Favour2323: Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
Other girls has left him even with those qualities you claim he has.
Oluwole Owolabi who claims to be among top 10 Notorious Thugs in Mushin area of Lagos State was unhappy that Nigeria hasn't changed after 30-yrs that he left the country.
Thuggery moved him to abroad and he has change. Nonsense
NewDelhi: Cc TonyeBarcanista this is exactly what I was saying. A certain age will come when you try to flog a child and he'll hold your hands or hold the cane. As a parent, you should realize such child is already getting mature and he/she feels he shouldn't still be beaten like a kid.
Mikkymilli: In light of a recent trending video of a father flogging his daughter, a lot of people were of the opinion that she wasn't supposed to be flogged since she is 18 while majority (on twitter and nairaland) were in support of the father disciplining his daughter for going against his order.
On this note, I'll like to ask 'What age were you when your parents stopped flogging you?' And also, 'What age do you think is the right age for a parent to stop flogging the child?'
As for me, I think i was 12 then. My mom would use different tools like garri turner, slippers, cane, etc. Looking back now, I know it was all to mould me into the gentleman I am today. As for the second question, I think the flogging should stop before the child gets to senior secondary level so he/she won't develop an everlasting hatred for you (the parent) cos that teenage age can make or mar your relationship with your child. The child can be disciplined via other means, but not necessarily flogging.
The floor is open guys. What's your take on it?
My late dad was very good with advice. He never for once use his hand on anyone. A complete gentleman.
For my mum hmmmm a complete disciplinarian. She can flog for Africa.
The last time she flogged me was when I was in JSS 3. As I held her hand she knew I am now a man. Since then she no try me again. Lol.
Now she is aged and very welcoming compare to when she was young.
A calm father and a disciplinarian mother. Nice parents I got.
I've noticed these acen-like spots on my face since around 5 years ago. Then, I didn't pay much attention cause I was erroneously convinced into believing it was caused by eating too much oil. Well, I cut down my oil consumption totally and those spots remain there.
The shocking part is they exist only around my eyes. The remaining of my face is smooth except around my eyes.
I have used several ointments including Ytacan and Funbact- A, still no difference.
Recently, somebody prescribed an ointment called "RETIN-A" for me but before using it, I wish to seek advice from the good people of this forum.
Please, do I go ahead to buy the RETIN-A or there's a better option? I need advice, please.
All the doctors here are on leave till one month. Better go see any doctor in your locality.
robosky02: 14-year-old girl has been paraded by the Police in Bayelsa state after she left her home and parents to be with a boy she met on Facebook.
According to the 14-year-old girl whose identity was concealed, she left to meet the boy who she met on Facebook, with her bags. She claims he was surprised to see her with her bags and that night, she lodged with him, spent 3 nights there before he took her to his friends house.
According to the girl, she slept with the boy and after she was taken to his friends place to continue staying, she also willingly slept with his friend. She disclosed that she had stayed there for one month and she “only slept with the boys”.
What crime did the boys committed after all she said she willingly left her parents house and slept with two of the boys without being forced. Don't tell me it's her age ooo because in Bayelsa so many 14 yr old girls have given birth ooo
Apeshy102: Life may never remain the same for Mr Emmanuel Iloabuchi Iloanya after the Officer in Charge of Awkuzu Special Anti Robbery Squad (SARS), Mr. James O. Nwafor and his men allegedly killed his son Mr Chijioke Iloanya without getting justice.
Mr Iloanya in a telephone chat with News9naija recounts how his son was arrested and gruesomely killed in cold blood by one Mr Jame O. Nwafor, now a retired police officer attached to Awkuzu SARS who led his boys to a naming ceremony and arrested attendees which many of the arrested never made it out alive, unfortunately, Mr Chijioke John Ilonanya was amongst those who never made it out alive.
Upon learning about his arrest, on November 31, 2012, Mr Illoanya in company of his wife went to the Awkuzu Police Station were they met their son in handcuff, though they saw him there, they were driven out of the police station.
Unsettled with the proceedings, Mr Iloanya proceeded to the office of the Anambra State Commissioner of Police where he met the Commissioner and his deputy. Upon narrating his sons ordeal to them, they promised him that nothing would happen to his son, but this promised was never fulfilled.
Upon his subsequent visit to the commissioner, Mr Nwafor was summoned but never showed up.
It was on his visit to the Commissioner's office in January 2013 that the Deputy Commissioner of Police told him of his son's death.
Mr Iloanya proceeded to the Awkuzu SARS office where he met Mr James Nwafor. Upon request for his son's whereabouts, Mr Nwafor told him, "Go, I have wasted your son". This insensitive statement didn't go down well with Mrs Iloanya as she collapsed and was rushed to the hospital upon hearing what Mr Nwafor said.
Mr Iloanya didn't stop there, he went on to seek justice for his slain son, if not for anything but to at least retrieve his corpse from the SARS.
He met one, Rt Col. Emmanuel Udechukwu (now Late), a human right activist through who Mr Iloanya delivered the sum N1.5M to the Awkuzu SARS but nothing came forth.
Till now, Mr Iloanya has not set eyes on his son nor his corpse.
Mr Iloanya is calling on the Nigerian Police Force, NGOs and well meaning Nigerian to help him get justice for his son. He said, "I know that my son is dead, but i just want justice"
Marriage is overrated in Africa. Marriage is frustrating if there is money or no money. It has to do with pretence which people assume to be being responsible.
The truth is marriage is good but devil is still ruling the world.