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LMAO! The season is upon us..

I'm surrounded by good men, and it breaks my heart when i read things like this, about a woman trying to dent a man's name and sees nothing wrong with it.

The biased law in the society contributes immensely to this, these women know the arsenal placed in their hands and most times use it to their advantage, bringing down good men.

Animegirl:
Ehya. At least Tochi learnt his lesson.

Same goes to all these married people with family issues on Nairaland.

Learnt nada he still made his private decision public

azraeljaheel:


I should be jealous but I refuse to be jealous... Instead I am inspired
https://www.nairaland.com/6796546/diary-cheap-labourer-daily-bread

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azraeljaheel:


I should be jealous but I refuse to be jealous... Instead I am inspired
https://www.nairaland.com/6796546/diary-cheap-labourer-daily-bread

indeed
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Your is wife is suffering from a mental health disorder it could stem from a wide range of condition that affects the way she is behaving now, and this could have been hidden away from you, seek help or try and avoid anything that will trigger her.





Modified: For those brothers quoting me, it's obvious even to the blind that the OP loves his wife and all he wants is a solution to make things work, and not using violence. Again its wise he seeks help for her, cause he mentioned their marriage being young by implication he is not cut out for any kind of separation or divorce yet.

He also mentioned both not being perfect this also implies he is ready to forgive all her actions if there is a change which can only come with her getting help. Mr OP your life matters, until she gets help avoid her totally.

Lastly, I do not condone violence of any kind on men, if a woman had shared this post I would have offered the same advice, since its obvious the person involved still wants to work things out.

Homeboiy:
We too Dey quick use that word LOVE
You meet person today wey you no know
The next thing is
Baby I love you all my life
Mtcheeww

LMAO! Nigerians have no regards for that word

BadEnglish:
Proverb 22:6 comes to mind,

Train up a child in the way he/she should go: and when he/she is old, he/she will not depart from it

We can't keep blaming parents anytime a child misbehaves, some these parents have really tried, but these generation have bricks in their ears

His actions has nothing to do with you size or appearances, you could be Kim K and oga will still do what he is doing. The bitter truth is your husband is addicted to prostitutes and he's been hiding under the umbrella of being a religious person.

My advice try and go check yourself in the hospital and insist on a condom, you have just one life.

Lastly, he needs to see a Counselor, cause no matter how many times he gets caught and vows not, he will still do it.

DrMrsFunmi:
nice advice. Are you the one on your dp?

Yes.

First off stop the stalking both online and offline. Secondly, you need to relocate or move away from where you are since its close to her, I know its hard but its been 3years you've literally paused your life for someone who has moved on a long time ago.

I know how hard it is trust me, but your life is not tired to her. If she can actually forget all you shared and jumped ship you can too, you deserve to be happy.

Lastly you need to talk/see a counselor if you're interested I can help

Leave that child alone Uncle, your plans are to steal away her innocence at that age BTW i think passing your Jamb should be your #1 priority considering your age

I don't think the police will do much in this matter, try talking to him or involve anyone he respects. Come to think of it, nawa for what you young lads get yourself into these days.

Eta not tribalize please, the truth is the hearts of men are wicked regardless of tribes, region or social class

pocohantas:
Kanye West spotted with new girlfriend. Everywhere is quiet, redpillers are happy.

No one is telling us how it is too soon.

No one is telling us how his prick would soon reduce for fucking another woman.

Just good ol LOGICAL comments and well wishes.

A woman can even drop dead and the man would marry in seconds because despite claiming not to benefit from marriage, they are always quick to replace an ex or late wife.

Men are such strange and selfish creatures. Even when they don’t want you, they still do not want another man to want you. If they have their way, once you break up with them, you’ll be confined to a lifetime of posting crypic messages on WhatsApp . That is why they spend productive time monitoring their EXes, hoping the next man pumps and dump. So they can rush to Nairaland to tell us how their EX is 45, single and frustrated, while they are now happily married to a more beautiful woman, with two kids, a 6 by 6 bed, one Firman generator and a Toyota Corolla.

The inventory of his worldly possessions got me LMAO

[quote author=nrexzy post=109374455]So ur excuse is that he is always Hot..
Na wetin him come dis world to do ba... Reason well na[/quote




Hot or not my point from the start is there is no justification for what he did perioddd!

nrexzy:
Nothing to figure out... Marriage is about communication... She should have communicated

Same thing we are saying, did you miss the part where I used the word "talk" what if she tried to but horniness kept him away from listening

mrfree:
She came to make remittances and money was not complete, so I told that she should always ensure to make her money complete.

And just like that she spews that from her buccal cavity, I'm not buying this. There must be some level of familiarity, in short you gave her the window to. Its your type that will go bragging about such nonsense to your wife when having an argument

mrfree:
She came to make remittances and money was not complete, so I told that she should always ensure to make her money complete.

And just like that she spews that from her buccal cavity, I'm not buying this. There must be a level of familiarity, in short you gave her the window to. Its your type that will go bragging about such nonsense to your wife when having an argument

She's your daughter you know what she likes from; toys, gelato, cartoons and even dresses, threaten to withdraw these things from her, and she'll behave this trick works every time with kids

Yay! finally he grew some hair

Your wife is shutting out which is a normal phase for a rape victim, she is hurting and has a million and one q unanswered questions going through her head. She is hurting seriously as she wont be able to talk about it because of shame not even with her closest friend.

Your apologies and gifts won't cut it, she needs to see a therapist, that is if you want your wife back. And you too need to learn how to manage your anger and reactions mister.

nrexzy:
Na him wife oo no b babe oo...
Abeg
D kingdom of God sufferth violence...... Etc

Lemme ask why on earth would his wife starve him. Of sex for over a long period with no reason?

E make sense to u

Being his wife is no justification for his vile act. What he would have done when the whole rejection thing started was talk to her about, did he even talk to her about it, like find out the reasons behind her actions.

The question is; how long did you two date, secondly, was she this lazy before she became pregnant ( because change in behavior during pregnancy differs in women, moreover this is her first) lastly, the 'chop chop' is not her doing but as a result of the little seed you deposited in her. Be patient with her for now if not for anything but for the fact she's pregnant

Another year is upon us, with lots of goals to be achieved. The priority is respecting people’s choice this year; you have no idea what they have to deal with every single day of their life. Learn to mind your business this year.

1) If they refuse your help, respect their decision, do not tag them unserious or ungrateful, they have their reasons for turning you down.

2) If their biological clock is ticking fast and they haven’t introduced anyone as “the one” desist from tagging them “evening newspaper” you have zero idea about what happened along the way to make them still single, besides marriage is not for everyone.

3) If they have celebrated the same age 5 times in a roll, even when it’s obvious to the blind they are dancing on chronological knife edge that separates late thirties from mid forties, let them enjoy their supposed leap year birth date in peace.

4) If a couple decides to have a dozen children in 5years, mind your business even the holy book commands us to go into the world and multiply.

5) If a couple has had no child after several years of marriage, disassociate yourself from the womb watchers. You have no inkling of how hard they’re trying.

6) If their love story gets to be written with the same sex, face your own love story. Happiness is priority

7) If you’re a 9-5 job person and they refuse to grind that way, but are struggling to grow a business, encourage them rather than make fun of their hustle, our route to the top is different.

If they have social networking addiction and derive pleasure in being online to see what is happening and documenting their life, stop with the bad comment you didn’t buy them phone or data.

9) If they decide to keep their life real private, let them be, not everyone is wired for a behind-the-scene or free-for-all lifestyle.

10) If they are comfortable with bringing their blood feud before the social media court, let them be, some people do not have the connections or people in real life to defend and support them.

11) If they choose to go the Cabo Snoop way by wearing all the colors of the rainbow, keep your criticism to yourself Suzy Menkes.

12) If they decide to remain skinny or chubby and feel good in their own skin, focus on your healthy lifestyle; keep your unsolicited advice on 1million ways of burning fat or getting fat to yourself.

13) If they stumbled upon a better deal and leave you, heal and move on get someone better, there are about 7.8 billion people on earth.

14) If they like the vain things of life don’t lecture, preach and burden them with vanity.

15) If they decide to change the body they came in, respect their decision and refer to them by their preferred pronouns.

16) If they choose to wear clothing associated with the opposite sex E.g. genital hiding gaff, breast form or chest binder, let them be, it’s not your crotch or boobs that is suffocating.

17) If they decide to kiss a new lip every night, leave them alone that could be their way of celebrating life.

Learn to respect people’s choice this year; they don’t need you to tell them who to be or how to leave their life.

Another year is upon us, with lots of goals to be achieved. The priority is respecting people’s choice this year; you have no idea what they have to deal with every single day of their life. Learn to mind your business this year.

1) If they refuse your help, respect their decision, do not tag them unserious or ungrateful, they have their reasons for turning you down.
2) If their biological clock is ticking fast and they haven’t introduced anyone as “the one” desist from tagging them “evening newspaper” you have zero idea about what happened along the way to make them still single.
3) If they have celebrated the same age 5 times in a roll, even when it’s obvious to the blind they are dancing on chronological knife edge that separates late thirties from mid forties, let them enjoy their supposed leap year birth date in peace.
4) If a couple decides to have a dozen children in 5years, mind your business even the holy book commands us to go into the world and multiply.
5) If a couple has had no child after several years of marriage, disassociate yourself from the womb watchers. You have no inkling of how hard they’re trying.
6) If their love story gets to be written with the same sex, face your own love story. Happiness is priority
7) If you’re a 9-5 job person and they refuse to grind that way, but are struggling to grow a business, encourage them rather than make fun of their hustle, our route to the top is different.
If they have social networking addiction and derive pleasure in being online to see what is happening and documenting their life, stop with the bad comment you didn’t buy them phone or data.
9) If they decide to keep their life real private, let them be, not everyone is wired for a behind-the-scene or free-for-all lifestyle.
10) If they are comfortable with bringing their blood feud before the social media court, let them be, some people do not have the connections or people in real life to defend and support them.
11) If they choose to go the Cabo Snoop way by wearing all the colors of the rainbow, keep your criticism to yourself Suzy Menkes.
12) If they decide to remain skinny or chubby and feel good in their own skin, focus on your healthy lifestyle; keep your unsolicited advice on 1million ways of burning fat or getting fat to yourself.
13) If they stumbled upon a better deal and leave you, dust yourself up and get someone better there are about 7.8 billion people on earth.
14) If they like the vain things of life don’t lecture, preach and burden them with vanity.
15) If they decide to change the body they came in, respect their decision and refer to them by their preferred pronouns.
16) If they choose to wear clothing associated with the opposite sex e.g. genital hiding gaff, breast form or chest binder, let them be, it’s not your crotch or boobs that is suffocating.
17) If they decide to kiss a new lip every night, leave them alone that could be their way of celebrating life.

Learn to respect people’s choice this year; they don’t need you to tell them who to be or how to leave their life.

BTW feel free to add yours.

I'm happy you recognize your problem "being a mummy's boy" and 'short fused' thats the first step to change. Sadly from your story you don't sound like someone who wants to change.

And I'd like to add that you only have one special woman in your life at a time. There was a time your mum was number one, now you have a wife who takes that place. Eventually, if God bless you with a girl she claims the spot from your wife. The point is learn to draw the line.

I guess First Bank missed the memo, because the way they carry this TIN number thing on top head ehn.

All these lamentation and nothing in about going futher in school, all i see make money, and no mention of any skills acquired. Trust me you'd be grateful to him in the nearest future.

PS: I bet your dad have seen/still seeing what young boys your age involve in just to make money, and he is trying to protect from that, because him don see say your eye sef no come down for money side.

Wait a sec! why would she send this to you in the first place, and not her 'husband to be'

Where are these blabber mouths in robe migrating from