₦airaland Forum

NewManFred:
Life is a sick joke and we are all unwilling participants.

We all like to think we are special. As if our lives have some meaning. But in the end, we are all the play toys of death, being preserved and grown, until the day it decides to take us.

I've watched so many people die and seen so many dead bodies on documentaries and social media that I've become so disillusioned from life. All those people just like you, thought they had a purpose. Thought they were special; that someone out there was looking out for them. They had goals, dreams and aspirations.

But they were nothing but mere biological puppets. No different from the chickens we see on our streets everyday; created with the purpose to eat, breed and die. And everything they do in between only serves to propagate this sick joke.

Take a paper and a pen and write down all the things you want to achieve in life. Most of you will die before you achieve all of them. The few who are 'lucky' to achieve all will immediately feel a sinking emptiness after they do. Then will they realize that the joy and happiness they felt they'd get is only fleeting and quickly replaced by the need to do more. And they will keep chasing that 'more' until they die.

Sit back and look at the world. Pick a history book and read. Watch some war documentaries. Human life is fleeting and painful. It's all a big joke and whosoever created this world is not just psychopathic, but also sadistic.

The only constant in life is suffering. Nobody ever attains true happiness. What we experience is an illusion of happiness that gets washed away few seconds later by the rushing streams of reality.

What do you think makes you happy? Money? Well how much? The more money you make the more money you'll want to make and the harder you'll work to make sure the money remains. You'll still be sucked in an endless circle of money chasing.

Is it loved ones that make you happy? Well one day those loved ones will die and you will forever be left with the pain of that loss: a pain that will haunt you every minute of everyday. If they don't die before you die, then the constant fear of losing them is enough to suck away any joy or peace of mind that you think you deserve.

Is it sex that makes you happy, well you are no different from a dog that feels _horny and mates with another dog. The only difference is that you think you have free will, whereas you are being controlled by the same instinct to procreate, disguised under than a short-lived pleasure of sex. A pleasure that will bring more pain, heart-ache, disease and unfulfillment than whatever illusion of pleasure you have created..

Me Me Me. We are so obsessed with ourselves and our stupid needs and desires that we fail to see what's before our eyes. We are all in some sick twisted game designed by a sick twisted being, and none of us will get out alive.
And everyday we bring more and more people into this game and we celebrate it like it's a good thing; like we are doing them a favor.

The luckiest people on Earth are the babies that die during delivery. At least they didn't get to participate in this sick, twisted joke called life.

Ola9ja23:
If that would reduce the killings and kidnappings in Nigeria it's a welcome development

AishaDant:
I can do it and even more for a man who completes me and values me as much as I value him. Remember, every sane relationship should be 50:50. My take!

Abifarin16:
Someone from the opposite gender finds you attractive and likes to spend time with you and you are mad. If there's nothing between you both there's nothing. Why are you concerned about what people think.

Few weeks from now it will stop and you will really want to be with her but it will be too late.

You go burn with jealousy. Be a gentleman, don't play her don't get played.

No be every woman den dey sleep with or vex with, she fit just be your destiny helper.

Wodu89:
It may be Heaven ordained to show you your wife but your youthful I don't want woman wahala don't understand it. When you make many misses after some years to get females then turns to problem. Even if you don't date her yet, maintain the relations as you don't know tomorrow. Stop being full of yourself kid.

TemplarLandry:
Only archaic men with lowest of the lowest self-esteem imprison their wives under the guise of housewifehood.

Women are not dullards or nonentities. They have parts to play in every functional society. A real woman has to make some money for herself too.

Being a housewife means you're only useful to your husband as a copulation machine and a babies-producing device. Zero contribution to a functional society. That's bad bad.

KanwuliaExtra:
Personally. . . . . I was neither financially-insecure nor unhappy before marriage, so I did not get married for WEALTH OR HAPPINESS.

I got married FOR CONVENIENCE and I have remained financially-secure, HAPPY and the marriage is still SUPER-CONVENIENT.

Material comfort can equate to happiness for some and I see nothing wrong with that.
Comfort brings me happiness. I bring my own WEALTH to ANY MARRIAGE. Marriage is only for convenience.

You can only be unhappy in a wealthy marriage if you are CURSED or MENTALLY-HANDICAPPED!
Na “man” I go chop?

Marriage does not bring happiness either, so why suffer DOUBLE PUNISHMENTS in poverty?

I would rather suffer in WEALTH! At least I would not be starving for food!

Men are learning to marry UP too.
Good move. Show me the money jor!

Know yourself nor be curse sheeeeey?

Taywon:
Money is Everything... Love is just 1%

thesilentman:
Because we live in proximity-same town,she wouldnt quit checking up on her daughter virtually every day or atleast every other day.I felt a deep intrusion on my privacy so yesterday i summoned the gut and asked her if she didn't have a house.Before she could reply,i told her,'learn to stay where you belong!I did not marry daughter and mother!`
She has since disappeared into thin air.
This evening am thinking whether i bleeped up or not.

MrBrownJay1:
as much as you are right about the above, it certainly doesnt make any difference whether her parents came over or not.... unless you are trying to make her do something wrong. why would you be against her parents coming over, if you were doing something RIGHT. its not like the parents are gonna interfere in their marriage (unless you are abusing her etc), is it?

why is it suddenly so wrong if parents came over? i dont get it... so if your parents came over, your spouse wont understand/listen to you any longer? how?

sharone21:
YES....Seems your type of hardened men who don't respect women must learn by force.

No matter how self /God made a woman is, she will collect what she feels she deserves before one Obiagele comes to eat what she toiled for( whether/not she help make the man)....

Abi, can u return all her physique, personal money spent, countless time, toil to the woman?

So, she quantifies it....

Whenever divorce wants to knock, don't listen to your inexperienced redpill guys that deceive u that u are first the prize rather BEG your wife or face the consequences.

sharone21:
Was your beloved HAKIMI initially RICH?...Think before supporting your loser male gender.

sharone21:
Yes, that is why he is a gigolo.... He was looking for a rich, made mother( lol) if possible so he will have fewer responsibilities.... U guys supporting nonsense should start advising him to beg his benefactor before he goes bankrupt.

sharone21:
Men should be more careful about their behaviour....

You only become the prize after putting your wife first and you have earned the trust and respect from her such that she reciprocates it effortlessly.

I sent this story to an elder and even before I said he was a footballer, the person told me he is a gigolo..... Hakimi wanted a working class woman that would feed herself and him( possibly too) in the marriage while he stashes his under his mum's. A non working class woman wasn't what he had planned for in case of anything.

Anyone who controls your money, controls your home and life, meaning if the wife wasn't in the good books of his mum, she will suffer.... Who knows if she was his mum's choice at all.

When women bill men in divorce suits, they are trying to quantify in figures( eg dollars) all their duties as a wife and mother( if they have kids together).... U see guys wailing but that could actually be the amount you pay when u have someone else besides your wife doing such 'jobs' she does for you sacrificially....

Divorce is not good.... Some men even after hurting their wives they are still haughty and unapologetic.... Maybe this would have been resolved by truly apologetic in kind and cash.... Anyway, this divorce exposed him to her. Why marry someone u don't have a good level of trust for especially someone that allegedly helped u when u arrived Europe with nothing.

For those advocating she just goes like that without anything apart from Hakimi taking care of the child, know that Baby Mama is DIFFERENT from a WIFE...A wife is a joint, co-partner in that organisation not a mere staff... See how Abraham discarded Hagar his baby mama in the Bible with loaf of bread and water( lol).... NOT, for a wife.... A baby mama is not obligated to give u the child/ ren and walks out of your life with/ without notice( same with u) since there is no binding, legal contract between both of u and the profit that emanates from the 2 of u... A wife most times will do shared custody unless you become a dead beat dad and she reviews the whole thing legally.In Nigeria where there are no laws to protect the woman, the child support may be where she gets something for her years of toil in that home whether or not she built the man... But, if the child support isn't even adequate for the kids not to talk of herself, she may feel compensated by keeping the kids all to herself( including name change)..... One Ex Governor( B Fash) once said that even a person who feeds a child also licks his/her fingers from feeding that child.

Reminderz:
I'm telling you bro... let's even examine Christianity as the truth, a lot of things that they are doing today aren't even in tally with what the person they claim to follow did... they are following Saul which Jesus never met in his life or never acknowledged... the Saul later changed his name to Paul when he turned himself to Christian and changed his name after he lied to have met Jesus which he never did... Paul is the greatest antichrist, by changing the words of Jesus and teachings of the laws of Moses which Jesus said to have come to fufill.. let's examine Jesus did and what he said, and what so called Christians are doing today...

1. Jesus preached against consuming pork and alcohol, Christians have pork and alcohol

2. Jesus worshiped one God alone, and never talked about trinity or 3-1 god bullshit...

3. Jesus worshiped with his face unto the ground...

4. Jesus never claimed to be God or claimed divinity...

5. Jesus was only sent to Israel in his own words

6. Jesus never wanted to die when they planned to kill him, at a time he was even hiding trying to avoid being seen in public..

7. the Bible says every man for his own sin, the father won't be put to death for the sin of his son.. the soul shall sins shall die

8. if Jesus claim to want to die, why was he telling God that why hath he forsaken him...??

9. Jesus wasn't born in December 25 and nowhere in the Bible did they celebrate Easter or Christmas...

10. the word trinity is never mentioned in the Bible

11. this is why we have so many Bible versions which they are not the same... some verses were even removed from some Bibles because they believed it to be false... just like the verse that said there are 3 that bear witness in heaven, this verse has been removed from the RSV and so many versions of the Bible... the Bible is believed to contain great and many errors...

12. Jesus is a man which God has sent just like Moses... he never claimed to be God or never said he was coming to die for sins... he never said he's the Christian God and personal saviour..

13.. in the lord's prayer, the first one is our father, which means the God that Jesus worshiped is the one that you should also worship.. Jesus is not God, don't worship him, on that day he will deny you...

14. Jesus did all the miracles he did with the power of God who sent him... he acknowledged the miracles he did to God so many times in the Bible..

15. he told a young man who asked him a question that “why do you call me good? none is good but God alone”.. Jesus never claimed to be God

16. Jesus is a Jew according to the Bible

17. Paul wrote more than 60% of the Bible... how was Paul later killed, he was beheaded and cut into pieces..

18. the Bible says anyone hanged on the cross is of the accursed.. if Christians believe Jesus was hanged then they also believe he is of the accursed...

19. Jesus was circumcised, some Christians are not...

20. Jesus said himself that God is greater than him, but Christians today claim Jesus to be God himself

all these evidences are found in the Bible and many more.. so many errors and contradictions in the Bible..

Dogalmighty17:
Your situation sounds just exactly like mine. I have never believed in divorce. But God knows I have been pushed to the wall. I won't tell you to be patient and understanding. I know that for you to make this post now shows how deeply pained you are.
At the end of the day, the question we should all ask ourselves is this: Is marriage worth it?

STARGREEN:
It's well.
Build on the good part of her, each of them comes with different packages that has to be endured if you must remain married.

Trust me some have bigger issues than yours.

merits:
The boy will age faster than the guy,by the time she begin gave birth,women beauty don't last.

Rokiat:
I wish them well but not an easy journey ahead. 30
Is when you really get to know yourself and what you really want. I really hope they have a strong healthy guidance because the person you are at 20 is not who you will be at 30. You evolved. Many people married in their 20s and by the time they hit their 30s they realised they are fu…ck this is not what they envisioned.

That's not true. Knowing yourself has nothing to do with age. Knowing what you want and choosing to settle down early has NOTHING to do with age.

Being mature and taking responsibility of your life has nothing to do with age. Most times it has a lot to do with family background and training.

Why do you think the system is failing? Because parents are failing.



If they are willing to put in the work they can make it work. I wish them
Well.

Ednut03:
Well, don't always believe what a Nigerian tell u.

End

Bolaji26:

DriverX:
This is where you'll find Nigerians... Typing novels about sex sex sex. Why won't your population skyrocket, simultaneously along with poverty? Keep fucking_.... Una eye go soon clear.

budaatum:
Women need to not marry pigs!

Tickles001:
If everyone starts to do things only when they're in the mood or only when it's owed. How do you think the world would be like.

What do you think will play out in the family if the man wakes up one morning and decides he's not funding the house for a whole month because he doesn't feel like, or not in the mood. Or decides that he needs to quit his job and get a break because he's depressed and stressed out.
He's been doing like 3 side hustles, plus his main job. Things he entirely doesn't feel like doing. He needs a break, but he's not taking it.

If a woman naturally turns cold. A reasonable man would understand. But most times women just use it to show defiance.
The same woman that has 3kids and now cold, is the same woman that will go and be feeling kinky with a colleague in the office. Even when the said colleague is not doing anything to attract her.

Have sex with your partner is one of the simple things someone would do if there's still a tiny bit of attraction left in the union.

Men do a lot of things that is actually against their will. They go through biological changes too. All those stuffs you wrote up there has a masculine version of it. But if everyone starts making a long case out of simple things just like you did. Then nothing will ever work out and happiness will elude everyone at the end.

I wonder how people think like this sef. Simple something

A married woman with 2kids from this nairaland once told me that her husband is not giving her enough sex. That she wants it more now, than when she was without child. And she is a busy woman.
How come she's not cold?

Seniorwriter:
SMH


WE NEED YOUNG VISIONARY LEADERS IN NIGERIA....not these present charlatans parading themselves in the corridor of power.....this buhari led maladministration has scored beyond low.....

@SENIORWRITER

kooler99:
Why did you not show the pictures of the inner streets in oregun. The road from oluyole bus stop till you reach the end that links 7up looks like it was hit by an atomic bomb. You will also see pot holes that can swallow a mac truck.

ellapius:
taaah who told u all these lies

Nnaabros:
How can YOU possibly marry him when he's not ready to marry you?

ellapius:
the biggest mistake for a Nigerian girl is to marry a guy who is not ready to marry. a Bleep boy. a jobless Bleep boy who believes his big gbola is his selling point

fashionale:
So you
married her because of her virginity? And I'm convinced that you must have ignored other qualities you should have looked out in her before you marry her to anticipate the day of breaking the almighty hymen. Now there is no hymen to break, and your heart is shattered (because you put all your heart there) and other faults may start coming out now. My guy please, let that issue of virginity and focus on her and your yourself. Because if time is not taking you may destroy the marriage by yourself with your emotion of not breaking the virginity.

I would have been a victim of this circumstance, but I asked the lady, "aside virginity, what other qualities are you bringing it to the marriage"? She couldn't tell me anything reasonable, and I didn't see any. I told her no. I can't go on.
Be wise bro