₦airaland Forum

J12:
Summarize please
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LOL  Cute baby

Basically I'm wondering how can someone be pining or be attached emotionally to another person from the web. Some people are charismatic I get that, but to invest emotionally I just don't know. I know there is online dating etc but that is premeditated and as such there is an objective to those sites. However some people actually catch feelings for a person on a random web (that is dissociated from online dating).
How does such occur?

dj candy:
Obviously these people lack attention in their real lives so they seek love on the web! Aint nothing wrong in that, so long as no one gets swindled or hurt!

I agree.

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Skepta

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Tilda and Rocafil Jazz

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Nneka

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St Lucian/African Zouk-Sweet Mother(Girl version)

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Soulfege - Sweet Remix (Hi-Res)

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I know yesterday was father's day but please ooo everyday is mother's day 
I stumbled across one kind version to this classic song and it was so beautiful. Sweet Mother is the most successful song to come out of the continent to date so it's no suprise that there are so many versions. I'm gonna embed the different versions I can find.

Original (Classic!)

Prince Mbarga

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Nigerian + American = Undateable?

PureOhio:
My Dad is a Nigerian, while my Mum is an AA.

PureOhio it's kinda amusing and ironic that you would ask such a question especially since you're a product of such union

As far as I know nationality is not usually a constraint for many Nigerians - especially the guys

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gorgeous skin 

[quote author=tpia@ link=topic=693367.msg8547386#msg8547386 date=1308482723]Hope she didnt send him n,aked photos or anything.[/quote]Oh no, she never sent any pics (or so I've been told) but only God knows how she carried herself in their private video chats - that one she no fit tell me sef mschewww (smh)

kyensco87:
developing emotional attachment ovet the inetrnet is very dangerous o.

I agree.

Some people cannot differentiate fantasy from reality or sometimes they merge the two. On the internet the line between fact and fiction is very fine and a lot of the times feelings and thoughts can get misinterpreted over the net. Investing emotionally to an anonymous intangible person on the internet is not really healthy nor wise in my opinion.

I'm sorry I'm not the most techno savvy one here  but how does one insert a poll in their topic please?

Thanks in advance

Cuddlemii:
@emofine,
Hiss. I kept reading your story waiting for the interesting part and something worth discussing and realized the story was not even anything serz. Its not like they had something or the guy used her or exploited her financially so whats the fuzz.

lol please forgive me I had to render the censored version but yes you are right he never exploited her financially perhaps emotionally but I blame her more. I guess she felt like a spare tyre but hopefully now she'll move on, focus on school and not cyber Romeo.

The whole story sound like a nursery rhyme. She is intact now, its just an experience she probably just wanted to explore and came out hale and ok.

Yeah she confessed that she wanted to meet him in his country, well he did send her an invitation to come over - thank God she's broke (well he apparently offered to foot the bill).

ZimAngel:
Thank you so much for posting this I will forward this to my sister who recently married a Nigerian. He has no papers obviously, she has a British passport. I have been telling her that this crook doesn't love her he just wants papers. Thank you for confirming this. At least she won't think I am hating on her. I pray she doesn't renew his visa after reading this. Shocking.

Good Samaritan this might be of some use to your beloved sister 


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Naija guys e be like say wen una con dey mind your own business other men take carry surveillance come analyse your style, in fact dem fit enter u for "competition" wey u no sabi before but still as God will have it sha, una still score ten over ten 


because of una every female everybody wan carry dem jagajaga onu self to be a celebrity on Nairaland - and you tok say Naija girls dey carry shakara pass 

P.S. OP since I gather that you reside in the UK, have you heard of Gamu Nhengu?

Earlier in the year my cousin slowly began to isolate herself. Well she's young so I assumed that kind of behavior was commonplace especially in the western society abi
So to get to the core of the issue, during her self-inflicted isolation she "befriended" one guy on the internet - I say befriended but abeg you people sabi better thing.

My cousin was actually going through a difficult period to be fair to her but instead of reaching out to her nearest and dearest she chose to reach out to a complete stranger over the web 

She is usually sensible but I was surprised to find out how far she had taken levels with this stranger (side-note: why do some women allow compliments to go to their head and then begin to forget reasoning )

She started actually skipping school to talk to this guy. I was just thinking what company does this guy provide her that her family members and friends cannot give her again 

Anyway she told me that the guy initiated the conversation and in the beginning she was actually weary (actually she's shy). I and her friend warned her that plenty wayo people dey over the net, that guy is sleazy (he too dey toast any babes over the net sha) and that she should kuku eliminate contact from said guy now now.
She come dey do yanga for us whilst that guy started doing yanga for her. In the beginning he used to call her up (yep she was even silly enough to give him her number - smh).When the calls started to cool she began calling him and the funny thing is he hardly answers her calls. I told this girl to stop disturbing the guy that he is probably busy anyway - I mean there is an age gap between them.

She refused to listen again and proceeded to video call him. You see how this guy be, when she agreed to video call that is when he feigned interest in her again. I'm not surprised really because he kept on asking for her pics which she declined and I thank God for that.

Anyhow the way she narrates her own side of the story, she tell me say things don cool off now, that last time she called him he wasn't really interested in anything she was saying and that he was flaunting his exploits with other girls in her face.

I ain't gonna lie, she's my coz and I love her but part of me feel she deserves it for being a little bit silly 

She tell me say the guy no fine when she saw him but she still dey do shakara for us and I bet the way she was acting I bet she made that guy feel handsome (smh)

This whole circumstance was so strange to me yet I believe it is not uncommon. Why on earth do people become emotionally attached to other people over the internet? What is this trend? Do some people like the neutral perspective the other person could offer (because of their anonymity)?
Well I figured she was shy but she didn't remember her shyness when she was forming for this guy or do people feel a little secure knowing that the other person is in another country so they won't be confronted with that individual daily? is it an adventure to some? is it because of the fantasy and illusion (she wasn't truthful about everything) one can use as a cover? do people like a bit of danger? experimenting perhaps?

Okay I bet anyone can do most of the things I listed above in person so why seek affection over the internet?

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=693045.msg8540031#msg8540031 date=1308346999]Life don spoil oh so you mean say i go con carry all my MAYE  go meet pastor make im choose the one wey i go MARRY?[/quote]Na so e be. Such arrangement dey for my former church I say make I leave now now.
As I don enter womanhood I was involuntarily pushed into the "single" que. I said I no want marry from hia oh mek I pick race

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=693045.msg8539959#msg8539959 date=1308346201]Some men also DO it[/quote]ehen nau, dem call am "equal rights"

Wow this love must be powerful o I hope e don last now e reach 19 years of age

anybody wey dey for Agape avenue know what "dittomatic" mean?  

First African film (mirror boy) to be released in mainstream UK cinemas 

http://www.voice-online.co.uk/content.php?show=19984

Forgive me if this has already been stated

I'm glad that Nollywood could be of some assistance to another African country. I't also nice of The Gambia to express their appreciation. Gambia is truly beautiful 

The Gambian minister of Tourism, Fatou Mass Jobe has applauded the substantial successes and achievements so far recorded by  ‘Mirror Boy’, a film shot in The Gambia with a considerable number of local actors.

Whilst speaking at the premiere held at the Kairaba Beach Hotel, she noted that the film does go a long way to show the beauty of The Gambia to the outside world and its enormous potential as an attractive tourist destination.

She said: “We want to promote The Gambia to the outside world as a tourist destination which creates employment for thousands of people. The Gambia is eco-friendly. The Gambia is beautiful and there is more to discover.”

She further went on to acknowledge the immense contributions of President Jammeh to the success of the film in keeping with his unwavering trust in the ability of Gambians in particular and Africans in general to achieve great things.

“His Excellency Sheikh Professor Dr. Yahya A J J Jammeh has immensely contributed to the success of this film because he believes in Gambian people. He is also a Pan-Africanist and when he sees something and believes in it, he urges all of us in the government to support it”.

She also recognized the sterling performance put in by the Gambian actors as a robust demonstration of the fact that the country has got talents, which can be nurtured and used as launching pad for a local film industry.

For her part, the director of Fabecs Promotions, Fatima Jabbi declared that she felt hugely privileged and proud to be part of the success of ‘The Mirror Boy’.

She maintained that she was very optimistic of its prospects for success owing, in no mean measure, to the blessing it received from President Jammeh from the very outset.

“I thank God for making this possible. It has been a long journey. I thank President Jammeh for being the Godfather of Mirror Boy. I thank him because he has a vision to make The Gambia grow and I am part of that vision. He should stay here because we have all seen what he has done in sixteen years,” she said.

The gigantic success of the experiment, according to her, should serve as proof, if one was needed, that there are potentially bright film actors in The Gambia who can compete with the best in the world.

Mrs. Jabbi predicted that the country will have a fully-fledged film industry in a decade whist calling on the public and all stakeholders to continue giving the needed support for the attainment of such a collective ambition which can be called ‘Gamnollywood’.

The producer of the film, Mr. Obi Omolonye said that the level of cooperation and support she received from Gambians has far exceeded his expectations. This, according to him, has helped him to make the best movie in his film-making career so far whilst warning that the success of a single film cannot ensure the establishment of a movie industry in the country.

He said: “I have been shooting films in many parts of the world but never have I received the kind of love and support I got from Gambians. This would not have been possible without the local logistical support we received to shoot the film. However, it will take more ‘Mirror Boys’ and ‘Mirrors Girls’ to establish the Gambian film industry. You must continue to strive hard to do more and also get all the support needed to achieve it.”

The CEO of OH records, Akin Salami, said he shared President Jammeh’s Pan-Africanist beliefs and the need for Africans to tell the African story rather than foreigners doing so in the negative tense.

He said that Africa has been subjected to a lot of negative publicity by the Western media, which he suggested has failed to properly acknowledge the enormous achievements of the people of African descent.

“Africans have achieved great things in the world. There are many Africans playing in the premier league doing great things. The President of the United States is the son of a black immigrant from Kenya,” he said.

He finally said that the film has garnered immense international interest, prompting invitations from different parts of the world like the United States, Europe and Asia.

http://today.gm/hi/news/3548.html

For all the Uk'ers out there 'Meet The Adebanjo's' is coming out on the 26th this month  maybe others can catch it online too

The official website: http://me2igetblog./


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*Prof. of Art*

is the synchronous stroke of twain moistly veiled lips blended as one exhibiting a kinetic portrait 

Mcleo007:
Lol @award. That's not the reason I Started this thread.

carry go 

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=691727.msg8531598#msg8531598 date=1308240832]Did you just say marrying outside his ethnicity?  WTF?  Yoruba and Igbo is AN ETHNICITY?  When have a tribe every became an ethnicity?   [/quote]I am a little careful with the words I use nowadays. Not too long ago in one of my conversations I inserted the word "tribe". It served to anger my recipient who berated me for using such language and then proceeded to give me a whole long lecture about how the UK (for example) which consists of English, Welsh, Irish etc are not referred to as mere "tribes". I resigned myself from that day on from employing that term hence I just use "ethnicity" in my attempt to be PC and so that I can avoid such a scenario from ever occurring again. However I did use to believe that "ethnicity" and "tribe" were both interchangeable - I guess I was wrong then.

Mcleo007:
I, myself have  dated more igbo ladies than I have of the yoruba folks. For those who fall within this bracket, let's keep it up. Nothing compares to it.

@ OP clap for yourself. It's as if you're asking for an award for having dated women outside your ethnicity. Is it necessary to keep scores?

At the end of the day when any two people in Nigeria marry each other out of love and bear children that do not become groomed in ethnic bigotry or stereotypes that is "A Good Sign for Naija's Future".
The sole answer is not by having mongrels that have ingredients from various ethnic groups in the country but for people not to adhere to tribalism or stereotypes. It is possible to hail from a sole ethnic group without harboring malice for neighboring ethnics and that still brings "edification of the human race"

Lady Gaga = Demon possessed + Fame obsessed

and I'm quite disgusted with myself for having accorded my precious time on this non-entity 
quelle horreur!

vislabraye:
I'm quite curious cos if you ask a lot of ladies, they tell you they want tall, dark and handsome men.

I cannot speak for a large group of people however even though such criteria may be appealing in the mainstream I do not believe such qualifications resonates perfectly with everybody but in order to address the question posed I will indulge in that sentiment for a while.
Personally, why I feel some women may be attracted to these attributes in a man might be because it reflects strength - "tall" and "dark" connotes strength(physical), dominance etc. "Handsome" just completes and complements the whole package.

Does look really matter to women ? From a scale of 1 to 10 how would a lady rate looks ?

As for me I am more attracted to the spirit. Disposition is greater than the countenance in my opinion. 
Beauty is only temporary so I will not be using such index as a requirement when seeking for a mate but of course it is a factor but not the deciding factor.

But i've also noticed that a lot of tall guys don't have the swagger ie, they're what you call klutz? 

Lol the taller you are the less gravity you have - I was an embodiment to this rule when I started my growth spurt 

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A rather interesting topic might I add

on the other hand it's interesting that the desired traits in women oppose the set rule for men (at least in the mainstream). Light skin is heralded instead so in essence the connotations attached to the "desired" attributes for men may register still for a "tall", "dark" lady - thus some people label such women as "masculine" the opposite may also be found in light skin women vs men - I think.


This is just my 2 kobo

luka1981:
i will start by saying that the worst European is better than the best African.
we Africans are our brother killers. envious and greedy, we love gossips like food. the darker our skin the worse our behaviour. very wicked, heartless, the word honour is not in our dictionary, we belongs to makaveli's world, that a winner should be happy no matter how he wins. no wonder the Governor general o Nigeria, lord Fredrick luggard insisted that our brain is not closer to  that  of the Europeans or Asians but to that of the animals.
  and in world competition's, we are champions in HIV/AIDS, starvation and poverty,WAR,GENOCIDE,DISEASES,UNDERDEVELOPMENT, our political section is a big shame.

If you sincerely subscribe to all that above don't worry, it is not Africa that is "cursed" it is your mind that is CURSED.
I just hope say you be artificial African, after-all we no wan add to our "curses" before msheew (smh)

[quote author=tpia@ link=topic=689051.msg8526714#msg8526714 date=1308175739]you want to invite the japanese over into your hometown as your long lost brothers? [/quote]it could be vice versa 

Please PAGAN 9JA can you kindly edit and remove that image, not only is it inappropriate but it is highly grotesque.