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The entire family of carbohydrates from balanced diet local government area of food state, Highly regret to announce the death of their father, brother and grandfather; Mr Rice who died in a fire accident along pot express road.
Mr Rice was survived by his wife;
Mrs stew. Twin daughters; curry and thyme. Sons in-law; Maggi an Onion.
BURIAL ARRANGEMENT; 25th of December 2014, Body leaves kitchen mortuary to his home town dinning table. Music by plates and spoons. Cups & water are highly invited, God loves you but our stomach loves you more.
May your gentle soul rest in the bosom of the toilet. Amen! Signed by meat and fish, for the family. Pls dnt laugh alone forward it to ur friends

S.ex after giving birth

Written by Dr David Delvin (GP and family planning specialist), Christine Webber (psychotherapist and lifecoach)

Will childbirth affect your s.ex life?

Yes, it certainly will! So please don't expect that everything will instantly return to normal.

Men are particularly likely to believe this. A lot of young blokes think that they'll be able to have I.ntercourse as soon as their partner gets home from hospital. But this just isn't true.

You see, childbirth is a pretty traumatic process for a woman. Having a baby pass through her va.gina is almost like having a small explosion go off inside her.

The delicate vagi.nal tissues are inevitably strained, bruised and torn – and it takes some weeks for these injuries to heal up.

Furthermore, childbirth involves considerable hormone changes – as well as emotional stresses. And as a consequence, very, very few women feel rampagingly se.xy until a long time after they have given birth.

Therefore, it's important for both mother and father to realise that lovemaking may not go brilliantly in the first six months or so after the baby arrives. So be prepared – and be patient!

How soon can you resume having s.ex?
In 2013, a study published in the British Journal of Obstetrics & Gynaecology stated that 41 per cent of first-time mothers had had full vagi.nal s.ex by the time the baby was six weeks old.

Traditionally, midwives and doctors have advised that a woman shouldn't consider having inte.rcourse until after her postnatal check-up. This examination usually takes place about six weeks after the birth.

However, in recent years several American medical publications have pointed out that there is no real scientific basis for this 'prohibition' until six weeks.

And some mothers have recently stated in internet communications that they felt pretty s.exy within two or three weeks of childbirth and wanted to resume. Some say that they have done so, without any ill-effects.

Others are not so sure, particularly if they are still exhausted after giving birth. For the moment, medical advice remains that the average woman should postpone in.tercourse till after that six week check-up.

Even then, she may not feel ready to 'go all the way' – particularly if she has had stitches and the opening of her va.gina is sore.

If you're in any doubt about whether to resume s.ex, ask the doctor who does your postnatal examination for advice – particularly about using additional lubrication.

Can you go in for any other se.xual activity before resuming intercourse?
Yes – and it can be a good way of 'letting off steam'. Couples do often get very frustrated when they're waiting to resume s.exual interc.ourse. This applies particularly to men!

So, in the meantime, you can go in for fore.play – though there is one very serious danger here, which we'll explain in a moment.

Can both of you go as far as the point of cli.max?
Definitely! It will do the postnatal woman no harm at all to have orga.sms if she wants to.

So, things you can do include:

hand petting of the man by the woman – what's often called a hand job
hand petting of the woman by the man – using his fingers to stimulate her cl.itoris. But he should not put his fingers inside until she has had her postnatal examination and the doctor or midwife has said that everything has healed up. So, just stick to stroking and rubbing the outside of her s.ex organs. It's quite safe to pay plenty of attention to her clitor.is, which is well away from the area where stitches are put in
o.ral s.ex performed on the man by the woman. This type of fore.play – termed f.ellatio – often proves a great boon to a male who is desperate for s.exual release
mutual caressing of various other parts of each other's bodies.

Is there anything we should avoid?
Yes. Please heed this important warning. You'll note that in the section above we have not recommended o.ral s.ex performed by the man on the woman (ie 'going down' on her).

This activity – often termed cunnil.ingus – is definitely off limits during the first few of months after childbirth.

Why? For two reasons.

It could introduce infection into the va.gina and womb.
Even more seriously, it has occasionally led to death. These tragedies have occurred because the man has (often accidentally) managed to blow air into the v.agina. Air can very easily get into the blood vessels of the newly-delivered womb – and cause an often fatal illness called 'air embolism'. Not long ago, the British newspapers reported an appalling case in which a man forced his wife into cunn.ilingus shortly after she came home from hospital, puffed air into her – and killed her.

Your br.easts after childbirth?
Is it all right for the partner to handle the new mother's brea.sts? Yes, it's OK – provided the woman feels happy about it. But don't go in for 'boob play' if she develops any kind of b.reast disorder, such as a nipple crack or an abscess.

Caressing your brea.sts may well make you produce jets of milk. O.rgasm may have the same effect. This is OK if the two of you don't mind it.

But if you find it off-putting, it would be a good idea to feed your baby before having s.ex, in order to empty the br.easts as far as possible.

On a related topic, the last few years have seen an increasing number of internet blogs from women who are embarrassed or ashamed because they find themselves having org.asms while bre.astfeeding.

But this is actually nothing to feel guilty about. It doesn't mean that you have perverted s.ex feelings for your baby or anything like that.

It's simply an effect of the powerful hormones that are released after childbirth and during lactation. In particular, one called oxytocin is said to have an orgasm-inducing action.

Do feelings for the new baby affect your se.x life?
Absolutely! You'll find that a great deal of time has to be spent taking care of the new baby.

Most new mothers – and plenty of new fathers too – feel exhausted because they are never able to get sufficient sleep. This may go on for months – or even a couple of years.

During this time, a man can feel as if his partner is pushing him away. He may think that she is lavishing all her attention on the baby and this may make him feel jealous, or left out.

After watching a partner go through pregnancy and birth, some men gain a new respect for the female body. These guys find it easier to articulate the emotions they feel about the new phase of their relationship and become more considerate of their partner's changing needs.

But a few men who have been at the birth of their child are quite distressed by what they have seen.

Indeed, some of them feel so guilty at the pain their partner has gone through that they are unable to even consider the idea of making love with her again. This is usually just a passing phase, but not always. And such a man should seek help from a counsellor to discuss his feelings.

To create and maintain a good atmosphere in the home, your relationship has to be one of trust and mutual respect. Both partners need to try to understand the other's point of view.

It's vital at this time that the couple can still do things together without the baby being involved so that they can enjoy the feelings they had for each other before they became parents.

We do urge new parents to take advantage of any offers of babysitting that come their way from fond grandparents, aunts, uncles and friends so they can go out together – or even just retire to bed for a sleep and perhaps a spot of s.ex!

What happens to the female s.ex drive after birth?
Most women (though there are exceptions) don't feel very keen on s.ex for at least a few weeks after childbirth, and the main reason for this is simply exhaustion.

If the delivery was long or difficult, the woman may also feel anxious about getting pregnant again.

Generally, women start getting their desire back within a couple of months of having a baby.

If your libido doesn't return, you should seek help from a doctor.

Female medics at family planning clinics are pretty hard-pressed, but are also understanding – and may have time to help you deal with this problem.

What do you do when you want to resume sexu.al inte.rcourse after the birth of your child?
When you're both ready to have intercourse after the birth, you should begin gently, especially if you’ve had stitches.

If possible, try and find a time of the day when you are not too worn out.

Also, try to find a time when the baby is not likely to wake up – so you can have some peace and quiet.

Hormone changes and worry can lead to some women experiencing vagi.nal dryness for the first three months after giving birth. But you don't take hormones for this. Instead, buy lubricants over the counter from a pharmacist such as K-Y Jelly or Liquid Silk.

For the first few s.ex sessions after childbirth, it's a good idea to choose a position in which the woman can control the pace and depth of penetration. A position with her on top, or one where both partners lie side-by-side facing each other, may be more comfortable.

If you’ve had a Caesarean, your scar may still be tender. So an orthodox ‘missionary’ position may not be a good idea. Try doing it with your man behind you!

Note to male partners: be gentle and be patient. Don't try and force your way in – and do not pressure your spouse into having s.ex before she is ready!

Don't forget contraception. It's very easy to become pregnant again – far sooner than you intended. Try and decide on some form of family planning by the time your baby is four weeks old. If in doubt, ask the doctor at your postnatal examination about contraception.

What do you do if the woman doesn’t regain her interest in s.ex?
This is quite common. Please bear in mind that it could be a symptom of postnatal depression (PND). If the woman is at all depressed, she should see her GP.

Otherwise, the best thing is for the couple to get some counselling from an expert in s.exual problems, for instance at:

With commonsense advice, a loving couple can usually gets things sorted out – though it may take some months.

In the last few years, there has been much publicity about possible hormone treatments which are supposed to increase female s.exual desire. As of 2014, I’m afraid that absolutely nothing has been discovered which will genuinely do this.

Unfortunately, Viagra and similar drugs have not so far been shown to help new mothers who are having difficulties with s.ex.

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