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MOnkeyBabe:
if I were you,I would marry him kiakia.a biRD in hand is worth 2 in the BUSh.as for me,I didnt waste time to make him mine at 24.im very SuBmissive and humble through God'sGRaCe.i like him perfectly with all his flaws.i think you have time to while away though.to each their own.if not you wont be here asking questions.

It's well with you. But I guess some people still have got something called CHOICE which obviously you dont have.. Submissive and loyal indeed..

Bizibi:
and how did you know

I have dated real leeches so I know the terrible ones but I have seen cool and wonderful ladies who were friends with me but married now.

There are ladies that don't like asking for money but they just want that once in a while outing or some gifts even though they can foot the bill or buy one for themselves.though there are stingy ones but the good ones should not be taken for granted.

God bless you real good

edoboy74:
Lols that’s how losers conclude. Go get a job my dear and take responsibility for once

So says a KID

edoboy74:
You are still a bitter old spinster otherwise what is an old woman searching for in a topic like this ?

Small pikin dey really worry you.. Just go back to bed. Okay?

CHINA SHOULD AND MUST BE SANCTIONED. WHAT'S ALL THESE RUBBISH?

james6381:
No man is a stingy. Every man is a giver. For the fact that he did not give you money doesn't mean he is a stingy man. It could be that he's trying you or your patience as a wife to be. Please be wise not to loose your chances. Because you are his girl friend doesn't mean he can't give you money or support. Wait until you becomes his wife and see the difference between girlfriend and wife. Maybe that's his own strategy for a good woman. Men a looking for a wife material with different testing actions towards a lady. If the lady is not the patience type she will loose one of the best husband that could be hers to another lady. If you love him be patience and humble. If do not love him, find your way.

One of the numerous lies I was told..

Op, take this advice and weep all the minutes of your life

edoboy74:
She is not worth any penny from that guy, if she really love him like how she made us feel, she won’t bring this topic or report her bf to this forum... she is a gold digger

Really? Some people dont deserve to be loved..

BluntTheApostle:
That you have been through it does not count at all. Many guys have been dumped by girls that they spent heavily on. Does it mean that every girl that a man spends on would end up jilting him?

For instance, the guy's supposed stinginess can be as a result of many factors:

1. He might be spending on someone else as you said.

2. He might be stingy as the OP suspects.

3. He might be merely prudent. Maybe there was a time in his life when he spent money anyhow, and so he has taken charge of his finances more prudently. This happened to me. My mom's death made me realize that you can't afford to spend money anyhow.

4. His take-home pay may be half of his salary.

5. The 5k loan may not all be his money. Maybe it is even a debt that he owes someone.

Pls stop all this stupid and flimsy excuses for ones wickedness and stinginess . Go get a life pls cos it's obvious some of you dont deserve to be loved.. You just come around to drain one emotionally, financially and all round

mharyamikeola92:
I really don’t lyk going out..But I don’t know how some1 will travel from Lagos to Osun without buying common bread

And there goes one of your weaknesses.. 'I REALY DONT LIKE GOING OUT'.. My dear you have to LOVE going out.. He is capitalizing on that. Just get another admirer that comes visiting and you ll see a Horgan wrestling out his lungs just to keep you , 'HIS FARMLAND' glued to him.

I speak from experience ooh

omooba969:
@bolded,

I hope all men can have this sense of entitlement as well...

My dear anyhow you see it, for me I have come to realize this BITTER TRUTH..

GAZZUZZ:
You are in your mid thirties and you are desperate.

Pls SHE ISN'T DESPERATE. She is simply concerned and it's normal.. People like you make situations like this look normal whereas it isn't..


Op I bet you ,if you continue with that 'relationship', you ll eventually be left EMOTIONALLY DRAINED AND FAGGED OUT.

BluntTheApostle:
How did you know this?

SMH...

It is a bad thing to jump into conclusion.

How do I know? I HAVE BEEN IN AND THROUGH SAME SITUATION. and well if she has got some time to spare, she should go dig more and come tell us her findings..

mharyamikeola92:
I ave my own job and a well paying job..I don’t need a man to b dere financially but is there a big deal in a man buying gifts for some1 he claims to love not necessarily money

My dear pls stop all this' I ve my money and I dont need his'.. The truth is that YOU NEED HIS MONEY.. IF HE CANT SPEND HIS MONEY ON YOU, HE DOESNT VALUE YOU. WALK AWAY AND SEE HIM RUN AFTER YOU COS YOU ARE HIS 'FARMLAND'. BUT NEVER GO BACK TO HIM.

If you want to know the truth, he spends that money on another lady you think and feel is not up to your standard.. Pls dump that 'i m independent' idea you have in your head.it won't work here. Try to form 'needy' atimes

I have been in same situation

primesoccer:
I will definitely meet her with the evidence. But I still want to continue chatting with her to get more info from her before I make the move.

Forget meeting her with the evidence.. It isn't necessary.. JUST MOVE ON

CsRockefeller:
In Philosophy, it is said that Objectivity means talking from the view of the object.

Thats what I am going to try to do, no pity party, no emotions.

Sometime this year, I went for an interview and also met a host of other prospective candidates around, some of us were jobless, some already had jobs.

We began discussing about d pay, we speculated between 70 to 100k, I told them that it cant be more than a 70k given its the Chinese (very stingy persons). Amongst us was a guy already earning 150k somewhere, we scolded him, how can one attempt to leave a good paying job for peanuts, we warned him about the consequence of loosing his good job. He had his interview and quickly left, I felt he was so greedy, even if u want to leave a 150k job, it should be for a higher pay, his friend said he's fond of jumping from one interview to the other. With a pay of 150k, a lot of people would seat at that place for at least 2 years.

Man, the ordinary man has always been selfish, he seeks himself alone, remember Cain and Abel, Jacob and Esau, Absalom and David, David and Saul, the list is endless.

For a long time, I tried to convince myself that everything on earth doesnt revolve around Economics/Money/Status/Financial stability but I was wrong, as I get older I know better.

I dont want to make this longer than necessary, but if your financial position as they say in Accounting is not where your lady wants it to be enough for her to commit to u then, she is still in the market and when that guy comes with her bag of expectations, she will jump.

It is what it is, call them gold diggers, hoes, sluts, it is what it is, man seeks himself first, and don't forget that your country is the poverty capital of the world, everyone wants to escape it.

The 20k is something, there's a lady who would be happy with it, but not this one. People will continue to search for jobs, and partners that meet their financial expectations.

It is not ideal, it is not fair, it is not right in a suituation where human emotions are involved but is the World fair itself?

Cc: Primesoccer

Thanks for being REAL though NOT FAIR.. AFTERALL LIFE ISN'T FAIR

freeman4ever:
500,000 thousand people? What was the population of Nigeria in 1918?

Read. It's there ..

GEEBITE:
Are you just programmed to defend anything relating to this govt. That two star general you saw in the video was reassuring his bosses in HQ that he is on ground with the troops. He is my bro in law's course mate and that's how they fought in Liberia and Sierra Leone.Their set in infantry are one of the finest as they were the second set to graduate from NDA when it became degree awarding.The video was deliberately leaked to paint him black so they can remove him.Take it or leave it.

I thank God for his life and for answering the prayers of his family members and loved ones.. Make the General go house go rest abeg. The man don try.

BLESSING IN DISGUISE

Sagay212:
When you arrest terrorists and release them after one month claiming they have repented, them Nigerians should know the people sponsoring boko haram.

Obviously the FG IS SPONSORING BH... TERRORISTS IN ASO ROCK

KosiGee:
You need to stop this behaviour. It’s very rude. This isn’t about the ethnicity of the commander.

You really do not know the events that compelled this man to make this video. He is a brave man to have taken up such position. He fights not only Boko Haram but also elements from the NA who give intel to insurgents and at the same time deprive him of such vital info.

I strongly believe that the NA feeds boko haram. Where do the wounded run and disappear to? Who treats them? Who arms them? Where do their trucks emerge from and where do they refuel and disappear to. If Buratai and the leadership of the Nigeria military do not have these then they are not fit to even lead a Boy Scout organisation.

Thanks for this analysis. It's obvious the FG is just leaking info to BH and sending wrong signals to the soldiers so they ll be ambushed and slaughtered.. These soldiers should just absconded. That's no cowardice.. They have been sent on a SUICIDE MISSIION BY FG.


IT SHALL NOT BE WELL WITH THE WICKED

toluxe0075:
I believe that video was leaked. His consistent use of "sir" in the video indicates he was addressing a superior officer concerning what they were experiencing on the battlefield as against what they were told.

Smart observation

Yancy:
Una sef. Sometimes people just need to cry out their pains, anxiety & hurt. Y'all think some folks are happy until you open them up & you will exclaim 'Jisos!!!'. They just need a shoulder or someone to cry to & one who would just tell them 'Don't worry, everything will be alright'. This time of tribulation is for the dogged. Some can't believe the lives they once knew is turned into a freaking horror movie. So from me to her 'Cry it out if it will make you feel good'.

So naa to record or video cry ,upload for SC be crying it out?

What's this rubbish? This woman no know her age?

eeby1983:
May God give you a second time in life,
may he grant you a quick recovery,
may the almighty forgive you of all your iniquities, and used you to impact sanity and God fearing in the presidency.
God am here wishing this sinner a long better life because I know that one day I will become a leader I mean a selfless leader amen.

Are you speaking to one with a REPROBATE HEART?

lakesider:
The man is an Harvard graduate. How many of your family has smelled University

Abeg rest with your inferiority complex.. Harvard my foot..get lost joor

Openbusiness:
My own is anyone blocking the progress of this country, any cabal oppressing this country, anybody controlling the powers of this country to support killer Fulani herdsmen killing thousands of people without being arrested and prosecuted, such evil people coronavirus will be their inheritance

AMEN

Fem4real:
Quick recovery in Jesus Name.(Amen)

Really? Suffer not the witch to live

Mummyfour:
This their commanders no dey finish? Haba.!!!

No.mind dem lie lie people..

From the military? Hell No . I WONT BELIEVE THIS CO HE LL DEFINITELY 'RESURRECT' TOMORROW AND THIS SAME MILITARY WILL COME UP WITH ANOTHER STORY LINE..

LordviccoDaGuru:
Nonsense talk, in his entry life he will never be like Buhari

Yes of course he won't and is not Buhari.. So you mean he didnt make valid points or you didnt get to read what he said?FOOLISH LOTS.. LIKE PRESIDENT LIKE FOOLISH FOLLOWERS

Ijaya123:
Can’t you see the way they have been insulting Tinubu as if any of their politicians can measure up to the guy.

Hypothetical bunch of losers.

Abeg find sweet lick

sweetsell:
So the foolishness of the bastards you senseless Igbo vote for as representatives should not be exposed ? Your own foolishness must definitely be divine straight from the pit of hell.

Oga or madam Sweetsell, go lick better sweet I say..

iammo:
Stop Blaming Yorubas for the Vote casted by over 15 million Nigerians from North and South....

and quite frankly If Ibos with people like Berth Nnaji and Jonathan "Azikwe" hadn't Sold NEPA cheaply to Idiotic crimanls Called DISCOS we wouldn't be facing this crime against our pocket

Every time I pay those PDP scammers called NEPA , I lay Curse on PDP and its evil supporters

..

Pls say something else