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CaptainJeffry:
There's a problem with communication in their marriage. The woman should've known the problems in the house and the limitations in her husband's income. Mahim
e the man is the proud type who doesn't like to ask or accept help and the lady would be like mek i keep kwayet oya sort yourself out naa.

Or she's just a very selfish woman.

The case here is she is selfish
But I sense lack of love also
You can't love a man and not naturally want to put heads with him
Like someone said above its about filling in

Dammyjeez:
For any marriage equation to be balanced, there are several check boxes that must be ticked while you are still dating. You both should be ECONOMICALLY VULNERABLE to each other. This box apparently, you didn't check before getting married. You people will have to sit down and talk about it extensively and design a way forward as soon as possible... Cos truth is if you are not vulnerable to each other, you did best be described as just baby makers and not a couple! Cheers

Very true

seniormallam:
we both have a joint account , savings percentage has been agreed every month a standing instructions has been given towards that, and we are doing great things with two head as one together, with 83k you aren't there yet, you need every support for now, BUT you won't get any support if she suspects you're cheating or you be shayo master you are OYO

That's it
Two heads as one

sehin79:
well if the arrangement and agreement is not in place from the on set of the marriage then she in a good position to not plan with him,
as some men tends to want to carry all the whole responsibility from the on set... when you get married i believe you have got to have clear values and decision because if you gyes divorce she as every right to demand what she wants.

The disposition of a woman goes a long way in determining if the way will be open to arrangements.
A woman that deliberately shields details of her income, A man tends not to talk in that direction

ibkayee:
I don't know what kind of arrangement they have going on but marriage is supposed to be a partnership, it's not even necessarily about splitting every responsibility evenly down to the tee, it's about helping out/filling in where the other is lacking, it's not a competition, it's a partnership. The wife volunteering to help should've been a no brainer, after all his money is going towards taking care of her too. He needs to voice his expectations too or it may not occur to her and he'll just be suffering in silence. I don't understand these types of relationships

Couldn't have said it better

IAMSASHY:
some men actually have d aim to carry out Al responsibilities ,that why even when they encounter financial challenges, they find it difficult to open up or ask for help from their wives. But then,every good wife that really cares about her husband must always try to find out where and when to assist him, she mustn't wait until he asks for help, thats why both of them are "help meet",responsibilities at home shouldn't be carried by one person, be it house rent, school fees etc

Comments like this gives me hope we have good women

100% right... That's my idea of marriage. If a woman is not supportive she is as good as useless

A friend confided in me
His wife earns 100k while he earns 83k because of loans monthly
Now he is trying to raise money for accommodation
He has saved 150k and needs extra 100k
Challenge :
He has to pay school fees for his daugther and balance money oweing for furniture for the house from his feb and march salary
He didn't ask his wife for support but she seem to be quiet about his predicament and leave him to sort himself and raise money by himself for the rent
Thou she uses her money to buy things for her daugther sometimes
His expectations:
he expects her to have put heads with him and if possible opt to save from her salary to augument the the remaining balance or save up something to support(20k monthly for 3months)
Married women in the house is that the general attitude of some in marriage not to plan side by side with their husband
Or is it the psyche of a woman to expect her husband to pay the rent, pay for kid's fees and all as against planning with him?

A friend confided in me
His wife earns 100k while he earns 83k because of loans monthly
Now he is trying to raise money for accommodation
He has saved 150k and needs extra 100k
Challenge :
He has to pay school fees for his daugther and balance money oweing for furniture for the house from his feb and march salary
He didn't ask his wife for support but she seem to be quiet about his predicament and leave him to sort himself and raise money by himself for the rent
Thou she uses her money to buy things for her daugther sometimes

His expectations:
he expects her to have put heads with him and if possible opt to save from her salary to augument the the remaining balance or save up something to support(20k monthly for 3months)

Married women in the house is that the general attitude of some in marriage not to plan side by side with their husband
Or is it the psyche of a woman to expect her husband to pay the rent, pay for kid's fees and all as against planning with him?

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let's get this case to front page
so they will be awareness
I will start by sending to Dorothy njemanze and other activist on Facebook so this gets enough attention
The more people are aware the less the police or anyone can implicate her
so let's start commenting

pls contact her family .you guys are not married. go to any civil society organization
contact Dorothy njemanze on Facebook she might have clues on what to do

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lekonso:
Oga husband there is nothing wrong in what your wife has done. I'm surprised you said you are RCCG and does not know what is sacrifice. For your information when Pastor Adeboye retired from University of Lagos, he collected his gratuity, the whole sum without touching a dime from it and God told him to divide the whole money into 3 parts and instructed him (Pastor Adeboye) to give the whole money to 3 different ministries, which he did. Look at what God has done in his life today. I warn you very seriously if you do anything to that your wife because of what she has done, you will see the anger of God. In any case i'm very sure you will come back to this platform to share the testimony of what God has done in the life of your wife. She does not need to tell you before she obeys God, so that you will not prevent her. If she has told you, you will not allow her to obey God.

number 30 vs 10
what a foolish comment
smh

that's an example of a moronic Christian! you give your salary as if u are not under authority she is her own boss,no rev for her husband

sadly the husband does not see anything wrong with it smh

U dodged a potential divorce.. Lucky u man.
A woman not willingly to follow her husband isn't worth marrying
Little things in marriage becomes big things
Dump her and get a submissive one
Two cannot walk unless they be in agrement. For there to agree one must submit to the oder

just imagine! her concern is more about getting back her mere 500k as against loosing a potential marital stable relationship. #shallow

but again the guy is stupid to break trust and loyalty over a mere 500k.without explaining to her the reason he can't meet up#stupid

so when shallow meets stupid then the relationship is dead on arrival.
u just try see him in person, give him time then involve a soldier friend before breaking off contact finally
I hate to see potential relationships like this break

I know of girls who decided to loose their virginity against their will in order to hold on to the ones they love.
At Least he said he expected her to come begging Instead she called him bluf
well.....

I doubt this relationship will work..
I see a man fighting alone for his Relationship, idolizing a girl
you went to plead with her and u guys made up but the question is till when?
they are no guarantees ..

charleff512:
She Is Testing You!

ignore

ignoring calls from your mum and sister shows she is evolving and the more you keep holding onto her u keep hurting yourself and resenting her.
love doesn't ask why? doesn't ask where the relationship is going. if someone is with you it will be obvious.
it's best you calm down for now if u ever have a chance saving your rship.
her interest should show in the efforts. please if you are the only one fighting for your relationship just minimize calls.
what I deduce is that you are more emotionaly invested that her.
it's time you start considering looking for someone here in Nigeria while holding unto ur girlfriend LOOSELY

Hello good morning, please contact the PRO Civil Societies Benin on this number , he wants to help the student. Thank you
the pro of civil societies benin actually got aware of the case after I shared the story on my Facebook page.pls pm me @op for the number and also drop yours
by d way I work with uniben

Nma27:
Block and delete as it is hot... Don't give anyone d power to toil with ur emotions

don't give anyone the power to affect your emotions this much especially people that bring little or nothing to your life.
I second delete her
you deserve an emotional stable person
lastly dont discuss with her if you had done that b4 in the past but deliberately make efforts to increase your circle
tell God to expand your coast..
once you start talking to new people she becomes history

Young man listen to me.I hv Been there.same issue .i ignorantly married her,daily issues and quarells

Just call off d wedding till u settle this issues

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hopeforcharles:
They can't because it's not a Nigerian based or hosted website, who will they arrest? The office or the the guilders? Or is it me? See this jokers oh

they can block their IP address and deny them access into our space like China did