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[quote author=Omotoyosi98 post=65627836][/quote]is it not the same bernabeu ni? The last time they paired us in champions league, Barcelona qualified ahead of them, Barcelona even beat them 2.0 at the bernabeu. Elclassico is always Elclassico, be it friendly, champions league, laliga etc. They played friendly in the pre season and everybody used their best players and played the match as if theres something big at stake. They know each other very well.

pawsofdikeje:
1. I wont accept this information because the minimum wage in nigeria presently is N18,000.00 and paying a constable N9568.00 is below that wage apprconstable he government years back.

OP should do his/her reasearch again and come back

lol. Those ones ure talking about are police constable and and above. Police recruit is the police still undergoing training in the police training college and the 9k is more like an allowance because they feed them 3 times daily at the training camp. The police ranks starts from constable whose salary is 43k.

felix10:
And u said police recruit attached to senator,commissioner,governor etc should not carry their wife bags,man must shup now.N9,000 for 30 days not even up to minimum wage.What is wrong with this country? How can this set of people work faithfully.

lol. Those ones ure talking about are police constable and and above. Police recruit is the police still undergoing training in the police training college and the 9k is more like an allowance because they feed them 3 times daily at the training camp. The police ranks starts from constable.

hollywater:
You pay someone 9k,when 1 bag of rice is sold for 18k.Yet you expect him/her not to extor money from innocent people?It's not possible.

He is actually not spending the 9k. Police recruit is a person undergoing training and in their training camp, they feed them 3 times daily till they pass out and becomes police constable. The police officer salty starts from that 43k. The lowest rank is constable.

Haha, reminds me of abacha, babangida, maina, tinubu etc. Muslims are the grandmaster of corruption in nigeria.

seunny4lif:
Senegal ( 5 months) :
The best west Africa for me, 90% Muslims nation but you wouldn't even know. You can slap a Soldier in Senegal no problem but do that to police officer and be ready for 4 months in Jail.
Apart from Dakar, the other areas are not much developed
NB:
Dakar is so nice but Igbo boiz has made Senegalese police to be targeting Nigerians.
They believe all Nigerians are Scammers becos that what most Nigerians in Senegal do for living.
Churches have so many programs for Scammers and vigil to help them see Magas.
Don't be surprise when you see Europeans travelling with you inside the Bus o Oooh even within the city



Niger Rep (4 months):
Nothing much diff from Northern Nigeria but Alcohol is legalized and the country own more than 4 brewery companies.
Friday's night na Club but the ladies are Nigerians.
Igbos and Yorubas girls has Oloshos


Sierra Leone ( 3 weeks):
Are you looking for easy to fuvk girls?
Sierra leone are the cheapest girls to bleep cos just buy a plate of food for them and it is finish but mehn those chicks get unbelievable ASS and they will fuvk your soul out .
Dogg style
The only food in that country is Rice and Cassava.
Every soup is around Cassava leaves

Guinea ( 4 days)
Those chicks over there are the most beautiful ladies in the whole West Africa. They like Nigerian guys becos of what Igbo guys are doing over there.
Once the police see a Nigerian? Money don come.
They will hold you at every check point as a Nigerian and you must pay.
The road from Mali to Guinea and from Guinea to Senegal are the worst roads, I have ever seen in my life.
Worst currency in West Africa.
3K = 270K
I and my friend ate rice and full Chicken and everybody was looking at our plate.

Me : How much is our bills?
Seller: 26K (I will never forget)
We : Jeus Christ, wahala dey oooooh
Seller: Its even cheap self compare to other places
We: We thought, it's was Naira but it's was useless Guinea Franc
We: Ooh 26k Guinea Franc, that's less than #1200
We order for more Chicken and beer joor




Benin Rep (All together 1 month)
Not much fun
Same like Nigeria

Togo (2 days )

Ghana ( Just 2 days)

Burkina Faso( 1 day)

Mali ( 3 days)
That's country is too big
Travelling within the country takes days
Haba


NB: About West Africa including Nigeria
If you have money to do business then no problem but if you don't
God is your strength
Planning to visit Cape Verde but my wife is coming with me
Can't check out those Cape Verde chicks

Big man

Wow! I'm amazed at the speed at which transaction is handled by this guy. He is tested and trusted.

greiboy:
Yes, I didn't dispute those facts, but when you break down the figures and deeply analyze the situation

You will realize a good number of black south Africans are not educated. A good number don't have proper health care. Many still live in shanty towns and camps.

Some don't have access to electricity yet .i.e. they don't have access to the "eskom" national grid
of electricity

so they are not really living in paradise like you think

many' compare their many to our many! People living in bad condition in Nigeria is five times the people living in bad conditions over there. Nigeria is one of the worst country to live on earth jare.

greiboy:
nigga

Don't tell me what I know. I lived in south Africa for a while. I schooled there. The sandton the guy is showing in his pictures is dominated by white people

Those areas I showed in my pictures are inhabited by black folks, which represents the significant portion of the south African population.

I am not saying every country doesn't have is own problems, but that doesn't mean a country where majority of its population are not doing any better than us can come to our forums to intimidate us.

oga what are you saying? Can't you see the headlines? He said south African cities vs nigeriam cities! He didn't say south Africa vs nigeria! Even at that south Africa is miles ahead of Nigeria in all aspect, education, health, electricity, name it. When it come to slums, even almighty america has slums and dirty places.

StTrump:
Really because PMB is the president does it mean every thing will be perfect?

If you are expecting to see no fuel scarcity sorry is your last name.

you're high on weed. When they increased it to 145, didn't they say that its because they don't want it to be scarce again, that's why they increase it abi your brain is paining you ni?

Religion of war has started again

Rashduct4luv:
Dear Mallam,

As a Muslim, we are not allowed to celebrate Kufr(Disbelief) in any way. We are permitted to eat food from the Christians if it's naming, wedding,etc. But on their festivals like Christmas or new year, we do not eat their food or even greet them in any way. We do not support them in any way. Why this? Because they are celebrating birthday and birthdays is not part of a Muslim's celebration. Because they are celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ who they call son of God. Celebrating with them means you agree with them on their Kufr.

Pastor Kumuyi, the General Superintendent of the Deeper Christian Life Ministry said:

“We don’t celebrate Christmas. It actually came from idolatrous background. That is why you don’t hear us sing what they call Christmas carol. Never! ... When you find anybody coming in, or any leader, trying to introduce the idolatry of mystery Babylon that they call Christmas, and you want to bring all the Christmas carol saying that is the day that Jesus was born, and you don’t find that in the Acts of the Apostles or in the early church, then you don’t find that in the church either. If you don’t know that before, now you know.”

http://ugowrite..com.ng/2014/02/pastor-kumuyi-is-right-christmas-is.html

So if this christian leader agrees without being ashamed that Christmas is idolatrous, wetin concern us Muslims?

na people like you dey spoil this country. You better join bokoharam. My Muslim friends here, I eat their food during ileya, and when its Christmas and new year, they came to eat mine too. Don't be a religious bigot! Place your common sense above your religion, that's why I love our Yoruba Muslims, they ain't like those foolish aboki like you.

timesup234:
There are more people being robbed, kidnapped and killed in America than Nigeria. You guys are truly under a brainwashing circle. Nairaland is filled with minors who are just starting life. No sane person in his/her mid 30's will type some of the garbage I see here. Only brainwashed mofos believe success has anything to do with location. America gives you zero chance of making it like everywhere in the world. You must create your success path yourself. This is a thread of the dumbest set of individuals

Zero chance? Are you kidding me? You must be a deluded person. Why did your government or people like dangote likes borrowing from foreign banks and lenders? Its because the loans are easy to get, with very low interest and with long term duration. I was checking Australian national welfare sites and I saw lots of welfare packages for the youths, unemployed and the elderly. Youths that wants to start business can easily get loans without any interest and collateral and to be paid back in years. Also person that wants to go to school and doesn't have money can secure loans and after he graduated and gets job can pay back the loans, in such a way that it won't affect him at all, eg, collecting 100k salary and then be paying like 3k as loan repayment. Is there such in nigeria? Why did your politicians send their children to school abroad? Why did your president travels abroad to treat himself? Why not Nigeria? If you graduate in those countries and haven't gotten job, do you know that you will be given unemployment benefit? The systems abroad is designed to help their citizens make it easily an get whatever they desire easily. Nigeria in other words, makes live a living hell for its citizens. People have business ideas but there's no capital, some people wish to go to school but theres no means for them, if they had student loans like those countries, and they can also work while schooling like those countries, don't you think they will go? I have friends that wrote GRE exams and passed and was given funding in USA universities and they're even working while in school. Which nigerian universities can give Nigerians that opportunity not to talk of giving a foreigner. Please don't glorify the hell called Nigeria. Even your leaders doesn't care about the country. They do their things outside the country.

9jaDoc:
It is not about some mythical "making it". It is about living and enjoying your life within a system that WORKS and is reliable. Just about every person you read was shot by police in US their families are paid millions. In Nigeria it ends there. U can be rich in US with no fear of being kidnapped by anybody. Not so in Nig. Drainage, garbage disposal, food and drug inspections, prescription system, hospitals, emergency rooms, universities, etc. Everything WORKS and is well equipped. Why trying to compare two things that are not comparable. Not only is the system in 9ja broken, I honestly think it is beyond repair. Just being honest.

you have time arguing with some deluded people sha. Even their president ran to UK when he is sick. Their politicians, their school abroad and live abroad. He is here praising a shit country that even their leaders doesn't give shit about it. Nigeria is the worst country in Africa.

LordAdam16:
For factory job.

Which is embarrassingly low because in China, with all the population and cheap labor, factory jobs are over $1000/mo.

You make valid points, but I could slam you for the same reasons you're slamming others.

NIGERIA is a sh*thole. That is a fact.

That you're able to make it. Or that less than 10% make a decent salary does not make it any less than a sh*thole.

Most people are not living in Nigeria, they're surviving.

There's a reason why America is called the land of opportunity and the West welcome immigrants (well, until recently); while here in Nigeria we emphasize on connections. Whoever has connections in any part of the globe will get better opportunities. Simple as!

However, the average person would not always have these connections. That's why people go to school (or some higher learning institution) to get vital skills and improve themselves so they can get jobs based on merit and are able to live comfortably.

Trust me, if you can make $6000 annually in Nigeria, you can make $60k annually in the West. You say you do freelancing and you think that's some big deal.

Well, let's see. In the West, one could buy a new laptop with a credit card, or pay in installments. Get grandfathered in for cheap with 4G internet (not mobile broadband) or go to a coffee shop and use WiFi for free. Electricity is cheap and constant. Rent is the only big issue, but you can stay with a roommate or go live downtown. And here's the important fact, rather than rely solely on platforms that could axe your account anytime, you actually have the leverage of contacting local businesses and entrepreneurs locally for better paying gigs.

So, you see. If you can hustle hard to make it in Nigeria as a freelancer, it wouldn't even be a struggle for you in the West. And if all else fails, there's always the option to flip burgers at McDonalds or sell popcorn at Target for $11/hour. And have a second and even third job to boost your finance.

Can someone make it in Nigeria? Yes. But let's not mislead people to believe it'll only require the same effort it'd take to make it outside the shores. It'd take considerably more. Unless, you're deeply connected or extremely lucky. To be absolutely clear, that's not how things should be. Running a business in Nigeria is insane.

And here's the most important factor I've not seen mentioned in this thread, life in Nigeria. I hate it. I can't even bring myself to read some stories on NL anymore. I don't keep up with the #EndSARS campaign on Twitter because the stories shared by fellow Nigerians make me sick. Literally. And to know nothing will be done about it just makes me more bitter.

This is a country where the Airforce killed innocent refugees apparently by mistake and nothing happened. Nothing came out of the investigation and nobody is bothered. Nobody out of almost 200m people is bothered. Every week women are raped, farmers are killed in my home state by certain untouchable people and it doesn't even make the news. Even if it does, we are all content with displaying momentary sadness on social media, and practically 60 seconds later we don't give a sh*t. No protest.

People die and live like dogs and no one gives a sh*t. Not even the deeply religious people.

It's like we've become conditioned to barbarism, we think this is all life can offer, and the only thing that matters to us is the size of our bank accounts. Because deep down we all know it's the only thing stopping us from being bundled accidentally into a prison and left to rot for a fabricated crime. Or to protect yourself from criminals. Or to give yourself a semblance of a normal life and numb yourself to the harsh truth that is the Nigerian way of life.

I don't think you've ever sat down and thought about how many people go missing in Nigeria daily. The skulls being sold for 2k, who were those people? Someone earlier today was drawing attention to the fact that her brother had been missing for 7 years after been taken by SARS. That could be you. Taken, killed, dumped in a bush or in a river. EOD. Case closed. No missing person's report. If there is, it's just another file or name. The killers will be out the next day scouting for their next victim. At the end of the month, they're paid by a government that claims to serve you. Unless you are connected to a top politician or a top businessman or clergy or let's just say a high ranking member of the society.

I honestly cannot respect anyone who looks at this Nigeria, where laws aren't worth sh*t, and says it's a good place to live in because some happen to have more money and live in gated communities in Lekki or Asokoro or in high-brow neighborhoods. It feels like it's a living hazard to stay in Nigeria as an average Nigerian.

Making more money doesn't make your life better. It just allows you to game a system rigged to cater to the highest bidder to the detriment of the average Joe and Jane. And you don't mind and you don't care. Because you know it's either you or them.

I know for most Nigerians, none of this matters. You could care less if Dangote's trailer mows down everyone in your street, as long as you're the only one who makes it out alive. It'd make for a good testimony on Sunday. Every other person be damned. No one would call for the Dangote driver to be prosecuted or even follow it up. No one would call for stricter implementation of speed limits. You wouldn't. We'd just go ahead hoping we keep cheating death and unfortunate situations until our luck runs out.

Such that the same issues that killed our fathers are the same issues killing our children. No improvements.

And you think that's living the good life? With your 400 f*cking dollars. You think it's worth it to expose yourself to the dangers and stress of living in this bloody country for how much? I mean you've practically priced your quality of life. And I've not even started talking about healthcare, government accountability, lifestyle compatibility and the likes.

It's a long read, and I salute your patriotism, but it is seriously misplaced.

-Lord

God bless you bro. You nailed it. An beverage Nigeria is a selfish person. The fiver he is shouting, he struggles to to make money on it I'm sure. I know he will be using USA flag. If he's sure about himself, let him use Nigerian flag whether he will make it. Something that they can even block at any time, sake to say the fiverr is even getting tougher, they're trying to remove people that are using VPN to claim another country.

Jesusgirl92:
Hebrew7: 6-9

6And those descendants of Levi who receive the priestly office have a commandment in the law to take tithes from the people, that is, from their brothers, though these also are descended from Abraham.

7) But this man who does not have his descent from them received tithes from Abraham and blessed him who had the promises.

8 ) It is beyond dispute that the inferior is blessed by the superior.

9) In the one case tithes are received by mortal men, but in the other case, by one of whom it is testified that he lives.

I rest my case!

stop quoting half of the bible. Quote all, that chapter is trying to explain something. Don't misinterpret the bible. Its

betafuture:
I am very sorry, it seems like anytime I post on Nairaland is actually the time I have great challenges in my life, however, my posts also reflect the chronicle of my life. You may wish to check out my last posting about how I was sacked in the Bank with a debt that was guaranteed by a junior staff, whose job was threatened by the loan I obtained and she guaranteed for me. please find the link https://www.nairaland.com/2282140/loan-incured-before-termination-appointment Like I mentioned in that post, I got a job as with a Rep member and he appointed me as the Special assistant on a salary of 80k monthly and my boss paid my rent, of which I engage with my lender to take 50k with me monthly and right off the excess interest and stop disturbing the junior colleague, an arrangement they agreed to and everybody was fine, save that I had to struggle to cope with 30k monthly as a family man, working in Abuja. My wife never complained. I just gave her 25k from the salary, once received, to buy food for the family why I tried to manage with the remaining 5k. It was tough! Luckily, a junior lady cousin who works in a bank was posted to Abuja and we had to accommodate her. She was very kind and understood my plight. Sometimes, she drops up to 50k for my wife to augment the house expenses. She would tell me and sometimes, I would take additional 10k to ad to my pocket money.

The home was running, my son, my wife and my cousin, including myself were very happy. As a banker, I had learned the skill of marketing and networking and negotiation. In the course of my sojourn in the national assembly I met a head of a parastatal wjo needed me to do some strategic alliance between his organization and my boss. We later became great friends, and i realized I could access a scholarship to study in the UK through him. To cut the story short, I pursued this opportunity to the latter and I got a Federal government scholarship to pursue a Masters degree in the UK. I saw this as an opportunity to rewrite the story of my life. Two months in the UK, I began to look for means to bring my wife and son to join me in the UK. While I was in UK, I made it a point of duty to send 150k to my wife in Nigeria on monthly basis (Remember I was on scholarship) and I also do student work in the UK. Because we did not sell our car during the crisis, I also gave the custody of the car to her.

FIRST SUSPICION

When she was about coming to the UK with my 7 years old son, we decided to give out some of our home appliances and sell most of them including the car. Since I was not in Nigeria, she was to manage the transactions. Because I opened her e-mail address, i do see her mails, so i could see the alert on her GTB. The first thing that prompted me was that the amount she received for the sales of our car was 100k higher than what she declared to me. (The fund was meant to buy the flight tickets for her and my son). There were other expense transactions that were over declared, but the actual amount debited to her account were quite low. I did not confront her on these issues until she arrived UK with my son. When I did, I could see the way she manipulatively and professionally lied her way out of the whole issue. I did not pick an offense, hence i made her to understand that I was never convinced. Since then my instinct told me that if she could lie to me so much on finance, maybe there are other things going on in her life that I never known. However, I opened her Facebook account for her years ago in Nigeria, but I never bothered to check it. Out of curiosity, I tried login into her Facebook account and I discovered she has changed the password. My first reaction was to check it, but had I done that, she would have been conscious, then I used my skill as an trained IT security expert to crack her password and then access her Facebook. I ran through all her messenger message and everything was fine. Apart from a certain guy who always beg her for assistance and prayer, there was nothing really suspicious about her messanger and then, we continued with our normal life.

After a week in UK, she started to work as a carer (her visa permitted her to work fully), and she began to make money. I know how much enters her account and we decide how to spend. My son also start schooling and life began to have meaning again. I finished my masters with a distinction and the best graduating student in my department and my University offered me automatic admission for PhD, with part scholarship.l To remain, we needed to source funds to show evidence that my family can stay with me in the UK and show evidence of the balance of school fees. We sourced for money everywhere. She brought all she had and we had to borrow both from UK and Nigeria. My boss was very supportive and I commenced the PhD this September. As a family, we have a problem. My son is now 8 years and we have been trying to make another baby but it does not seem to be forthcoming. We have been to hospitals in the UK, we were both tested and once told my sperm motility was low, treated, but later we were considered both ok.

Since her arrival in the UK, I noticed that my wife suddenly repel sexxx. Sometimes, we had sexxxx just once in a month, she would find a way of brushing away by advances. At a level, i had to ask if there was any problem, but she said it was because of the new environment, her jobs and what have you. This further told me that all was not well in my marriage. She knows I love her and I would do anything for her. While we were yet trying to pay my tuition, her mum got a US visa and all the children were making contributions for her journey, I had to take from my school fees and send to Nigeria and manage my school to give us more time. I tried to ensure that we continually live like one happy family.

Do not let me sound like one perfect good guy. I had also lived a rough bad life in the past and she is aware. During my days in the bank, I had been sexually reckless and irresponsible. There was a time I left office to a gal house, fckked her and I never knew that the condom we used was stick to my shoe. I drove with it home, entered home very late at night, my wife was already angrily waiting for me in the house, only to see a used condom with sperm inside attached to the soul of my shoe. It was an issue that we had to battle with for weeks, even though I never confess it was from, I told a story that it must have got gummed to me at the mechanic village where I had gone to pick my car in the evening (She was aware that someone has accused my mechanic of having sexxx in his car, leaving condom at the back seat). after few weeks, we resolved the issue and we continued leaving normal life. However, there was also a time I suspected her activities on Facebook and I realised a guy whom she has known in the past has been pestering her and she seems to be encouraging him (That was during our period of financial crisis). I had confronted her, she had denied they never had anything but the guy was just pestering her. I apologised and went sober. I called the guy (who was also married) and lived in another faraway city. The guy denied having anything to do with her that she just knew her while growing up. The guy originally blasted me, but later called back and apologized and promised never to disturb her again. I was hurting for months, after which I forgave, forgot and moved on. Let me also state that during the period of my financial crisis, I made a covenant with God, after listening to a message, that whatever the case maybe, I will remain faithful to my wife. This I have manage to keep despite advances from both married and single friends and acquaintances.

THE REAL ISSUE

Now, we are living in the UK and very happy, she is working full-time, while I pursue my PhD full-time, work part-time and my son schools full-time and we were all happy, save the issue of delayed pregnancy and (to me, the poor sex life from her). Let me also state that I bought her a Samsung phone (when she arrived last year), which I have full access to because I know her password. Few months ago, she told me she wanted a bigger phone that she would send the one I bought her to my younger brother in Nigeria who had been disturbing her for a phone. Even though, I thought we did not need to spend money on a new phone at that crucial time because of the looming school expenses, I consented just for her to be happy and she got herself a Samsung galaxy s8 plus for 700pounds, which she would repay of 2 years. The first thing that prompted me about the phone was that she changed her password, but I never mind because I thought she was preventing my son, who always loved to play game on her phone from accessing the phone. However, after few weeks, I began to feel very uncomfortable about the whole stuff. My instinct just told me all was not well. Whatever was it, I could not place my finger on it. But after reviewing my work with my supervisor in the University yesterday, I just felt like going home to rest, instead of studying in the school and then, I met wife in the house with my son. She was trying to order some items online for my son for Christmas and on arrival, she gave her phone to select what we should buy for him, and then, the FB message came into her phone and I could read...'it is not what you think, I have been very busy'

I selected the item I thought was ok, gave returned her phone, picked my laptop and logged in to her Facebook. My wife pretended she was enganging me in discussion, but was responding to the message from a guy, who obviously was her lover and she wrote (I was reading from my computer without her knowledge) 'You know I will ALWAYS LOVE YOU'. and the other guy responded 'I love you more baby' (By this time, I was already burning on the seat, but I somehow managed to keep my calm). She wrote 'But you don't call me' ...and she stood up and went to the kitchen (I wanted to gather enough evidence before I reacted), but immediately she got to the kitchen, she deleted the conversation. At this time, I could not take it. My son was in the sitting room, watching cartoon. I went to her in the kitchen and aggressively confronted her. She originally pretended she did not know what I was saying, but when she say the aggression and seriousness in me she started begging and crying. I lost control of my emotion. I was angry and shouting. My son was there. He was too young, but very intelligent. he understood everything and began to blame his mum, at the same time asking me ti give mum a second chance. I was bitterly hurting. I felt like tearing her into pieces, but if I tried that in UK, it will be straight to jail. She could not state the reason behind her action. She was still trying to lie. She said the guy was her ex and they recently became friends on Facebook and the guy is trying to rekindle the old relationship. The guy is based in Nigeria, they do not even see. Everything she said was incoherently sense. All she wanted was that I should forgive her. I should not tell anybody. She cried, wept and what have you. I was hurting. If it were to by Nigeria, she would have left my house yesetrday, but in UK, it is difficult. The love turned to hatred. She managed to convince me to enter room with her, so that she will discuss the issue with me, without getting our son involved. In the room, it was the same crying and plea for forgiveness and a promise it would never happen again. I told her i was ok, but she would not let me out. I had to angrily shove her away from the door and she hit her head against the wardrobe. i was too angry, too sad, and too hateful to care. i called her all manners of unprintable names. I cursed her, I was just too angry. She kept begging. I left for the sitting room and she came back, knelt down before me and kept begging. My son was crying that two of us were making him sad. The young boy even threatened to tell his teacher in the school on monday. I was too angry to listen. I just told her to let me be. She stood up with tears in her eyes to enter the toilet, I checked her Facebook account again and realised that the lover had sent another message thus: "My dear I don't call you always to protect your home, but I always check your pictures every night before I go to bed" As I was reading, she stupidly deleted that again in the toilet. (Please note that my wife always post our family pictures on facebook, stating how I am the best husband in the world).

My anger erupted again and I rushed to meet her in the bathroom and asked her why she deleted the last message of the guy and she tearfully answered that she did not want me to see anything that could aggravate my anger the more. I angrily snatched the phone from her and smashed it on the floor. She knelt down at my feet and continued to cry and beg for forgiveness, but I was hurting so badly. I left for sitting room again and my son was confusedly crying. She came back and knelt before me and continued begging and weeping and begged we should go back to the room to discuss, at least to protect our son. After a while, i followed her. There was nothing to say; the same weeping, crying and promises to not do it again and swearing that they never had anything together. I told her I needed to talk to the guy and she pleaded I should not. I told her she is giving me an impression that she is protecting the guy so that she could continue her illicit affairs with him and told her it would not work. The can change tactics, but its is only a matter of time. I told her, I would forgive her, but I cannot trust her again and when there is no trust in marriage, the marriage is gone. I also told her I must engage that guy that she should give me his number, but she said her phone is no longer working. I made her feel comfortable that I have forgiven her, but honestly I am hurting. I went back to my laptop, continued chat with the guy on her messenger, but he was now online. We both slept on the same bed, i realised she could not sleep. In the middle of the night she woke me up to beg again, she was offering a make-up sexxx, but I was not interested. I told her i had forgiven her, but I am still hurting and there is no way i could have erection with her. In the morning, I checked her messanger, i discovered the iddiot has responded, still claiming to love her. I checked his profile, I realised he is a muslim, who has a wife with two kids. His location was not shown, but most of his pics her in Nigeria apart from two which have foreign background. I also realize he has limited posts on FB, but the phone number on his FB page is US phone number.

From my wife's FB account, I sent a message thus:

Hi, Mr Farouq, my name is Adams, I am Grace husband
I just wish to inform you that all the rubbish you have been doing with my wife are now exposed to me
I advise you in the name of whatever thing you believe, STAY AWAY FROM MY WIFE.

I also realize you are a married man. If you have any moral integrity and respect for family values, you will know that
responsible men do not run after married women or break homes.

I do not care whatever you claim you think of her, just heed this warning STAY AWAY FROM MY WIFE.

He read it an never respond. I went to her facebook setting and unfriended him.

I left home in the morning to go study in the library, but honestly, I could not assimilate anything. I am so emotionally broken down, so psychologically disturbed. The whole event kept playing in my head. I found it difficult to rationalise it. I continued to find fault in my being and my personality. I know I am very attractive handsome young man. Despite showing I am married, ladies still flock around me. I am also a passionate lovemaker. I dress well and look neat. I don't seem to understand where I have failed. Sometimes I just close my eyes and i feel tears dripping, but I have got to be strong. As for her, she has remained in the room since morning, hiding her head in shame and crying profusely. I have cut off communication with her since I came back from school and I have enganged myself in drinking spirit maybe my spirit will be strenghtened.

This is my story, this is my ordeal. Please I need advice.

Thanks.

your matter is he who hasn't sinned before should cast the first stone. Mtchew, forgive your wife jor and monitor her very closely. At least she is better than you for feeling remorseful, during your own time you lied.

NgeneUkwenu:
Useless Thief!

lol. Why you no wan get sense like this, even your certificaless hero that is shielding thief didn't call him thief. Get sense for once, he's an ex president of Nigeria and your generation will never attain the position he has attained.

bigass:
Let's be objective 500billion of 2014 is more than 800of today.

stop defending that useless governor jare. Fashola budget hovers around 400billion. Let say according to you 400 billion equals 800 billion, hes still not doing anything other than painting bridges, doing WiFi, busstops, statue. Those projects ain't up to 150billion out of 800. So many roads are begging to be done or rehabilitated in Lagos, even in ikeja where the governors office is, internal roads are getting bad, the traffic lights are dead. Within 3 years of fashola. He has built countless new roads, bridges, rehabilited waterworks, built housing estates, hospitals, schools, power stations, skill acquisition centers, ambulance units, fire centers, beautified water shorelines. He touched all the whole aspect of Lagos economy. But ambode, water nothing, roads 10percent( its the one fashola couldn't finish) schools zero, housing zero, Inshort all other aspect zero. Useless and dumb governor, only know how to club.

smartmey61:
thats naija for u they always blame someone or something fr their mistake, istead of us coming together and tackle our common problem. population ke sugarlation ni, remind them of china, india, brazil, and were here saying we are too much dont we have the resources ni to tackle the poverty, may all the thise past and present leaders rot in hell fire and turn to balls of fire burning the already burning ones that will be burning the ones that are still have it in mind to destroy naija. fire burn dem

I tell you. Nigerians are the reasons their country isn't developing. Imagine what the guy is saying in this 21st century. Instead of his to swear for the politicians that keeps Pickering billions that is meant to do infrastructure, he is busy finding excuses for them. Look at IMO state, money that could have been used repair roads, he is busy using it to build statues. Buhari allocated 3 billion for aso rock clinic, when he fell sick, he traveled abroad and despite the 3 billion, theres no syringe there. How as that got to do with population of the country. The countries that is fast developing now is the ones with the highest population. The population drives growth and the economy. Look at Brazil, Usa, Malaysia, Indonesia, India, China, japan, germany. High population propels the economy quickly with the right systems and leaders.

smartmey61:
come bro u go love am na sure city fukc Accra here naijas are like kings and queens. police is your friend banking are friendly. business is booming, walk any time of the day, at any hearing of naija even in market na oga give me your number, man TADI is the best im here presently lol its sunday tho

Would love to visit. I need ur digit.

Kingxway:
Which Region is that? I live in Ashanti Region

Chief gimme ur digit. I'd like to visit Ghana.

DaHrNn:
She is right...

Bros how far. Are you schooling in Ghana or what.

kunle4toyeyaho:
Ambode doesn't really do big projects.He does projects that are small but have direct impact on citizens. He understands governance than Fashola. That's a fact. Did anybody ever think construction of bus stops will reduce traffic on Lagos rods? Ambode.procured machines to remove green/Spirogyra from Lagos waterways,
Construction of pedestrian bridges where necessary has also tedivrf accident on roads.So,governance is not about embarking on gigantic projects but projects that are mean iful to citizens

lol. Listen to yourself? Fashola that rehabilitated water works, built skill acquisition centers in all local government, built roads that motorist are now making money from, renovated all the general hospitals, provided new buildings including renovation of almost all the secondary and primary schools( at least as bushy as badagry is. All the primary and secondary schools here got new buildings and the old ones renovated by fashola, health centers nko, all done) ambode is a Useless governor. If fashola had the budget of 800 billion like him eh. Fashola and jakande are best governors that ever graved Lagos state!

deomelo:
He's the lousiest, the most incompetent and unproductive governor in the history of Lagos state and to make matters worse, he's sitting on the largest state budget in the history of Nigeria and all we have so far are local government style projects, most of them especially the roads are substandard.

2017 is almost over and we don't have anything to show for N820 billion and he's already asking for N1 trillion for 2018 budget.


In Fashola's 2nd year in office, he was commissioning multiple projects like every week till his last day in office.

In Fashola's first 2 years in office like Ambode, he built several hospitals, several housing estates, several maternity centers, skills acquisition centers, roads, water works, bridges, power plants, several schools, drivers institutes an so on with less than half of Ambode's budget.

...but this useless owembe party prefect is busy with local government projects like bus stops and roadside parking.


Is this useless man saying we don't need major infrastructures no more and all we need are bus stops, painting roadside curbs and silly LG projects?

I really can not stand that incompetent and vision less clown.

I think say na only me. He is the most useless governor in Lagos state. Roads are getting worse all over Lagos everyday nothing is been done. No reasonable project on ground. He I'll be Commisioning WiFi, statue, all the street lights in Lagos are dead. Very useless governor.

abduljabbar4:
Dont be silly. Is Islam not the symbol of violence? so why are you shying away from the crimes of your god? The god that sent bears to kill young kids for mocking a bald man. So did he use weather when he sent the Israelites to kill the innocent Canaanites and rrape their virgins? Muhammed was never this evil and animalistic

Your bloodsucking religion also led to the death of many scientists for contradicting your buy bull and during the 17th century you killed millions of people in the name of crusades. killers

Okay thank God you agree that Islam os symbol of violence. Lol, Elijah that commanded bear to kill children mocking him is not a Christian and at least it's better than you people killing or commiting suicide for Allah. And I heard Mohammed was killed by poison given to her by a Jewish wife he snatched from her husband.

abduljabbar4:
Do you have any knowledge about the atrocities of your god and the massacres that he ordered?

lol. Haha, so it's not the same God again, sebi Mohammed said it's the same God that created Adam that we're serving and even mention Jesus in the Quran and how is Israelites war to protect themselves relates to Christianity, they were not fighting for religion. If enemy wants to attack them, they simply ask God that weather they will win and he will tell them and they will go and finish their enemies. You're a confuse being. Our prophet never killed, likewise his disciples, while yours killed to impose the religion on people, the results is those Islamic countries in the middle east and north Africa. Islam has killed people more than any other religion. Killer religion.

abduljabbar4:
Christianity contains more violence than the Quran. In fact if you go through its history you will be shocked

haha! Which history? Jesus never killed to propagate Christianity, his 12 disciples too, no record showed they killed to propagate Christianity. On a contrary, Mohammed killed and assassinate to propagate Islam, his disciple, abubakr is even worse, a serial killer and war monger. Get that into your skull.

Na lie jor. It's common thing in Islam with a promise of fvcking virgin Pusey in paradise. Islam is a religion of killing and war.

FSBoperator:
FROM SAHIH BUKHARI - VOLUME 9, #506:
Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri that during the battle with Bani Al-Mustaliq they (Muslims) captured some females and intended to have sexual relations with them without impregnating them. So they asked the prophet about coitus interruptus. The prophet said, "It is better that you should not do it, for Allah has written whom He is going to create till the Day of Resurrection".

no mind them, their religion is full of shits and they will be denying it. Yeye people. Killing religion.

ABIOLAXYZ:
10 MIRACLES YOU MUST KNOW ABOUT PROPHET MUHAMMAD(S.A.W)!(S.A.W)!!(S.A.W)!!!

1 Do you know that "Flies,insects, ants and mosquitoes" never land on his body talk less of bitten him? (S.A.W)

2 Do you know that he did not "yawn" in his life time? (S.A.W)

3 Do you know that both "Domestic and wild Animals" were never a second angry with him? (S.A.W)

4 Do you know that if he"sleeps" he hears any "conversation"? (S.A.W)

5 Do you know that he "sights" every thing both "front" and "back" at the same time without turning? (S.A.W)

6 Do you know that"Land" covers his "urine" and stool immediately he passed them?(S.A.W)

7 Do you know that he is always "one fit taller" than any body that comes "near" him? (S.A.W)

8 Do you know that he was "circumcised, washed and cleaned in his Mother's womb before been born to this world?(S.A.W)

9 Do you know that he never had a "wet dream"that signify Men's "puberty"?(S.A.W)

1o Do you know that he has no "shadow" even in the "Sun", Moon or "Light"?(S.A.W).

show me all this trash you wrote inside Quran Abeg. Mohammed is killer and pedophile. He doesn't even know what miracle is.

dane15:
We agree that most Politicians are thieves. Even though I don't agree with the selective cleansing of the current Government but the cleansing will definitely start from somewhere. Let APC recover money stolen from PDP, and PDP recover money stolen from APC whenever they win the election too. The method is not the best but half bread is better than puff-puff like they say. With time all our money will be fully recovered. Let them be our whistleblowers.

the money they've recovered, what have they done with it? It has either been relooted or all of them is propaganda. They're all deceiving the masses. 80percent of APC members we're former PDP members that stole trillions. Saraki that was prosecuted on the pages of newspaper, was he not discharge and acquitted. Nigeria is a joke jare.