Aaaaah, Swallu has moved on from fat, ugly white women to fat ugly Asian women!!!!

sexkillz:

Good points! Are you ruling out the possibility of knowing you [b]thoroughly, like say date for 2/3 years, and i wont notice those flaws? [/b]Is it the initial fear of commitment? Cant you share bills and all that stuff after getting married, and you are committed to making the marriage work?

I'm definitely not ruling it out, but I just thing dating, even for 2/3 years is different from cohabiting. I think you'd notice the flaws a lot quicker if you were cohabiting, therefore saving you time & heartache.

Hardunnii:

@cooger i said by God's grace it will work, are u agent of darkness??
@kelz u can sleep with even with dogs, its your life, but dnt be mad when u hear virginity cos u aint got it no more

sexkillz:

Did you date him prior to this or not? And why?

Yes I dated him prior to this. Why? Because we were attracted to one another & wanted to get to know each other better but you can't get to know the REAL person by just dating. When you're living with each other, sleeping & waking up with each other every day. Sharing your space, bills etc is not an easy task. I just think cohabiting is a good thing before marriage. It may not be for everyone or it may not suit everyone but for me, I agree with it 100%.

I'm confused, 2 people voted for cohabitation but one poster agreed with it & one disagreed with it  

Definitely YES!!!! Because then you can really get to know your partner, their good and bad points & see if you are ready & willing to put up with the bad for the rest of your life!!!! We can make an informed choice on whether we will be able to live together for the rest of our lives and if we will able to compromise and work things out when problems arise etc.

I didn't realise that this thread was about cohabiting & marriage. I cohabited with my husband before I married him & I'm glad I did. At least we went into marriage with our eyes open & knew what we were getting!!!

@ Ujujoan - No I'm NOT Nigerian as you were so kind to point out to me. As I said, my husband is Nigerian and my daughter calls him by his name. She NEVER called him or any of his friends "Uncle", they are not her UNCLE!!!

@ Babe - I hope my response helped somewhat. Maybe if you were residing in Nigeria it might be different, but as you reside in England, I think your daugher should call your partner by his name, especially if her dad is in her life.

Hahahahaha, this is so stupid. I didn't take my husbands name, he's a Nigerian. I kept my own name & put his at the end of mine. My children also have both mine name & his name. It's a name!!!! That's not going to make the marriage work any better!!!!

OH MY GOD!!!!!! The poor child! I'm not Nigerian, my husband is. He's Yoruba. I met him when my daughter was 10 months old. Her dad is VERY much in her life. My daughter is almost 7 years old now and she calls my husband by his first name!!!! He's not her dad, although he has reared her with me. I don't see the big deal. It's a name!!!! She calls her dad "dad" and she calls my husband by his first name!!!

zolzlolz:

It's wrong if it's based on self-hate. That means you're not marrying this person out of love, but out of hate for yourself.

Ms. Potato:

Jenny, why would u care of what other people has to say? Why would u let other people decide for u when its your life and not theirs? If you love him and he loves you, you should just stay strong about your relationship.

I know I myself have learn alot of this kinda situation. Im an Asian Chinese, Mongolian malaysian and Im dating a Nigerian. Alot of people have criticized us, mocked us, sabotage us, backstab us and spit on us because of our relationship and even my own family do it but I dont give a sh1t on what they are thinking because this is my life, my decision and my choice and no one can take that freedom away from me. If they die, who will suffer? You will suffer for not making choices of your own and just when you wanted to make decisions and change your life, it might be too late for you.

I would advice you to put your feet down, make it very clear that you are here to stay for the relationship and if you get married and have babies with him, the perception of the other people towards Arabs and African falling in love together will change. Stay strong my dear.

Good advice. I really hope that things work out for you Jenny. If you have a good solid relationship with this guy, you should sit down & talk to him about all of these things instead of asking a bunch of people that don't know you or the guy. What may work out for one couple may not work out for another & vice versa. Good luck Bleep

MsDarkSkin:

i don't know about interracial.

I am personally am not interested in that but inter-tribal is not
an issue for me. Sadly some folks would rather date outside of their
race than date others in their race but from another ethnicity.

Why is it sad? If it's not for you that's cool but as Mrs. Chima said, we all have preferences.

Why the hell would it be wrong Is marriage not about love & understanding, commitment & compromise? Do these things know colour? So only marriages of the same race / colour have all of the above or are capable of having all of the above? As the for mixed race children, I think it is fantastic for children to come from parents of different cultures, background, languages etc.

OP - I agree with you totally. Leave them too it. I believe a ban on meeting in public places is definitely a breach of their human rights!!!!

Rokiatu2:

Then leave it alone, afterall you are not affected, let those ones relocate to uk where they will be welcomed

Why must the UK deal with your "problem"?

rhymz:

@Poster
I realy will like to engage you on this issue if you have the time. A lot of people that drum support for these ho'mosexuals do not fully understand the danger that these guys portend in any society in the future. Do you know these guys have the highest infection rate of HIV and AIDs. The hom'osexual life style is an unhealthy one, the a'nus is not meant for penetration, every time a fellow man penetrates the anus of another man he increases the chances of bruising the thin wall lining in the anus which unlike that of a woman's v'agina-which is doublw walled thick- that of the a'nus isd one wall thick and can easily worn out, leaving the person easily exposed to HIV and AIDS. Is that the kind of life style we want to promote??

What about heterosexuals that enjoy a.nal s.ex?
Is the wall of the female a.nus thicker than that of the male a.nus? I believe you can only contract AIDS through intercourse if your partner is infected. It doesn't matter if the sex is vaginal or a.nal.

bekay911:

Wait a minute ma friend! Wat d hell are u doin wit a g string wen u get bushy nyash? Na so u dey do. Pls for decency sake wear pampers or sumfin berra dan dat.
Wat a gorry sight

I wouldn't expect my husband or anyone else not to retaliate in that case. I know a man shouldn't hit a women but the same should apply the opposite way around. I take my hat off to that guy!

sexkillz:

Yes. . . Only with their wives though!

Exactly! What does a married man want in a club until 7am??

Eh . . . . . . . . . . . what is this thread about

What?

People was their cars EVERYDAY? Wow!!!!

Jenifa_:

I don't believe this is a true story.
If it was a true story, you won't think twice before you tell your sister what's going on.


because they tend to be. d guy said he saw a "fat ugly white woman" in d facebook pics.
do pictures lie?

desperation leads people to such acts

ALL white women tend to be fat, ugly & old PLEASE!!!!!!!

Yorisb:

It's well, ma'am.

Thank you sir!

Yorisb:

I'm not oblivious of such prejudicial topics/comments. . .Just don't let it bother you.

For some peeps, notoriety-c[i]u[/i]m-ignorance apparently fills the void where their decorum should be. . .

Sorry, I digressed?!?!

No worries, it's cool. Thanks

Yorisb:



Calm down, Ma'am. I am sure he didn't mean that. . .

I am calm! All of the topics that discuss black men with white women refer to the white women as fat, ugly & old? WTF

Iya ctjs:

, so what, if the "FAT WHITE" doesn`t know, that hes married back home?

Are you trying to say that all white women are fat? Bullshit. Are there no FAT BLACK women? Arrow!