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mutter:
But for a moment. A few smiles from my He ;Dro and I will be all subdued again!

Hahaha ain't judging you, do as you feel jare .. But I guess you're right , they need a pat on the head once in a while to diffuse the frigid mood. Hahaha #chrunches celery#

alutacontinua:
Aunty ewuro haf say it finish!
Somebody say AMEN!

edwife:
Beautiful
I always say LIFE is as EASY or as HARD as you THINK it is.

Preach sister

fem29:
Ermmm mutter is this really you or has a feminist hijacked your profile

'If you can't beat'em' ... saw that coming already.

Eeshh

Her mom needs to make a change FIRST .. Once a kid is damaged, regaining confidence after that tween phase (8-12 years) could be tasking to achieve.

Read this incredibly and insightful book and once shared it in fun room 'raising confident kids', it added more tips to my existing knowledge about Tweens challenges.

I'll look for it in my iBooks/kindle and paste it if I find it

hmmm .. Sharing and openness is a disaster in marriage ? Sharing with one's neighbour is better I suppose or invite a cuddler in for a 3some.

OP..

We don't eat together in same plate (if you literally meant that ) eww @double dipping Yuckity yuck!

Secondly, keeping a joint account doesn't nessesary depict togetherness. ( what works for blah may not work for blah.. Its not life threatening practice)

Number three as regards to submission, it's an individual conviction, some women relate submission to slavery, some see it through rose coloured glasses.

Bluffly:
How should couples show they are one in all dealings just as they eat together in the same plate.

1. Respect; Is reciprocal, in as much as vows are involved in your Union. You must accord respect to your spouse and vice versa. A respected wife will go an extra mile for her family and same goes for the man.

2. Appreciation; Regardless how token or petty the gesture. Acknowledge ( via text messages, saying thank you, post it, best way you can) .. We have date nights and he usually picks the check ( ofcourse ), but ofcourse I always acknowledged and thank him every time . I thank him when he loads the dishwasher, makes the bed, or mops the floor. Not.. blah blah it's his responsibility. and I see the positive effect.

2. Secrets: Keeping secrets is prohibited; once he/she finds out, hmm the trust is bridged for good. Don't keep secrets from your spouse, the repercussions is nearly irreparable.

3. Friend(s) influence; We all have opinions, likes and dislikes. So as our friends and close relatives. When they express their displeasures and observations regarding your marriage( which is okay ). Use your brain , not your legs. (Calm down). Don't overreact.

4. Learn to Have the calm atmosphere talk: sounds like a chore to most men I know... "Agh what did I do again? " .. Whether it's a candid talk or one about the kids homework struggle, keep your cool. Don't raise your voice like a shrimp hawker .. Else he'll just take a walk and back to where you started.


A home where cordial respect is accorded, void of secrets , external influences are shut out and settled their rift in a calm atmosphere is No doubt A Happy home .



Easier said than done I know but definitely know these things and apply them especially whenever I have re-epiphany of my old folks overflogged advice "bowo fun oko e"

But

#I'm a work in progress myself before anybody comes for my head

Sumter

Indiana

Rarely do weaves but yes my Mom got me a whole pack from home. Even dollar stores don't carry them here and they're $1x1 at African salons. ( I believe) . Better be safe than sorry.

Awww cute.. Happy married life. Take good care of yourselves

and remember ...

Happywife = Happy married life

Demainman1:
We are the defenders of bad women? They have gone very quiet lately.

Continue your bad ways. Keep frustrating that that good man you agree to marry because the law here will side with you.
You might just become the next victim.

Biko oga take a deep breath

5minsmadness:
You seeeeeeee?

'Natural' Impulse of a self righteous - overbloated Nigerian.

We are all guilty one way or the other.

Tears of joy:

I made it!

Finally !

I Got him yes!

All mine!

5minsmadness:
They have shallow reasoning power.
I've been amazed how they haven't understood the op's intention throughout this thread despite her repeating herself over and over and over again.

None of them have ever had a single bad thought pop into their minds in their life.

None of them have ever looked at a child and thought ...mehn this child is damn ugly...in their life.

They are all oh-so-pious and self righteous.

The person that amazed me most is the op. She kept on trying to convince them of her true intent despite all the rudeness and vitriol fired at her. I salute her resoluteness.

I entered the bank vault today and saw stacks upon stacks of N1000 notes and a thought crossed my mind that it would he great if it all entered into my account. Does that make me a thief?
This thread has shown me the shallowness of this section I swear. People just interested in displaying how perfect and know-it-all they are. L

Ole

Hmm ok. Thank Godness I don't have to follow anybody's rules.

Your Life=Your choice.

Good *scolls up* evening.

kaboninc:
For God's sake, there is nothing wrong with that. Its a sign of ACCEPTANCE!

Hmmm

I don't agree with you tho. But that's another topic entirely.

Ancient of days, I am that I am.. I forever will praise you.

2. The Feminist Scare: African men are trying in their intellectual accomplishments, but honestly majority of them still don't accept feminism. At 30 +, a lady is most likely to have formed her core believes and ideologies. Unfortunately, most African men still can't draw any difference between an argumentative lady, a highly-opinionated lady and a feminist. They lump them all up together as feminists and hate them equally. Therefore, sista you will do yourself a favor to be less argumentative, be flexible in your opinions and reduce unnecessary negative energy that scare men away. African men are still scared of feminists. One day they will get there, but for now sheath your sword!

oh boy !

Sensible Article by the way. On point.

Ireland

Noodle

MyVicky:
It's the same kind of curiosity that makes them ask how a child is born?

Recently Had similar discussion regarding kids and YouTube ( how it would be nice to have tween and teen version) . You can't really control it to be honest and if you horde the information, they'll hide and browse the whole information if that what it takes.

Their inquisitiveness is sometimes mind troubling .

FriedPlantain:
Fine oo my Mrs bitterleaf. Today was really stressful but fine as usual.

Good to know . Same here.. Been out since 7. Almost done sha

Babymama1:
I know nothing about your late marriage nne
I know nothing about your kids
The only thing I learned about you from your posts is that you had a bad upbringing and a runaway father
I didn't make it up
You said it yourself
Now scram before I shoot to kill

^^ Oh oh easy grandma , I just rephrased what you said to me and you're this pained?

O dun ofeke

'Glaring Alzheimer's kicking in , reading All the thrash you typed up there

anyhoo we have tena on sale in Canada just in case your leakage goes out of hand. On me

Babymama1:
What difference will it make to you and your gossip groups what my response is?
Does it matter?
Grandmother
That's a new one
Hahahaha
I will leave you to titillate yourself with what the answer could be

What's wrong being at grandma at 50+ ?? After all I'm mocked by same you about my late marriage and young kids

You don't have to reply me you know we already have an idea how old you are. just
surprised it's true after all . Coz your posts don't depict your age . shymex o she gan oh.

I don't mean to be rude ma.

Besides.. Babyosisi are you really 50+ and a grandmother??

Oropesije

Hello ma, how are you ma, on ma knees ma

FriedPlantain:
My bitterleaf , how is you day going ma'am?

I dey jare.. How body

soulglo:
Yes, really. I want to see it. Where anybody mocked her. It is very important to me

Start from your own post history. Its your area of expertise

soulglo:
Where's the post were Mutter was mocked? I'd like to see the exact post.

Really ? Hmmm

Bisjosh:
IT ACTUALLY PROVES THAT YOU ARE FERTILE

Thy shalt not judge

greatgod2012:
abi o!
What do i know!
How are you my sis?

I'm great sis, how are you and fam doing too?

Happy Belated Xmas
Happy 2015
And Happy Val's day in Advance.