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damiso:
E consain me o dey wan spoil business for me naa

Ookey then

Who told you they already don't know??

Job banks made that easy for them.

Don't even underestimate these children.

damiso:
Who was the person who decided that Elections should be on Valentine's day in Nigeria naa?

Why dey wan spoil business for people naa?

how that one take consain you?

LostMermaid:
I am always nice her. Actually I like her. And she likes me back. We play lots of games together and all. And I buy her lots of presents, she then loves. My problem with his ex and even with him, if I have any, has got nothing to do with her. She's a different person. And I would never hurt a child.

Good but this contradicts your initial confession ( should I call it?) about the girl.

I will honestly advice you to either leave the guy if you ain't equiped for baggage that comes with step children drama OR convince your man to let that girl stay with her mom.

It's your life and your choice in the end. Good luck.

moca:

very disturbing view.. but you survived!

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anthoniaz:
My dear, she has learnt to live with her husband like that.
No woman would be happy to be in that situation I must confess, but for peace to reign, one has to just let go.

You're right. For peace

moca:
This ain't funny at all
Back in d days when I used to battle typhoid fever. For like a whole day, I didn't open my door nor eat. So late in d night, I was very hungry.i cooked anyhow spag,ate and went back to sleep.
In d morning,i was a bit better and wanted to tidy up d house.
Remembered I did number one repeatedly on my wee wee bucket and went to clean it up.
Behold no loo!
I cracked my brain later to realize I used it to prepare my night

Yuck.

Yuck Yuck Yuckity Yuck

alutacontinua:
It takes up space.
you post, she posts! And then the next 5 pages are about you both picking on yourselves, saying things that has nothing to do with thread, heck, you even go as far as bringing your offline lives into it!
It's stressful when I have to scroll through a whole page and only 2 posts are about the topic!
and yes, I could even be a lesbian-none of your damn business

Are you NL space auditor now?

Abeg leave them alone. They bicker and make back up. You're the one making a big deal out of it coz I don't see one.

It all fun and makes a good read.

anthoniaz:
Lol...why? I no understand some men oo.I wish him go drag to cook too as he dey drag to go market.

I didn't know such could turn out to be permanent like your story. 50 years you said? It's sad really.

I like cooking for my husband and was raised that way too. It'll be very awkward I mustn't lie so I understand the wife's ordeal.

Op you have no business with the slut and cheater treat your step kid right please. One good turn deserves another and remember that karma is not theory but REAL.

I rest my case.

anthoniaz:
My mum's elder sister (my aunt) is in such a situation and has decided to live with the husband like that.My aunt is fifty something,and has been living with the man like that to the extent that when their daughter did introduction in 2010, it was the man that went to market to buy everything. I don't really know if it's because such men are stingy and feel their wives will be stealing money given to them for food that they behave in that manner.

Madam, I think you should just let him be for the sake of the marriage, it's hard to change a man.

I give up.

pickabeau1:
I mean someone who is not threatened by the step child but knows that the kids are her hubbys and treats him as a human

I may not love this kid but I will not maltreat her
Its not a natural thing

Gotcha...

But you know some people are just naturally wicked and irritant to things that aren't theirs? That's my point all along, these ladies mind are hardenedly conditioned to be mean. They only have their eyes on the man and nothing else matters.

See how they treat their domestic helps for example. We read that here every time.

pickabeau1:
But she is being real
Thats why I said matured or exposed women are exempt

Not sure I get your point there.^^

You mean matured and exposed women are not crafty ? just asking

LostMermaid.. Please be nice to that girl. Please .

pickabeau1:
Lol....planet ewuro or euro
My phone always auto corrects to euro


I'm saying what she is saying is normal for a woman who is not mature or very measured.
Women are possessive

I'm not sure its limited to today or any era
Women are women

Lol.. Oh I see what you mean.

Her post although honest , came across very brazen and cold. I feel sorry for the little girl already.
Never witnessed such from my friends who had a stepmom growing up.

He bought 3x2bags of organic chicken when I told him to buy just one. Because Costco is doing sales. like who cares? I just don't like freezer burnt chicken. 'oh babe I'm just trying to help\' ookeyy

Some of us picky women just don't want men prying into our cooking details.yimu
Madam, sit him down and CALMLY explain to him, start making the grocery list together if he really wants to be involved and be prudent in your spending if he gives you a chance to go shopping. Try not to go over budget. Buy ponmo instead of dry fish if that's what it takes

Na wa oh..

pickabeau1:
Not only ladies of today but even the older ones who maltreated their step sons

She is being real expressing what most women internalize towards their mothers in law, step sons or anyone not connected by blood

I lived in another planet then.

What older ladies? For starters..What's your definition of Today's Ladies?

Threw my dog's treat instead of his freebie in the woods to fetch

chaircover:
Haaaaa!

oropesije

The dangerous mind of MOST today ladies.. Hence the numerous Calamity in marriage that are unheard of.


Eeshh

If you have the money to start with

chaircover:
Mo fe skive o but the snow dabarued it
I had 3 meetings today . . def not my fav thing.
I am thinking of being a nurse

Dabarued .. see Yoruba engrish

pickabeau1:
Madam

Your post can be interpreted as a justification for murder

LOL

moca:
How?
I just read d story.
Can't go tru d whole pages abeg b4 I get headache.
Mean gals dey o
Infact, let me close my mouth.
Go to schools in d east and interview medical student why they want to marry "abroad" guy.
U will be shocked!

Lol. Everybody wants to go to Amelika

I concur with your posts jare ..

Baba eshe eku itoju mi ni gbogbo igba.. Kaabiyesi olorun mi. I will forever worship you for the rest of my days.

Babyosisi, she's not making excuses for killers, her post is clear enough for all to see. A home without woman's adequate touch lacks love and you know it. You claimed to be a career woman yet still have the time to cook those delicious meals for your family , ofcourse you man will be happy. You know that's not the case in most homes, everyday is eat out.

Mutter (according to her post history) has been through a lot in life and she's learned a lot from life experiences , from making things right to change in attitude to bring the best out of her spouse.. Maybe she saw positive outcome as opposed to her previous relationship shortcomings and learnt from it. But She got a second chance to make things right and laid it out bare for all women to learn from her mistakes. Her delivery may sound rash sometimes like ilekokonit's way but she's right on the money.

This thread is an eye opener for me as a married woman and I've taken a lot of lesson out of it.

P.S osisi you're getting too old for this , stop bullying people with their past. It's not nice. Please change.

armyofone:
Stress is dangerous, talk to your personal physician and gym up yourself.
I wonder what naija pastors are preaching every Sunday and at prayer meetings. Instead of church, go to the gym and work that stress out.

I'll have to agree with Damiso on the church bit. But yes stress will turn a reputable figure into an irrational knucklehead in a flash second without damming the consequence(s). Our people don't know when to stop as long as money is conserned.

But still don't excuse them killing their wives.

Like always say, May God help us All.

cococandy:
quite confusing to me. I must say.
Although I'm not very comfortable discussing someone else's private life like this I guess it is ok since she put it out there herself.

But why go the extra length to make other women seem bad or evil for doing the same thing you would do if you were in their situation.?

One would think from her posts that she would bear all wrong doing and never leave a bad spouse going by how she tells other women to do so. She practically blames every woman who comes here with one issue or the other and never sees any wrong doing on the men's part. Whether cheating or physical abuse or murder (in this case.), she still found a way to make it the woman's fault.

I really did think she's not the kind to say enough is enough and walk out.

Now I'm more confused than ever.

Wow

Adelaide

Tactic

Mind boggles at what attracts older men to little kids..

Lord you're glorious.. You're bigger than any imagination. I thank you for my life, thank you for good health that upholds me. thank you Jehovah.