₦airaland Forum

Tony Spike: I've only read this paper halfway and I must confess that the logic is very sound. Very wonderful expository of the ancient Yoruba kingdom and its link to ancient Isreal. As a diversion, didn't someone propose that ILE IFE is the code-word for NINEVEH some weeks ago on Nairaland? I'm beginning to see that different locations in Yorubaland indeed hold the key to unravelling more truths about the lost tribe(s) of Israel. Odumchi, I suggest this thread is pulled to the first page. Thanks

jidegirl12: Thanks Ed.... wonders shall never end!

Horayce: And ur purpose of opening the thread is? To find someone else that will reinforce your views on infidelity abi? smh..
Anyway, what about starting with you, look through your life, aren't there things you once did in childhood out of ignorance, wickedness or plain honesty that you've casted off due to maturity?
Ok, maybe not, but in my own life i have, and I'll boldly say that people are capable of change. Sex isn't as big a deal as you are making it to be.

Subtext: Guy calm down. Have you really heard about a girl who fell in love with a guy, was ready to marry him, but decided against it simply because she found out he used to be a player? Think about it. Girls/ladies crave to find a player they can turn to a single-woman-man. Wooo! Now I know I must be really killing you. Messing up your little lets-not-rock-the-boat-and-start-a-gender-war mentality that has most of the world in bondage. So does this mean its ok for guys to play around? OFCOURSE NOT. like I said, and I'm really serious here, i dont play around. How many threads have you seen started with a guy wondering howmuch he should reveal? Women usually don't care as long as they love the guy, he loves them, and they believe he has changed. Finito!

Let me just repeat for emphasis, that I don't think guys should play around, its an empty way to approach life. Are you better now?

I hate to sound condemning (if I do) but we need to tell speak the truth and more of it, so people learn. kapische?

Subtext: Let me also add that when you are completely honest about your past from the onset, a guy worth having would love you the more for it and would easily build trust for you because of it. Granted he may not be happy with what you have to reveal, but when telling all, give the reasons for each F_Up and how you've learned your lesson and become wiser because of it. Dont tell of how you straffed 35 guys in your UNI days with a smug face like its some kind of achievement that you are secretly proud of. He'll likely detect that (pride) and run for his dear life and dignity. Leave the 'player' mentality for foolish men who have issues to pursue.

Subtext: Please see the story on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/1085611/quit-lying-intimate-past-does

But my general advise would be what most people today won't take anyway, and here goes :-

For ladies

If you are still young (like in your late teens), be decent, keep your legs closed. Just do it. All we guys are after is your woman hood to make us feel good with ourselves. We don't really care about you at that stage in life. We would use you and go brag about it to our friends later. If we did care, a girl who has slept with like 15, 20 or more guys in her 'playful' days shouldn't have any trouble getting a husband later. They should all be running after her, proposing marriage with the same sweet words they used when she was giving free. Guys are the biggest hypocrites in this regard, why because the inner man in every man actually wants a woman who has slept witha s few men as possible. YET we go about tryin to stick it every well rounded backside. TRUTH HURTS, DEAL WITH IT.

If you've lived a rough life in your past, UNLESS YOUR HUY SAYS HE DOESN'T WANT TO KNOW AND YOU KNOW THERE IS NO UNASSAILABLE EMBARRASMENT COMING LATER (from your past) LIKE A CHILD OUT OF WEDLOCK, YOU MUST TELL HIM ALL HE WANTS TO KNOW. THE EARLIER THE BETTER. Better not leave anything out. If you decide to have a NO tell policy, then do just that, BUT NO HALF TRUTHS. PLEASE. Half truths only add to the problem when discovered and believe a samrt guy will always discover them shortly. They call to question your 'changed status' and honesty-of-the-kind-fit-for-marriage.


GET RID of that thought that you can be a female player. There's no such thing. I don't care what cosmo and vogue tells you. Do i sound chauvinistic, well so be it. A player ALWAYS has bragging rights and respect, albeit foolishly, with his friends and sometimes even with other females. But a lady who opens it for every guy she fancies, HAS to do it in secrecy. She never goes about bragging about it (except maybe on anonymous forum like this), and even if she tells her female friends, sooner or latter such friends will still call her a slut behind her back. I ADDED THIS AST BIT SO YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE STUCK IN THE 'TO TELL OR NOT TO TELL' ZONE IN THE FIRST PLACE.


FINALLY, i keep seeing posts on simillar topics which say a lady in a UNI who's less than 24 years of age still doesn't know what she wants yet, she's still a kid yada yada yada. SMH. Most of our moms had their first kids at or before that age, and both mother and kids turned out alright latter. the marriages also succeded. That you are a lady and in your early 20s, with Wiz-kid as your best artist and male role model, doesn't mean you should open it for any cute stud that asks.


TRUTH HURTS. You guys can insult o, I don't really care.

chemashie: Are you kidding me? My friend bleeped her girl friend more than 100 times and yet the lady gave birth to a baby boy. Get ur facts before posting.

ifyalways: @Eddy, sup?
The WWE thread still up and going?I don't come that side anymore.

Few weeks back, Cena was rumoured dead, I almost "deaded" too. Lol

#Cenation for lyfe#

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ikecinho: wots d name of ur lotion nd liquid soap?

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lil jboy: Abeg how much b all dis perf una jst call dia name...