freshvine:


Majority of you feel you're educated but lack comprehension.

Let me summarise for you please.

1. Op is saying that biological build of a man makes him stronger than a woman n literally.

If you become pregnant and your veegay sag after delivery, the man will be complete while you carry a loose veegay

If you brest feed, your boob is likely to sag, a man put you in that condition.

If you have multiple sex partners, the obvious is certainly the conditions of male contributors.

If you don't get involved with a man, definitely nature will deflower you in all attributes and that's leaves a body count but men nada.

We females tend to fight all logical conclusion with a pessimistic vibe and not until we're liberated from the unexplained vexation, we'll continue to fight against non existence inequality.

ivolt:


Our schools don't care about such social issues.

It is not even acknowledged as a problem by most
people except it results in death or a serious injury.

Even in those cases many will condemn the
man for going too far while blaming the woman for
"provoking" her husband.

But I have hope that social media exposure may help
reshape the minds of young men and help them realise
that violence is not an acceptable way of resolving problem.

eph12:

Then women should stop playing the victim and learn to understand their partners. No two relationships are same. Same with men. Everyone should understand their partners and adjust their lives to that effect. It's a marriage, not a vacation. Only reason one can have to back out is if he or she is violent.

ivolt:


Don't mind eph12, nothing has changed, many Nigerian men don't see their wives
as companions but servants and should the marriage has problem, the wife takes the
blame.
Even some "enlightened" men are not left behind as they want to retain the
overlord privilege enjoyed by their grand fathers, this won't have been a problem
but they want such privilege even when they fail to perform their primary duty.

eph12:

How can I agree with him? I DON'T! But I hate it when I hear a one sided story. In fact I haven't said anything about this thread, my previous discussion with ivolt brought me here. I am not one to listen to one side of an argument and pass judgement when I know there are always 3 sides to a story.

When I was in secondary school, I stayed with a family. The man was a full time pastor and very calm and gentle. The woman is one that can raise hell for insignificant things. Whenever she starts, the husband just either goes out or goes to sleep. When she is not nagging she's a very lovely wife and mother. Now this is a man that understands his wife and knows it's just one of her bad sides he shouldn't dwell on but manage with care after all there are many other good sides he can dwell on. I'm sure it's same for the woman too. This is what couples now are finding hard to understand or accept. Focusing on the bad sides and in the process forgetting how wonderful he or she was. Then she gets some advice from some wicked people not to accept some things that are actually not foolish or not relevant. This is unfortunately where we are right now.

SnowJay92:


The Man is no better than other domestic animal bro, even dogs pamper their female mates into submission when in heat, so the man's action is not justifiable at all, I didn't want to comment on that. Just reacting to that guy's comment.

eph12:

If this is how you have chosen to define an average Nigerian home, then you're not being truthful with yourself. This is my problem with social media. Creating problems that are not there or were there but have been taken care of. I see men wanting to be around their kids and play with them whenever the chance arises but no he is not involved in raising the child. Na so men don't love their wives or care about their emotions, they just want an house help. Abeggi

SnowJay92:


As if the woman wouldn't cry to high heavens if the man does anything as close to what you're implying.

ivolt:


Hating slavery doesn't mean someone wants to be a slave,
it is just a general aversion to inhuman treatment regardless
of the victim's identity.

eph12:

I'm more interested in the bold part. I look at families and see something different from what you're asserting here. Even if that's the case you think to cope with all the challenges everywhere in the quest for this money to feed 4 to 6 mouths is a joke? The pressure he has to overcome, the wish to see his family, especially wife and kids, get the things he couldn't enjoy as a kid, is what you refer to as "only" right? Isokay

hensben:
Mr have you ask yourself why there is high rate of divorce in western world...too much liberty to the female folks, of course, women misinterprete liberty and over use it, they see it as an opportunity. To deal with male folks.

kinglekan:




I for one would not say I am well grounded in every issue, as a matter of fact I am NOT. Yet I read about things I don't have a slightest interest in. Am not a literature person but a thread came up few months ago on Adichie and El Nathan and I took my time to go through it. I learnt a lot.

dany87:
Well argued!! ^^

queensmith:


That may as well be true - if I was ignorant enough to use nairaland as a case study for Nigerian women I will likely assume the same.

I have already mentioned a few reasons why women will not engage in political debates here on NL (bullying) as well as why you are more likely to find them in Fashion, Family and Romance (cultures and traditions).

queensmith:


Her observation is flawed - she couldn't have made them in a classroom or from academic literature?

Look at it this way - if i attended an arsenal match at emirates or even the local sports bar what conclusion do you think i'm going to draw if I decided to embark on a political or even academic conversation?

Again, we know female attainment is down to a number of factors, it isn't as simple as 'i listened to a radio program and women are stewpid'.

Let me give you an example
I have made the same conclusions from typical Nigerians I met in the workplace, in fact I have vowed never to hire a specific Nigerian ethnic group because of my experience. Tell me is this fair to those individuals?

Chinum:


What's ur definition of a stating a pandemic fact. @ red coloured, u ended doing exactly what you r claimed to abhor through the green coloured.

pcguru1:


Stayed in Lagos 90% of my life, and I can tell you one thing, in other states you can say Igbo or Yoruba but here you have Igbos and Hausa speaking hardcore Yoruba language and integrating with the culture and what i can say is that in Lagos there is no sense of entitlement just because of your tribe, its all about money and power.

I want people to sit down and think hard about why they are voting, like someone said "Voting JK doesn't change the Oba's statement"

also am not in support of the Oba i don't even know the guy sef

Remarkable:


Not all Yorubas condemned the Oba... and some went further to call Igbos names.

What most Igbos said was that they were now going to vote for Jimi; if you saw the Oba being called names, that might have been later than I saw anyways. however, the truth is, that you can't intimidate an Igbo man just like that; if he retorts back to you "mba a na-abara agu" ... if pretty much saying that you can not shoo away a lion the way you shoo away a chicken or we often say "Hua" to the hawk to drop the little chick it swooped down on...

before i digress... and in conclusion, Igbos are peace loving. We mean noharm. We don't steal land, we buy the land with the weat off our borws.... so when you hear Igbos saying its no man's land etc... its not that they do not know who the first migrants to Lagos were, but I am sure o f this - it has always been in response to an act, whether perceived or actual, of aggression towards them.

You will not be minding your business in Lagos and out of no where an Igbo will come and be yelling in your face that lagos is no man's land. We have better things to do. Isnt time, money?

pcguru1:


Thank you my brother that's why people don't understand its our lively hood that's at stake, I have tried to see something good about Agbaje but i can't find anything the only thing i know is that the people behind him are nothing but rogues not that APC is any better but with PDP I don't see them taking Lagos to the next level.

pcguru1:
LOL I'm just laughing Jimi Agbaje is really brilliant, Playing the tribe card, really am Youruba, But Tribe means nothing to me what's so funny is that the so called JK is actually capitalizing on the igbo's hatred for the Oba's statement to gain votes by causing or playing the tribe card, Igbos feel the need to show the Oba a lesson.

Am not against anyone voting Jk after all it's election you're free to exercise your right. But am just here to tell you that when you are voting remember , you are voting for own benefit and not out of spite. Think about it if Lagos can service itself without Federal help all these years, isn't it a good opportunity to finally have a party that aligns with the Federal level, I am assuming this is the opportunity to finally have alot of Projects take off, I don't really see the PDP really doing anything, just going by their statements they intend to undo everything APC has setup. Am only laughing because it's funny to something so trivial discussed here, who cares Igbo,Yoruba,Hausa,Aliens you all know this is only meant to harvest votes. Politicians don't give a Bleep about anybody. Have fun though you are voting for the next 4 years of your life.

efonat:
No matter d amount of money a woman has, a virtuous woman will always submit to her husband. It is ind Bible that the man is the head of a home and wives submit to Urr husbands! !!!

misfab:
@op wat tribe are u guys..that wuld go a long way to xplain tins.