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chiefolododo:
Ok

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Good day guys
I made the worst mistake of my life and I think it's affecting me now
I have a girlfriend I dated for 4 years before we had issue she was 22 years and I was 25 so she doesn't listen to me she kept communicating with her ex although it got me angry and I broke up with her while her friend got married to that her ex she begged me to come back I refused until 2 years after I decided to listen to her then I found out she had dated many guys close to 10 guys why I was with just 1 girl until I started having issues with her so I decided to question her because I disvirgined her and she doesn't like a protected sex after interrogation I discovered she had 1 abortion and I try to man up and accept the fact that it cannot be changed so once in awhile it gets into my head but the one that got into my head recently I collected her phone to help her repair it then that was how I came across the chat with one of her ex that got her pregnant all the nude they shared how they zucked each other and how she went ahead to abort the baby and she was still asking the guy if he wanted the baby and how the baby would have been a year old although she said she no longer communicate with the ex and I discovered she has blocked him and was telling the guy to stay clear that she is married now.
This got me angry and furious although she told me she had abortion but not full information of what happened then I called her to challenge her then she said I'm always using her past to hurt her because I kept saying it and the mother was there and she heard everything and the mother got angry that I disappointed her because she wasn't expecting such from me the mother never knew she did abortion until the convo I had with her then the mother was mad at me that she never expected such from me and the mother is a churchy type of person so she got angry ad said if not for my mother that died she would have blocked me from calling she and her daughter I felt bad that I messed up everything and tht ishoud not have said what I said and she said I should return her daughter's phone and everything belonging to her daughter including her things in my place and since that yesterday I've been begging the mother and it's now looking like she doesn't want me to talk to her daughter any more and I plan to marry her very soon I'm 29 and I don't know where to start from I have been down because I love the girl she made a statement that I felt bad for she said why does nobody loves me I felt broken it's been 24 hours now I've not heard from my gf im sticker in between moving on or wait if anything can be done......

Freshtruth:
I Have this friend whose mother sell roasted corn and bolle(roasted plantain) the mother called me and narrated what happen this is own son pretended not to know her because he is with a group of girls and guys that day when the car he enter with his friends stop buy to buy roasted corn. She saw her son inside the car and she was like 'kelvin wetin u dey inside person motor' the young man was shy and had to deny that he is not the one I confronted him. Continue..

taht boy is mad his is even better the mother was selling corn my own mum was a cripple and also sells soft drink she raised us and I never denied her until her last breath on earth I wish I can still have her back nothing on earth will make me deny my mum nothing she was a good mother

ReneAsia:
Dear Forum Members,

I am writing to humbly request your support and financial assistance to fulfill my aspiration of funding my Forex trading account. I believe that with your generosity, I can embark on a path towards financial independence and success.
Let me provide some background information about myself and why I am seeking your help. My name is Irene, and for quite some time, I have been deeply passionate about the world of foreign exchange trading. I have diligently studied the intricate dynamics of the Forex market, honed my skills through extensive research, and invested countless hours in acquiring the necessary knowledge and expertise. Despite my dedication, I have found it challenging to gather the funds required to start trading in the Forex market. Due to personal circumstances and financial constraints, I am unable to allocate the necessary capital to open an account and begin my journey as a Forex trader.
This is where your support can make a significant difference. By providing financial assistance, you have the opportunity to empower an ambitious individual like myself to pursue their dreams and potentially achieve financial stability. I genuinely believe that Forex trading can be a life-changing opportunity for me, and I am committed to putting in the hard work and effort required to succeed.
I understand that financial assistance is a substantial request, and I want to assure you that I do not take it lightly.
I am open to any suggestions or feedback you may have regarding the funding process. If you have concerns or questions, please do not hesitate to reach out to me, and I will gladly address them.
I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude to the entire Forum for considering my request and for the support you provide to individuals like me who are striving to improve their financial circumstances. Your kindness and generosity can help transform a mere aspiration into a tangible reality.
Thank you for taking the time to read my plea. I look forward to any assistance or guidance you can provide. Together, we can create opportunities and make a positive impact on each other's lives.
My CR number with Deriv broker is CR2814835.
With utmost gratitude,
Renny.

Oga go and get a prop firm account

Yours is better my own pastor I'd telling me the girl I'm currently dating is not my wife thou she has her own flaw but girl could go out of her way to make sure I'm fine na him person say make I leave her

This cat fish account that was created in less than 24 hours

Congratulations mama I wish my mum was alive I built her a 3 bedroom apartment to mark her 60th birthday which is in 3 years time but she died last year September she couldn't even live in her house now she is lying 6 feet below in that house I cry anytime I thought of it because she single handedly raised me and my sister and my dad was no where to be found now after her death he is coming close to us knowing well that we built for our mum

Juliusmomoh2:
how did you pay ? . I got declined anytime I want to pay

due to cbn policy your daily limit is $10 anything above that just get someone out of Nigeria to pay for you or you use paypal

JeffSA:
The easiest way to decrease your chances of making it in life is increasing your responsibility when your financial strength hasn't increase.

The same girl will start complaining when you can't cater for your immediate family.
No go kill yourself with too burden cos you are still very young and once you get married.

U will start having kids immediately cos the society will pressure you into doing that when they will start asking if your wife is okay and why she is not pregnant yet.

The formula is decrease your liability and invest in assets. Building a house now when you don't have any saving or good source
Of income for me is not a wise decision cos will never sale that property if thing goes really bad.

Self development by Saving up for business or learning a course with that money would have been the best thing to do because you can easily build that house within a year if you have good source of income.

Now the house is not finished, all the money you would have use for self development tied up there and no money to continue and you are thinking of getting married.

Even though you said you got three years left to finish the house, that money would have been channel in a better way to help you grow financially and build a good house in a short period of time.

I'm learning a skill and I'm no just idle I'm also saving to start affiliate marketing

henryligit:
You can still pick up as a man but first you have to conquer yourself
I was feeling depressed earlier this year
Just like you..but all thanks to qnet

So if you can work here in Lagos
Heat me on 07066198170
Or if you Know any of your friend that is working in quest international company you can still call that person for help

bro are you on WhatsApp?

otipoju:
Take this advise as one from a big brother.

Take it very easy. Dont rush into marriage when you are not ready. You are 28 now. Ill advise you to wait till you are 34 to 35. Sort out yourself first. If the girl wants to leave PLEASE let her leave unless she is coming to add serious value to you.

Sort out your mum first and go learn a skill that will earn you much money to ADEQUATELY cater for your family when you start having kids.

Are you still interested in the networking course?

Thanks bro currently taking a cyber security course on udemy

uche393:
virtual machines slows PC's, but I saw a video where Khali Linux apps were installed on a win10/11 PC. that will be much better. I Will be buying a desktop i7 16gbram 250ssd desktop soon.

Windows are not really good for the job because they are vulnerable

Good day guys, I've been on this forum for a while now and I've learnt a lot from you guys via threads here on nairaland.
To cut the story short and not bore you, I'm a 28 year old guy and will be 29 by October knowing that I've finally grown to be an adult is really getting me frustrated and depressed because of a lot of responsibilities that comes with it,
Although I've been a hustler from a very tender age (16) I had an irresponsible father who doesn't care about me and my sibling instead of him to take care of us with the money he made he would rather spend that money on woman. Leaving my sibling and mum to starve.
My dad had only one chance to turn my life around when I needed him most, he refuse to help me, because I went for a scholarship exam when I was in school and I was among the lucky 10 that was picked and I was offered to come and learn networking for a token fee of #50,000 naira then instead of the normal 450k but my dad refuse to pay telling me he doesn't have money, I cried and begged him to please help me my dad kept saying he doesn't have money and this happened immediately after I finished my ssce exam then, now my dad said he doesn't have money but that year he abandoned me and my mum and sibling at my grand mother's house because my grandma built her own house, for years we didn't hear from him or get to see him.
My mum would call and beg him for money for food he would curse her , later we found out he was living with another woman and he got another apartment for 300k and this same man said ge doesn't have money to sponsor me for a tech skill I wanted to acquire. So when my dad was not ready to help I had to seek for a job to take care of my mum and sibling because my mum business went down and we were not having anything to eat, so I got a factory job I would work from 7am to 7pm even with that machine almost chopped off my index finger I still had to go to work just for my family to eat my mum kept crying and calling my dad, he ignored us and for God so good he opened a way for me and got a better job offer, I gain admission in yabatech I wanted to pay 75k for school fee I had 50k my mum begged my dad to borrow me 25k that I would refund it, my dad shouted at my mum that he doesn't have anything to give to me if he doesn't pay his rent first[b](omo I regretted coming to earth through that man)[/b].
To cut the long story short, I am getting depressed because I'm still staying in my granny's house and I want to leave but I'm currently building for my mum and I want to build mine too and get married but the pressure is much because I feel I'm running out of time and my girlfriend is on my neck that we should get married (although she has been very supportive) but I felt I don't have time on my side again because now I need to rent an apartment and also finish the house I'm building for my mum but I'm not earning much and all these on a mere salary of 60k I'm really frustrated and if I should get an apartment while building its going to slow down the progress of the building and I really want to gift this to my mum for her 60th birthday which is in 3 years time (that woman deserve to be happy I love her so much) and I also needed to get married and start having my children adult hood is not easy
Please I need you guys advice as I'm getting really frustrated.

I'm currently taking a cyber security course...
I'm following

Most of you didn't know Dagrin had a younger brother that's currently hot go and watch out for Trodd

I'd like to apply for the data science course too but I just have only nd and I didn't go for nysc can I still be admitted?

DrFunmisticGlow:
this write-up is not love. You are looking for who to dominate and control.

as a man if I don't dominate and control my woman haven't o lost it as a man?
Oh I should allow a woman toss me around?
Come of it man it doesn't work that way even bible said it woman respect your husband and husband love your wife .
So you have the right to see it the other way, it doesn't affect me

The yoruba Muslim are the lowest and foolish set of humans I've know all my life I'm a yoruba man also but I never supported buhari right from time but the ones that supported when I asked them a question that why did they support buhari they gave lame and stupid reason most of them said because he was a Muslim can you imagine how dumb this people are

ZombieTERROR:


we never had it this bad

what yoruba Muslims saw in Buhari is what I can never understand.. was it jazz or just hate for the South South. i shudder

For them to be promoting another old Londoner in Tinubu shows clearly that this is not ordinary.

Believe me, they are not having it easy just like the rest of us.. no light.. ASUU strike.. massive unemployment.. inflation.. etc
then why suffer yourself to spite others
majority of the people supportive Buhari on this forum are yoruba Muslims not even northerners..

what's exactly is going on?..

TkhGuy:
It's hurtful, I don't know which side of the coin you guys want to follow but, she came that day, uninvited like she use to & know I have to tell her when she starts touching me & reaching my sensitive zone, I held her hands for a while & broke the silence,

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited,

She is curvy & seductive, she is beautifully personified,
I don't have time to chase after girls due to the nature of my job, so, she has been the only girl I have all along,


I have carefully made my choice, ladies you all need to learn this cos most Nigerian guys will not tell you this or force it on you..

I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her,

I can't have a girl who can't cook as a wife but gf yes,

I can't harbor a girl who questions my authority as my wife, but as gf yes

I can't take a girl who challenges me even to point of picking up a fight with me as a wife, but as girlfriend, yes

I can't take a girl who disobeys me as my wife, cheating will be nothing to her,

I can't marry a girl who is unapologetic, for girlfriend, yes but not a wife

I can't marry a girl who's 80% contact is raging with boys, even if there are all her cousin, or she doesn't sleep with them I don't care,

I can't marry a girl who wears make up 247 when coming and going and always on a tight body revealing clothes, what that means is she is not done advising herself to highest bidder

This are the conditions & challenges that i tried hard to stop my girlfriend from but she wouldn't let go,

We have dated for more than 3 years but this attitude never changes,

I found someone whom all this came from without me pushing for it, now she is crying out her eyes,

brother let me tell you the story of my life..
You see ehn that angel you know and can predict is better than the one you are about to meet.
My ex was a sturbon girl and I broke up with her just because she doesn't listen to me I felt I would get someone better... yes of course I did I got someone but guess what,
She pretended for the first 9 months I was boasting I have seen someone better than my ex and my ex was crying that she wants me back that she would do what ever I wanted I told her no way I've gotten someone better than her.
Brother immidiately we dated for a year I started seeing strange attitude which my ex never had at first I thought I could cope that nobody was perfect but the more I stay with her the more I'm loosing my mind.
1.She doesn't appreciate any thing you do for her she feels it's her entitlement
2. She doesn't trust me
3. She talk down on me
4. She was beginning to take over the masculine responsibility and making me her wife (bro like she was commanding me to do this and that)
5. If she wants something it's either I get it for her or she fight me
6. If I borrow money from her she would insult me with it
7. She doesn't vibe with me
8. She is so serious and I play alot
9 . When I was with my ex I wasn't secretive but with her I became extremely secretive because she would discourage you on any plan you had
10. She started dragging position with my first and second love(mum and sister) thou I immediately let her know where she belong
11. She carry Christianity for head but her heart is black

I became scared and got so uncomfortable around her .
I started telling her I'm not being treated with love I know how much I was loved from where I was coming from
So I met my ex since she wanted me back just like I wanted her we both broke up with who we were with and few months into the relationship I felt loved again and was spoilt with gifts because when I was with her before we broke up I took care of her but she has this appreciating spirit in her like if you can break your back for my happiness I would go extra mile to make you happy
She showered me with gift while my ex never both any gift foe me but instead she rather collect and pretend like she had nothing and still fight me if I can't provide anything.
So bro I won't say much but learn from my story
Nobody is perfect look at the Arras where she is good at and you guys should work things out she actually loves you everybody wants to be loved even we men too wants to feel someone loves and care about us

I was actually using vmware
Thanks bro.

Good day guys,please I took a course which is cyber security but on the long run I noticed for you to be very good at protecting yourself and loved ones from being victim of hackers may be like identity theft and hacking of bank accounts and pulling down of websites, I discovered you really need to do a little of ethical hacking, which I'm now doing but I used my windows hp laptop core 17 but the virtual machine and the khali Linux operating system installed in the virtual machine to allow virtual environment for hacking has been over working my processor there by making my laptop go off frequently because of the heat and workload on processor
Please can you recommend a good pc for ethical hacking?
Thanks.


And please don't mind my sentences and way of composition
Thanks

Pictech:
How many tonnage do u need, land size old and budget?

how much is 30 tones

Good day guys please I need someone legitimate and real that can supply me sand filling at isiu ikorodu lagos and please also tag your price and phone number this is currently urgent
Thanks

Owologbo:
why did you leave the first one?

she was just trying to grow up and always prove to be sturbon but above all she is kind and good hearted but I felt I would meet a perfect woman since she was the sturbon type, and me too I was trying to grow up, not until I met this recent girl that dealt with me ..... I miss her so much � now I learnt nobody is perfect except God

mystery22:
Op are you that ugly that you have to literally be this foolish to be with a girl...

oga everything na about look?
You guys need to start thinking outside the box....
I have 6 different girls begging to be with me but I ignored them because I was her mumu...
But now I wise up and dump her ass fine boy like me

Another thing she did that made me sent her packing was the fact that she tried to take the place of my mum and sister which was very annoying, I already saw the signs that if I get married to this kind of person I would loose everything like I would loose my family and friends because she would restrict me from seeing them or look for a way to frustrate them and prevent them from coming to visit me,
I saw someone mention that I'm a type of give that barely gives out money to guys, well bro I'm a very easy going person and I can give out anything, the money she asked me to return it was my friends that sent me money to use pay her up and it was because I'm always there for them too.
So back to my ex story �
There was an incident that happened one day we travelled to abeokuta foe a burial I already made arrangement for hotel and everything I sent her money to buy cloth that she would wear for the occasion while I wear the one I already have so she asked me to pay for make up I said OK, so unfortunately when It was time to travel I fell sick do I took money from that money I kept for the ceremony to add to what I have to treat myself, so we embarked on the journey we got to abeokuta on getting there we went for the wake keeping and the following day was suppose to be the burial, so after the wake keeping we were going back to our hotel room while I was driving she started asking about the money for make up I told her what I have on me is not much again we have to manage it till we get back to lagos that she should take money from her pocket to do her make up,
She started shouting that why is it that I use to breach plan why are my so inconsiderate she shouted and shouted but I kept quiet without saying a word, until we got to our hotel room I ordered for food for her and I also took a little and I took my drug to went to bed,
The next morning we stated preparation I don't know how she did it she called her friends that stays around abeokuta because she grew up there so she called them they came around and did make up for her, so I didn't bother asking so after everything we drove off to the venue and after the event ended my friend called me that I should place hang around that he wants to send money to my account and withdraw using my atm so I told him I'm not with my card he should send it to my gf account, so me and my gf was in my car she left her phone and said she wants to urinate so when she stepped out an alert came on her phone and my friend said he wanted to send 10k but when the alert came in what I saw was 30k which means she had 20k there before so I challenged her why was she lying that she had no money, she then said it was because if she had told me that I would spend the money lavishly I felt really really bad then I asked her that if I spend for you it's not lavish but if I give to people it's lavish spending don't worry I understand.

Das1mama:
Op my man, when i was going through your story i discovered some two key words which are being ignored and are more vital for any relationship to be healthy which are Pride or Ego and Love..... For the Pride or ego everyone has it but more domicide in women, they earlier you know the better, pride comes with anger, selfishness, jealosy and above all Greed and kills faster than d most dangerous of any known virus which you know because it lives in human meaning an inbuilt, the earlier you tackle it believe me things will start working without streess, and the Love i believe you still very much love her sincerly but pride won't allow u do the normal things... You are d man follow your heart and speak some sence into her and make it work. You have the keys to unlock every mysteries in your relationship.

i tried to buy gradually I lost interest in her I've tried to make it work but her character I can't stay with such

So we left the church and continued with our love life, fast forward to when she wanted to go to school, I told her that she should hold on and work yo gather some money then I would assist her to add to what ever she had.
So she went to make enquiry and she got a school which is very expensive, I told her to look out for another one that its too expensive that to pay for that fee its going to take a one year salary of hers with out putting food on her table, I thought I've advised her, she grumbled and said this is her chance, I told her but it won't make sense for you to be working and won't be able to buy cloth or food for your self you need to think about this too.
Before I knew what was happening she went behind me to collect form for the session, she now called me and said she has done registration for the school that she need to pay acceptance fee of 40k that she needs it from me, I laughed and told her that does she know what she was doing?
She got mad and told me she doesn't care how I'm going to get the money she just need 40k from me which I objected and said its never going to happen you took decision on your own now so why telling me now when it got to point of payment, to cut the story short I don't know where she got the 40k from so she paid and that one was off the ground now it got to the payment of school fee out of 90l for the first semester she was able to raise only 50k so I payed 40k so they can allow her write the first semester exam, that one was off the ground then we continued because I loved her so much and I don't know what she had in mind so I continued taking care of her, so the second semester exam is here out of the balance if 80k she only has 40k so this period I borrowed loan to sort out some family issues that was on ground at this same period my phone was stolen, like I was phoneless and it made my job not to go well, so I was able to raise 40k so I called her she came to my house then counted the money and gave her and told her you know with this money I can get a new phone but I won't because you are in urgent need of it and if you don't pay your fee you won't be allowed to write exam so take, then she went ahead to pay her school fee, so after paying her fee the following week is her birthday which she knew the 40k I gave her was the last penny on me so I was surviving because I bought enough food stuff at home, so the day before her birthday she called me and said next week was her birthday that I won't do anything for her birthday so I told her that babe calm down now I just paid your fee are you not considerate even when you know I don't have anything left on me why are you like this ok when you finish your exam we would go out for your birthday, the next statement she made was that ever since we have been dating what have I done for her ..?? I was disappointed and felt hurt by the statement then I reminded her that a year before I did something and the year that followed that year I still did something, then she was like ehn but you are not doing anything for this year, so I told her your school fee was the reason why I'm not doing anything this year, so we ended the conversation.
The following day her course mates bought her 2 different cake do I called her she told me then I jokingly told her to bring my cake home, then she repeated the same statement in front of her friends again that what have I done for her and they were murmuring on hearing that this time I was more pained and just hang up the call on her and that moment I totally lost interest in the relationship because I felt devastated,disappointed and felt used by her and it was only when I started dating her I fall into depression so many times because i can't tell her my problems she won't help she has never bought even singlet for me ever since we were dating and I would do anything for her this issue got us separated for months she then went to my pastor to report me so I narrated everything to my pastor he too was disappointed in what she did so he told me not to allow anybody frustrate me and focus more on my life that was how I dumped her and I washappy being alone than being with her.

teddybarz:
I guess she is using u. . . Na sense u nid to gather. . Apply sense bro. . Check 4 life b4 dating naija babe. . .they can be frustrating. . Same time borinG

that what I told her that she never loved me she was just using me

So before the relationship started crumbling, we were good I introduced her to my pastor and family and friends they all loved her my pastor counselled her, she has dated 2 guys before I met her she treated them well they cheated on her according to her and she said her last ex was not caring and is not responsible so I did my investigation and later found out her ex was caring but later he stopped caring for her, but my mind tells me he stopped because of her character.
So things wasn't going well between us after a year of dating because of her attitude towards money, she complained every now and then she keeps nagging anytime we talk she start shouting and she kept going to report me to my pastor because she felt he can use him to penetrate me, she kept doing that , she told me she wanted to make her hair I told her I was broke she should make her natural hair, she said she was going to borrow me money from her pocket then later I would pay her back I begged her that she should please don't put me in depth because there is one depth on ground which I'm still trying to clear, just because I made that statement she avoided me for 3 days she refused to talk to me.
So she had issue where she was staying then she remembered me and called me that she wants me and her to go see my pastor which I followed her and after getting there she narrated her experience and also talked about me of how I've been behaving towards her then my pastor asked me to narrate my part which I did , then my pastor told her that you prayed for a caring man right?
She said yes and my pastor told her that God has given you what you wanted after going through hell in the hands of your ex boyfriends she smiled and my pastor used the story of isrealites for her that it was lack of trust that made them not to get to the promise land, that why is she doubting me with all I'm doing
So instantly I told my pastor to help me tell her to forgive me that she is angry with me so my pastor begged her to forgive me and I didn't tell my pastor why I'm asking for forgiveness

Totilopussylick:
Hellfire is real

we know bro