₦airaland Forum

londongal03:
It is not our differences that divide us. It is our
inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate that Lagos state belongs to YORUBA peeeps......plz brothers come back home and invest

You have spoken well, but I don't totally concur. In my opinion, I think politicians especially PDP was the root of this problem. Differences have been existing, but it has not grown up to this stage since I was born.

PDP in Lagos wanted to take advantage of ethnicity in other to score cheap political points by taking Akiolu out of context. This was rigorously followed by media propaganda and hatred campaign, which some gullible ibos fell for: only a few maintain their stands that it was all a joke.

The consequential effect of this was that PDP were able to gain sympathy of Ibos, which was not all what they needed to win gubernatorial election.

Here are we today.

cronsberg:
i would rather die than not pick that key

Without any weapon, I will turn the snake to pepper soup and I will still have my range rover, honestly.

prince3009:
That's a Boa Constrictor and they are not poisonous or venomous! I'll gladly pick the key and have my hand stitched and take some Antibiotics to prevent an infection.

Who tell you that they are not poisonous? The only thing special about it is that you can hardly provoke it because until you touch its tail, it will never be provoked.

Mysteriously, the said tip of the tail will still be kept intact(inside the soil) to prevent any infringement. Unless it has spiritual backing, it hardly bites.

ShayGirl:
Here comes the native high priest!!!
What will happen next ma brother, u won't wait to tell d story

It is not about being a priest: it is about common knowledge. From experience, that is the most peace-loving snake living on earth, though still among the most dangerous. The only thing you can do to provoke that snake is touching its tale, if you manage to touch its head, you don become friends walahi.

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Your fiancè is probably suffering from erectile dysfunction.

So his dick can't rise except a blöw job is given to him.

But in my opinion blõw job is a part of fore play before sex and besides that's the only aspect a man can enjoy in fore play before sex. While you women enjoy getting sucked and licked and fingéred and all other sorts of stuff.

You can't tell me your fìance doesn't return the favour to you too.

I honestly see no reason why you should be worried. It's part of sex.

On the other hand I think your fiancè should see a medical practitioner for help to solve the problem of erectile dysfunction. Drugs could be prescribed for him.

I hope this helps. [/color]

The guy should stop self-servicing, simple. If he is not self-servicing, eating much chocolates would be of help.

Jerraldan:
How can I stop my father in law from interfering in our marriage? Each time I have misunderstanding with my wife the father usually take it
upon himself as if I have offended him personally.i always want to react but for the fact that my wife love his father so much dat she wouldn't be happy if I not only talk but keep distance from his father.she love bridging the gap always but am tired of been close to him because character of a good father doesn't come to play each there need for it.please Nl your candid advice.

You are still a boy not a man: how can another man dictate the way you rule your family for you? He can intervene sometimes, but he has to use sense of admonition even if you are at fault.

Kid, you need to grow up a little bit.

PDP - fower to the fefu

The question is not whether he destroy shops or not, the question is - is he turning those places to his personal properties or to promote infrastructural development? The problem of we Nigerians is that we like good thing, but we are not ready to pay the price.

I remember when Fashola started, this was the way people started complaining. But the reason becomes evident now with the immeasurable hold up in every nook and cranny of Lagos despite banning roadside marketing. https://www.nairaland.com/1212246/fashola-destroys-slums-lagos-leaving

May God help us.

He fought during NADECO days: he won the battle by 30%
He fought PDP single-handedly: he won
He fought OBJ: he won
Buhari refused to align with Tinubu in 2011: he loosed
GEJ aligned with Tinubu in 2011: he won
Buhari aligned with Tinubu in 2015: he won


I hereby present to you a man who is not even the LG Chairman, but whom the President run after: all hail Tinubu, The King Maker....
Tinubu, the major thorn in the flesh of PDP since the inception of democracy, who saved Nigeria from one-party system.

Heroesofnaija:
TOPIC FOR HEROES OF NAIJA'S PARLIAMENTARY SITTING
OF MONDAY,THE 13TH OF JULY, 2015: In quest to reduce
tribalism or sectionalism, some Nigerians have been
clamouring for STATE OF RESIDENCE to be used as a basis
of screening, etc instead of the STATE OF ORIGIN as it is
been used presently. What is your take over this?

State of Residence of course! Any Biafrans will prefer this to selling of fake products: wandering like a dog lost in the wilderness to enjoy their businesses in another people's land and still claiming marginalization

Lagos is no man's island na weting you go dey hear, but when it comes to the issue about their region, you go dey hear - 'our oyel money' as if his father pay for the acquisition of the natural resources.

StOla:
How can it be on merit when there's no Biafran there?

INTROVERT:
That won't hide mens botbelly.

Your mouth hen!

ogawisdom:
Shut up liar maggot

Must you insult to make your point known? I have learnt to ignore people like you online - #ogawisdom# indeed.

ogawisdom:
U r ur imaginary friend in all of this. U won't get my advice until u stop lying n admit its u

What is your business whether it is me or not? For your information, the person I am referring to is live on this forum, learning one or two things. I text him the title of this thread on nairaland so that he can have better advice than what I have given him, as I believe nobody is an island of knowledge.

However, will I be crucified for doing that if it is me? or what is shameful in it if I come here to expose my personal problem in a anonymous forum? If you have advice, give: keep it to yourself if you don't. Nobody cares.....

laudable:
Your friend is out of his mind, a man of his calibal without a wife is incomplete and not wise, means he is very stingy cos he wants his wife to struggle too to support the marriage.

I don't totally blame him for that; what if he loose his job all of a sudden? A guy like you know that with the current situation in Nigeria, one can hardly get job in less than three months if he looses it. Wife, no work: husband, no work. Poverty don start gaining ground again be that.

Marriage is a collaborative effort not unilateral.

tiredface:
AS EXPECTED, NON FROM THE SOUTH EAST REGION OF THE COUNTRY. THIS NORTHERN PRESIDENT IS VERY PREDICTABLE

U can still appoint General Nnamdi Kanu to manage Biafraraud

Malawian:
op, if you know all these details about "your friend", i take it that your name is "myfriend"

No story is entirely factual, but don't be surprised that 90-95% of the content of this story is non-fictitious. this is even a miniature of his deepest desire which I know: don't be surprised!

With proof and reliability, men are more open to each other and I believe you will agree with me.

galantjoe:
Dear Op, i would advise you as a real man who has enormous experience in this life to
marry now.

From ur explanation, ur income of N115k is fair enough to start a good family.
Even age is against you. man suppose to marry at age of 25 years to be able
cater for his children while in ur youth age, not when u re 60years and retired
from service, your children are still in sec schools. your death is near.

But if you married now at 32 years of age which is a bit late by 7 years, have number
of children u can raise, with this pay and good planning the sky is ur limit.

For your wife, whether ur wife is working or not, what matters is good and understanding
wife. who is diligent and conscientious in all her actions.

i wish u good lucks

In consideration of the fact that he is living in Lagos where a mini-flat is 250 per year, do you think he will be able to sustain it with the payment of 500 for two years plus the agreement and commission of 100k? With newly secured accommodation, his saving will dry up within the twinkle of an eyes, honestly.

badboyphc:
I am 23 with 6.3M bank balance and I am not ready sef. I pity you. 600k. mtchew

So for how long do you want the guy to wait till he will get 6.3m? We have millions of people without what he has and are doing fine in their marriages.

We have different race to run and different destiny to carry: no comparism. If he has decided: he should move on.

Sajio:
Well, it all depend on the tribe u marrying from.. if u going to East..... the money is capital NOT enough. but if u coming to delta... 400k will even b enough in some tribes.. so the question is............. Where is she from!!!

Both of them are Yorubas...

Hmmm... Nigerian police and their misplaced priorities: God save us.

Good! Let see another set of people in action: this incessant killing cannot continue like this.

Propagandalie

Your report no get source?

Ola17:
Haba, put gun for his head na

Our people sha. Instead of encouraging more political office holders to subscribe to pay cut, this one is here talking bullshït.

Inasmuch as reducing his salat doesn't need any legislative backing, PMB can simply communicate his decision to the appropriate time quarters and the necessary adjustments will be made:
I no wan vex abeg.

Don't mind that jandaweed: I don't know when it has become a crime to exercise 'freedom of choice' as enshrined in the constitution.

dapotemi:
Well Mr OP,you are a very ambitions man..Everything you have achieved within two years shows that you are a very prudent manager of resources.I know people who earns more than that and yet nothing to show for it except booze and clubbing..Now take a leap of faith,you can actually settle down (depending on the kind of woman u want to marry),if she's understanding,prudent and hardworking/smart.I'm glad u love her,you actually need alot of that to overlook alot of her shortcomings..Even if you wait till 40 years,u might not even have up to a million naira in ur acct..From experience,alot of people who married late usually regret they do,imagine a 60 years old man still having kids writing junior waec..What about the uncertainty,you think Nig will be better tomorrow,FORGET IT!
Have a strategic plan of one year,frm your 115k per month u can save another 800k if marriage is WHAT YOU WANT!By feb next year,get an apartment (you DONT need a two-bedroom flat,the other room will be empty nd ure indirectly inviting squatters which u dont need for now.Go for a mini flat,its just you and your wifey and even with a baby you're still good to go).By july next year,settle down..Just Plan,time wait for no one...You might never be Dangote!GEJ said something during his sentforth party from aso-rock and i quote "Those happy people you see out there are not necessarily the richest"..most importantly,talk to God,he will direct your steps...#Peace #TeamExperience

Good! This is one of the most versatile responses I have read on this subject matter so far.

jaybee3:
I can understand his point of view since his ambitions are being actualized in order of priority

115K per month would easily become peanut when 1 becomes 2, 3 etc.

You always have to plan your life to suit your ambition in order to be successful

If financial stability and freedom is his number one goal then surely, marriage ain't going to add kobo to it.

You mean he should be 35 before getting married? From the look of thing, her mother is not helping the matter. The worst part of it is that anytime the guy refused to pick her call, my line is the next, only for her to be putting pressure on me to convince her son to get married. The scenario is really frustrating me

Spells:
Op since ur friend is old enough to f*ck, u n him are old enough to knw dat nobody gives a f*ck, una wahala na una own oh

He is my 'senior friend' though, but remember, nobody is an island of knowledge.

Koolking:
At 32 years he does not have an accommodation of his own but has N600k in his account, perhaps to pursue his career. Right now he is either squatting with friends or living with parents/relatives who provide for his wants and needs. Maturity shows responsibility. Ability to pay your bills. Sometimes lending a hand to younger ones or extended family. This automatically prepares us to the demands of building our own homes.

If he's a guy with the sole responsibilities to his survival, N600k is nothing after 30 calendars get another pay check. Marriage at this stage will compound his problem. Let him be. You don't take a horse to the river and forces it to drink. Your advice will mean nothing if he has the conviction that he is not ready.

Right now, he is staying at mini-flat with one of his school mates: whether they joined money together or not to pay rent, that is what I don't know. although his current salary is 115k or more, but one of the things that baffles me much is that he always claim he can't use his hard-earned money to settle for any relationship at this time: he said he prefer to leave a better children behind to the world when he is gone than leaving a better world for his children when he is gone.

The guy na 'case study' honestly.

Koolking:
BTW, Op, this is you, not any friend. If it's not you directly, then you are in the same predicament with the original writer. That makes this thread C&P.

Marriage is a mean to an end, not all there is in life. Marriage is not fulfillment and happiness. These are choices that are within us.

For a dude who work hard to save N600k without accommodation (privacy) of his own, then the dude is immature and the thought of marriage is a misplaced priority. The picture you painted approves that you are still living under your parents and are confined to whims and caprices of parenting.

Leave marriage for now and concentrate on your career until you are of mature age to marriage.

So at 32, he is not ripe for marriage in your own thinking? If you know how many calls I receive from his parents especially his mother per week you wont be saying this.

However, if I am the one and I post it online, will I be crucified? I will never hesitate to post anything bothering my mind online because nobody knows my username except from me.

I am here to source for better way of advising the guy: he is older than me and I believe he is ripe for marriage. From previous comments, I have even seen two nairalanders who claimed they are in the same shoe personally.

You can drop better suggestion if you have any.