Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks

bro if its not study or work visa
its not adviceable

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

If you like no go meet olosho

kayus621:
It was during my national youth service year in Akwa Ibom State when our paths first crossed. We were both posted to ukanafun as National Youth Service Corp(NYSC) members, and little did I know that this would be the beginning of a beautiful journey.

From the moment we met, I was captivated by her warm presence. She had a way of making me feel at ease, and her infectious laughter filled the room. She had a nickname for me, "Kayo," which she said in a playful and sexy way. It quickly caught on, and soon, my fellow colleagues started calling me by that name too.

As we got to know each other, our connection deepened. We discovered shared interests, passions, and dreams. But one of our most cherished moments was when we started coming out at night to talk about our lives under the moonlight. It became our sacred time, where we could share our deepest thoughts, dreams, and fears.

We had made it a tradition to come out at night and share our lives with each other, reminiscing about our past, our secondary school experiences, and our university lives.

But one thing that always stood out for me was when she spoke about her former job as a receptionist. There was something enchanting about the way she told her stories, especially when it happened under the moonlight. It was as if the moon itself was lending an ear, illuminating her words and giving them a magical touch.

I would listen intently as she painted vivid pictures with her words, describing the challenges she faced and the interesting people she encountered. She had a way of making even the simplest of tasks sound fascinating and captivating. And as she spoke, I could feel myself being transported into her world, experiencing every moment alongside her.

It was during these nights that I truly got to know her on a deeper level, understanding the experiences that had shaped her into the person she was today.

Sometimes, we would sit in silence, just basking in each other's presence, the moonlight creating a serene ambiance around us.

But it wasn't always smooth sailing. Like any close relationship, we had our fair share of misunderstandings. However, what set us apart was our commitment to resolving those misunderstandings under the moonlight.

When disagreements arose, we would find ourselves back in our special spot, away from the distractions of the world. There, under the moonlight, we would open up to each other, expressing our thoughts and feelings with honesty and vulnerability.

We were willing to confront our differences head-on, to listen and understand each other's perspectives. Under the moonlight, we would apologize, forgive, and embrace each other's flaws. It was in those moments of vulnerability that our bond grew even stronger. We learned to appreciate the beauty of compromise and the power of understanding.

Looking back on those nights, I realize that our misunderstandings were not obstacles but opportunities for growth. They allowed us to learn more about ourselves and each other, deepening our connection in ways we never thought possible.

As the days turned into weeks and the weeks into months, our bond grew stronger. We became each other's confidants, supporting one another through the ups and downs of our service year. Whether it was navigating the challenges of our assigned tasks or finding solace in the unfamiliar surroundings, we were there for each other every step of the way.

Looking back, I realize that meeting her during my youth service year was no coincidence. It was a serendipitous moment that brought us together, shaping the course of our lives in ways we couldn't have imagined.


Today is her birthday so I created a website specially to wish her a happy birthday, there you will find our memories together, please help me wish her a happy birthday. Check my signature for the website link, you can drop your wishes for her on the site, through her whatsapp or Facebook.
God bless you as you help make her birthday a memorable one🙏

Tears

DrakeCrush:
Did you know millions of people buy ebooks on Amazon daily? you don't need to be an author before you create and upload yours for free within 3days with my full support . It's easier than expected.You can start with small volume ebooks like 24 pages with good title/content. I would guide you on ways to upload it on Amazon through their Kindle Direct Publishing (KDP), how to create foreign account to receive payment etc.My students that upload up to 5 short books are cashing out monthly from Amazon.
Did you know also that there are apps that can help you write over 100 pages instantly? I would take you through fast lane.
The course is valued above N20,000 but I would be offering it for just N1500 (almost free) to empower only 120 serious individuals. Now you don't have to wait till you have money before you start business.
Chat me now to get sample of my lesson and learn more ..

Another thief spotted

Dvyne777:
O8 fully bullet proofed Mercedes Benz
E350 for Sale in abuja
Everything sharp
Going for 23m firm
Call or Whatsapp 08069934430

This op don high since

solsticey2k3:
Finally! The price of fuel will now go back to N187

Keep playing

Zonefree:
Go and buy dollar and keep.

You smoke??
Dollar wey de crash and uncrash every second

essentialone:
What is the most useless certificate you have ever gotten?

Inter house sport participation cert

ahnie:
This morning I decided to create time to hangout with OUR kids because they will be going to grandma's place for the holidays.

So I decided to take them to chicken republic first to get food,my kids loves food.

Then we proceeded to ShopRite mall to pick one or two things.

After then we headed to cartege cinema which has a gameville and we presented our already funded card and have mad fun.


We really enjoyed ourselves.
Zino used her card to pay for all we bought....the beautiful thing is that dem get their own cards.

And get access to the pins.

Mods de Bleep up
How this rubbish take enter front page

bigdeals:
13.7m

The highest I can give you for this is 11.5m?

bigdeals:
buy

11m?

tensazangetsu20:

This kind people no dey find work o. I no sure say any company can afford someone like that as a full time staff. Look at the physics alone sef.

Three.js

preciouswoman66:
I've been looking for some java spring and spring boot online resources for learning but available ones I could get are old and not too beginner friendly. Why is it like that?

And please don't tell me documentations is the best go to resources to learn as a beginner. Docs is good when you're looking for a specific concept to learn or understand, not to get started in it as a fresher.

Also please drop online resources for Java spring and spring boot if you know any excluding java brains YouTube channel, and baeldulg website

Oga go and buy udemy or cousera course

Nobleladycakes1:


Can you teach me please?

Pay 5k

fadilaMaikiriki:
I want to take these to feel good tonight! Who wants to join?

What do we have here?

We have;

Cucumber
Banana
Apple
Tiger nuts( both fresh and dry ones)
Dates
Groundnuts
Watermelon
Guava
Garden eggs


Attached below are pictures;

Big boyyyy

Crystalom35:
It's not a lie. Everything grows and sometimes a man just have to do what he needs to do.

I have been with this wonderful girl for a while now.

The relationship has been very good and peaceful. I couldn't ask for more.

But recently things have not been the same and I've been rethinking a lot of my decision and one of those is sex.

Sex life is good but lately I'm becoming afraid.

First off, I won't want to abort her pregnancy if it shows up. But then again, I won't be able to maintain her and the baby if she were to give birth.

I don't have much more as I'm still in school and she's still in school.

So, we are both living off our parents.

And it would be disastrous if pregnancy should come in especially these trying times.

So I'm considering hanging the boots and keeping away from sex from now on.

I just am afraid she'll cheat on me in the long run but then again, my fear of "irresponsibility" of not being able to take care of the pregnancy if it ever happens is worse.

So, now this relationship needs a new direction. Maybe I'm wrong. I just don't know.

Oga do whatever makes you sleep at night

Taylor90:
From PH & been to all SS states

Been to Anambra Imo Abia

Did my NYSC in Ondo and been to Lagos once

And will never in this life or next have any reason to travel to North

God no go gree

Even if Jesus is doing crusade in Bornu state I’ll not attend

Before Boko Haram and Fulani herders use person do suya

Kaduna,Niger,Anambra,Abuja
Saddd

Treadway:


https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2023-08-09/nigerian-naira-drops-to-record-as-black-market-dollar-rate-soars

We warned and warned, but y'all didn't listen. The chimps up there have learnt nothing from 2015/2016 when Buhari made this same shitty call to remove subsidy and float naira in one fell swoop in a country like Nigeria. Now they have successfully FAILED, yet again. A move from officiall/parallel rates of 450/720 to 750/1000(in a few days) is a very successful FAILURE. Smh

I'll always say this
Find a way and earn in dollars

I get udemy course for free
The vids are very large and high quality

Chill everyone
Will update later this evening or tmmrw morning

PaganTerrorist:
I want to make an application. Application is meant to be used by women to measure appropriate bra sizes for their breasts. In order to do so, they must take pictures of their breasts and the app will tell them what type of bra is good for them. I want all those images processed and safely stored on a separate server (for me to look at them), while basic app will be just an interface for server communication. Can any of you do this?
The server would be hosted at my farming facility in Dutse.
I can't seem to work on this alone , looking to expand my horizons
Stack being used : Kotlin and PHP

Mumu wan see wetin pass him power

Please forgive my writing ,I didn't proofread the writeup and I never liked writing in the first place
So now what's the plan??
I thought of going back to js,then I realized that I covered js or rather I have the required knowledge of js for frontend e.g ES6 .And that going back to js would mean that there hasn't been progress since April.
I went back to my drawing board this morning ,and the plan is to learn react and learn it like my life depends on it,because it actually does..
Due to fact that I watched lots of YouTube buds on react last months. I have some knowledge on it.
The plan is to learn react ,like I mean learn every bit of it ,leaving no part untouched.
I always wanted to document my progress but I've been feeling lazy to do it.so today I just had a feeling to document.
So in these write up and after 8½months into web dev .My lessons so far
-Stay in one place:Focus on a stack,become really good in it.it can change your life
-Network:I have few friend into dev sha,but due to the fact that I got that job opportunity that I didn't take.its a lesson that taught me that your network is your net worth.
Practice:I really wish I could go back in time to practice,since I will be changing my laptop,I'll practice as much as I can and build projects
I still have plans to finish my uncompleted learning
Roadmap
React
React Native
Firebase
Php
This time I'm going to use udemy courses
Another important reason of documenting this journey is because I have this feeling that there's a lot of potential in react.somewhere in my mind I have this feeling that react will be my breakthrough into tech
Nairalanders should pray for me lol..
So I'll come back this evening or tmmrw to document what I've learnt so far.Because I believe documenting will help track your progress and reading this few years to come would be delightful...
The journey starts today

Ohh I almost forgot
I tried learning Photoshop for web dev
Had a udemy course on it.went halfway then stopped
My laptop was faulty but that wasn't the issue,the issue was my commitment.
After watching that react jobs slide away,I decided to learn react
Went on FCC to learn,their exercises are trash and outdated ,went to w3schools as well
Their courses couldn't meet my expectation.
Downloaded books and YouTube vids,it became worse ,I couldn't still understand. Time kept on going.
So on a react group I'm on some sent me a roadmap, so I decided to follow it.
During the past month I watch videos on jsx,props,rendering,react router,redux,hooks,tailwind CSS,mui,react query,Apollo,jest
But I didn't practice yet
About two months ago ,I read the php learning on w3 schools
Its quite short,so I download a book on php ,almost 700pages,I'm at the point of connect to db using PDO.
Went on YouTube too and downloaded a php playlist it has almost 150 vids
Could finish it,deleted it.
So yesterday I checked my google drive and saw a udemy react course .the course was shared on a group since april.I went to preview the course it's quite up to standard.

Alright
Not really good with NL interface
Let me continue
Learnt basics of node,npm,routing etc
Moved to express,I was still jotting notes and cramming .
But I felt like my js knowledge is not strong
While still learning a friend of mine designed a ui with just HTML/CSS ,it looked good .so I trued designing it ,couldn't do it
So I went back to CSS ,downloaded a boom of 700pages ,read the book,it took a while tho.
That book was a great read and this time I practiced what I learnt Lol..
So after doing CSS the second time I moved to js .I told myself I would conquer js
I downloaded books that were recommended on NL here.I think eloquent js was one of them .never even read those books.
I discovered freecodecamp aka FFC and w3schools.My biggest mistake was dumping those books.One of the problems I have is commitment. When I'm commited to something I'll put in all my best but it'll only be for a short while.
Was doing js on FFC .this time I learnt things in ES6 and a lot more that weren't covered in the udemy course.Those that know FFC would know that there's a section for data structure and algorithm.I could do the basic ones but the immediate one I definitely ran away
A friend of mine told me someone was looking for a react assistant.that job would have given me a lot I require,it would give me experience, little money,networks.
I couldn't accept the job due to my weak knowledge.

Hello
I'm not much of a writer, couldn't even think of a good name as the subject .I created this diary because I want to document my learning progress and I just need somewhere to express myself as well as connect to other devs.Alright,pardon my writing skills
So I'm in my late teens ,a sibling of mine adviced me to go into tech about 3 years ago which was lockdown,I started with HTML CSS but I got bored of it so I stopped.
Fast forward to last year I picked it up in December finished in January
Started js in January ,I actually do blame my self for using an outdated course,the course was based on ES5 but irrespective I continued,due to fact that it was a udemy course not all the topics were covered.I learnt bootstrap,jquery too.
I blame myself but till today for one thing which is not practicing
I watch videos, jot down,keep the notes ,read them from time to time, but I never practice.
I thought I was making progress,I did make progress but the progress is way to small to the effort put in.
The udemy course covered stuff like var,basics,array ,function then DOM ,jquery
After that next in line was node
I moved into nodejs without ever writing a script tag or practicing what I learnt in js.Can you imagine?? Lol..
In process
I'll end here so the writeup won't be long

Racoon:



https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Styl-Plus

One of the best musical groups in 9ja ever
Hadiza and Olufunmi are gold sha

Slynation:
It's been 5years I'm outta Kaydee so I don't know the happening places around there anymore, me and my cousin driving around Barnawa, Viviana down to Green apples to Top Galaxy...!! See babes everywhere!! Na horn we dey carry scope girls!!

Gone are those days shaah...!!

True talk

Flipmac:
Hi guys, please where can I meet hook up girls in kaduna? Any spots where they hang around at nights?

I'm lodged at a hotel around Television Garage.

I'm offering a N500 airtime reward.

Thanks.

Oga go and hustle
Always looking for cheap things

qtguru:
I've done PHP freelance for years and heading back to it, what do you want to know ?

Could I message you directly?
Sent you a request

Flipmac:
I'm looking for a big hotel around kaduna town for N5k per day.

I've seen a few but they're mostly bungalow guest houses with a few rooms.

It has no privacy and looks like you're living in a family house.

I'm looking for a big hotel, if possible, a multiple storey building with many rooms.

Please recommend one and I'll send you N1k airtime.

Thanks.

Message me if youre serious