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Diamond098454:
smile smile smile I rather date a married poor guy that is physically 90 percent attractive and most be dark in completion than to date a rich man that look like slowpoke or fair in completion man.

No no no it can't work because the feelings won't be there

Wait, smile smile smile. What do you have against fair complexioned guys? Their attitude or your insecurities around them?

Meanwhile, if that is actually you on your DP, then you are beautiful.

But tell me

Whats up with fair complexioned guys?

Diamond098454:
you lie
Men don't even know what is spec
Everything under skirt roses them.
Maybe to you women doesn't have spec fine and good but I personally I have and that's why I don't have a bf
I can't eat anything food just because I'm hungry. If a guy doesn't know himself I can't approach me well, they won't even see me

I really do respect the fact that you have and maintain your ideal spec. Perhaps because as some ladies will say, Life never happen to you yet.

Diamond098454:
you lie
Men don't even know what is spec
Everything under skirt roses them.
Maybe to you women doesn't have spec fine and good but I personally I have and that's why I don't have a bf
I can't eat anything food just because I'm hungry. If a guy doesn't know himself I can't approach me well, they won't even see me

Hmmmm this is interesting.

But we need to separate it. Guys get interested in ladies for 2 major reasons.

1. Sex, fun, etc. Such guys have no spec and actually do not need any spec, because what he needs, every lady has them. And that is why he can be on top of lekpa and still be eyeing orobo.

2. For dating, relationship, and marriage. In this guy's do seriously have spec. Ok let's put it this way, they may not all know what they really want in a lady but they certainly know what they won't ever want in a lady. Even if such a lady hides that trait just to enter marriage, she will soon be back to the streets when the man sends her out after realizing his mistake.

Diamond098454:
Essential, hope I'm not been too harsh? I don't lie to myself and I can't deceive myself that is why I'm being real to our conversation. If i must date a man, that physical attraction must be there. People is going to see us and from the way i look, a lot of people are expecting me to present something better

And then

2. I have a strong conviction that in reality no lady has a spec. She simply chooses a spec from among those who approach her. I will only believe that a lady has a spec, when she defines her spec, identifies that spec among a sea-crowd of guys, and asks him out. I mean like go full-blown not just to initiate the relationship, but to actually seeing it to completion. It is men who have spec, that is why they approach. Although a Hot guy may approach just any lady just for satisfaction, but when it involves dating, relationship, and marriage, it is men who have Spec. When they see her, they go all out. Ladies do not really have spec. They only choose from among the specs that approaches her.

aswani:
Di tin jus weak me, small time now, Essential go dey tok say "bikonu make I jus put di tip" and Diamond go gree.

Okay ó!

Aswani, tip of what? Lol you are so funny.

No, Diamond is a Treasure, and we are cool like that.

Diamond098454:
Essential, hope I'm not been too harsh? I don't lie to myself and I can't deceive myself that is why I'm being real to our conversation. If i must date a man, that physical attraction must be there. People is going to see us and from the way i look, a lot of people are expecting me to present something better

No dear. You are not being harsh at all. You are being frank. Thats why I told Young that I like a lot of things about you.

However, "... and from the way I look (appear), a lot of people are expecting me to present something better." Interesting.

Now let me bring you into 2 convictions I have.

1. I am not a moral extremist. I am flexible but also query pretense. I mean, I do not really care if a single lady sleeps with a married man, neither do I care if a young guy sleeps with a married Lady. So long as they both keep it respectful and not flaunt it in the faces of their spouses. Just so you know. I won't bat an eyelid if I see a lady dating a married man, or a guy dating a married Lady. I only have issue when same lady will meet a poor guy, or in your words, a guy who is not her spec. And instead of saying no I don't like you enough to date you or sleep with you, she turns around and says I don't date married men. Thereby picking and choosing when to discard her fake morality and when to wear it on.

Diamond098454:
I'm not just any lady . Any guy that sees me will know that I am not just any lady. Smile smile

Hmmm really? Truth is I love what some musicians call lady of substance. Even though I don't really know what that means. But a mixture of every texture. Something. Fun but not too loud. Confident but not arrogant. Conversational yet articulate. Most importantly a lady who knows not just what she wants, but also knows what she does not want. Not anywhere is a where type of person.

YoungLionken:
See as Essential and Diamond turn thread to their talking stage . Bia Essential and Diamond bekiaful...

Smile. She is Madonna. So it's cool. And I like a lot about her.

Diamond098454:
for a guy to think of stopping me hmmmm you must look at yourself several times
Physically gentle, your hair must be low cut, dark in compilation, average height, a guy with few words .

Well, I don't have a boyfriend but I only have a benefactor.

I am liking this. But we're you describing me? I dunno.

But a guy would not meet those criteria before stopping you. As a matter of fact, any guy can stop any lady so long as he finds her attractive. It is up to the lady to nod or frown.

Diamond098454:
that is trust issues. You are very gentle

But you sound this gentle like it's not so cool. Right?

Diamond098454:
that is trust issues. You are very gentle

No dear. Not really. I don't have trust issues. Ok. I can never look into a lady's phone or check her on social media to see who she is saying what to. I care less.

Diamond098454:
habaa I have spec ooooooo

Please tell me your spec in details.

Diamond098454:
smile smile smile

You are a gentleman, calm in nature, a guy with few words , your eyes says a lot but your mouth (lip) says little. In all ,Essential you have trust issues.

Let me stop here for now.

Hmmmmm.

Me I no be gentleman at all ooo. In the words of Fela. But really. Yeah. I am calm. Reflective. Easy going. Tender and strong at once. I don't have trust issues. I just kinda smell the coffee of BAVAS ladies from a long distance, and like the proverbial man in the story of Good Samaritan, once I sight a BAVAS Lady from very far, I reverse my car, and run off in another direction. Lol

Diamond098454:
it has been me me me.....

What about you? What can of woman turns you on. Hope you girl hasn't cheated on you before?

I can describe you from the way you sound

Hmmmmmmm. Please describe me. So we can start from there and talk about it.

Diamond098454:
mine is different. Ned is too old I can't even kiss Ned

I can't date an old man

I respect that you are strong about what you are convinced about. Most are not.

Diamond098454:
habaa I have spec ooooooo

Regina Daniels will start now to also say she has spec because somehow the major spec has been satisfied. Same with you.

Samantha125:
Good, go ahead and move on permanently and have as many children as you want all over the world, we'll do just fine without you.

And how would I be bitter, angry, vengeful, aggressive, and stubborn when you'd have been the one who decided to weaponize your fatherly responsibilities against your own children? I'd be protecting them from you.

Yes because you know you will turn around go on Facebook and begin to beg for same men you called Trash, claiming I am a Single Mother, BLA BLA BLA

[quote author=Diamond098454 post=137717146][/quote]It is the truth. Most men are sex starved. Men offer money and love just to get sex.

Ladies offer sex just to get money and love.

This is natural order.

Anyone who goes against the above 2 Order of Nature, is a pathetic pretender.

Diamond098454:
Ben , you are right but as a young growing girl there are things you can't resist when they hit you most.

My dad always tell me to stay away from married men, I was like hmmmmmm dad what can of talk is this? He said Diamond they will come for you but i didn't take it serious

So have they been coming for you? Can you swear you have never dated a married man, knowing he is married?

Diamond098454:
why not. I do accept gifts but my point is

Some girls doesn't date married men because of money but because, maybe they are there type of man, there spec

Spec bawo. Since when do ladies have spec?

The only spec ladies have is a Money Man.

Samantha125:
Then keep your money and go, if you're going to weaponize it against your own children, then we'll be far better off without it.

And make no mistake of ever trying to come back and have a relationship with the children once they're older and established because I'll deal with you, permanently... You don't get to abandon your children and then come back once they're older and buoyant while I'm still alive, I'd make sure of it.

A man can have as many children all over the world if he chooses to. Keep your children. Which sane man would ever want to go back to children born by a BAVAS Lady. Bitter, Angry, Vengeful, Aggressive, and Stubborn Lady. Certainly not me. If I move on, I move on permanently...

[quote author=Diamond098454 post=137714610][/quote]1. I know you are not from a poor home. So that means you have never accepted any cash or gift from any guy ever?

Response will determine number 2

Myrrhis:
So, in other words, you would rather your child died than give child support?

Yeah. If that is what it takes to end the greed and exploitation.

Myrrhis:
What a wicked comment.

Depends on the angle you see it from. Several men have been brought down to penury and depression,bjust because of child support. And I ask: what happens if the child should die? Will there still be child support?

Diamond098454:
dating married men is something every woman should avoid but no matter how you try as a woman hmmmmmm it's may not be easy

Not easy. Because of the pressure from the man or because of the greed of ladies?

Samantha125:
If this is the kind of advice you're giving to your fellow brothers, then you clearly don't love them or care about their children... But go ahead and continue misleading them into starting something they can't finish... Hopefully you wouldn't expect them to burden their female relatives with responsibilities of looking after the children.

One guy once used this ideology of yours to fight his ex wife through the courts for full custody of their children only to constantly start whining about how the lady had abandoned the children after the court granted him his wish and his ex wife moved across the country afterwards.

He wanted to use the children to hurt her with hopes that she'll stick around, but instantly regretted it upon seeing her moving away and having a time of her life all over social media after the court granted him full custody of the children.

I also know of one child who ended up taking her own life after her father separated her and her younger sister from their mother... Their mother didn't have enough funds for a custody battle, so her hands were tied and she couldn't do anything about it... The man was so ashamed of what he did, that he kept the news of their daughter's passing away from her until years later when he finally had the courage to break the news to her... The daughter apparently left a note for her mother before taking her life, the woman was never the same again that she even got admitted into a psychiatric clinic and later died from heart complications.

It's best I raise my children by myself than gamble with their well-being... If you don't want to pay child support or visit your children unless you have full custody of them, that's fine, you can keep your money and go.

A rusty Kobo you will never receive from me. Else the child will die by accident and the whole charade will end.

They are all Muslims. True or False?

Diamond098454:
I can only speak for myself

Quite true. But it's a serious issue that I observe always. If Ned Nwoko was poor, I am sure Regina Daniels will sing the same song of, I don't date married men.

A lady that can't financially take care of her child(ren) should give them to their father, in a case of Divorce or Separation. Why keep a child you can't fund? If the child is no longer breastfeeding, lady should either fund the child upkeep, or hand them over to their father.

Some ladies keep the child with them, just to keep collecting money from the man. Some men lack conscience now. That child will die by accident so that everyone including her long throat can rest.

You insist on keeping the child, then you must fund the child. Guys should pay no Kobo to Baby Mamas.

Seems the remaining 10 are mostly ladies?

Truth is what you a guy sees as nothing, a lady may find offensive or insultive. And no be every discussion we dey follow woman talk.