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LuciferKristi:
Kill your in-laws.


Problem solved.

IamPlato:
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Because Of One Girl, all Girls Are Not To Be Trusted

chiommy123:
not an insult oh but woman includes your mum, sisters, nephews, niece, cousins, wife

Shugavee:
if that’s what makes u sleep at night!

Shugavee:
thank God u made mention of urself cause if u know the shit girls go through,, u won’t say all these.. I take it u r ignorant

Shugavee:
don’t say what u don’t know,women don’t wanna talk about their experience cause of the backlash they will get,Guys on the other hand can say whatever they want n won’t be judged!! Women r judged by their fellow women n men!! N if u look in this thread properly some idiots fooling themselves already,, women go through a lot , I mean I whole lot, u don’t wanna know.

Timekeeper:
What does it mean when a lady you expressed your feelings to tells you that she is not ready emotionally. I asked emotional in what aspect? She was like she is this kind of free person and been in a relationship will restrict her freedom. To be sincere, since have been close to this lady, I noticed that she is truly free (as in male friends and so on) but I'm not sure if she is dating anyone... But as a guy I reason am, can I cope with a lady that is so free ? I don't just want to rush and crush and I Wana take time to think about it... I told her that she has her freedom but as a decent lady, even freedom shud be limited.

Ladies, I know u must have felt this at one stage of your life. What do you expect a guy to do to convince you or make u ready? Seriously on campus, I don't really befriend ladies like that but this particular lady, I like her so much.. Within the space of 3 weeks, I have called her countless times on phone and she never gave me attitude. Most time we even meet in the night and talk for hours. Then I concluded in my mind that if this lady doesn't really like me, she wouldn't have given me all these attention... But her fear is her freedom, she doesn't want to lose her freedom... As a guy too, I respect her freedom but I expect a lady freedom shud be limited especially if she is in a relationship.

Ladies help me out, if God will do it for me like I want it, I want to know her parents and wife her in the few years to come but the only problem I have now is the freedom she talked about... I have read and experience so many things on nairaland and others too about ladies brouhaha Cox of freedom and so on but I don't Wana experience this...

Note: if a lady tells me that she can't date me Cox she is dating sumone else or doesn't feel for me, I know that as a man of value, I will walk away forever. But didn't say that, she just said emotionally n I asked to know if it was past experience, she said no.. Later she opened up to me that her freedom will be tampered with... Honestly, before me met yesternyt, my spirit told me that this lady will consider her freedom and she didn't disappoint me when I told her how I feel about her... I can't give up Cox of her freedom but I can give up if she is not interested at all. Ladies understand me...

Wonderful ladies of nairaland, I trust you that you can help me out.. What can I do pls?

Help me push to front page. God bless
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loricara:
I met this girl in Lagos, we date for 2weeke before i returned back to my state. though will be coming to see her by next month but I'm totally tired of her attitude. I love this girl so much but whenever we are chatting she only replies okay, awww or I love you darling. I do all the chatting and calling whilst she's not reciprocating back my love or chat. no proper communication even when I call her, I will be the only one talking why she will keep mute. she says she love me but I dunno if she's serious with our relationship, guys please I need advice, I have seen many of her chats in Facebook group chatting guys ,asking them to accept her friend request.
I have started minimizing my chats and calls with her

SarakiBukola:
An alarmingly high amount of women get harassed by male relatives be it fathers, uncles and brothers.

Don't even talk about strangers.

I can NEVER trust an infant daughter with ANY man, it so very sad

zinnyzee:
Never have i been molested, abused or harrased sexually.

Grew up with no dad( Was late before i grew up)three older brothers and my mum. Growing up, i was one of the boys. Even stubborn than all 3 of dem put together.
Parents in d neighbourhood told their kids to steer clear of me. And that seemed to be what i needed since i hated the lot of them without a reason anyway.

I was growing up and realised i'm supposed to be a gurl and not a boy, and i felt inclined to change for d better. But having lived in the same neighbourhood for more than a decade didn't help matters, since everyone already knew me to be d rebellious kid.

So instead of turning a new leaf, i chose to live up to my reputation.


I'm grown up today and i'm d exact opposite of who i was as a kid. I was never molested, but i know what it means to feel unloved!

milemimi93:
Is your sole aim of marriage sex?

WavesOfGlory:
Most men will go to the grave with their stories. Others were even led to believe that it's because they were fine boys that's why the Aunty was always bribing them with kisses and small touch touch for errands... they go through the rest of their lives with "fineboy" arrogance.

toyflare:
Warning! Long post alert!
Men get molested, and we hide it because it's either unbelievable or sounds ridiculous. My life as a kid until adulthood wasn't funny at all. First, it was the neighbor's housemaid, I was about 7 at that time and my parents were busy with work so I had to stay at my neighbor's house after school till our house maid is back from school. One day I went there, the maid called me into the kid's room and took away my clothes, made me lay down and did things I didn't understand as a child. It was confusing, and I really didn't understand what she was doing but I remember she was on top of me unclad swinging back and forth. This continued after a while, then I told mom. She didn't understand me, so I stopped going there myself and our maid told my mom she met me outside when she came back from school. I guess this made her believe me, so I had to wait in school then.

Then I was molested again by my own friend f4cking best friend turned gay! I was 10 then, and my friend was 6 years older. He was enrolled in a boarding school, I guess he learned the shit from there. When he came back he would always come to the house as usual when I noticed when we play, he touched my genitals and I wasn't comfortable with it. One day I went to his house, he was alone and locked up the place, said he wants to show me something in the room and I followed him. He went to the kitchen and brought a knife, told me to take off all my clothes or he will stab me. I was like haha very funny and he started swinging the knife and told me he joined a cult group and I shouldn't dare him. I was scared as fvck, took my clothes off with speed, he ordered me to lay on the bed and started the thing (can't go into detail cause it makes me sick) but I cried so much. Then after it he was like don't worry, you will start enjoying it soon. So I stopped going to his house but he kept coming to my house and I would lock my self inside the room and my dad will come knocking that my friend is here and I should come out. Then he started begging me that his not in any cult group, but was attracted to him. I didn't care to listen to him! So one day he came with a fancy toy and told my Lil bro he got it for him, but won't give it to him unless I followed him home. So my Lil bro asked me to go get the toy for him and I refused so he started crying, I couldn't tell him what was going on. He was very little at that time and wanted his toy, so I agreed to go, but my plan was to take the toy and fight with my friend if he tried anything stupid , so I went with my brother (my friend lives across the street) but when we got there he insisted I come in alone or he won't give it to me. My brother was like okay I'm going home . So I went in and he locked the door, I asked him for the toy and he said he won't give it to me unless I let him touch me again, I said no!!! And headed for the door, he grabbed me and pushed me to the chair I tried pushing him off but he was very much stronger than I was. Long story short, he did it again, gave me to the toy, I went to him, gave it to Lil bro and he hugged me. I went into the room and cried seriously asking God to forgive me. But it didn't stop here, it continued for years until I got older and strong enough and fought him one day before it all ended. Up till now, I still haven't told my brother what really happened.

Then again 3 years ago I was rapped by my church group leader! I won't mention the church. This woman is married and older than my own mother! All her 3 kids are schooling in the UK! Her husband is a manager in one of the top oil companies ( Name withheld). At my workplace, a was working in the customer care sector and meet clients daily. Lots of sugar mummy's wanted me to be there son, some told me directly others where hiding about it but opened up later. This woman was just good to me and at the same time always preaching to me about Jesus so I didn't suspect her in any way. She invited me to her church because I just moved to the state recently and didn't have a church at that time. So I started worshipping at her church, so one day she invited me to her house fellowship and I went, after the fellowship she asked me to wait behind so I could help her tidy the place and I did before I left she gave me 4k for TP, I refused but she insisted so I took it. I kept going for house fellowship every week and she always gave me TP (4k, 6k, 10k). Every time I asked her why she gave me so much just for transport, she will say she's encouraging me because she knew I wasn't earning much.
So one day I went for a house fellowship, as usual, I stayed behind to arrange the place, then took the plates to the kitchen. I noticed someone walk into the kitchen and turned off the light I was like, ma did you off the light? She said yes. I said okay... But I'm still using it, she didn't answer me and kept walking close to me then suddenly hugged me. I just stood, and was like ma is there any problem, she said no! And kept hugging me. After a while she let me go and I rushed off the kitchen and started gathering my stuff to go home. But when I wanted to open the door, I noticed it was locked! I searched for the keys and it wasn't where it supposed to be. I started calling for her and told her I couldn't find the keys, she said she kept it in her daughter's room I should go there and take it. I went there to look for it but couldn't find the keys, so I told her and she said she's coming to get it but she didn't come out, she was inside her room and refused to answer me. I stood there thinking of what to do next, then my girlfriend started calling me! I told her I just left the fellowship and she was shouting at me that it's almost 11 pm and I'm not back yet, I pleaded with her that we had a meeting blah blah blah. I ended the calling and started calling madam to come to open her door let me go home for christ sake. The woman no gree, I called my roommate and told him the situation of things and he told me not to worry, I shouldn't answer my girlfriends call again, he will call her and tell her my phone was stolen and they beat me up but I'm home sleeping.
I was there waiting in the sitting room till past twelve before she opened the door almost unclad and was smiling at me. At this moment I was already angry asked her to open the door to let me go and she started shouting at me before I knew it she slapped me! And my body went cold instantly. She said I should forget about going home today except I do what she says. Then the next minute she started begging me that she's sorry, she's lonely and needed someone to talk to. I couldn't say anything, as she was begging her hands were already going inside my Jeans. I was like Ma please I beg you in the name of God please stop let me go. I started preaching to her that she's married and this is evil the woman stood up and started crying that she's sorry it's the devil's hand work.
At that point, I thought everything was fine but I need to leave immediately! She told me the key is in her child's room and where to get it. I didn't trust going into that room alone, but I went anyway, the key wasn't where she said it was. And I as I was about leaving the room to go tell her, she's already at the door, then walked in and closed the door. She told me I can't go, and she hasn't had sex in a long time, so If I don't want her to tell her husband I rapped her I should allow her do what she wants or she will call her husband and scream on the phone.
My eyes flashed before my eyes again, I tried talking to her again and she started calling him on the phone and put it on speaker phone so I can see she's not playing about it. I thought of going to prison and losing my job and worse ending up in the news. Then I accepted on the condition we use protection, she already had everything with her, even a lubricant! Then I knew she planned the whole thing. The sad truth is at that time I was still a virgin and never had sex with a woman.

Again sorry for the long post, but before you ask what's the name of this movie I really don't care if you believe it or not! And if you think it has no physiological effect then you're very wrong. I'm very withdrawn and find it extremely difficult to trust anyone. I have no friends! I don't ever near a church or want to hear anything about churches. (she attends a big church and I see her on TV sometimes singing praises). The moment I see an older woman I look at you in disgust, and before you say anything I'm already hating you. It's been years and I'm battling depression, so I need sleeping pills to sleep properly. At some point, I turned to drugs and later stopped because of its effects physiologically.
Being forced against your will to have sex is raped! And men get raped too and I don't think it's fun when it's a woman your mother's age and if that's a fantasy for you then you need to get your brain examined.

liquidlove2018:
Dear Admin,

My wife of two years has a step brother, Oyin that I am not comfortable with. In fact,I am 80% sure that he is not just a brother to her.

During my meeting and courting of my wife,she made me know that she and Oyin are very close. Infact,they are called twins in their family. This guy is about 29,my wife is 27. They call each other every day. They confide in each other. Most times,when we have an argument,hes the one that my wife confides in.

When we got married,he started to visit us often. Sometimes he stays for the weekend. I was cool with that but I just wished I had the same relationship that my wife has with her step brother. They were really tight. One time,he bought her some very sexy lingerie. I was really jealous but my wife laughed it off.My business makes me travel all the time and I am sometimes grateful that Oyin is around when I am not,we even call him to come so my wife wont be lonely when I am not around. How stupid I was!

A few days ago,I traveled out of town for business. I was supposed to be gone for two days. I got to my business location and things changed hence,I had to leave early morning the next day. As I was about to board my flight,I called my wife but her line was switched off. I called Oyin,his too was switched off. When I landed,I called but their lines were still off. So I took a taxi and went home myself.

I got home and used my key to enter the house. I went to my bedroom and saw my wife and her step brother in bed wrapped in each other's hands!....I was flabbergasted!....They were sound asleep. But in my shock,I said: What da Bleep!..that woke my wife. They both were startled to see me. Before I could ask what was going on,Oyin said : arh,Uncle welcome,aunty had a night mare and I came to help her sleep. He said he didnt know when he too fell asleep. Since they were both dressed although,Oyin had his boxers and singlet on,I was really confused. When I said,both of you were having sex in my bed,my wife burst out laughing. Of course both of them denied having sex. They claimed my wife couldnt sleep,so Oyin came to help her sleep.

Even though I didnt like their explanation,it seemed to check out. My wife was also dressed in her nightie but in my head,what if they finished and dressed up..some people do it...

Since the incident,I have told my wife I dont want her brother around again. She says I am over reacting considering that I already know how close she is to her step brother. I really dont know if ...

https://livelystones.com.ng/is-my-wife-having-an-affair-with-her-step-brother/

SpyAC:
Very simple Mathematics jst buy a spy nd recording camera that can record their conversations, hide any where only you can access later. I will be waiting. For ur testimony later.

Biglittlelois:
Wrong!!! opposites attracts, it's now left for either one of them to be influenced or walk away.

Biglittlelois:
Cos there are more fvck boys than responsible men, it's not easy detecting which is which!!!

QueenSekxy:
no man should be trusted.
they all are evil.
i wish something like that never existed.

WonderManly:
Ladies! Never trust a man that call you SEXY. Because he will remove the Y and have SEX with you. And run away with S, then call you EX.

tee59:
I know you are emergencycase .But continue, until you die prematurely with your pathetic stories. I don't give a Bleep.

Tosdam:
Guys, let's drink from your cup of wisdom and experience...

Is it cool for couple to have a Joint Account?

DiDeBee:
Guys,

I need your advise, I have a very serious relationship with a final year students... She made sure I met her parents and they all got acquainted with me especially the Dad, we both thought it will be easier for us to hang out afterwards but the Mum is too strict.. The Dad spends less time at home and usually gives us go ahead but the Mum insists she can't let her daughter go to a man's house.

Fine, I haven't paid her bride price yet cuz they insisted she must finish school but can't I see her at all till then?? Seems so awkward.....By the way, last time she sneaked out to see me for about a week they made her so uncomfortable with the monitoring...even the few other days too she hangs out with me, we don't get relaxed cuz the mom cud need her anytime.

She schools in a private university and am working in the South making it too difficult for us to see during school sessions.

So the whole distance the Mum is creating bothers me a lot cuz sincerely the relationship is shaky due to the number of male folks I notice she has weneva I get to see her because I notice her attention has reduced. And for us guys, you know we can't really ascertain what a girl is doing if u dont spend a good number of hours or days with her. You can't help dat little jealously when it has to do with a woman u intend to settle down with.

How do I handle this guys?...Matured minds alone pls.

blaze2cool:
A man can cheat on his woman and still love her but a woman cannot cheat on her man and still love him......

Alwaysking:
Lol even the most gentlest of girls of nowadays aren't trusted. Trust Dem at ur own peril. You think you have loyal girl until you catch her red handed with a guy giving her doggy style �

HEFAIROHLUWA:
Very Good! Now you mentioned "Freewill" Now we are going somewhere. You said he will never lead us into bad things. Bad things happen to christians and its better you take it that way and move the f**k on...i.e like the way I lost a young sister. she just complained of stomach ache and that was it..mind you my parents reverenced God so much that we never purposely skipped a sunday service. I can count the no of times we didnt go to church since ive beeen brought into this world..Its less than 5....We are fervent christians and even her corpse wasnt taken to the hospital it was taken to the church for prayers but who is gone is gone...for you to know how fervent we were. Now back to your case. If God is a God of freewill where is the freewill if he decides to manipulate the mind of your spouse to his commandments and obedience just to prove he was right about his choosing a spouse for you.What im trying to say is that praying before marriage does not guarantee the marriage will stand the test of time. Do you think those that marry christains like themselves to at LEAST INCREASE(Its not guaranteed cos I have seen christian couples (infact they are both pastors) that divorced because of little issues) THE CHANCE of the marriage survive are fools? Our minds are dynamic...The human mind is..Thats a hardtruth bro..Christians pretend to always say the truth but thats a lie..They often prefer to hide some truths and paint christianity as a sure ticket to blessings here on earth...It doesnt work that way! It will never..Im just saying reality bro

HEFAIROHLUWA:
Very Good! Now you mentioned "Freewill" Now we are going somewhere. You said he will never lead us into bad things. Bad things happen to christians and its better you take it that way and move the f**k on...i.e like the way I lost a young sister. she just complained of stomach ache and that was it..mind you my parents reverenced God so much that we never purposely skipped a sunday service. I can count the no of times we didnt go to church since ive beeen brought into this world..Its less than 5....We are fervent christians and even her corpse wasnt taken to the hospital it was taken to the church for prayers but who is gone is gone...for you to know how fervent we were. Now back to your case. If God is a God of freewill where is the freewill if he decides to manipulate the mind of your spouse to his commandments and obedience just to prove he was right about his choosing a spouse for you.What im trying to say is that praying before marriage does not guarantee the marriage will stand the test of time. Do you think those that marry christains like themselves to at LEAST INCREASE(Its not guaranteed cos I have seen christian couples (infact they are both pastors) that divorced because of little issues) THE CHANCE of the marriage survive are fools? Our minds are dynamic...The human mind is..Thats a hardtruth bro..Christians pretend to always say the truth but thats a lie..They often prefer to hide some truths and paint christianity as a sure ticket to blessings here on earth...It doesnt work that way! It will never..Im just saying reality bro

Alwaysking:
I guess you haven't caught ur girl cheating on you with random men, when you do you will understand

HEFAIROHLUWA:
If God wont lead us into something that will end badly why didnt he prevent adam or eve from eating the apple back in the garden of eden. And ofcourse married couples commit adultery. its rampant nowadays..

BrainnewsNg:
Gist From Brainnews https://www.brainnewsradio.com/pretty-mike-shares-godly-rules-from-the-bible-for-married-women-to-enjoy-their-husbands/

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