So I was angry and pained then in anger I asked a friend I was seeing to be my girlfriend which she agreed to be.
Then I forgot about my ex so we started dating I started growing feelings for her and she was of good behaviour I thought God has rewarded me with someone better until she started showing her real character .
My girlfriend has a selfish and greedy attitude and she doesn't care about me she is so self centred.
She is always wanting something from me which if I don't do it turn out to be a quarell she flare up and start giving attitude
The one that hurt me most was after assisting her to pay her school fees to write her exam she knows I was broke she was requesting for birthday cake and which she knows I just paid 120k 2 days ago when I told her I don't have anything for her birthday she should just do her exam, then later we would go out together and catch fun, my girlfriend now went to school in front of her friends picked up her phone and called me and told me what have I even done for her ever since we have been dating .
The funniest thing is that she hadn't giving me a gift before it was only when we had issues October last year because it was close to my birthday she did small chops and wine then brought it to me after that nothing else qnd I wasn't requesting anything from her as,
When she did that j was angry she made such statement so I didn't wake up to wish her happy birthday I wished her happy birthday late in the afternoon and I did it intentionally then she got mad started talking to me any how on phone

So one day after being in the relationship for 3 years and everything was going smoothly then her secondary school ex boyfriend showed up making her loose focus in me and she started behaving funny like she makes me feel the ex is trying to take over back and everything I'm doing for her is no longer appreciated it continued like that until the 5th year I had to break up with her because she caused me pain because she was getting obsessed with her ex boyfriend so I left, after that I think her ex got interested in her best friend and married her then she was disappointed I initially broke up to let her be for a period of 6 months so she would know my worth then we come back and reconcile but no my ex went and moved on with another guy they started dating already and I was still waiting, when it was the 4th month I noticed they were already dating I was disappointed and had to move on then but she wasn't inlove with who she was dating she was just dating for dating sake

Good day guys.
I don't want to bore you with my stories and I also don't want to waste your time, so let me go straight to business.
In 2013 I met my ex on 2go messenger after chatting for a while and discovering we are birthday mate, she invited me to her birthday which I went to and from there I got to see her in person she saw my appearance and she fell in love with me, 2 months after she asked me out which I accepted and things were going fine and smooth I loved her so much and she does same to me too she is always so interested in any thing that consigns me she is not working thou but she always spoil me with gift from the pocket money I do give to her.

Mikester:
This is what happens when a foolish man earns money. He forgets himself and gives his strength, time and money to women who doesn’t want him. Funny enough he thinks his money will buy her love and loyalty.

@op, love has no price, it comes naturally. If you dare believe all these "charitable works" you are doing will make her love or want you, you're in on a long thing. Women use men like your type to sustain their lifestyle and give their totality to guys who they chase.

What am I saying? If a woman doesn't indicate interest in you romantically, she isn't worth your investment. She sure doesn't love you else her incessant and inconsiderate demands. You, the mugu is the one in love. Blind love as a matter of fact.

If you're smart, you'll know that relationships are mostly temporary and giving much of yourself into it can mentally and financially destroy you. Best to use your brain now or she'll use it for you.

**spits**

lol calm down bro I ain't buying her love with money I know what I'm doing i would deal with her I've withdrew everything I'm doing for her I'm expecting her to call off the relationship as soon as possible my ex wasn't like this she is better than her my ex wasn't demanding like this but all these girls way dey outside now no get sense

Good day guys, please before I proceed why on the reason why I'm creating this thread I want you to know that there might be typos and please don't mind my grammar also no insult too please.
Ok here we go.
I am a young guy I broke up with my ex almost 3 years now so I moved on with another girl that I believed was better than my ex, when we started everything was going smoothly and sweet until she started showing up some attitude of lack of understanding fast forward to what happened .
My gf wanted to pay her school fee she raised some fund but wasn't enough for the fee so I decided to assist her actualize what she wanted she wanted to pay 150k for school fee she was able to raise 70k so I added 80k for her to pay up and thats just 70% of the school fee we all know how hard the country is after paying that money I became broke because the money I though I could use to manage myself wasn't available because I was having issues with omo onile on my site so I had to settle them and take care of the fencing so I had 40k with me so that was what I was planning to manage till the end of the month. My gf knowing well that I'm broke after paying her fee started asking me for money for hair after all that has happened so I told her to relax and wait I'm broke I want to manage what I have on me till next month then we can find a solution, she now volunteered to borrow me I told her no I don't want because the last one I borrowed from you you insulted me because I couldn't pay on time then she started acting up telling me everybody in her department was complaining she isn't making her hair this that I ignored all her talk later she did the hair her self and I didn't bother asking her where she got the money...
So fast forward to today being her birthday she is in school writing exam so she is doing her bitlrthday in school
Now before she was allowed to write this exam I paid another 40k to add to her school fee so she can be allowed to write her exam.
Now she was now telling me that she wants something from me for her bitlrthday I told her I'm broke ooo because I can't just leave my building project like that birthday comes and go we can celebrate some other time. That was how my gf started acting up the next thing she said was that what have I ever giving her ever since we have been dating that even her bitmrthday that passed I didn't do anything j just laughed I told her I didn't do anything right its now that I won't do anything again I would ignore you to the core you would come back that you want to pay school fee now I would wait here for you no problem

good day guys
please i need you guys advice on this matter please don't mind my errors so let me get started with my explanations
im a young guy in my twenties precidely im 27 years i would be 28 by october life has not been fair on me
i stay in my family house at ebute metta in lagos and i was born and brought up in this same house my father left me my mum and my sister wen i was just 5 years old so i started hustling since iwas 17 years old i worked as a labourer and also worked in a factory where i almost lost my index finger to machine when i was working my dad never looked back at us i saved up money i sent my self to school and i still feed my mum because she isnt working and i also started a business for her now myproblem is that i want to leave my family house and stand on my own although i have started buikding a house which i want my mum and sister to move to at ikorodu then every weekend i would be going to visit them because my work is at ebute metta but my problem now is that i earn 40k monthly and i have been looking for a room self contain in ebute metta because i want to cut away transport from my expenses but apartment is very expensive here the least you can get in ebute metta west is 250k for a room self contain please guys i need your advice and i am in so much need of the apartment because im begining to get ashamed of staying in family house.

Danielomisco:
Bro e go hard o

so what can I do please??

Good day guys.. in reference to the above topic, please I would like to relocate to either of the 2 mentioned countries, but the issue here is that I have a budget of 1 million and i only had my national diploma in computer science i didn't bother to go for HND because of nigerian mode of operation when it comes to education so I decided to take a professional course on udemy which I'm still running now and the course is cyber security but my fear now will I be able to get a job if I het to any of these countries and will my 1 million naira be enough to relocate because I'm tired of this country

Good day guys plese where can I get legitimate dating site for racial dates nigerian girls don tire me abeg I want to date white please help a brother.
Thanks.

Innobee99:
If as a man of God u prophesy, why not deliver too. Why instilling fear in people if u know u can't solve that problem.





My view

my view too bro because he is lucky to have a girl who loves him so much

If you really like her and you feel you really want her be ready to take her for deliverance she has a good heart I don't blame the girl she isn't responsible for what's happening in your life if she wants your doom she woukd have left when you were down instead she assisted financially and helped uou get back up don't let prophet allow you throw away a diamond think of it bro what if you left you now meet the real demon.
Take her for deliverance dear my advice thou

Kestolove:
God4bid, I can't marry a man that am older than...guy beta leave that girl for somebody better

that was what one of my ex said just because she was older than me with 5 years now I'm married she is still single all her age mates and people older than her they all broke her heart and I'm here now happy with my family she does chat me up the only thing she keor saying is that i realised age is just a number but it was too late

chychy12:


Using that roofing sheet which you posted earlier.. And wood including workmanship and everything else... 3million.. Give or take.. Due to the high cost of materials right now on market...

I did my own roofing last month using that same stone roofing sheet including wood and everything I spent close to 4.5 million naira... Mine was 4 bedroom bungalow very spacious and big...

wow

chychy12:
Due to the high cost of materials right now on the market... Sorry 500k is too small

so how much should I budget??

joycluv:
Is the 500k for both the wood work and the roof panel or just for the roof panel?

for both

Good day guys please I need you guys help mostly the carpenters in the house.
Please I have a budget of 500k to use for roofing my 3 bedroom bungalow please will it be enough And I intend using stone coated roof just like the one attached below and please also I'm open to any suggestion thanks .

UndauntedYOCA:
Sniffed?

its a terminology in cyber security

Good day guys
Let me just go straight to the point so I don't sound boring
I met this girl we started dating I showered her love and affections, attention and care, but she never did same to me she made herself so difficult for me to cope with she screams at me she doesn't make me feel loved, so one day I called her I asked her what's wrong, she said in her past relationships she had given it all she can none of them worked now she can't give back the same energy because she felt I would do the same, I felt bad then I told her atleast we've been together for a year and, you should have known I don't have bad intentions towards you moreover I've gotten what most guys wanted from you which is sex but I still didn't leave I want to spend the rest of my life with you.
I talked to her that she really need to let go of her past I feel I'm suffering for what I know nothing about I discussed with her like 4 times over the same issues nothing changed then my ex was my friend she never treated me this bad so I got in contact with my ex my ex never hid the feelings from me that she loved me but we separated because I can't cope with her for being sturbon not knowing its from frypan to fire,
I and my ex started talking she found out she was mad and got extremely angry then I told her this is what you pushed me to do because I communicated my pains with you but you refused to change so I told her at that spot that I don't think I can continue a relationship where I pamper my partner and she treats me like trash, this relationship is one sided and I'm exhausted,.
Before I knew it she started crying that she was sorry I should please forgive her I should give her a second chance that she would never misuse it I should please that's its not her fault that its the people she dated before meeting me that damaged her, then I told her if I'm to act by the way ladies have treated me before I met you I won't pamper you.
At the end of the day I forgived her I didn't want her to feel I'm so easy to talk to and can be manipulated I gave her though time since she said she wants us back, I stopped caring for her like I used to although it took me time and discipline and commitment not to act on her demand because I'm a kind of person that doesn't know how to ignore peoples want mostly the people I love.
To cut the whole story short, I ignore all her request ignore her monetary needs and gave her back a pinch of her own medicine although I decide to do that for a month to see her reaction not until yesterday when I spied her phone from my phone I hacked her WhatsApp and came across the chat of how her course mate gave her number to a guy and was telling her how caring the guy was and they started talking Infact she had become so comfortable with the guy to the point they are already talking of how to meet each other but during their chat she kept mentioning that her boyfriend does this for her and does this to her and my gf that has never told me of how me and her will come together to put money together to go on a date is already organizing that with the guy.
The shit is getting sweet because I'm waiting for them to pick a venue they would go, then i will be there before them, then I would go and sit down there and wait for them I won't disrupt them or disturb them I would just make her see me then I move.
Women are truly a scum!!!

Good day ladies and gentle men, please I have a question to ask.
At a stage in life after growing and passing through the fun of being a child from that to being a teenager then from teenager to adult, at the stage of adult we feel we need a partner to be with us so we can start making families just like our parents do.
Then the issues that comes up when trying to settle down is choosing the right partner, now I know it entails alot but I would be botressing my point and my question would be from the religious angle.
I've heard several people going to church to meet pastor and ask them to pray over their relationship if who they are with is the right person for them, thereby making it look like God is the one that actually gives you a wife, now I've heard and seen pastors separating lovers that loved each others so much from each other, not that there is no understanding in the relationship but the pastor will just tell them their marriage won't work, some end up regretting while some don't care about what the pastor said.
In the Bible I understand that a verse talked about picking a wife, I quote "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, And obtaineth favor of Jehovah", that proverb 18: 22, but these days pastors try to force match 2 people together and make them live together even when the love isn't there.
Why is this happening please I need an answer thanks.

Missyford31:


She still shouldn't be hiding her own money tho.
Either way I dunno much how it all works in naija really. Relationships stuff is so different

God bless you abeg

MrTAnonymous:



If your story is true, alaye free her. Why use loan money to finance a girl that is already showing you signs of golddigging, eh?

E be like say bomb sef dey una head, we don't want to hear your story again, case closed. And please reedit your post, too many grammatical errors.

Incase you don't know na me talk

no bro I meant loan for the house I was building

Yet I find it difficult to make love to her she always gives me though time even place me on condition at times I can't tell her my pains to her because she judge me so quick and doesn't know how to encourage someone

BornSnner9:
Damn

You too need to understand each other more.. she still seem like a good girl and all you need do is always correct, caution and tame her..

Most ladies are like that but that doesn't make her a hoe.. it's just being selfish and you can help her do away with such habit because you two are in this together.. since she pointed out your lavish spending as why she hid her own from you, it is not something you should be mad at ( considering that she has only a little amount and she's being protective of it)..

Don't get it twisted love is a beautiful thing

but if I waste more money on her its no lavish bro spare me that biko she is not my first gf and she's not the first I'm doing this to

Soi forgives her and we continued dating
Then she did something annoying that I can take my mind of she fell ill and needed money to treat herself although she is working now so she had over 100k in her account and I asked her to take from her savings and take care of herself despite the discomfort she refused to take she said she doesn't want to touch the money because its for school so I. Was annoyed that t could you not take care of yourself not even me this time so I borrowed money and send to her before she wound herself for my neck then when she recovered I told her that if you die tiday that no eh in your account that you don't want to touch its the bank officials that would enjoy that money you don't take life serious at all
Another thing she did was her hair her hair looked unkept so I used money for my building project I've collected loan too so I was broke then I asked her that she should make her hair foe like 3 months my gf left her hair like that she when j challenged her again she said since I refuse to pay fir the hair she would leave it like that I'm the one that will be ashamed of her not her this statement broke me and was then I questioned her that why is she always expecting me to do everything for her Atleast she is working I'm not asking her to spend on me she should Atleast do things on her own once in a while that would have shown that she wants to do too but she can't do much instead on saying I should do everything for her
Another thing is that she has never cooked for me before neither has she washed my clothes but the day I asked her why don't you want to do these she said she can't do it because I've not paid her bride price she can never do that, I thought she was joking then one weekend she cane around I was washing she sat beside me she didn't even say anything like to assist me in washing neighbors were like what type of wife are you you can't even assist your bf in washing his clothes she went inside my room and I intentionally left my room scattered she went inside and slept on my bed unkept when I finished washing I had to come inside my room and tidy up everywhere on my own again she didn't even say let us do it together I felt bad that and is this who I want to marry she??

dingbang:
I really dont understand some guys walahi.


You know your gf has no responsible parents to cater for her needs, you saw these and went ahead to date her, didn't you know psychologically, she will see you as her daddy figure?

Second you didn't give her money, and you are now angry that someone is giving her money...what kind of wicked human being are you?

If you aren't ready to finance her then you give way to someone who is more financially bouyant than you.


You cannot just see problem and run into it and start complaining why the problem is a problem.

I'll only reply to sensible mentions

read and understand before you comment bro

Good day guys i have a gf which i love so much until recently i didnt allow the love blind me.
When I first met this my gf she is very calm and humble if you put water in her mouth tell her bot to swallow it she wont so all these made me feel she is better than my ex until recently she started showing some attitudes, although she is alone no father no mother sge stays with a friend and her parent not that she is fatherless its just that her dad is irresponsible so i made up my mind to help her be a better person in life.
So along the lines as I was helping her sge started feeling its my responsibility to always do what her father could have done for her forgetting i have my own responsibility too.
I started seeing some signs in her when we stayed tigrther for a year at first we traveled for a friend's mother in-law burial i spent money to lodge us in hotel and to feed and to transport from lagos down to abeokuta to and fro for the both of us the total money I spent was about 50k, then when we got there we started preparing for the burial then she got dressed and she asked that what about money for make up I told her I don't have nothing on me again can't you take money from your pocket and just use it to do the make up do you want to kill me she flared up and was angry and told me she doesn't have any money on her, at the end of the day I don't know where she got money from she did the make up then after the event we were about going back to our hotel room then my friend asked may be I was with my ATM card I told him no but my gf has her card with her then I sent my gf account number to him to transfer money so he can withdraw it, so I got back to the hotel room I was playing game with my gf phone then message came in credit alert it appeared on her phone notification bar that the account was credited with 3k and the total was now 10k I felt bad and disappointed that she lied she had no money then I challenged her she told me its not her money but for some ones money then I scold her that why does she have to do that I thought we are meant for each other and not against each other where I lack you are to assist even if its a little I know you don't have much but Atleast then she uttered a sentence that she knows if she tells me she has money I would spend it lavishly because I give out money any how I felt disappointed by this statement. I felt bad that night I gave her money to go and get food and eat while I slept in anger then when we came back to lagos I called her attention to what she did and how her reaction has always been towards money that it made me feel she is with me because of what I was giving her then she got mad flared up and was screaming what sort of rubbish statement are my making that she is not after my money then I told her ok fine let live together for 6 month and don't expect any money from me she got mad and said its not possible that why would I date her and not take care of her she left my presence in anger and didn't talk to me for days she later came back to appologise that she is sorry

OkuFaba:
She is girlfriend not wifey, you only owe faithfulness to wifey..

My guy, Dive into any available kpekus and come out proud like a king.

Women are like bunch of palm fruit, anybody can come and pluck the seed, but lass lass, na one person go carry the whole bunch go house

bro I'm only scared about pregnancy because she actually wants me back

I'm typing this in shame and depression
I broke up with my ex for like 2 years now I started dating NY gf I'm currently with
We've been together for almost 2 years now but the thing is that I met my ex last week Friday we hugged and fisted for a while then the love flame started burning because we loved each other so much before I broke up with her so she invited me to her residence I visited her we gisted had fun but I couldn't resist her she hugged me telling me how she missed me now she went ahead to plant a kiss on my lips then before I knew it we had sex I've been depressed ever since then and felt guilty I don't know what to tell my gf I'm so ashamed of myself and the worst part of it was that we had it unprotected
I know you guys would rain curses on me so before you do that I'm already raining it in myself

Good day guys
I have learnt a lot inn this forum I've learnt so many things but I'm mostly active in the properties and romance section.
So let me get straight down to business, the reason I created this thread are numerous but I would only talk about few which.
Firstly in this forum anything you want to do just don't listen to most if the advise they would give to you only take the ones that would work for you.
A year ago I posted on this section and here is the link https://www.nairaland.com/4270497/how-caan-save-year-build Going through the thread you would see some people gave good advice and some insulted me but I took the good advice and guess what I'm almost roofing my project this time I built 3 unit of a room self contain then a 3 bedroom bungalow and 2 shops in front of it on a plot of land.
So guys please don't let anybody talk you down
And please i need you guys help on how much a stone coated sheet cost and how much will it cost to roof a 3 bedroom bungalow.
Thanks guys

I had so many girls crushing on me but my ex was the only girl that told me she wants ne and wants us to have something serious.
As a sharp guy that I am I ignored her and friend zoned her but she never gave up she call every now and then I do give her attention like ordinary friends I would crack up jokes for her make her laugh anytime she had a bad day I speak words of encouragement into her make her feel lively I never knew all what I was doing was making her fall inlove until the day she asked to see me and she told me I might see her as a LovePeddler or a cheap girl but she wants to be honest with me then she told me see in inlove with you I want you in my life I just want you in my life I've been with different guys but you are different I don't want to miss out please just be my boyfriend I laughed I asked her if she was serious, she said she was then I started joking then she started crying that she told me her intentions but I was laughing at her and then I just broke up with my ex that was not giving me attention and was cheating on me so I had no choice than to accept her 3 months after accepting her I got a brand new car we did a lot of things together she was fun to be with she understand my mood and I do same to her mood too everything went well for 5 years when I was planning to settle down with her then boom one of her ex showed up and crashed everything we broke up and I had to leave its been 2 years we broke up and I'm with someone else now but she still begs me to come back that she has missed everything about me she wants me back she doesn't cars to be the second wife which I don't want although I still give her what she wants but I'm avoiding her because she wants sex with ne so badly and wants to have my baby too