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lilmax:
one of the reasons why teminism isn't taken seriously in Nigeria

on one hand they tell women to build a career and have value(mentally, physically, financially).....this is HILARY CLINTON

on the other they support women to do whatever they want, prostitution, abortion,being single mothers....now this is AMBER ROSE

they've reduced nigerian men to the point of saying they're jealous of runs girls

when you call them irrational, they say you're misogynistic

Chaiiiiiiiiiiiiii..... Cold catch me

Abeg na bros

OceanmorganTrix:

Effect of too much screwing

NB: u r entitled to ya own understanding

Uhmmm.... Tell ya wife d truth and face d consequences or that girl will find out that ya weak, then she will take u on a ride.



Not that kinda ride o....

The person will not commit suicide.

Tell him Sharzam is coming soon

This is very helpful. Thanks

Everyone of us us a player as long as we've led a girl/guy on in pretense of love.

But since girls r hardly ever single and almost all guys r single...I'll say d guys win this round

Khallyella:
This man again, the mature comment you crave for is right after your post, but I'll ask you, is it a bad thing to wash for your wife's dad?

No, it's not bad.

UyaiIncomparabl:
It's not right. Is she your maid? Is your mum so old and frail or doesn't have a daughter(s) to do them for her? If your mum needs help with the laundry(ies), please get her a washing machine.

That isn't a way to define a wife material, which in actuality, your fiancée is trying too hard to please and prove to you. Some girls and desperation are inseparable. I read your former thread, you were so incoherent, unwilling to adhere to people's advice and here you are again, fidgeting and pleading for us to give you another? For what? For you to perhaps chose a comment which best suits your interest and myopic/faulty thinking.

Simple, get your mother a maid or a washing machine, and of course I expect you also teach her how to use it. Don't stress someone else's daughter, and please, get a frigging life!

You're too egotistical. And errr, she's not your wife yet. Still a fiancée. She owes you or your immediate family no homely rights. You leave the important things undone and tend to the minute ones which are utmost inconsequential. Even if she eventually becomes your wife, she still owes no RIGHT. Grab that!

Madam, there's absolutely nothing wrong for my wife to help out. It is not like it's a everyday thing. If I find myself in a similar position to help out her dad, I would.

Let's not let pride fill our heart so much that we no long know the difference between right n wrong.

Where is d love that we all keep confessing

lightblazingnow:
Love you ever

Thanks man

alBHAGDADI:
The passage doesn't say not sinning is what gets you saved. The more sin, the more grace abounds.

Romans 5:20
Moreover the law entered, that the offence might abound. But where sin abounded, grace did much more abound:

Because of grace, shall we continue in sin?

LordReed:
So you just assumed it was god?

Again I have done all those things you suggested for many years, you are are not telling me anything new that I haven't done many, many times.

Private chat me

SuicideIsSmart:
The dark side of biology.

Having established that the purpose of life is to give rise to more life, I want to elaborate on the sinister aspect of this innate compulsion.

Its been established at the deepest levels of psychological thought that what makes life seem worth living is having a goal and constantly and consistently putting effort in moving closer towards it. The more such a goal increases survival and increases our status in society the more live becomes meaningful. The problem with this framework is that our emotional systems are attuned to it. What this means is that we tend to be happier when we have a goal and are achieving it and we tend to be sadder and miserable and in despair when we don't. It's like biology wants us to constantly work towards ultimately increasing our chances of survival by having a goal and waking up everyday to chase it, even if we have all the resources that would enable our survival for decades.

The more relevant problem with this is that in the world we find ourselves, in order to satisfy the biological impulse to attain perceived meaning in life by having a goal and chasing it, while constantly trying to be more successful across multiple hierarchies, one has to work endlessly while being exposed to unending danger and encountering more suffering for himself and witnessing the suffering of others.

If life's purpose is for me to procreate and to increase the possibility of survival and access to potential mates, I find it absurd that I am programmed to feel sad and terrible if I'm not successfully obeying this command everyday of my life.

Hold up! So many valid points you've shared with us. You've called that driving force, "BIOLOGY." Different names have been given to it in our history. I'm going to address this as a Christian.

I will call that driving force, "the world." When we are ruled by The World, the purpose of life becomes whatever the world wants, technically speaking...those things you listed. We tend to do whatever we can to achieve them; legally or illegally, ethical or unethical.

The world/biology only cares bout itself and wants u to b like the others before u, under its manipulation. Tells u to do whatever it takes to get wealth; kill, cheat, steal etc. My Bible tells me that money is good but the love of it is the root of all evil. So when the world says do whatever you can to get money, I'll ask myself... Is it legal? Is it ethical? The choices I make allows me to live above its power

It is important to know that life is so much more than just surviving. Billions of people have lived on this earth, but only a few are being remembered. Jesus was a carpenter here on earth with no partner but His name is on d lips of billions. John the Baptist termed by Christ, the greatest man ever born by a woman died without a partner or any known estate. There are others like king Solomon, the wisest man, so rich with lots of women. At the end, he said all those things are vanity.

What isn't vain? God isn't. Because with Him, we have a moral compass to live above Biology/The world.

There are many other greats that have lived, when u compare to the not-so-great fellows, its about 0.0001%.
So, where do u want to find yourself, among the 0.0001% or with the crowd?

Number 3 is so real and funny. A lot of nairalanders r guilty of it.

You hear stories like... My husband has been coming very late lately, he said its work. Today I called his office, dey said he left early. I think he's cheating on me. I'm so confuse. Nairalanders, what should I do?

Because Nairaland is were u guys got married

LordReed:
FYI I used to be a Christian so these your suggestions are things I have done over many years.

What I want to know is how you determined that it is your particular god answering you and not any other thing happening.

I had someone tell me their child had a hole in the heart and they prayed and god healed the child. I asked them well how do you know it was the god when hole in the heart does heal by itself, they couldn't be specific. This is the same type of question I am asking you, how do you know it is the god answering you and not any other thing happening.

FYI I don't used to b a Christian. I stopped church when I was 10yrs old, was tired of their plenty talk.

God is Almighty and all powerful. Miracle n deliverance is one way He can show u His power. In my case, I asked bout the future...not some blunt future more like what Gideon did in d book of Judges.

Honestly, if it were to b a miracle, I'd probably still be in doubt. So I will suggest u ask Him to show u in whatever way that best suits u.

NB: For this to happen, you have to open ya heart to Him like a baby crying for his mother's milk

alBHAGDADI:
Yes, that's if you want God to keep spanking you for disobedience.

Hebrews 12:6-7
6 For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.
7 If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?

Romans 6:1-7

1. What then shall we say? Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound?

2. God forbid! How shall we, that r dead in sin, live any longer therein?

3. Don't u know that as we r baptized in Christ, we are also baptized into His death?

4. Therefore we are buried with Him by baptism into His death: like as Christ was raised up from the death by the Glory of the Father, more so we should walk in the newness of life (life different from what we were used to).

5. For we have been planted together in the likeness of His death, we shall be also in the likeness of His resurrection (a new man free of sin).

6. Knowing this, that our old man is crucified with Him, that the body of sin might b destroyed, that henceforth we should not serve sin (turn away from sin or saying no to sin).

7. For he that is dead is freed from sin. (We have the power to say NO to sin not continue in it)

LordReed:
How did the god show you its power? What things did it do? And how did you know it was the god doing them?

If I share d "how He showed me" u will doubt.

How I knew He was the one? I asked Him and He answered. Not once, not twice, not thrice... As long as I am alive, I will always testify cause He showed me His power.

If you want to know, ask Him earnestly and He will answer. He said ask me of things to come and I will show u. Trust me, God is ever ready to reveal Himself. (I stand at d door of ya heart and knock... He's knocking)

I said ask God not ya pastor or priest. Many of them r phonies misleading pple.

One more thing, forget bout doctrines and study d Bible like a baby learning how to speak

alBHAGDADI:
If we sin, God will chasten us because he loves us. Do you want God to keep spanking you every time? No, that's why we stay away from sin, not because we think sin will prevent us from heaven.

Hebrews 12:6
For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.

Wow! Based on ya teaching, r u saying that as long as we believe in Jesus, we can continue to sin?

XxSabrinaxX:
If you knew enough about the laws of physics, and you had a powerful enough computer, theoretically you could perfectly simulate the entire universe from start to finish. When I say perfect, I mean perfect. In our simulation, every thing that has ever happened in this universe and ever will happen in this universe will happen exactly the same way in our simulation. Every thought that every living being has ever had, every action that every living being has ever taken, will occur in exactly the same manner every single time the simulation is run.
That means that no matter what, all of your thoughts and actions you've ever had and will ever have, have been predetermined by the laws of physics. Nothing you do or think can possibly change that fact because you were always going to have those thoughts and were always going to do those things. Everything you do is because the creator determined that's what you have to do when he set the laws of physics into motion with the Big Bang. You do not have a choice. Free will is an illusion because we are bound by the laws of physics.

The only circumstance in which we wouldn't be bound by the laws of physics is if the creator admitted that his creation was flawed from the start and needed to be modified, so he intervened at some place and time to cause a change in events. In which case free will would still not exist.
Rejection of Yahweh as the demiurge is not something I have chosen. He predetermined that I would be born under the circumstances that I was, and that the chemicals in my brain would react a certain way to cause me to feel this way, and that I would sin.

Taking this argument to its logical conclusion demonstrates that nothing anybody ever does is "evil" because they never had a choice in the first place. It wasn't Hitler's fault that his brain didn't work right and caused him to kill all those people and then himself. The creator forced him to do all of that, so the blame for all evil in the universe can be placed squarely on the creator.

So why is he going to send anyone to a place of eternal torment for everything he forced them to do in the first place? It sounds like he is a sadist who gets off creating beings, forcing them to suffer in this universe, then forcing most of them to experience an incomprehensible amount of suffering in Hell for all eternity after death, and those who are left will be forced to go to "heaven" to be with this maniac for all eternity with the knowledge that their loved ones are experiencing an incomprehensible amount of suffering forever and ever.

Change my view that free will doesn't exist and that Yahweh is actually the Satanic Demiurge.

Madam, your ability to differentiate between good and bad, d might to choose either good or bad is what free will is all about.

And you will be judged according to the choices u make

God is still God. My case is settled

You made a lot of sense. As a matter of fact, I think you r correct but the term "once saved is forever saved" is making so many of us live in sin.

We've been asked to work out our salvation with fear n trembling. According to u, to make it desirable by others. Also I think that we ought not to get carried away by d things of this world that we will not b found wanting...hence d fear n trembling in working out.

MrBrownJay1:
Walk outside, check how many innocent people are SUFFERING/DYING/SICK/HANDICAPPED while some bastard in robe is taking their money every sunday, in order to buy himself a new private jet.

Furthermore, only info of that said god is in a book written by men, gazilions of years ago, and there has been NO sightings NOR miracles ever since.

CONCLUSION.... If there is a god, he sure Aint related to any BS religion out there.

That same book said that a time will come when many pple will b duped by men in robe.

As for miracles, I am living testimony
As for prophesies, I have dreamt of d future and it came to pass. Someone has also prophesied bout my past n my future.
As for sighting, God is everywhere...most of us don't have d eyes or wisdom to understand

MrBrownJay1:
Well by all means sir, tell us all what miserable proof you have that there is a god almighty... Since my own beliefs are not good enough for you. I guess you expect me to be as gullible as you are.

He spoke to me. He showed me things that will happen in my life and they did happen.

I have my proof. You should seek yours

XxSabrinaxX:
This is my first thread on NL. I've noticed how passionate people on these religion forums are when matters like these are brought. So i just felt like i should try my hand at debating on NL.

Hell is a horrible idea. If God truly thinks that our “freewill” based on a limited time on earth means most of us have to live in a “hell” forever, then
yes, he’s evil, and terribly insane. However, i also want to add that if hell actually exists, then the cold truth is that ultimately, most of the human race is going there. Some Christians like to downplay this. It’s an undeniable fact if we applied Christian theology, there's really no debate.
This not only makes God evil, but portrays Satan as a smarter, more efficient presence amongst man, resulting in Satan winning his purpose over Jesus.
Jesus came to earth to save mankind. Judging by the kind of lives we live, i think its safe to say that God has been highly incompetent in making man see the truth.

OK...Hell was created for the devil and not for us.

Tru Adam's sin, we became candidate for hell.

But God gave His son that we might be candidate for heaven as well.

Because God is just, He gave us a choice; life n death, heaven or hell... And advises us to choose life (His son) that we might heaven.

God is not evil. God is not incompetent. God is God and he's a just God that gave everyone of us a chance to choose what we want to do with our lives.

alBHAGDADI:
We are barely days into the New Year and those against tithe/firstfruits have already started launching their attack on the doctrine. According to these people, the concept of firstfruits is not a doctrine for Christians because we are not under the law of Moses. What they fail to know is that even before the forefathers of Moses were born, God had been collecting first fruits from humans. This post will show that it is God himself that ordained the collection of firstfruits and it is not subject to any law.

The first person recorded to have given first fruit or firstling is Abel the son of Adam and Eve. He and his brother Cain were told to do so By God.

Genesis 4:4
And Abel, he also brought of the firstlings of his flock and of the fat thereof. And the LORD had respect unto Abel and to his offering:

You see, whenever we mention Abel as someone who gave first fruit way before the law of Moses, all those anti-tithers love to give excuses to rubbish such point. One of the excuses they give is that God didn't command or order him to bring any first fruit, which means he did it of his own free will. Before I show you that it is God that commanded Abel and Cain to make that sacrifice, I will first of all like to show you that these anti-tithers understand nothing about the Bible. They don't understand because they lack the spirit of God, that's why someone can deceive them easily against tithing.

1 Corinthians 2:14
But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.

John 6:63
It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and
they are life.

They lack the spirit of God, that's why they don't understand the word of God which is spiritually discerned. Now, let me show you that God gave the command for Abel and Cain to offer sacrifice unto him. See what the Bible said below.

Hebrews 11:4
By faith Abel offered unto God a more excellent sacrifice than Cain, by which he obtained witness that he was righteous, God testifying of his gifts: and by it he being dead yet speaketh.

Did you notice the words in bold above? The above verse says Abel offered sacrifice to God by faith. This means he believed in the word of God and proceeded to offer the sacrifice. This clearly shows that the word of God told him to do what he did, meaning he didn't do it if his own free will. See what the Bible says about faith and the word of God below.

Romans 10:17
So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.

As seen above, you can't have faith without hearing the word of God. Now, if the Bible in Hebrews 11:4 says Abel had faith in God towards offering a sacrifice, then it means he heard the word of God telling him to offer the sacrifice. He heard the word of God and had faith in it which made him carry out the command.

It's now ridiculous for people who lack understanding of the Bible to sit somewhere and start saying God never commanded Abel to bring first fruits or firstlings. They read the Bible like it's a romance novel, that's why they never grab anything from the word which is spirit.

It is that same practice of Abel that Abraham followed, his grandson Jacob followed and also the children of Israel under the law of Moses. God is still the same yesterday, today and forever. He change not. If he collected first fruit from the people of old even way before the law of Moses, then what makes you think he has changed?

Malachi 3:6
For I am the LORD , I change not;

Yes, I understand that many are angry that today's pastors have abused this doctrine and have enriched themselves with it to the point of living in opulence and flying in jets. But that doesn't mean we should throw away the doctrine which is the word of God. Throwing it away because of them is like throwing away the baby with the bath water.

If you feel your church is one those who have abused this doctrine, then find another church which hasn't; they exist. Mind you, not all churches are really the house of God. As long as the message they preach is works based salvation and not saved by grace alone, then such is not the house of God. Such churches are an example of Cain and his offering. That is why most people who pay first fruits there are not really getting blessed. Let me show you why they are Cain.

Remember we established above that it was the word of God that made Cain and Abel make sacrifice unto God. But how come God rejected Cain's sacrifice but accepted Abel's?

Cain failed to follow instruction given by God's word. How do we know what this instruction is? We know this from Abel's sacrifice which the Bible says God had respect for. Abel made a blood sacrifice unto God, he sacrificed a lamb. Had it been Cain did the same thing, his sacrifice would have been accepted too. Rather, he offered fruits of the ground while Abel offered the blood of a lamb which represents the blood of Jesus Christ who is this Holy Lamb.

Cain's offering was based on his works. He thought if he offered an offering based on his sweat of tilling the soil and harvesting the produce, God will be more pleased by his effort. He failed to obey simple instruction of offering blood sacrifice, instead he relied on his WORKS. His sacrifice represents work based salvation, hence the reason why God rejected it.

Abel on the other hand followed the instructions God gave. He didnt rely on his works but relied on the blood of the lamb which is the same as relying on the blood of Jesus which was sacrificed on the cross. That is what God wants us to do today. But these dubious churches have changed the gospel and are now selling a work based salvation where people No longer rely on the sacrifice of Jesus but on their works of righteousness or their ability not to sin. They have turned their congregation into people who will present works of righteousness which the Bible calls filthy rags before God as their means of salvation.

Isaiah 64:6
But we are all as an unclean thing , and all our righteousnesses are as filthy rags;

They do not know that we are saved by grace through faith in Jesus Christ. And it is not of our works lest any man should boast.

Ephesians 2:8-9
8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
9 Not of works, lest any man should boast.

So, if your church is telling you that you can lose your salvation and that salvation involves works, then that is a clear pointer that such a place is not the house of God. That is why the pastors of such churches are very wealthy because they do not believe in God and have fleeced the sheep to stupor. If you continue to give your money whether in offering, tithe or first fruit, just know that your money is not reaching God. It's the same as going to GTBank to send Money to me when I don't bank with them. The money won't get to me. You have to look for the right bank which I have an account with before I can receive the money.

To all those who go about telling people Not to pay tithe or give Money to church, be careful or else God will descend on you.

Hebrews 10:31
It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.

You know little about God's word yet you are going about persuading people to disobeying him. If you have decided not to pay to churches, so be it. But going about telling others to do the same is very dangerous.

Many will come to this thread to try to rubbish it by saying I'm a pastor trying to defend my cake. I'm not a pastor neither do I have a church. People who make such claims only do so to prove they are on the wrong. They attack the messenger while they neglect the message. That is being guilty.

I have a question.

Abel had lots of sheep and gave the first offspring as a sacrifice.

Here's my question, you just got a job and u either borrowed money or begged money for transport in ya first month. Ya first salary came, r u saying that God is requesting this money from u as first fruit?

raptex:
It all started as a quest to know God more (I'm still on that quest).I'd pray to God to reveal himself and for the holy spirit. I started reading the bible more than before. I noticed many cringe- worthy stories but I'd brush them aside because I was taught never to question God. Our Pastors, churches and the Nigerian society at large do not encourage rational questions and thinking.

I started to use the internet more frequently.I discovered Nairaland and started reading as a guest. I'd see posts about Daddy freeze challenging respected "Men of God" on issues they avoid in church. It became clear to me that most of them are thieves. I discovered that the bible was inconsistent and full of errors. I discovered that a lot of books that expose the bible for what it is have been removed to keep people enslaved.I started reading thought- provoking posts on Nairaland. Posts from people like Hardmirror,CAPSLOCKED, Joseph1013, Seun and so on.This forum has helped me in a lot of ways.

I still go to church to please my parents and so as not to arouse suspicion.I see Church these days only as a center for comic relief.

You read the Bible but never allowed God to speak to u.
You went to the stream with a basket to fetch water. No matter how many times you draw, ya basket will never be full.

I like u began my journey to free thinking in 2016. I read the Bible everyday until I got to Judges and learnt bout Gideon and how he asked God for signs.
I unlike u put the things that I learnt from the Bible into practice. God showed me His power every time I was in doubt simply because I asked Him to show me, to help my faith.
I unlike did not go to nairaland or some social media for verification of an invincible God.

I hope you get the message

Goodplace:
36 years old without a good relationship, with a job of less than 85k in an expensive city, could he be termed a loser? My GOD Show me mercy.

Let's take a look at the positive side of ya story

1. You have a job when most pple r jobless.
2. The pay is not what u desire but ya gaining experience for a better job.
3. You are not writing from a sick bed.
4. You don't have a good relationship yet because you've not met THE ONE.
5. You don't have a relationship yet which means you can be spicing ya life until she comes.
6. Bros, YOU GET JOB FOR NAIJA. This is enough to tell God thank u.

NB: As long as there's life, things will only get better

This is just sad.

Anyway, I guess d cows r simply speaking bout their discomfort d best way dey can....give dem ya land for grazing.

ifeanyipaul1977:
I need a teen girl from 12-17 for friend either Yoruba, Igbo or Delta

Wait make dem reach 18 first abeg

Dshocker:
This is not a problem in any way.
If your cousin wants to have a peaceful marriage,let him just do an elaborate wedding....After all,the wedding is just once in a life time.

This is how d man will start to loose his voice.

@op, Love is all bout sacrifice, understanding and some other things too... Let dem find a common ground.

LordIsaac:
Marriage: the coming together of two compatible people. See how they cannot come to a compromise before they begin, how on earth do they ever think they will agree on anything later? Africans like stepping into problems that common sense and logic would have prevented and when the problems arise, they will start disturbing God and blaming "PDP".

This is what my people would call, " hitting d nail on d head."

Bro, you r wise. Op listen adhere to wisdom

Augustap:
My brother pls forget women and go back to school. You have a bigger problem now

You want a Nigerian graduate that's working for a big firm to go back to school??!!!

For masters or PhD?