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pocohantas:
He doesn't deserve one. I wouldn't know why you keep recommending this.

He should stay single.
Men do not benefit from marriage.🙏

You ehnnn

Nazgul:
Do single guys actually pay single mothers with kids to sleep with them....🤔

I am just saying if they are going to go that low, there are young girls of 21-25 years old with kids that can be priced low and still get a good satisfaction pending when man soup done.
Spiritual konji is real bro.

femi4:
It's poverty induced mentality...that gender is in surving mode in this part of the world

Relationship as never been about Love in the first place.
The earlier most men know this, the better for them.
Below all the I Love You and co, there is an underlining business behind it.
The women want comfort that comes from a man - money, to solve their life problems, sex etc and the man wants sex, kids if he wishes, rest of mind, respect etc.
If you have this at the back of your mind, you will always seek to look beyond Love, sex and beauty from a woman if you position yourself well and know what you are doing.

Nazgul:
Hookup isn't even the solution cos if you're spending 20k on hookup per night for 15 nights in a month, that's going to be about 300k per month. What is his net income that he would be willing to cough out such amount on sex?

His solution is to get a working class girlfriend. Or better still stay single and build his life.

There are even a lot of single mothers with 1 to 3 kids that will jump at the offer of extra 50k per month to whatever they are doing be it selling food or clothes or whatever and still give you regular sex like 3 times a week.
Everybody go dey alright laslas

Honestly, i think it is going to be a good deal for many rich and middle class men but not too good for poor men.
The truth is that you will always get a woman at your bargaining price.
Don't be scared about ladies charging 100k, 200k. It makes it look as if all would be like that but no, there will be those who are going to collect 5k for a weekend, 10k etc.
There are prostitutes collecting 1k to nack, 2k, 5k etc depending on your pocket and there are those top class collecting millions from politicians and drug dealers.
If you are giving your woman 300k per month for feeding with 2 kids, it may not be necessary again since you can always give a babymama 100k to do that while you keep a young girl in university on 10-15k per weekend or 40-60k per month on your payroll to quietly do the job while you can save the rest.
Since some women wan craze, make all of us craze together.

shoodboi2:
Wahala 😂😂😂

bigpicture001:
The girl I know in pH.. immediately she travels to the UK sh stopped dating her long time pH boyfriend who is also a graduate and huzling... Sh is a doctor..

She later came back for him , guess when..? 9 years later after she past 37 years .. marriage pressure hooked her.. sh couldn't hold a man down in the UK...

The guy agree , knowing sh doesn't love him.. got there , worked for 3years, gathered her money , paid her back, told her why he will. Leave and left her..

His argument is that, u dumped me at the most crucial stage, we could have been married very very long ago.. but u chose class over real. Love.. me also I dnt want to marry an old lady too.. upon sh is a doctor, the guy never cared.. ND left

That is a wise guy there

Martinez39s:
Oga, forget all these tactics. You can't play the system over there. The lawyers and judges have seen it all, and are fully prepared. They are even anticipating anything sneaky you might want to pull.

That tactic he is recommending, do you think other men haven't thought of it? Are you that smart? Are other men that dumb? Are you that special?

Best thing to do abroad is never get married.

easytig:
Person that her parents can't sponsor her to nursing school or pay for her ticket abroad,has sent you back to Nigeria.

In your next life never help a woman pass her level 😂😂

My elder brother told me back then in university that"Na the Level you meet woman you go use follow am yarn" e.g a girl that her mama dey sell okrika has no business entering airport or lounge to relax 😂😂

SeaTrade:
SMUGGLING!!Can kill any industry overnight.
And you can't produce cheaper than China locally for a host of reasons:
1)Cheap,accessible credit. (No news here,you can't borrow at 35% and want to compete with who is borrowing at single digits.Only drug dealers can borrow in Nigeria and not default)
2)Large Skilled human capita(No need to emphasise this much,a bunch of Nigerian labourers are poorly skilled,low work ethic and overall stupid)
3)Infrastructure deficit(movement/tonne cheaper in China than Nigeria)
4)Diverse economy(Chinese corporations will get the bulk of their production components within and import so little or nothing).

The only option to keep our local textile industry alive is to create protectionist policies,however smugglers will crack it and make it useless and even corrupt the same people the are to enforce your protectionist agenda.
Industry goes belly up,
Nigerians remain in poverty and mass flee the country,
Enter Europe and America and pack shit(few will make it out of shit and warehouse sha,but can't say so for everyone)

You get bad mouth bro

Ballzproblemm:
I overheard one young girl who I think she should 19 , telling her friend that she wants a boyfriend that will spend on her ,I shook my head.

Sadly that's what majority of relationships in Nigeria are all about,women looking for men that spend ,no love ,no commitment,no talks about the future,just spend .


And it's always the girls that are looking mid smh .

Actually, have gotten to a stage i really don't see anything wrong in this.
It has always been the default setting of relationship for ages.
There is a higher chance of your relationship or marriage surviving in a set-up where the man provides and the woman gives sex and nuture your kids than the one built on Love.
Love has failed more relationships that money will ever do....a Fact.
Most of the people even roaming the surface of the earth are/were not born out of Love relationships.
My grandparent didn't born out of Love.
My grandmum was given to my grand-dad because he could provide and take care of her as a cocoa farmer and merchant and not Love.
He provided and my grandmum gave him kids and nuture them for him....Finito

Hezzyluv:
When everywhere stew for you, you no remember to advice people how to follow you make this money. Na when things sour, you come stylishly do GoFundMe dey use advice cover wetin most people know abi?

Anyway, the information has been passed.

tensazangetsu20:
Migration is never an easy decision. Honestly, I came to Chile because I initially planned to use it as a stepping stone to move to the USA. But after everything I went through in this country, especially during my first few months, I don’t think I ever want to start over from scratch again.

Chile has been good to me, and now I see real possibilities to achieve my ultimate goals here. Of course, the USA might make the path to my dreams easier, but starting fresh in a new country, even with a green card, is not something I’m willing to go through anymore.

I was looking at my AFP contributions today, and it reminded me of those tough early days how they used that system to make life so difficult for me when I was job hunting. Every time you apply for a job, the first thing they ask is: do you have AFP? Do you have Fonasa or Isapre? Fonasa and Isapre are types of health insurance here. It was a classic chicken-and-egg problem you can’t get a job without them, but you need a job to get them.

And it’s not just work. Even renting a decent apartment comes with the same obstacles. Landlords ask for your AFP, your health insurance, and your last six months of salary slips.

Now, imagine going through all of that for a country, building that foundation, contributing, struggling, and then after a few years, leaving it behind to start over somewhere else. How many times can a person hit reset in one lifetime? How many years do we really have?

Thank God you realize that now.
Reason have been having a cold feet relocating.
I can't just throw everything have achieved here in the dustbin to start afresh somewhere.
How long do I have left? What happens to enjoying my life with the little young and best age if things are working here for me.
Moreover, I am not mandated to do it all. My parent took me far a bit, mine is to make the ground softer for my kids to relocate if they want.
Have done the hardest part for them.
Make them sef work, else they'll think life is all rosy and only think of partying or clubbing like politician kids.
I am in this life to enjoy myself too and not to be the family slave

0neal:
Even after a well balanced analysis on the male struggle, how most men are invisible without STATUS.

the sisterhood were fixated and squirming like a warm salt was sprinkled on, because you have young female options attracted to you, which they enjoyed since from puberty till they were ready to settle down.

The gaslighting and female twisted logic stinks

You summed it up bro.
Better to just overlook such statements

WriteerNg:
🇷🇺 🇷🇺 🐻 ❤️

OZIOGU1:
and i must say that, they new olosho in town are married women, trust me the rate is alarming, but las las, na man wey loseguard go suffer for woman hand.

Though this shouldn't come as a surprise.

The girls/ladies sleeping around yesterday, who were not faithful to their boyfriends yesterday are today's wives....Abi them go mould different women send come down for men to marry ni?
The women had a wrong foundation during their youth ages that is manifesting now.
So also, the girls you are seeing on dating sites, tik-toks, hotels, multi-dating and sleeping with yahoo-boys, politicians etc are going to be the randy unfaithful wives in 10 years time.
You can't plant apples and be expecting tomatoes.
Marriage nor wedding doesn't change people....if you smoke igbo before marriage, wedding won't change it.
If you are a yahoo boy / scammer before marriage, wedding won't change it
If you are a hired killer before marriage, wedding won't change it.
So why will wedding or marriage change a Hoe?

rapheal5:
It’s almost impossible to find a lady who has money and be submissive, if you find one, trust me she’s either in her late 30’s or 40’s desperate to have a child and the moment she got what she want say bye bye to submission…Marriage is becoming a bondage, it takes excess patience and a bit of LANDE for a man to make marriage work…

A bit of LANDE bawo nitori Olohun

Everydaylove:
If you have a failed marriage with kid/kids pls don't remarry. It's not worth.it It's an opportunity for you to take your life back and enjoy it to the full.

Exactly - Just enjoy your life to the fullest like the way women would do.
Follow tour groups to rwanda ffor a week for 1.8m once a year, east africa tour - Uganda, tanzania, kenya for 2m, etc
Play golf, tennis, swim, gym, cinema etc
You will just be looking fresh and poking ladies without the needed stress of keeping any.
There is so much to enjoy for men yet they are eager to run back to marriage after divorce

Starz825:
Its a serious issue tbh

even relationship is not the way they used to be now

i have come to notice a thing

men should also learn how to live alone

for some women...its not always abt that the man doesnt have money to offer them.

its about her ego, pride, beauty, money, her hunger for independence from a man.


Once a woman is pretty and rich and probably has a child or 2........SHE WANTS INDEPENDENCE!!

Most women are still with their hubby cos may be they are poor, cant bisect life alone and all... not really cos they love their hubby

From your write up, it is obvious the problem is not mostly men but women.
Too much option is as bad as no option.
People tend not to take things serious if they don't need to invest sweat before getting it and if it is easy to get another one unlike men.
Most men marry not because of what they can get from a woman rather, ready to put in the work unlike women.
There is a direct relationship between job loses and divorce.
If we experience a global recession today and millions of men lose their jobs, within 1-4 years, divorce rate will go up - meaning most women never love men rather what they can get from men.
It has always been like that though. My grandpa didn't marry my grandma because of love rather he could provide as a cocoa farmer and she is meant to be subservient to him and they had a longer and better relationship.

tensazangetsu20:
I totally understand why so many men become red-pilled. Back in university, I was practically invisible to women, it was as if I didn’t exist. I remember mustering the courage to tell a Gabonese girl I liked her, and she hit me with, “What’s your like or love going to do for me?” I was so ashamed of myself.

I studied marine engineering at a maritime university, and if you know anything about that field, you know how tough it is to get a job without solid connections. Some companies would visit our school to recruit, but out of a class of 70, they’d hire maybe eight students. And, of course, those eight were the ones all the girls wanted to date because their futures seemed secure.

Then came life after university, and it was even more brutal. I barely had clothes to wear. Most of my trousers were torn at the back, and I just had to manage. I tried starting a business, but it failed miserably. At that point, it felt like all hope was lost.

That’s when I decided to learn coding, not because I had high expectations, but because I kept seeing ads during COVID: “Learn to code and work from home.” I figured I had nothing to lose. Little did I know that single decision would change my life completely.

I started struggling my way through, hustling on Upwork, then moving to Reddit, applying for jobs anywhere I could find an opening, and learning interview skills. Back then, people laughed at me, but little by little, things started improving. I began making decent money by Nigerian standards, but I refused to upgrade my life because my focus was on leaving Nigeria. Every month, I saved as much as I could while researching my best options. That’s how I discovered Chile, and once I had enough money, I left.

The beginning was tough, but looking back now, I’m so glad I made the move. The version of me that was once invisible to women now has them smiling at me and trying to talk to me all the time. But none of that matters because I only love one woman, and she’s the only one I want to be with.

Your story is not uncommon.
It is similar to what is happening to billions of guys out there.
I had my own fair share of women snubbing too during my early days with nothing to show.....broke.
That is why i find it hard being faithful now that everywhere done stew.........if you rubbish me during my struggling days, why should i follow love during my hay days?
Have come to realize it is not just a woman thing rather a Human thing.
When you are nobody - family, church, pastor, girls etc all ignore you and you are invincible but when you start earning fine, they all start singing your praises.
I hope the woman you Love is your mum and not one yeye girlfriend....because bro, na owo epo oooooo
As you are growing, as i am growing and other men growing, please never ignore to wisely invest because if you go broke again, believe me, that coldness and invincibility, insults from women would come back again.
Your money is your shield.
If you go broke, it is as good as you being NAKED

shoodboi2:
🇮🇱⚡🇸🇾 Syrian medical sources: 3 civilians killed and 19 injured in Israeli shelling of sites in the city of Daraa.

*It's ok, according to the latest FATWA by Jewlani, Zionists can kill Syrian people and instead HTS will attack Muslim countries instead.*

Coward

Ojagun:
Abi?!
One of them actually insinuated he is in the Matrix film

JOACHINpedro:
Sadly, most commenters here need more help than the op

Asonaijaaso:
Every time Iran is hit, they respond openly—with missiles flying straight to Israel. No covert ops, no deniability. They even announce it beforehand. That tells you they can strike Israel directly—anytime they choose.

Yes, they have natural allies—Lebanon, Yemen, Palestine—not because of some “sinister axis,” but due to shared culture, language, and history. If you attack Lagos state from Niger state, do you really think Oyo, Ogun, and Ekiti will just chill? That’s not alliance—that’s kinship.

The narrative the media sells is riddled with bias. These are the same storytellers who swore Saddam had weapons of mass destruction—a lie the world swallowed whole, only to discover he had none.

So spare us the spin. Some of us read beyond the headlines.

I love your points.
A keen follower

PresidObi:
You mean that someone actually committed suicide because of that overripe paw paw? The only fine thing about the lady is her handbag.

Gandrova:
As a rational thinker, if your status changes, it not necessarily for you to change your friends you should upgrade them to be on the same level.
You are supposed to use money not money to use you.

Lol

Common bro... Are you for real?
Most guys that japa to Canada/US/UK will come back and use their money to upgrade their old friends on street? Common bro.
Why not flash back, most of your childhood friends, where are they?
How many have upgraded you after moving away from your street and doing good for themselves?
How many have you upgraded too?
You think Mikel, Obafemi martins that got upgraded playing in Europe pull their childhood friends up? They may help but that is it. Nothing more.
Their taste will change to moving with fellow footballers, dating magazine girls/celebrities/hot class babes, traveling to islands for vacation and not carrying their childhood friends around like handbags.
Even musicians - 2face upgraded but had to just help blackface and face, nothing more.
His taste, environment and everything has changed and he needs to adjust to the new life and friends.
Such is life even though it is bitter to swallow.

Gandrova:
My friend trained his girl friend in such a similar way.
She got work with Airline and dump him for good.
I just pray she will not betray him

Lol.
Why won't she?
When your status changes, everything about you change - your circle of friends, your environment/where you live, your taste and so your relationship.
When take unnecessary risks women will rather die than take alot

IamHonourable1:
I wish I could tell you my stories, but don't worry, your own experience is waiting for you just by the corner

Please tell us make we learn from your mistake

Racoon:
Chai! Your nation is missing in action courtesy of the economic cluelessness of Buhari and then Tinubu but your stolkholm syndrome obsession is the good old days of yesteryears. To be a warped fella is not easy.

I don't know how true is this but the equitorial guinea I know and have been to twice is a very very poor country with impoverished citizens.
PPP is just total output divided by population.
So the lower your population, the higher your figure.
Equitorial guinea is just 2m people, just half of Ogun state yet pumping out and exporting crude oil which is been shared only by the political class only