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Which one is "main babe?"
Why is he worried? he's probably done same and went MIA too the only difference is that she's informing him ahead of time.






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I don't usually do this, but I'll make an exception of this, since this itself has been an exceptional year.
If you ask how my year has been I'd tell you without batting an eyelid that this has been one hell of a bumpy year and for most people too I guess... While we were screaming " I recieve Papa" at the top of our lungs at the crossover night of 2019 we didn't know we were codedly receiving; Corona virus, Social distancing, 4 weeks of lock down, local and International travel ban, a protest that shook the country, discovery of stolen palliatives by hoodlums/well meaning/hungry Nigerians (which ever works for you), vandalisation of public/private properties plus loss of lives and oh the big one, Nigeria going into recession. I guess our dearly beloved "Daddy GOs" didn't see all these coming, hopefully will be careful with the kind of prophesies they dish out at the end of today.

My business sale stalled as a result of the lock down, speaking of that, I guess the best of us experienced this too. And if I'm asked to represent the growth of my business on a chart it would be the most confusing one of all time.

Then I loss someone very dear to my heart, it was one of my darkest moment for the year.

When I thought it couldn't get any worse I loss my job ( an okay paying job, but it drained the life outta me) that supplements my business, then I got called back some months later, but I had to turn it down because at that point my sanity was priority and I was not about to add loss of sanity to my "2020 Tragic Moments" list.

Oh something worth celebrating happened, my brother got married to his better half, and business started picking up slowly, at that point things were gradually returning to normal, or so I thought, and boom! 2020 came through again, this time with an issue, that had to be taken to the FCT Command of CID. It was a two week of fear and uncertainty. If you have had a case with the Nigeria police you'd understand...At this point I had a better understanding of what the #EndSars protesters were really fighting for, I understood the pain of every man, woman, parent, sibling, and friend who had loss a love one or body parts as a result of police brutality.

This is not me bitching about a year many didn't make this far, but just recapping its highlights. In all I learnt a couple of lessons this year than I did in the past, more reason why 2020 deserve an Academy award. What are your peak and pit for the year. HAPPY NEW YEAR IN ADVANCE.

Fighting for a man that probably has another girlfriend in the US

santos123:
Evidence of free and fair election. This is impossible in Africa.

huh!

superior1:
Thank God they left Nigeria to realize their dreams.

They would have been killed like fowl by SARS had they remain

You that remained here have you been killed like fowl?

Nigeria Kim Jong Un has spoken

Yes she can after the normal registration (and'll be required to show a formal pregnacy test result) she'll be allowed to go
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na wa! I'm shook at the kind of comments here

Got to be BENUE

Too many Trashcan Man ( from Stephen King's The Stand) roaming the streets of Nigeria

nditòr ikòt

Davash222:
Lol

That shouldn’t bother you, bro. That woman might be over 60 sef. But, let’s pretend she’s 50, like she said.

I'm in stitches

Personally I think there is a gradual transition from 100% financial dependant women to career ones who are breaking boundaries without needing a man's assistance

There is more to this...If she were to be honest with him he'll realise their problem is more than his cooking ability

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FORGIVE.....Then ask yourself where you might have fallen short

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If you really love her then ask her out and forget about her past, because from all indication you're not a saint yourself. Atleast you know what she's done. The next girl you try to ask out might be worse and not even as honest as she is.

Since you asked...The writing on the wall is clear for even a day old child to see:

1.She doesn't love you
2. She is not nice (as you made us believe in your description of her)
3. You are her human ATM
4. With a girl like that you will never achieve anything tangible no matter how hard you work
5. She showed you who she was the first time and you didn't believe her



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A man reached out to me via email three days ago. He has been married to his wife for 10years now. He got to discover a month ago that the wife's supposed younger sister who has been leaving with them for five years now (the girl is 20) is actually his wife's child she hid this fact from him for the past ten years and he got to know about this from an old friend 9f his wife.(though he is yet to confront her)
My point is for the fact this girl of yours is honest enough to come clean that should count. She knew what was at stake, she would have hid the truth from you and trust me you wont even know. She was ready to risk everything you share now to avoid problems in future. HONESTY is hard to come by these days.

Love is vital to the woman
She is wired to expect love, made to love and be loved. Love is most important to the woman in a relationship not respect.

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The tale of many

bloomstar:
Its very simple, fall inlove with your brain. Not your heart.

Funny.....There'll be a time the bug will bite hard that you won't even remember this

MrSensor:
I've never learned anything from her. Na my girlfriend that learned from me a lot.

Wow! We need more guys like you.

Relationships are tough and a lot of hard work no doubt, and we learn every day from actions of our partners, from breakups, and whatnot. The big question is what lesson did you learn the hard way from your past relationship.







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I read 'Sixteenth Round' by Robin Hurricane Carter (true story) in the book 'hate, injustice caused Mr. Hurricane 20 years of his life, but he was saved by the friendship of a young boy. It made me understand that in life there are no coincidence, everything was designed to work according to the laws of nature.

Following the story, and how he was mistreated, it would have been expected of him to be bitter, filled with hate and revenge, and looked down on the young boy by underestimating his friendship, (after several appeals to his case was negated) but he didn't and that friendship bought him his freedom.

My point in the opening story is that, whatever situation you are in, whatever you are going through don’t give up, do not underestimate the strength of anyone, do not throw away the little help that could be your key to freedom. Nothing happens by chance. And if you get the slightest opportunity to offer help, no matter how little it is, it might go a long way in breaking someone out of their difficult situation. It cost nothing to show love.

Be that someone, anyone can rely on. Challenge yourself to be that singular agent of change, it doesn’t matter if you get to stand alone to make a positive impact. It's okay, if you are that one voice that help others find theirs, it’s okay to be denied and rejected even by those you’re trying to help, at the end they’ll understand.

Be that light that shines on everyone’s path, it does not matter how many times your deeds are taken for granted, keep spreading love, it does not matter if someone else takes the credit, keep doing you and never give up on who you are. Or, what you do, keep giving and shining your light on the path for others. Stay positive and be that roadmap of change for others to follow.



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I have always stated that no relationship is a pedestal of perfection, all have their struggle in all fronts. The first step to an excellent relationship is discovering your partner's love language.

According to Gary Chapman, the author of "The five love languages" he said, "when you reach out to your partner and discover their specific language you help them keep their emotional love tank full and maintain a meaningful connection."

Sadly, the best of us are unable to speak our partner's love language even when in a long term relationship.

When couples can speak each other’s language, there will be less tension in the relationship, they will feel loved and appreciated. These three ways will help you discover your partner's love language.

1. Learn to pay attention

The first step to discovering your partner’s love language is by learning to pay attention. For example, when you use any of Chapman's love language it is important to pay attention to which one gets your partner/spouse excited. It is imperative you are attentive to your partner's body language when you do things for them, that is the only way to know their love language than going round in circles.

Some people don't know their love language, but if you are attentive enough you can help them discover it.

2. Communication is essential

When it comes to relationship issues communication is key, and one that I can't emphasis enough. Little issues have escalated into a mountain because of miscommunication between couples.

Another way to discover your partner's love language is talking about it, ask your partner what you do that makes them excited, this will make your relationship better.

3. Keep trying

If you have not been able to discover your partner/spouse love language, try the different languages and see what works for you, if none strike excitement keep trying.

A friend told me it took her two years before she could speak her husband's love language, she kept going back and forth getting frustrated at herself. She hit jackpot after much trial and error, her words, "discovering one's partner/spouse love language is one way to a happy relationship."




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nellyelitz:
These things varies with age. There's a age where a lady values only one thing...we all know this 'one thing'.

If you look closely these 3 things still has its root in that "one thing"

vizkiz:
And what do I get in return?

Pussy?

Ogbeni fuckooff

● respect
● support
● unconditionally love

Contrary to popular opinion, a woman's needs are a handful and can be met by her man. Though these needs take different forms at every stages of her life, bringing about misconception of women and their needs. However, if I am allowed to make a conservative estimate I would say these 3 things below are a fundamental at every stage, and most importantly a relationship, so if you want a happy woman and relationship below is your guide


AFFECTION

Every woman needs love. She wants to be loved unconditionally, and reminded about how you feel about her I mean that in every sense of the world.

Women are wired to love unconditionally, but the truth is women most times are not sure they are truely loved especially by their partners/spouses this has nothing to do with being secured with who they are it is the way they are wired.

The woman is more apt to show how she feel, and expect same from her men. The point is show her how you feel with your words and actions. It is important to note that affection does not only include the constant use of the four letter words 'love' compliment is part of it too.

COMMUNICATION

Women love to talk. They are masters of the art. Sadly men shutdown or stonewall their women, when there is a need for a conversation.

Women love to talk about everything from trivial to important. This is one way she feels connected to you as her man, and it's one of the ways she maintains her central role in achieving a functional relationship

Women are responsive and expressive in nature than men that is why when there is a problem in the relationship they feel the need to talk about it and arrive at a possible solution. In the nutshell, with women communication is key


SECURITY

Every woman who has been in a relationship or venturing into one feels the need for her man to protect and provide for her no matter how successful she is. The man need to take his role as the protector

A recent study, shows a huge percentage of women prefer their men reliable not indecisive, or easily influenced by things around. All the woman need is a man she can be herself and emotionally safe with.


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Often times if a man makes his little list of what he needs from a woman in a relationship he is labeld, especially in our culture. This has given rise to men with unspoken commandments or stonewalling their partners/spouses. Whether you have been in a relationship for decades or just geting into one if you understand and follow these three things it can change, strengthen, and improve your relationship with your man


RESPECT

A man's deepest need is respect. Don't get me wrong love is important, but men need to feel respected even more than they feel loved. He needs respect just as he he needs air to breathe.

A recent study, shows that 70% of men said they would prefer to be unloved and respected, than loved and disrespected. Every man wants to be held in high esteem by his woman, and not put down. It is important to show your man respect even in his absence.

Your constant criticism, questioning his decisions will make him feel disrespected. What your man needs is, for you to respect his abilities. Truth is if he feels disrespected by your words and action you will never get the love you crave.

SUPPORT

Even the strongest men need support despite society's belief. When it comes to relationship normally it is believed that the woman needs emotional support, but a recent study has shown that men are twice likely to be left to handle tough times on their own

It is important to note that every man does what he does for the admiration of his lady, when you give him admiration amazing things happen. When you show him you believe in him more than he believes in himself, he will want to get better, he will want to fulfill that potential you see.

A huge percentage of women fail to support their men; support him in achieving his goals. Encourage what you want to see; what you see as possibility. Be his biggest fan, make sure you are on the front line cheering him. Don't pull him down or make him doubt his worth as a man.

SEX

Yes, every man needs this sadly most of us shy away from it. It is not just a primary need for man as his partner/spouse sees it, but one of his deepest (emotinal) needs.

Most men think about it often, while women don't think about it as often as men do. If you're among the 80% of women who don't like sex it is adviceable you find a balance, talk to your partner and find out what works/set you both in the mood. It is important you find ways to show your man you desire him, than coming off as unlovin


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