live in grinding poverty with limited access to healthcare and regularly take herbal teas for a variety of common ailments.

‘I think it’s great’
“I think it’s great,” said Dominique Rabefarihy, clutching a sachet of COVID-Organics in the poor Ankazomanga neighbourhood.

“It reassures me that soldiers are watching out for my family’s health and security,” the housewife said.

Madagascar deployed the army last month to help enforce a lockdown in its three main cities to curb the spread of COVID-19.

Soldiers who set up roadblocks and patrolled streets are now making sure everyone receives a sachet of the infusion and instructions for use.

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Madagascar’s coronavirus cases remain relatively low and there have been no recorded deaths so far.

But the country’s fragile healthcare system would easily be swamped by a surge in cases and authorities are banking on prevention.

Their aim is to raise awareness about the virus and strengthen people’s immune systems.

“We highly recommend taking this plant-based infusion,” said presidential cabinet head Lova Ranoramoro.

‘Ready-to-drink’
COVID-Organics is set to be distributed across the island, with a particular focus on the worst-affected cities of Antananarivo, Fianarantsoa and Toamasina.

Fixed collection points have also been set up in the capital.

Ignoring social distancing cues, a crowd gathered around a kiosk, lining up for the so-called “miracle drink”, being decanted into recycled water and soda plastic bottles.

“Here a ready-to-drink liquid version is available for everyone,” said municipal representative Rufin Rafanomezantsoa.

“As long as the WHO (World Health Organization) cannot provide any medicine to cure this disease, I trust President Andry Rajoelina’s proposed remedy,” said Jean Paul Rakotozafy, 72, as he queued up.

The WHO has cautioned against untested home therapies.

“While some western, traditional or home remedies may provide comfort and alleviate symptoms of COVID-19, there is no evidence that current medicine can prevent or cure the disease,” it said in an emailed statement to AFP.

It added that there are “several ongoing clinical trials” of both western and traditional medicines.

The homespun “remedy” was launched as confinement measures were progressively lifted. The president said the lockdown was eased because a “solution against coronavirus” had been found.

Public transport resumed in Antananarivo on Monday and schools re-opened on Wednesday.

Some children were given a cup of COVID-Organics in class.

“Of course each parent is free not to allow their child to take it,” said the cabinet chief Ranoramoro.

“For now, no one has objected.”

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RisenPhoenix:
Even a day is a full day too late. Just dump her and save yourself some mental stress. Toxic relationships do not only drain you of money. They also drain you of planning time, mental composure and confidence; which you need to get ahead in life.

Just make it easy on yourself and move on without her.

thanks bro I'm doing that straight away

Olunmercy56:
Yes, for you to have shown her your own contributions, what stopped her from adding a little to it? Must it be men doing everything for ladies, I don't understand. She really bleeped up by lieing Move on, she is a parasite

God bless yiu with a responsible husband

RisenPhoenix:
And you still want to invest your time and money in her? An apology is worth what in time and money? N50k? 3 days? You wasted your time and money and she tells you "sorry" so you forget the waste and go back to investing another couple of days and another sum of money on the same person? Then what? She fvcks up, you get angry, she tells you "sorry" yet again and you start all over again? You seem to have a masochistic streak in you or you are scared to take decisive stances. Either way, your position is pitiful.

But hey, it's your money and your time. You waste use it as you wish, you hear? It's you who will wake up one day with grey hairs, hypertension and bad health and nothing useful gathered in this world except a nagging wife whose only job throughout life was to help you spend your money wastefully while giving you headaches and a perpetually troubled mind.

no bro I know it won't take time she would flare up if I'm not giving her anything I won't give her a dime anymore

RisenPhoenix:
So why do you keep wasting your two most valuable resources; money and time; on something or someone that provides you with no benefit whatsoever? Do you have a low IQ? Are you a foolish person? Or do you just have too much money and time and no idea what to do with them?

And please do not be offended. I really mean no insult. I am only trying to understand your position and why you're in it.

no problem bro these are what I was thinking too but she later apologized so what I want to do now is to stop everything I'm doing for her and see if there would be any changes then I can leave freely

RisenPhoenix:
Op. I have only one question for you. Exactly what is your gain from this relationship where you are just spending all this money? List out for me the tangible, material benefits in descending order please. I need the list to advice you.

I swear man I have not benefitted anything the day she borrowed me money I heard a lot of things she said I'm not saying anything about her money is it because its her money but I'm giving other people money and this money was used to take care of her bro I was mad I broke account to pay her up instantly

baralatie:
Go through all his comments and you will see his exposed flaw which the girl picked up instantly. This relationship is based on plain "no responsibility to perform basis" but sex is involved

the girl is from a no home support as claimed by him.He steps in to "support" with benefit of sex in return, she already is a victim in her last relationship where at the end the ex walks away with another "virgin". this present one does not want to pay her school like that (smart) but does not want marriage because he is building his house.it you be girl what do you think will going on in her mind

then you are lost I never stated that I'm not marrying her read everything man I wouldn't want to marry her and I would dit her down to talk about what she was doing that was hurting me?

HarunaWest:
Did that your building your house doesn't stop you from being broke mehn..You broke for a relationship. that's all

your contribution is out of it bro

baralatie:
Oga if you want help her life move forward then help her life to move forward.
as it stands it is more like ,you are the one manipulating her into a relationship and asking her to be a sex.ting ground with no responsibility from your part.
she already has seen that you are using for plain sex .
Oga na beg I dey beg o.if you want to help help.if you no wan help leave am

no bro I stop dating her automatically means no intimacy will go on again

Jewessgratitudd:
Is this one relationship? To me this seems like frirnrof benefits. You guys need to attend relationship forums and read tips on dating.
How old is she? I'm asking cos a woman who's priorities are make up and birthday present while her man has a building project ongoing still needs some maturing to do.

Let her be for a while and see if she changes but if not, you may have to take a bow out of that relationship.

you got my respect boss

HarunaWest:
Dude from the analysis so far, you are darn broke.. Stop dating for now, make money and enjoy your life.. You asking her for too much financial assistance and that's bad, she was on her own Na you say you love am say u was date am. Ladies like a guy they can rely on when it matters she feels that you keep asking her for money means in future, if she doesn't take care, she will be the one to cater for yah. Be a man, call of the relationship, be more comfortable financially, then from that vantage point, you can call the shots.

what are you even saying even the rich ones don't want a gold digger I'm telling you that I don't like what she was doing more over are my not giving her what she wants not that I'm even broke I'm building my own house so I diverted my money that's the reason not that I'm broke go up there and read up MAN and stop acting like a p**y