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 Romance › 8 Dos And Don'ts Of A First Date by eneazi(op): 9:18am On Jan 06, 2020 |
Planning a first date can be daring. You want to plan your date to make sure you have a great time. Finally the day is here, and you feel prepared to go win yourself a heart, and keep it. Your expectations are high no doubt. First let's take a minute to look at the Dos and Don'ts of a first date shall we? Do look good it a is better to be over dressed than look sloppy Don't forget to smell nice. Remember first impression go a long way Do stay positive if you enter the date doubting your self worth, or feeling defeated those feelings will carry throughout the night Do not bring previous dating experience that did not go well, rather focus on what you can learn. Rather than dwelling on the negativity Do have an engaging conversation though for some people especially the quiet this could be the most daring part of the date Do not tell your whole story a little mystery is adviceable here Do ask questions if he/she shares something about themselves or asks question always reply back a similar story or asking same question Do not make yourself the center of the discussion Do have an open mind by showing interest in what your date thinks about a topic Do not be too judgemental Do try to listen to what they are saying Do not let your poor listening skill ruin the date Do show interest in topics that come up. A little curiosity will get you far, ask questions Do not let your mind wander off in the middle of the conversation Do split the bills Do not allow the other person pick the bill that attitude is of past decades https://eneazi..com/2020/01/8-dos-and-donts-of-first- date.html If you need someone to talk to, or counsel you on issues in your relationship Whatsapp : +2347032423546 1 Like |
| Romance › 6 Ways To Make Your Relationship Better by eneazi(op): 8:18am On Dec 31, 2019 |
We want the best in everything we are involved in it’s in our nature as humans, but life as we know is not a pedestal of perfection, and so is relationship. If you have a good relationship and want to make things better this post is for you, or if you are trying to save your 'ship' from sinking this post for you Appreciate The major problem with most relationship is the entitlement mentality of some people gifts, surprises, and care should not be one sided. No matter how little a gift or act of kindness you get act/ look pleased, and if what you recieved is below your expectations do not talk about it in the moment Tone Matters The truth is you can be right, but wrong at the top of your voice do not be insensitive when making your point known. Generally, because of things left unsaid, one’s reaction to the most trivial thing could be extra Forgive Forgetfulness is common, and no one is above it probably because we all have things we are dealing with your partner forgetting important dates, or doing things you asked them to does not mean they are unloving. It's also important to forgive even if he/she errs desist from bringing up such incidence at any provocation Apologize If you feel you’ve crushed your partner by your words or actions don’t hesitate to apologize; take responsibility when you’re in the wrong. Remember we are all prone to little slip-ups, but it’s the approach afterwards that matters Sacrifice Be willinging to sacrifice for one another. If you really love or respect your partner it’s important to let go of things, but that does not mean losing yourself and what you stand for Listen Another key to make your relationship better is listening most times you hear your partner speak without listening its important you imbibe the habit of listening when crucial issues to move your relationship is discussed https://eneazi..com/2019/12/6-ways-to-make-your-relationship-better.html If you need someone to talk to, or counsel you on issues in your relationship Whatsapp: +234 703 2423 546 Email : unazipat@gmail.com 1 Like
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| Romance › Re: 8 Ways To Deal With Depression In Relationship by eneazi(op): 3:29pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
eneazi:If you need someone to talk to or counsel you on issues in your relationship Whatsapp me on: 07032423546 Email: unazipat@gmail.com |
| Romance › Re: 8 Ways To Deal With Depression In Relationship by eneazi(op): 9:38am On Dec 20, 2019 |
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| Romance › 8 Ways To Deal With Depression In Relationship by eneazi(op): 9:30am On Dec 20, 2019 |
It’s undeniable that a good percentage of us in relationships are or have been depressed at one point in time; this could be as a result of various reasons, and sometimes we hold our partners accountable and by so doing transfer aggressions on them using words and actions forgetting that our partners are humans and have blood flowing through their veins that is to say your partner could be crushed by your words and actions. If you feel things have derailed a bit in your relationship and its making you feel depressed these ways listed below will help you go around it 1. Get busy; get yourself to do something, get busy with work or make your passion come alive an idle mind is a space for assumptions and depression too 2. Make new friends the reason for your depression could be as a result of your closed circle that is letting your friends go because you are hooked up 3. Communication is a key ingredient talk about whatever it is in your relationship or partner’s attitude that is making you depressed talk to your partner or any trusted person 4. Read self help books research shows that a number of people have been able to overcome depression by reading self help books 5· Try to walk away from argument with your partner that will leave you depressed 6· Like I stated in a previous post we all love our personal space stop prying into your partner’s gadget one of the reason why you’re depressed could be that you are looking at things you ought not to 7· Contentment is another very important key in relationship your depression could be as a result of comparing your very near perfect relationship to the make-believe you see on social media remember no relationship is a pedestal of perfection there are struggles on many fronts 8· Take care of your body; eat healthy, exercise, rest more, and let go of any negative energy https://eneazi..com/2019/12/8-ways-to-deal-with-depression-in.html 1 Like
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| Romance › Re: What Are The Spiritual Effects Of Sleeping With A Married Man Knowingly ? by eneazi(f): 4:22pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
What you did was undeniably wrong, but it's all in you head If you don't forgive yourself and let go of the self condemnation it will come back to you remember the energy you put out to the universe makes condemnation come upon you 1 Like |
| Politics › Re: I Was Born An Actor, Politician – Dino Melaye by eneazi(f): 4:45pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
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| Romance › 6 Ways To Revive Your Fizzling Relationship by eneazi(op): 1:12pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
As we are aware relationship/marriage is not a bed of roses every relationship has its ups and downs and the honeymoon stage of a relationship does not always stay forever. The question is have you over the months/years come to the bitter realization that the sweet touchy romance you once shared at the beginning has fizzled, and this has made you blame your partner/spouse for the distance in the relationship it’s important to go back to where it all started you will be surprised that you might be as guilty as your spouse for the friction. These few ways listed below will serve as a road-map in reviving your already fizzled or fizzling relationship Communicate More I have always stressed communication as a vital key for any relationship, talk about whatsoever you feel might be the cause of the friction/distance between you and your partner it could be stress/pressure from work, family, friends etc. Talk about everything new, setbacks, and fears. It’s important you have the habit of observation ingrained in you; you should be able to take every detail as surely as a snapshot and remember them at the right time, be sensitive to your partner’s emotions when having a conversation Stop Comparing The major problem with most people is they bring their near perfect relationship into comparison with what they see on social media or what their friends make them believe, by so doing they put their partner/spouse under unnecessary pressure and the only way such person can protect him/herself from that kind of pressure is by being defensive. Stop comparing your relationship with the make-believe relationships around Do Things You Love Together Spend more time together doing things you both enjoy for instance you could visit places, read books, play games, watch a movie you both love it’s important to note that before blaming your partner for drifting away you need to look closely and make sure the problem does not come from the fact that you have become a shadow of your old self and have stopped doing things you love with your partner Surprise Your Partner Treat your partner/spouse to one of their favorite restaurant or home cooked meal, surprise him/her with a concert ticket to go see their favorite artist or better still surprise them with something that's wrapped nicely with a bow on it everyone likes that kind of surprise Don’t be in Each Other's Space We all love our personal space you'd be surprised that one of the things tearing your relationship apart could be the invasion of each other’s personal space give your partner space to breathe. Allow them do things they enjoy without you breathing down their neck, also cut down on the incessant calls the minute they are out Go On Vacation A new environment, culture, cuisine might be the antidote for the friction/distance in your relationship https://eneazi..com/2019/12/6-ways-to-revive-your-fizzling_14.html 1 Like
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| Romance › Why Men Hide Their Victimisation by eneazi(op): 7:32am On Dec 04, 2019 |
A 33 year old man from Portugal reached out to me via email some days ago because he felt from my previous post I expressed all the complex things he had felt in just a handful of sentences. This man was abused from childhood to teenage several times by his elder sister’s friend and this has demoralized him as an adult he tried speaking up about it some years ago to some friends and family no one believed him, he was told straight without a smidgen of sympathy that it would have been easier believed if it were one of his sisters who shared such experience, well like thousands of men out there with same experience that was the time he figured out some gender complex matter Statistic has shown that 3 out of every 5 man have been sexually abused by an adult while growing up. Men go through this abuse as much as women, but, there is no law in place to protect or encourage them to speak up, and for the few who tried speaking up they are not believed, and their story jettisoned Over the decades there have been different variation of abuse ranging from verbal, emotional, psychological, and physical violence inflicted on men from childhood by their caregivers and friends some months ago there was a story on some blogs of a young man who came out to share his story of how he was molested while growing up by a close relative of his, but like hundreds of men with same experience his story was discredited by the society When it comes to issue relating to sexual assault and harassment there is zero balance because a larger population of the world tend to be objective by favoring the woman. Men go through a lot of abuse from childhood to adulthood without speaking up. I stated in a post awhile ago about how these men bottle up things because they have been taught from childhood not to speak since it’s seen as weakness The sickening thing is that there are thousands of social intervention groups to protect women from men, but none fighting for the protection of men https://eneazi..com/2019/11/why-men-hide-their-victimization.html 2 Likes 1 Share
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| Romance › 5 Reasons Why You Should Marry Your Friend by eneazi(op): 8:13am On Dec 03, 2019 |
Marriage as we know is not a minute commitment, but a long time you will have to spend with someone it's about opening up yourself in entirety to your spouse most people are scared of the aftermath of such openness, therefore giving way to secrets, lies, and betrayal, but when you marry your friend there will be no such fear because your friend already knows you. These few reasons will help you understand why it's important for your radar to look closer than straying. It is important when making up your mind on who's to cruise on that 'forever ship' with you to be certain that someone is your friend this is because your friend already knows you, and the most amazing thing is they respect you just the way you are. You are allowed to be yourself around them. In as much as getting married to a passionate person might be tempting and not bad, but getting married to your friend has it's peek and they know exactly what to do when you are in dire need of a friend. Your friend will always be supportive and will never stop rooting for you, no matter how crazy your dreams are, your friend will be there to encourage and pull you up. They will be there through your pit and peek. You have shared values and goals and no matter how many times you fight they won't make you feel bad about yourself or give up on you You can count on being your crazy, melancholic, and loud self around them, and they won't judge you or make you go on a personality revolution they get your inside joke and you don't have to be overly conscious or censor yourself with them because you are loved and accepted the way you are Most relationship lack good communication people find themselves in situations where they cannot be themselves, and are scared to say it the way it is, but when with your friend you can talk about your need and emotions assertively without being judged they listen and know the right thing to say. You remember the crazy, mischievous, adventurous things you've done together. You know each other too well that just by looking at the other person's face you know what they think or feel about a particular situation, most importantly you get to have fun and grow old together with no hidden surprise https://eneazi..com/2019/08/want-happy-marriage-marry-your-friend.html 1 Like
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| Romance › The Dos And Don'ts Of A New Flame by eneazi(op): 1:42pm On Dec 02, 2019 |
I had a discussion with a friend who has been single for 2 years going on three I asked him what he missed most in a relationship he said ‘the connection and bond’ but in a funny way he has grown very comfortable with his present status, and that his past experience has made him skeptical of having the fairy tale kind of love he had envisioned as a child. Being myself I made him understand that just like life when it comes to relationship no two tales end the same, and there is a possibility of finding love again. Now the question is are you like my friend and have been out of the ‘ship’ for long? are you trying to make one work at the moment, but not sure how to go about it not to worry these few dos and don’ts will help set you on the right track. Do make honesty the bedrock of your new relationship there should be no secrete no lies keep in mind that whatever you’re trying to keep from your partner in the bid of protecting them will come back to hurt them at the end. Don’t compare your new flame to the past in any way no matter how terrible your breakup might have been remember it’s a new start, another chance you’ve been given to rewrite wrong and be a better version of yourself. Do talk about everything from your interest, values, goals, fears and hobbies when it comes to relationship I have always stressed communication as key Don’t hold back how you feel about a particular issue or subject when it has to do with your relationship Do things you both enjoy together you’re supposed to enjoy each other’s company not bore yourselves to death be flexible when it comes to decision that has to do with you or your spouse. Don’t be too uptight or rigid when it comes to your relationship, every minute you spend together is meant to be enjoyed and not a jail sentence Do stay true to yourself and your spouse work to improve yourself by becoming a better person for the healthy growth of the relationship Don’t lose yourself or what you stand for just to please your partner draw the line when it comes to certain things Do respect each other’s personal space know when your partner is comfortable or uncomfortable with a particular situation. Don’t abuse your partner either verbally, emotionally, psychologically, sexually or otherwise be sure to know what your partner likes and dislikes https://eneazi..com/2019/11/the-dos-and-donts-of-new-flame.html 1 Like
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| Romance › Hp's Focus On Privacy Could Help Those In Abusive Relationship by eneazi(op): 11:43am On Nov 30, 2019 |
When we talk about relationships, we tend to focus on only the good and great side of things. The roses, the honeymoon and all the mushy stuff that makes followers on social media swoon. However, if we don’t address the bad and ugly side of things, there will not be the right balance of great relationships, in every sense of it, in the world. To that effect, we discussed the occurrence of domestic violence by the use of tech not quite long ago. Today, we have more reason to expand on that. Who is this post for? This piece is for everyone. At least, anyone who cares about their security and privacy at all. When we discussed the former topic mentioned above, one of the things that I made clear was that your devices could be hacked and used against you. That makes it very important to trust your units so that you don’t fall prey to targeted technology attacks of any kind. Combing through the news feeds just a couple of weeks ago, I stumbled upon a piece of tech – HP Spectre x360 13. Now, this laptop itself did not wow me as much as what it stood for. Of course, tech-savvy individuals will take one look at this unit and be wowed by the amazing specs that it comes with the whole that is true, it is far from what I saw in this unit. Above all else, it was the potential to keep just about anyone safe from most kinds of device compromise which could be used to abuse a partner, with or without their knowledge. How do I mean? What the spec sheet of this device doesn’t say is that it: Features a LastPass Integration My piece on the prevention of domestic violence perpetrated through technology hammered on the importance of setting up a strong and secure password for your devices. If you have been with a partner that knows you almost inside and out, that becomes a little bit impossible. After all, they could quickly determine what your password combinations could be. Instead of leaving password creation to your own logic, how about you take advantage of the password generating software supplied by LastPass? Best believe that any password you create with that software will take even experienced hackers several years to hack. The best part of it all is that you don’t have to use the same password for multiple accounts – and you surely don’t have to remember them either. With the password manager feature, all of your secure logins can be stored in one place and accessed on any other device from anywhere else in the world. Comes with a VPN subscription On the Spectre x360 13, HP partnered ExpressVPN to bring a Windows version of the top-rated VPN in the market right now. Layering your internet connection over a VPN allows you to enjoy protection from anyone who might be snooping around your internet data for sensitive details. While this does not mean you still don’t have to clear your browsing history of sensitive information, you can now access the web without the fear of someone remotely seeing what you are up to. Features a Privacy Screen How about needing to work in your own home (or anywhere else) but not wanting anyone else to see what’s on the screen? Worry no more, and you have the Privacy Screen from HP to thank for that. Engaging this with the simple tap of the F2 button, the screen becomes modified so much that only you and anyone else directly in front of the screen can see what’s on it. Integrates Audio-Visual Privacy Just about anything with a camera can be hacked to spy on the user. This extends to your laptop and that little webcam unit over it. Little wonder why we see many people placing tape over the webcam when not in use. HP makes that easier to fix by integrating a webcam kill switch on the Sceptre x360 13. Toggling the switch disconnects the webcam from the main motherboard, making remote or onsite access impossible till it is toggled again. The same can be said for a dedicated LED button on the keyboard which mutes the mic whenever engaged. That helps keep you safe from hackers taking control of your microphone port to listen to you. https://eneazi..com/2019/11/hps-focus-on-privacy-could-help-those.html 1 Like
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| Romance › Question Of The Day by eneazi(op): 11:01am On Oct 19, 2019 |
What Really Counts As Cheating In Your Book? |
| Romance › Tech Safety For Domestic Violence by eneazi(op): 1:03pm On Aug 28, 2019 |
| Jobs/Vacancies › Re: FRSC 2018 Recruitment Screening Time-Table, Dates by eneazi(f): 11:44am On Sep 23, 2018 |
The screening exercise is meant for only those who received the mail, because in the email received applicants are asked to come along with a Print out of summary data page and email notification |
| Romance › 6 Ways To Find Love Again by eneazi(op): 10:23am On Aug 27, 2018 |
It is no news that a good number of us have suffered heart break at one point of our lives while it takes some a minute to move on like nothing ever happened, for some the healing process takes a longer route making them check out of life completely. The question is have you been out of the "ship" for long and you find it difficult in getting into another not to worry I have you covered with this few ways on how to find that kind of love you've always wanted. Let go of past emotions Before you you can adhere to the five other ways listed below you have to forgive your ex and let go of all emotions bottled in don't let the fear of what happened in the past keep you from being with the person you want and living the life you want Look good You have to represent your person it is said that if you want to make a good impression on someone before words are even exchanged it is important to look good, and this is how comfortable you are in your skin remember the way you look speak alot about the type of person you are, and if you have to get that revenge body by all means do so Make new friends If you really want to find love again you have to go out more, you have to understand that your days of grieving is over it is time you meet new people, interact more, be open to new friends, be a good listener, and present yourself as someone who's available Stop comparing Avoid comparing every eligible person you come in contact with your ex do not find reasons to find something wrong with this new person don't forget that as human beings we are conditioned differently and our priorities, goals, dreams and strength differ give your new flame time Be yourself Be confident with who you are, do not put yourself down, though this can be quite difficult if you were with someone who destroyed your self esteem in the past, do not grow a chip on your shoulder because you're with a certain class of people, make a lasting impression wherever you go, be sincere, and believe that you're not difficult to love Let go of expectations We all grew up with alot of expectations that didn't turn out right, but if there is anything I've learned is never predict the end from the beginning my point is if you really want to be happy with your relationship, and life in general let go of expectations, and be open to possibilities it will help you sleep better. Source : eneazi..com 1 Like |
| Celebrities › Re: Lizzy Anjorin Writes President Buhari An Open Letter by eneazi(f): 2:24pm On Jun 29, 2018 |
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| Literature › The Proposal by eneazi(op): 12:37pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
Emem stepped into the deserted street at about 10:45pm, and regretted staying that late at the fashion house, at about that second her phone began to ring uncontrollably, who could be calling at this odd hour when she was trying to get herself home unharmed she thought, she was too scared to pick the call paradventure someone crawls from behind, as she skilfully opened her handbag and peeped to see who the caller was, fortunately enough just the right person to bail her out, as she wrapped her scarf round her head and neck using her earpiece to recieve the call 'Emem where are you?'. The exact salutation she had expected 'Uhmm..just closing' she said waiting for an outburst 'What?!' He brayed. 'Is your car still at the mechanic? anyway where ever you are go back to where humans are and I will come get you.' 'Okay' she said too scared to protest. She had met Tayo at the Mangu orientation camp in Plateau State. He was the most fun loving, blunt person she had ever met and thanks to him adapting to life in the north central region of the country was easy after spending her entire life in the south south. After their service year their friendship waxed strong and eight years down the lane Tayo was doing well in his career as a medical doctor. He had been there for her after her break up from her long time boyfriend, to when she started her cloth line when every other person felt she was making a mistake dumping her career as a Lab Scientist for Fashion Design she thought, but today she had upgraded the label to the exact level she wanted attending big fashion shows in the country. She needs to stop troubling him she thought. Tayo knew the drive from his Asokoro residence to Durban Street would take fifteen minutes, as his thoughts wondered back to Emem she was probably trying to finish one of her designs again. He had met her during the one year compulsory National Youth Service eight years ago, and her beauty which has gotten better with years had attracted her to him from afar, when he was able to talk to her, her intelligence, sarcasm got him, she was the kind of girl who kept you on your toes, and a minute spent with her means turning on your intellectual antenna, and had been a big support system contributing immensely in making him the man he is today. He opened the glove compartment and brought out a ring box he had had for two years now, he knew he had to try again she was undeniably the missing puzzle piece of his life. He knew his action was going to give her something to laugh about. Tayo drove to where she was, it was drizzling again, and she was a sight to behold as she rushed into the car. 'You shouldn't have bothered' said Emem smiling hoping the words would stop him from giving one of his sermons on the danger of staying late at work, to her delight he simply replied 'You're welcome' Instead of driving her home he took her to her favourite restuarant she had fallen in love with their beautifully cooked cuisines using traditional fresh herbs and spices. He knew the place would be deserted at this time of the night. Emem was too tired to ask and on seeing the restuarant sign post realized how hungry she was. When she was settled and the waiter had taken her order she smiled at how one could never get enough of their top notch customer service. Tayo struggled with himself to get the box out of his pocket, but his mouth was too excited and spoke before consulting his hands. 'Marry me' 'Excuse me?' Ignoring her question he gave a speech on how he didn't want to lose her. 'We need to go on a date first' She said 'Okay I can handle that', said Tayo hopefully as she broke into a laugh and almost fell off her chair 'Well that was expected'. He murmured. Source : eneazi..com |
| Romance › Live Life On Your Own Term by eneazi(op): 11:04am On Jun 08, 2018 |
Alot of people today are scared of living life on their own terms they live each passing day walking on eggshells by letting their family, friends and society define their goals, passion, relationship and who they are, I hate to burst your bubbles, but you're going to end up not satisfied or fulfilled if you keep trying to live your life on other people's terms. It's time to live that life you've always wanted. Make the most out of your potential invest in your passion and make a living out of it (if that is what you want) learn that skill to help you, own your happiness without the fear of being questioned or criticized. Let go of negative people who will rather see you below than above them. Welcome things or people who believe in the beautiful potential of life itself, people who believe in your drive/purpose, people who contribute to your mental, physical and spiritual growth. The truth is no matter how cautious or reckless you live your life you will get criticized and analysed do what makes you happy. Detach yourself from people that stagnate your growth in life, detach yourself from people you've learnt nothing from, but are good at complaining, analysing and criticizing other people's lives keep friends that appreciate the concept of true friendship, let go of people who have little or no respect for you. My point in all these, be true to yourself be responsible for your life goals, career, journey and association stay away from toxic people appreciate, your body, be proud of where you're coming from, your achievements, set backs, what you've been through or going through which is gradually moulding you into the amazing person you are. Source : eneazi..com 1 Like |
| Literature › Unspoken by eneazi(op): 12:02pm On Jun 05, 2018 |
She recalled the first time he came to her room, her mother had been away for some women conference, and she had gone to bed a bit late because of her home work and was barely asleep when she heard a tap on the door, when she opened it he stepped in, she was surprised, confused and frightened seeing him in her room that late. He immediately pushed her to the bed, and started caressing her with his face in her neck and his other hand between her thighs "don't worry you won't feel any pain" he said in a hoarse voice. She tried fighting and pushing him away, but his body felt solid against hers, she was tired of struggling and lay rigidly with her eyes squeezed shut, determined not to let them open with the tears flowing steadily as her heart pounded. When he was satisfied he stood up and told her sternly "if you tell anyone about this I'll kill your mother and younger sister". When she had tried to move her legs It was moist and slippery. She had cried that night, as several thoughts flowed through her mind in a slow motion; she was only ten, was she going to get pregnant? She thought of telling her mother when she returned, but his threat was all that rang in her head. When her tears was spent, she got out her journal, her journal had been a place to reveal her childish feelings and thoughts that where easier unspoken, though she had not written anything in a while. When her mother returned she was too scared to reveal what her stepfather had done to her. As the years rolled by the visit became more frequent and each time after satisfying his animal lust gave her a pill to take, and leaving her with more threats. She had ran away, but was found and brought back by her mother. She was fifteen now and could take care of herself, but her fear was for her little sister she was barely her age before he stole her innocence away, and she was not letting her sister go through same. As part of her plan she had refused sleeping in her room after she was brought back, and moved into her younger sister's room, but on this day after the usual morning devotion she raised her voice loud enough for all to hear that she was returning to her 'precious room', and by the look on his face she knew he fell for it. She remembered that evening at the church service how he had asked the choir to sing his favourite song before giving the sermon. "This is the day that the Lord has made I will rejoice and be glad in it" She knew her face was a sight to behold; as she sang the song piously, rocking back and forth on her seat like a new convert. After the service he had remained behind to attend to people who wanted to see him, and her mother had driven herself and her sister home as she wondered why her mother had to remarry after her father's death, and why she had to take up the disgusting animal's last name. She would always thank God and all her departed ancestors as he slipped into her room that night. She had given up all hope that he was going to make his usual visit. Thinking fast; she felt underneath her pillow for what was needed, she was going to make it fast and wish he would feel the pain she had felt all these years, but on a second thought decided not to use the blade, and taking control started teasing him, he was surprised and held her tightly releasing a loud groan, and shuddering wildly then shutting his eyes, at that moment she used the spare pillow on his face as he was not expecting it, using all her strength fuelled with the anger of the past five years she suffocated him, he struggled for a minute then he was still. Eventually she rolled off him peeling her damp clothes from his body as she dragged his lifeless body to the floor, and bumped his head hard on the wall, living him in the pull of his own blood. She had been terrified, but had survived. She felt a little proud of her accomplishment, if that is what one could call it. With a smile on her face she stepped out screaming as loud as she could waking up her mother and every other person in the house. |
| Romance › How To Figure Out If He Is Married by eneazi(op): 12:59pm On Feb 07, 2018 |
Most often when the issue of men cheating on their significant half is raised the girls they are caught with are usually accused of leading them on. I have read stories about single girls going after married men and using absurd means to keep them, but if I'm to pay us the courtesy of being blunt I'd say some of these men are good at covering their tracks, they do not portray themselves as being in a relationship talk more of cruising in the "forever ship" in so doing deny their wives and children for some short term commitment. A friend shared a story with me a while ago on how she was hovering on the brink of depression when she found out her supposed lover of eighteen months was married with two beautiful children. Never for once did it cross her mind, and when she asked of his marital status on their first dates he had denied being married, but like every other cheat he got sloppy, and she was lucky to walk away after realising it. With her story I was able to come up with some few signs on how to know if you're dating a married man, and in the dark. 1. Calls you at a particular time 2. Holds back when conversation steer towards his private life 3. Frequent Unanswered Calls especially when you're apart 4. He seem to set up your meeting in discreet places 5. You do the show off on social media 6. Always in a hurry to end conversation when on phone with you 7. Refuse to honour your invitation to any social gathering/hangouts 8. Not clear when certain topics regarding family and children comes up 9. Tone of his voice gets guarded when you're apart 10. You've never met any of his close friends or relatives 11. The sex is great because somewhere down he likes the excitement for forbidden sexual encounter. Source : eneazi..com 1 Like |
| Romance › 7 Signs Your Friend Has A Crush On You by eneazi(op): 9:38am On Feb 05, 2018 |
As much as we think we know our friends, most times we miss the glaring telltale signs that our "dear friends" wants more than being "just friends" with us we keep going round in circles searching for the perfect person for us while the right person has been standing by, always there to hold our hands through the horrible breakups we've been through, while others around us see the signs that our "good friend" has fallen deep for us we tend to be blind, and consider them the last persons we wish to end up with, well here are some few signs to help you out. 1. Listens to you As humans one of the things we desire when it comes to our association with others is someone who listens to what we have to say and take us serious. If your friend pays close attention everytime to whatever you have to say without judging you for your actions, and sits through every boring story you share, and doesn't mind how many times you have told a story, remembers every random thing you said in the past, if he is there to listen to your pain, struggle and knows the right thing to say to you, this is a telltale sign the person has a thing for you. 2. Tolerate your excesses Does your friend accept you for who you are by keeping up with your personality even when others consider it to be crazy, complicated, overbearing? Is he not judgy, but rather gives you a room to be yourself whenever you're together? He doesn't take offense in anything you do or say to him? If the answers to these is what I''m thinking then my friend it's a sign he wants to be more than just-a- friend. 3. Go out of he's way for you Generally people tend to go out of their way to do things for people they really like, but most times if a person is naturally nice we tend to miss the point. So if your friend always go out of his way to make you happy, and make the most uncomfortable situation comfortable just for you without thinking of himself, and is ready to go extra miles to do things he wouldn't have done for just-a-friend then it means someone (your friend) likes you a little bit too much. 4. Hate to see you hurt He hates to see you in pain, and any negative thing that affects you does same to him most times to your surprise he even feels the pain of whatever you're going through a little bit more than you do, well this is a sign that your dear friend clearly has a crush on you. 5. Always seem available Does your friend show up at every given time you need him? And would rather let go whatever he is doing just to spend time with you? Think about it, he has never disappointed you, but rather seek out excuse just to be with. If this is not a sign he has a crush on you I don't know what else is. 6. Never talk about their relationship If your friend finds it difficult in bringing up discussion that leads to his relationship or has been single for as long as you can remember, and does not seem to be interested in anyone in particular, but waiting for that fictional perfect person who's attributes clearly matches yours it's a sign he's into you. 7. Compliment you alot Some people are quite generous at dishing out compliment while others are not, but if your friend is not very good in the compliment department, but tends to notice every little details, change, look and compliments you more than he does with others, and his compliment tend to be more personal this is a huge sign he likes you. Source : eneazi..com 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: Men Also Bleed by eneazi(op): 3:22pm On Jan 08, 2018 |
JONNYSPUTE:True |
| Romance › Re: Men Also Bleed by eneazi(op): 1:19pm On Jan 08, 2018 |
Snow02:Be careful what you wish for |
| Romance › Re: Men Also Bleed by eneazi(op): 12:04pm On Jan 08, 2018 |
Romeo3:What I did with the title is called A Play On Word, Pun, Phonetic mix-up or Double meaning; which means a clever use of Language in Literature. |
| Romance › Men Also Bleed by eneazi(op): 10:26am On Jan 08, 2018 |
I was out with some friends two days before the new year, and we were all having a good time discussing our pains and gains for the year 2017 over a good meal, music, and the most lovely view, and over the course of the evening someone steered the conversation to one of my best friends Mr A and asked after his girlfriend, and why she was absent, because normally anytime we got together she would tag along, my friend started stuttering with pain in his eyes which was so unlike him with all blood drained from his face he simply replied "We're no longer together" There was an uncomfortable silence of about forty five seconds (like everyone of us was trying to make meaning of what he said in his or her way) which was immediately followed by a thousand and one question from the five other persons on the table I wanted asking what happened, but the look on his face made me realize he was not ready to talk about it. Unfortunately our other friends didn't understand that and kept pressing, well here is a summary of his story. Miss B was insecured if he called less she suspected him, and if he called often she accused him of not trusting her enough, that was not all she was verbally, and physically abusive most times, and my poor friend portraying himself as a strong man, and with the mentality that a man's emotions should never be worn on his sleeve had to go through all that without telling his friends. He said he felt helpless and was afraid of loosing her, and was afraid others might think less of him, well at this point I sat on my seat with the hinges of my mouth left unfixed. He showed us visible scares, and I clearly remember asking him a while ago about one of such scares and he gave an excuse of bumping his head into the wall I remember having my reservations, but didn't push for more details since his body language made it clear that he wasn't ready to talk about whatever happened. Anyway only after the last incidence did he settle down and find a voice of reasoning for the first time he had to call things off for the love of life, though he recieves threat messages and calls from her on daily basis as he showed us some of such messages. He finished his story looking at me in particular and waiting for one of my epic lectures on relationships, but I had to refrain myself, because he was hurting, and any criticism would have made him hurt more as a mental picture of the first time he introduced me to his reserved, slightly shy new girlfriend flashed through my mind I had my doubts then, and typical of me I told him, but he was soaked in his ideology of "shy, quiet women make the best spouse/partner". Most times when issues of domestic abuse is raised we forget that the men are affected just as the women, but because they are taught from childhood to hold back emotions they keep all things bottled in. Thousands of men are blinded by this ideology, and would rather remain silent when they go through despicable things at the hand of their partners. The punchline is if you're in any form of abusive relationship as a man it doesn't make you any tougher or stronger when you bottle up your emotions and refuse to talk about or walk away from it neither is there a gold medal attached to staying with an abusive partner talk to your friends and family about it a word of advice from them might be the right wake up call you need, there is no point in acting all macho on the outside while crying on the inside your life matters. Source : eneazi..com 1 Like 1 Share
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| Romance › 7 Signs You're Not Compatible by eneazi(op): 1:12pm On Dec 12, 2017*. Modified: 2:44pm On Dec 12, 2017 |
A friend who recently went through a bad breakup after being in a relationship for five years said she realized the nights she spent awake crying over her man was more than the fun, happy times they had together, though she noticed they were not quite compatible along the line, but thought she could fix, things, make them better. She told me something that stuck, that if she had been able to tell herself the truth at the beginning she wouldn't have gone through the pain of a bad breakeup. My point is most times the signs that we are not compatible with our partners are there glaring at us, but we choose to ignore them telling ourselves that if we can put in extra work things will be just fine. These seven signs will help you find your way. 1) You can't be yourself The biggest mistake most people make in relationships is becoming someone else just to make the relationship work. If you're with someone who frequently criticise you for being you, criticise you for what you do more than receiving a pat on the back this is definite red flag and it means you're not right for each other- love shouldn't make us pretend to be who we're not, love is supposed to bring out the best in us, make us bigger not smaller, retrieve our self confidence and not murder it. 2) You disagree on everything A little conflict is not bad in fact it is healthy for the growth of the relationship, besides no relationship is perfect, but when the fights and disagreement becomes a daily thing there is a problem. If you find yourself barely coming to an agreement over the smallest issue with your partner it's a red flag. 3) One person is the center Most times we think making the other person 'Lord or Mistress', and the center of our existence is the best way for things to work perfectly. Sometimes we give up who we really are and what we stand for just for the peace of the relationship putting in our best for it to work while our partner seem less concerned about the growth of the relationship. Relationship should be a team work, joint effort where it is beneficial to all and not just one person. 4) The sex is good but.. Usually when we're with someone we crave Affection, great sex, holding hands, and being told we are sexy, most times we get it all, well minus what we truely desire 'Affection' there is that feeling of disconnection after the 'good sex' nothing to talk about, no shared interest, dreams. If this happens it's a definite sign. 5) You don't miss your partner when apart It is normal to miss your partner even when you've been away from each other for just five minutes that is if you're truely in love, but if you don't miss yourselves when you're apart then that relationship lack passion. When you are more at peace and happy when apart then trust me something is really wrong. 6) He or She let you down frequently If you're in a relationship where your partner bail out on you when you need them most, and seem not to learn from how much pain their past mistakes has cause you and they keep repeating such thing over and over, it only means there is something wrong it can only be a sign that you're not compatible. 7) He or She doesn't tell you things One red flag that you're both headed different directions is a partner who does not confide in you or talk about important things, and you get to hear about most things you should have discussed as partners from someone else. Also if you're in a relationship where you have difficulty in communicating with each other then that's a sign. Source : eneazi..com 2 Likes
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| Romance › Re: Never Beg For Love by eneazi(op): 9:25am On Nov 24, 2017 |
DaddyKross:indeed |
| Romance › Re: Never Beg For Love by eneazi(op): 9:25am On Nov 24, 2017 |
mikejj:Thanks....true talk |
| Romance › Re: Never Beg For Love by eneazi(op): 9:24am On Nov 24, 2017 |
DaddyKross:funny |
| Romance › Never Beg For Love by eneazi(op): 9:00am On Nov 24, 2017 |
There was this guy who asked me out during my undergraduate days in the University he would have been any girl's dream man, but not mine. From my first to final year, and even after graduation he kept asking and got the same reply a huge 'NO' but brother was not having it, and saw me as a cold stone ice queen. He became persistent as the years rolled by and got same old reply. A few years ago he was forward about what he wanted; something serious that would last a life time, and how he would like us to start a family and grow old together, well I told him it was not going to work out that I have never felt what he felt, and did not see myself sharing that emotion in the nearest future he started begging and was on the verge of crying, but I made him understand that even If I were to accept his proposal he would never be a happy man, and love was a strong emotion to beg for or compel, and if not careful someone might take advantage of his emotion and hurt him. I made it clear to him that he was going to be hurt, heart broken and even hate me (which he did for a short while) but he deserved someone who was willing to share the same emotion with him, someone who was ready to start a family with him not out of pity, but love. As expected he was hurt and heart broken, but as painful as it was he saw my point today we are good friends and he is engaged to a lovely lady that loves him. My point here is do not beg to be loved, know when your time is up, know when the ship is not sailing in the same direction, pay attention to little details, know the time to reasonably draw the line between effort and moving on, do not force yourself on someone that think less of you, worst kind of feeling is for someone to date you, marry you out of pity trust me you'll be miserable all through your life, if someone treats you like they are doing you a favour married or in a relationship with you then there is a problem somewhere. Love is a natural phenomenon and should not be forced or begged. Source : eneazi..com 5 Likes 1 Share
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| Romance › Re: Why You Need To Walk Away From That Toxic Relationship by eneazi(op): 12:35pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
RETIREDMUMU:No you don't, but someone somewhere needs this as a wake up call |
