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Nobodys:
Now the first guy looks familiar, I think I know him... Sure that ain't Sir**.......

Looks like an Uncle, right?

Alwaysking:
What's the problem then

The individual in question. If every girl you've met is a demon, then maybe the girls ain't the issue...maybe it's You

Alwaysking:
Everyone keeps complaining, a friend of mine did complain about his about to be bride cheating on him, he have even made up his mind cancelling his wedding with her, this is so bad. It's either Nigeria girls order foods of 15k on their first date, or they cheat on you or beg. I don't even think other African girls are like that or they have cursed some nigerian girls in this country.

I think guys should focus on other African girls or white girls, if you have the money because they won't give u problems like some nigerian girls. Try something different if one doesn't work for you.

That's just my advice.

The problem is not with the Nigerian girl.

I'm here looking for a reason not to go to work

HEFAIROHLUWA:
You dont know some men. If you really do you'll realize some are so good in playing such games.. By the time they are through with you all your intelligence and smartness will fail you..So if you fast and pray before marriage (talk to GOD) it guarantees a successful marriage abi? I have 10s of real life experience of devot christians that married that had crazy marriage problems later on.Even bro j talked about divorce.
Apologies but I dont think you understand what life is really about stop defending God and give her the right answer. she should be strong, have faith and move on hopefully better days ahead..I just dont understand the way some christains reason nowadays..

Yes, some men can really lie but women are better liars. No matter how smart a man is, a woman is always smarter. Women use both sides of their brain, men can't.

Uhmm... I know God speaks and He doesn't lie. He wouldn't lead us into something that will end badly. Those people that fasted and prayed, did God tell them to go ahead or they just assume all is well since they've mentioned it to God?

Bros J said unless its fornication. Have you ever heard of married couples committing formication or adultery?

Dearie, listen to book of life by Nathaniel Bassey. You will the average devoted Christian better.

Beke2020:
Dear Jzhane,

Please hide my identity. I am 35 years old with a year old son.
I met my ‘husband’ in 2013 and we started courting in 2014. We got married in 2016 June and got the shock of my life the two months later that my husband was already married with a daughter. I found out I was pregnant, from then on my life has been one long sad story.
The man I loved and trusted deceived me with his family’s conical. They claim he......more



https://livelystones.com.ng/i-was-a-good-girl-but-why-did-god-allow-this-to-happen-to-me/

OK o.....

You got married to a man that has a family. OK....d whole family decided to lie bout their son/brother marriage.

During courtship, you met his friends and none of them brought up his other life for a whole 3 years. OK...no p

You courted him for 3 years, and he managed to keep his wife and child a secret from u. OK o...

His wife did not hear about your introduction, traditional marriage and church wedding? Maybe his wife was in on the whole conspiracy.

Wait lemme gather all d children in my compound, them go dey interested in this story.

It seems you're a Christian, let me advice you as one. You are not the first wife, you are the other woman. Go on your knees and ask for forgiveness. Leave the marriage and ask God to lead everyone of your step.
It seems you didn't talk to God about this marriage. Anyway, what do I know?

kollected55:
Dear Nairalanders,

Yesterday morning, I started a thread titled, "The Challenge To The Followers And Prophets Of Allah", asking them to entreat their god to send rain across all six geopolitical zones at the same time, and send forth lightnings and thunderings.

I did this because of the misconception many people have, equating the Christian God to Allah. In my diary, I explained that, based on the law of non-contradiction, Allah and the Christian God cannot both be true because of their contradicting ideologies.

Today, the 26th of August, the challenge will be on me, to entreat the Living God, the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, to send forth rain across the six geopolitical zones at the same time - and send forth brilliant lightnings and majestic thunderings.

After all, He claimed in the Bible that He sends forth rain from heaven, and sends forth lightnings and mighty thunderings.

Same rules apply.

1. Wherever you are located in Nigeria, if rain falls, bring out your video camera, put basins outside, and make a short video of the rain pouring into the basin.

2. Others living within the vicinity (or state) will indeed have to confirm each video posted.

Tick Tock. Less than 24 hours to go. Deadline: 12 Midnight, 26th August, 2018.

It is written, "You shall not tempt the Lord your God."

RelationshipG:
Forgetting your ex can turn out to be difficult. You’re constantly occupied by the thoughts of him/her. Sometimes you question whether he/she still thinks about you or not. Most importantly, does he/she even care?

How Do You Know if Your Ex Still Cares about You

If you’re too shy to ask your ex directly on how he/she feels about you, then look out for these signs that shows he/she still cares:

1. Answers Your Call

An ex won’t bother picking up a call from someone he/she doesn’t care anymore. But, in case you ever call your ex and he/she answers then you must still mean something to him/her. You’re an exception and he/she cares about you even though the two of you are no longer together. If he/she completely ignores your phone calls then that could be one of the Signs Your Ex is Seeing Someone Else.

2. Wants to See You

An ex will want to see you after a break up for different reasons. Caring about you is one of them. He/She will want to make sure that you’re doing fine. It may even help him/her to stay friends with you.

3. Let You Know His/Her Regrets

Not everyone is always ready to be vulnerable to their ex especially after a nasty breakup. However, when your ex admits hisher regrets or his/her mistakes to you then he’s/she’s taking your feelings into consideration. Admitting those things are not easy. He may want to ease your pain too. On the other hand, here are Classy Ways to Make Your Ex Regret Breaking Up with You that you can use.

4. Checks Up on You

This doesn’t mean that your ex will want to stay in touch with you around the clock. Your ex may call or text you every now and then. As he’s/she’s your ex and nothing more, he/she should know his limit. Still, he/she is willing to put aside some time to check up on how you’re doing.

5. Asks Your Friends about You

What’s another way to know if your ex still cares about you? Ask your friends. See if your ex has been asking about you through them. If the answer is yes, then your ex still cares for you. He’s/she’s indirectly getting some information without bothering you.

6. Gives You Support

A caring ex is a supportive one. Whatever it is that you’ve decided on then he/she will support you no matter what. As long as it helps you grow and become a better person. It could be searching for a new job or moving to another city. In fact, your ex may help you with the whole process.

7. Likes Your Pictures on Social Media

Liking an ex’s pictures on social media speaks a thousand words. Your ex can’t quite get over you. He/She cares about you in his own way, which is by paying attention to what you post. He/She may not like everything you post, but his/her presence should tell you that he/she still has feelings for you. But when he’s/she’s unfollowed you on everything, What Does it Mean when Your Ex Adds You Back on Social Media?

8. Keeps Track of the People You Date

This may seem out of limit but some exes actually do this. Though many will want to use it to their advantages, a caring one has a different goal. Your ex may keep track of the people you date because he/she doesn’t want you to date the wrong person. He/She doesn’t want you to be hurt by people.

9. Acts Jealous

See if you can pick up any sign of jealousy when you’re interacting with your ex. His/Her tone of voice could be different or he/she may give you a sarcastic joke in the conversation. Your ex can’t help being jealous because his/her feelings for you are still strong. You may wonder How to Get My Ex Back when He’s/she's Ignoring Me? Making him/her jealous could work.

10. Remembers Important Dates

How do you know if your ex still cares about you? Take notes of important dates to know if your ex still cares about you. Some important dates could include birthdays, graduation or a promotion. He/She may send you gifts, call you or do other lovely things to celebrate it. The fact that he’s/she's willing to put all his/her effort to remember the important dates should be enough to make you realize that he/she still cares.

11. Maintains Friendship with You

In case you’ve established a friendship with your ex then see how it goes. A caring ex will try his/her best to maintain the friendship as he/she doesn’t want to lose you. He’s/she's content enough to be in your life even though it’s not an intimate relationship.

12. Makes Himself/Herself Available for You

An ex still cares about you if he/she makes himself/herself available for you anytime you want. It’s also How to Know if Your Ex is Still in Love with You. He/she will always try his/her best to be there for you to make your day. It doesn’t matter if it’s just a small thing such as taking you somewhere out in the city. Your ex won’t mind as long as you’re happy.

More Clear Signs that Your Ex Boyfriend/Girlfriend Still Cares

These are other things that will show you how much your ex cares about you:

1. He/She will speak nice things about you to everyone as he/she still think highly of you.

2. Your ex will listen to you talk about anything you want with him/her.

3. Forgiving you for any mistakes you’ve done shows that your ex cares.

4. When your ex is willing to give you space, it means that he cares about your feelings and wellbeing.

5. Not blocking you from any social medias that he/she has is also a form of caring as he/she still wants to connect with you.

It’s so important to know if your ex still cares about you or not at all. The answer will finally give you a peace of mind. You can move on to better things in your life.

SOURCE : https://bigcrown.com.ng/how-do-you-know-if-your-ex-still-cares-about-you-and-loves-you/

I do check up on my ex but that doesn't mean I still have feelings. I do it cause it's the right thing to do.

Bros op, you forgot to add one more point. There's a reason why that person is an ex and not the present. Pls don't let those who are soft at heart go back to their own vomit

Emjayofficial:
My name is Emmanuel from Kwara state, born and grown up in kaduna. I want to seek advice from you guys because i can barely tell no one this i am going through.. There's a girl called Zainab her dad is hausa and her mom yoruba and they are shia muslims, she's my childhood friend and we attended the same primary school in Kaduna, i love her so much since from our childhood days and she happen to be the my first love and the only girl who ever loved me with pure love and sincerity after then all i am meeting is players+cheaters, we departed because i failed to convert to Muslim and when i found out she's shia i ignored her and hurt her.. then my friends usually tell me how bad shia people are but after knowing them i tend to realize how nice there are. After then i usually call her on phone but after some times she stopped picking my call and later then lied that she has gotten married to make me forget her. but later found out it was a lie, and what she spoke on phone last was that i am the that caused the break up for breaking her heart and loosing the only chance i had. Now i have rellocated to kwara and she's in kaduna.... But now she's schooling in abroad and not picking my call nor replying my messages and she's still single chasing her ambition..... And Almost going to three years now i have been dreaming about this girl everytime...... Please tell me what is her role in my life for dreaming about her all the time. I thought they say past is past but dont just know why i always dream about her...
please no insult just need an advice from you

You have to stop calling and sending her messages. That's not good at all.

You have to work on yourself. Improve yourself socially, academically, financially and physically (appearance).

Maybe after a year if you're still into her, then send her a message not the lovey lovey kind but something that would make her curious. Girls are like cats, curiosity always gets their attention.

The first two points are very important. She's developing herself, you should do the same

Hector09:
A friend of mine paid me a visit yesterday and after watching the arsenal match with him we were very famish and we went to one of the eatery, lo and behold he saw his babe with another guy eating and gisting,my guy was devastated and, we both manage to order our food, we eat quietly and left, as we were going the girl rushed out and was calling my guy, the most annoying thing is that the guy that she came with was holding her back, so my guy went to his house and saw the girl inside his room cus he gave the girl one of his key, the girl was crying and begging telling my guy that the guy was only asking her out and that the guy was disturbing her, that she want to hear what the guy want to say thats why she was with him, the funny part of it is that she told my guy that he dont luv her, that if that he luvs her, he could have drag her away frm the guy when he saw her ..my guy is asking on what to do but i dont knw what to tell him, pls my people what action should he take,, note my guy and the babe stay in the same place, frm where we saw the girl and the guy is very far, from where they are staying

If this is the first time, I'll let it slide but I won't be able to forget. I wouldn't call off the relationship but I won't be able to trust her anymore. When the trust is no more the relationship is dead, what's left is packaging.

Trust is like a glass, when broken it's nearly impossible to fix. Even when it's fixed, the cracks will be visible for everyone to see.

To those in relationships, avoid anything that would cause a crack to trust glass. There's no point risking it if you're not tired of the relationship.

Good luck to you, your guy, your guy's gf and your guy's gf's toaster.

Preshy561:
see as his follow mumu take they applaud am.


Chai! this is why I jubilate each time they are fed poison or their manhood cut off by their supposed wife due to infedility.
me,pity a dead cheating manwhòre?God forbid.

sooner than later,his cheating corpse or manhood will be landed in hospital.


tell your gf to brace up,God has something better for her.

What is your real name? You sound like a white okpokpite

Thebabenextdoor:
There's nothing bad about that advice. You men have made it so difficult for women to love.

Back to topic

There are two sides of a story
The babe should better get over it ASAP. This one is married already, no need wasting tears on him. And by the way, how can she not even know she was the side chick in over a year of dating. There must have been signs and signals.
I'm really disappointed in her

Both sex have made it difficult to love. That's why I'm sticking to just friends.

And yes, there will always be two sides to every story. Let her check herself well before rushing to the hospital.

Fierce11:
I have nothing to say.. But I'm gonna say this:
WE MEN ARE SCUMS, AFTERALL

Bros, calm down. You saw one side of the story, and then you passed a judgement.

I've seen girls that have done worse. I knew a girl with a bf, a bestie and a guy that she's attracted to. What these three guys have in common other than knowing the same girl is that they all have intimate access to her body.

So bros, pls calm down. People are scum not just guys but both sex.

EmpressT:
Eeeeh
double wow
how do I know i am in save hands ?

Love is all about sacrifice. Fall blindly, while hoping for the best.
Good luck!

phemyj:
THEN LEAV HIM ALON

NA HIM THEY RUSH US

AgentNnamdi:
Nature? How did you reach this conclusion? Please, don't be offended, what is nature and it's design? Don't confuse learned activity to natural instincts.

It's natural. It's within the scripture

Famousqueen:
the ones you met are bastards, including the ones in your family

Somebody is celebrating is repentance from bashing while another is encouraging one to continue bashing.

Curious question, do we have to bring family into it?

PUSSYHOE:
We all know Nigerian. girls always claim they are at the receiving end, it's not in their nature to give. But certain occasions call for present or when one just feel like it. Some guys what is the most expensive item ever bought for you by your girlfriend?

Note: if you give her money like a week before she bought the gift it doesn't count, she definitely use your money to buy you gift.

Lalasticlala if this thread doesn't enter front-page Mr pussyhoe will leave nairaland for Good.

Two T-shirts and that's because she was trying to apologize. But she is a good girl, she doesn't hold back if she has

jessca048:
see face like njoku so nah this people go open mouth they qoute person calling the person olosho,hoes and the rest. man pikin don suffer

Madam, e never reach dis level. Pls focus on what the message the op is trying to pass.

As for d msg, me nor understand

Girlsavage:
He called her out for an Outing to the Club, And she invited 5 of her friends to join her increase the bills, But Man made sure he sticked to his Pocket.. He bought Drinks for only himself and her, No Time..lol..
See below!
Photo credit: Jide

From Ebiwali--
http://www.ebiwalisgossip.com/2018/08/see-what-man-did-to-girl-after-she.html

It's not the fault of the ladies. There's hunger in d land.
They r just looking for a way to get dinner.

EmpressT:
Gestures

It can be faked.

I've seen someone faked it for six months until he got the package.
Another guy faked it for over a year while maintaining another relationship...I'm not sure I know which of the Two girls was his main girl. He was that good

zinnydan:
I take my guy out on a date sometimes.. I buy gift items for him..relationship should be mutual,guys should not spend alone

Tell yourself the truth. Don't tell us.

No sane man wants to live of a woman.

Personally, I find it easier to spend on a woman than to collect from her. I guess it's just nature

AgentNnamdi:
I can't get a good title for this piece of thought. Choose any of these titles for yourself:
How Women Win/ Men Always Lose / Women Control All Our Activities / Women Have The Most Power / Awkward Relationship Between Men And Women/ Match Between Men and Women.

Statistics show that women are the spenders in Malls/shops etc. but the majority of them are unemployed. And men always think they are winning, but let us take a critical look at the relationship between men and women.

[center]How Men Lose To Women[/center]

1. You hustle all day and night chasing money and getting the money, only for you to meet her. Your brain starts racking with emotions. And lastly, countless dates and shopping. Then comes the heartbreak...
Man: Lost his energy, time and his money.
Woman: Lost only time. Only on rare occasions, she loses her energy.
[center]Men 0: 1 Women[/center]


2. Wonder how your female friends who in their comfort zones have friend-zoned you. You are always willing to help them grow stronger and mightier. Their only contribution is to follow you around. lol
You call them for 24hrs, they return the calls for 25minutes. You reward them with cash because bro is working and they are there for you... hahahaha.
Man: Lost money and time.
Woman: Lost nothing at all.
[center]Men 0 : 2 Women[/center]

3. Then you upgrade to the next level of friends who kiss and smooch only. No penetration or blow jobs. And you are feeling fly. Your bank account starts depleting and she keeps you "company" because she has nothing doing, and no favors rendered to you. You think one day you'll hit the coochie... Hahahahaha. LMAO
Man: Lost his Sense, Money, Time, and Energy (some masturbate after she leaves. Because junior must come).
Woman: Lost nothing at all.
[center]Men 0 : 3 Women[/center]

4. Wonder how a successful man can take a liability wife and decide to upgrade her. But a successful woman can never see any reasonable thing in a struggling man.
You decide to marry a slay queen because of your stupid ego. You work all the time, no rest, no joy with your boss, government and probably your co-workers. After work, you submit the money to your wife, you avoid asking questions and you claim to lord over her. You have a quarrel with her, the internet, media and some zombies tell you to vacate your house and cool off in a beer parlor where you will have issues with bottles, etc. Chai!!!
Man: Made all the money for his "love".
Woman: Good wives are perfect; Bad ones...
[center]Men 1 : 4 Women[/center]

5. You have a child, brother/sister or cousin you wish to help. You bring him/her home to your wife and everything starts falling apart. Quarrels, complain, too much nagging on how lazy the person you brought home is. You bowed and sent him/her packing.
She does the same thing, but you dare NOT complain or nag. Why would you? You have your work and Boss to fight. Sorry Man.
Man: Loses his sanity.
Woman: Wins in her favor.
[center]Men 1 : 5 Women[/center]

6. I watched AY film where a lady insulted and spat on RMD; the wealthy man started slapping his bodyguard in retaliation. What a Fool!
In another scene, RMD was captured and helpless. The lady showed no mercy, she beat the hell out of the rich "gentleman".
Very funny how men don't hit women, but women can attack men at will. If you have ever fought with a girl while growing up, you will relate to the strength they have. Shame!
Man: Very stupid to take beatings like a coward. Buckled emotions and lacking courage.
Woman: Free of expression, stronger and more willpower.
[center]Men 1: 6 Women[/center]

7. A man chases a lady with his money, net-worth and overcaring attitude. When the lady starts demanding the attraction (money), he runs to social media and starts complaining. Always boasting of how wonderful his career/work is; flaunting his money and rides just for pussy. Losers! Women on the other hand only need to paint their ugly faces and act like they don't care.
Man: Submits his CV/Resume just to sleep with a girl. Complains and mutter sadly; full of pity. 
Woman: Just apply paint and walk like she doesn't care. Is this a loss?
[center]Men 1 : 7 Women[/center]



[center]Observations:[/center]
1. A man cannot raise his ex-wife's child under the same roof with a new woman who is still fertile and can give birth or have her own children. There must be a quarrel!
But a woman can do that. Refer to this thread on Nairaland

2. A woman with many male friends always wins. They are always willing to fight, help or advise her. A man with many female friends has bigger responsibilities. Always spending, thinking and wishing. Shameful losers!

3. Don't think that sleeping with a woman is a loss to her. A nonvirgin woman cannot be guaranteed not to have slept with many men. Sorry!

4. Some men last less than 10 minutes after the whole chasing and spending games. Oh yeah, thats' Nature design.
Sorry Guys, we are born to lose. Men Should learn how to Treat Themselves Well!!! 

All the money will still pass to someone who doesn't give a F***.

Lastly, behind every successful man is a lot of hard work, effort and daring confidence to challenge the world. Women don't make money for any man. Go and find this yourself. 

Bye!!![img][/img]

For some weird reason, this post made a lot of sense to me.

Anyway, by design women run the world and they have successfully made us believe that we do.

I usually love marathons.... Those ones that usually last for a whole day with fun breaks in between.

Talking bout everything and you can't recall d beginning of the conversation.

Cooking together in the kitchen and then things get heated up.

Taking extra long showers together.

Don't try this on work days if you still love ya job

2buffagain:
You do all this for 3 different women?
This is why Nigerian youths don't invent anything. Too much time thrown to pointless activities.

That's how one silly Nigerian girl I was dating a decade ago was expecting me to be calling/texting her at least 10 seperate times a day.
Rubbish

Hahahahaha hahahahaha na
I have to laugh and I want u to know that I laughed so hard

EmpressT:
Why is it so so hard to find real love these days? In my life, I am yet to see just one guy to show me he truly have feelings for me by actions and not just words. Love must be felt deep inside. It is really sad.

Pls define what u mean by "action"?