amitalian: I'd like to hear about a Nigerian man really truly falling madly in love w oh lets say and american woman... My story is for the 1st year he lied. diff pic, dead wife, sick kid, blah blah, my defense, i was new to the internet dating world, and u nigerians r soooooooooo suave w ur words, im a sucker for a sweet talker anyway, a year into it i finally see him on cam after he confesses to me who he really is. I was hurt, confused, all sorts of things, and he said to me that even tho the pic wasnt him everything else was...I focused on that and i was able to move on, however i will NOT say it still affects my trust for him.

AND another thing! i dont want to control and boss him or any man but i also want the same in return. I work, make money, pay my own way etc y cant i have a say?

when i sit my ass down all day and do nothing on him dime if he wanted me to lick his toes clean after a hard days pay we can talk about that lol.

so back to what i was saying... right now and it always has been, our ONLY problem is financial. i am guilty of sending him money, and hes gotten money to me, not equal amounts tho, and when i cant afford to do it he is NOW acting like a punk! I think i should pull back and not call or kiss his arse as much as i do, not to be playing games, but its affecting how i feel, not that i love him less... i guess the best way to describe it is u cut urself and it leaves a scar, and then the same things keep happening and eventually that scar gets bigger...I dont want to lose my feelings for him cause its been a VERY long time ive thought about anyone and dozzed off into dreamland with a smile on my face cause of thoughts of only him. I dont want that to go away, but after 2 years... i start questioning things. I'm not an ugly girl and not hurting for male attention, so im not desperate, i am just truly im love with him, (when i originally met him he stated he was from the us or i would have NEVER even considered more contact only due to the distance issue, I NEED REAL, REAL KISSES AND REAL TOUCHES, but i had already fallen for him b4 i found out)BACK to the main point... he has asked me for money $150 which i do not have and he is upset w me. Feels like hes playing me

He probably is!!! Stop sending him your hard earned cash!

Daresh: OP you need to stop watching porn. For the life of me i dont understand why one would want to ram into someones shit hole! like seriously? why not take a bottle and ram it up your own back door and see how it feels? You selfish punk

T-smooth:
1st of all...

Introduction . . . .

I think it can be built again, but it takes a lot of hard work & time.

Donxavier:

I agree a little but that's not all. A.nal sexx is a se.xual preference that's unnatural and by that I mean it wasn't made for such purposes, as in the anus isn't meant for sexx. But each to his/her own I realise the matter is a contentious one.

Was the mouth meant for sex?

amitalian:

No. Only on cam.

Just be careful.

drulbaba: Why is it that most people get complacent after they get their supposed missing rib/soul mate. Both guys and girls do this, when a guy falls in love or is pursuing the interest of a lady, he could move mountains if there needed be, but once he makes her his gf/wife, he stops all those romantic gestures and the relationship ends up in a rut. Same goes for the ladies, they would stop tryna look nice, be seductive, give compliments etc. I still don't understand this pattern

It's true. I think both need to be aware of it & continue to make an effort to keep the love & relationship alive.

How can you be apart from your husband for 5 years? I think you should move on & just look after yourself & your boys. He clearly doesn't seem to be making any effort to reconcile with you, he's out there having a great time, with no responsibilities or nagging wife at home! He doesn't deserve you & you know you deserve better!

@OP I really, truly hope it all works out for you & you have actually found your prince. Good luck Bleep

Serendipity: This is a crass gibberish and baloney.
What makes you think that men want respect alone. What kind of woolly and grim conclusion is that.
I'm a man and I NEED LOVE TOO. So the need for love is neither exclusive nor peculiar to women.
Hacked off...

Ooooooh thank goodness I didn't waste time reading all of that!

Good woman! Stay strong & keep walking. Make yourself & your daughter your priority & let him get on with his Nigerian wife or whatever she is!!!

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Rawpidgin: first of all, change this ur name, maybe naim dey affect ur relationship

What about just having some respect for your yourself, your wife and the vows taken in marriage? If you don't want to commit to one woman, don't get married, SIMPLE!

utumunta: You don't know how to speak english & he might not like that. Learn english before learning to drive cos an illiterate driver is the same with a blind one.

Personally I think that's just asking for trouble!!! There are plenty of other ways to spice things up. Would you permit your wife to have a one night stand in the name of "spicing things up" between you two

50calibre: Apart from the photo is Seal and his Model ex wife, these photos are an embarrassment to the image and status of Nigeria and Nigerians.

Look at the kind of wives these guys picked, the crumbs, the fat, the ugly, the old, the out of shape, the wrinkled up, damn!

For shame.

So are you saying that it's ok to marry fat, ugly and out of shape black women? Once they're black it doesn't matter what they look like?

It's 2013!!! My husband helps out in the kitchen, it's not a big deal!

@2sexy - I agree with almost every you've said! I'd rather be alone with my children & happy than waiting at home for my so called HUSBAND while he's out sleeping with other women. What can he give me that I cannot get for myself?!?!

True2myself24: Umm wtf? How is a woman supposed to react then when she catches her man cheating

Apparently you should just turn a blind eye!!! WTF?

Tedpgrass:

I think we should be fair in apportioning blame here.
They both did wrong...
she was well aware of his marital status,
...went ahead to marry him,
....sleep unprotected ..
..... and also to have the twins.. abortions are free ..

So she (white wife) deserves NO pity!!!!

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So, HE knew he had a wife back home but went ahead & married another lady. THEY BOTH had unprotected sex & she then gave birth to twins & SHE deserves no pity That's aportioning the blame fairly is it? It takes 2 people to make a marriage & it takes 2 people to make a baby, whether it's one or six babies! And you people that think it's ok to use abortion as a form of contraception should have been dealt the same fate as those babies that you're wishing the abortions on!!!!!!!!!

annawhite: you goofed big time,but a true african woman wouldn't want to let go of the husband no matter what!call your wife tell her you are coming home!
. . . .count ur losses,pack ur bags and come home but before leaving,have a heart to heart conversation with the white woman and the reason why you are leaving,no matter how selfish she is,she is still human .

No matter how selfish SHE is? What he did is SICK & I hope he gets what he deserves!!!!

ogugua88: We only have garri turners and trays. Aren't those normal? Or maybe I should use whisk or spatula to turn my garri?

I don't think I've seen a tray given out as a gift. Some other dumb things, like lunch bags and plastic bowls, but trays? No.

I was given a tray as a gift!

That video is DISGUSTING!!!!!