₦airaland Forum

chiommy123:
Let's be honest to ourselves is that woman really showing good example to her daughter with that pix up there

Keep quiet, Ms Honesty. Did you not read the woman's testimony that the man uses drugs? Is that a better example?

sisisioge:
Wow! Since Islamic countries are known for the offhandedness against their women and non Muslims, isn't it just wise to stay away from the country? She should just have absconded with her daughter, end of discussion!

Exactly. She is a fool.

After this incident, more foolish women will still be going to Saudi Arabia to leave. The power of money.

Why would a sane woman, especially a Westerner, leave US to go leave in Saudi Arabia of all places?

Charmingrascal:
So violence has been in his blood for a long a time.




He will stay in detention for a long time.
Some hypocritical Christians are bashing El rufai, calling him a Jihadist with sharia agenda but see nothing wrong in El Zakyzaky's extremism because it is Buhari that is the President.


Hatred for Buhari has blinded their eyes and they can't say the truth.



Zakyzaky is an extremist

That's a fool talking. Reasonable people are only demanding that the civil rights of Nigerians be respected even if that person is El-Zakzaky (or you or El-Rufai). Our laws must be followed. If we allow impunity on the part of the Government, then any one of us can become victims.

godofuck231:
If only the guys claiming impropriety had the skill the masure had, their wives will not have such ideas, so you think ur money can give a woman body fitness and pleasure? I massage my lady like its pawpaw and water Mellon being squashed and it makes her bite her lips and get wet, her feets are primed 3 times a week mostly before bed time, she drinks Japanese tea, and steams at least once a week, just like a rifle oiling and checks on your woman is necessary, stop playing God to your wife after u knelt down for her hand in marriage, treat her right, end it all with strong sex and dirty touches.

What you just described, especially how you end it all with strong sex and dirty touches is the reason why a man should not allow his wife to be massaged by another man, professional or not.

Sparkle777:
Lol, I used to think like y'all till I got a professional massage. Believe me, sex is the last thing on ur mind. I took pain killers cos the weight of the masseur on every part of my body was something else. I almost never went back, it took me a long time to get dressed. Every part, muscle, flesh, sinew was pressed to bits, no be small thing.
I hope u guys get a massage and know its benefits.

Yeah right.

JudgeOGBUNABALI:
Well, this is my 7th yr of marriage. My main problem with man and woman is not cheating but disrespect. And cheating even comes under disrespect. I don't play with respect. I give it to people and demand 110% reciprocation.
Dude here has no respect for himself. So am sure nothing, not even his children will respect him. Not to talk of the so called wife and her bonobo friends. You see, my wife, my inlaws, my siblings knows I can kill demanding respect. So nobody crosses that line. You want to mess around? First quit the marriage. Otherwise the day I find you out. There'd be double funeral and nobody will know who is responsible. My respect is more important than any blood!
That's why I wish to encounter this louse called Op. The wimp seriously need some whip

You sound like a sanctimonious, dangerous and violent person.

Safitu:
The man is not under any spell. The reality is that a lot of men endure cheating from their wives contrary to what you read on social media. Do you know what marriage entails? It’s not just a ceremony, it’s a physical and spiritual bonding, a soul tie that becomes extremely difficult to get out of, especially after many years and reproducing together. It just takes a lot of strength and grace to walk out. A lot of men do not come out to confess the problems their wives put on them because it’s a huge dent to their ego. Just pray that you marry a virtuous woman because it’s not easy.

Right on point Safitu.

hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.

(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.

In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).

I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.

She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.

In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.

In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).

Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.

Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.

My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.

I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

You should have divorced her long time ago. She is obviously a slut. But since your eldest child is 17 years old, I guess it's too late to consider divorce. Just do DNA test to ensure that the kids are yours (I doubt it) and just tolerate her; infidelity and all.

gudvibz:
It's hard I know,cause no woman wanteto share her man but if you can, please stay put. That's how I see it

Stay put? Wow. Are you for real?

I feel for you in your predicament. Very unfortunate situation. You should inform both your family and his own. If they cannot talk sense into him, prepare for divorce. Work on getting yourself financially independent.

Wonders shall never end!! It's amazing to hear that Andy Uba sponsored a bill. Wow.

ugo4u:
Trust me those women ain't going back to the Congress not with the growing conservative US populace. Instead of them to face their work they were busy bashing Israel not knowing that the same Israel controls the political arena (behind the scene) in US, coupled with the rock solid support they get from the evangelicals.

Yeah right, US political expert.

MicroBox:
Oya! Split the argument between Christianity and Islam. (While Israelis are not Christians but Jews) Mumu youths.
Ignorant youths.. Please as a Blackman, go enter Israel and see whether you can survive racism for 3 month.

Don't mind the fools. There are too many of them in this country.

kingemzy5:
Ihan Omar and Rashida said all sort of inciting statements against Israel which her fellow Democrats even condemned not only that she even called for the boycott of the Jewish nation (The only existing Jewish Nation) This isn't a Muslim ban but a stupidity ban. Millions of Muslims resides in Israel and are enjoying their respective rights as citizens without disturbance. We all know ihan is a daughter of a terrorist from Somalia and a religious bigot who married her brother

Clap for yourself, Israeli spokesman.

I so much hate to hear that question that I usually ignore it.

delerx:
It happens in developed countries too. Atleast we have all seen in movies.

I'm glad you said you see it happen in developed countries, in movies.

Danwakae:
You confused....Is it same Soldiers deing almost on a daily basis ??...is it same soldiers that are over stretch, working without no leave for the past 7yrs ??...Is it same soldiers that our corrupt leaders who are making money from insurgency r sacrificing to prolong the war for them to milk the nation treasury via insecurity ??...there are bed eggs in all agencies...think again else u r confused because the soldiers r more vulnerable than u.

Soldiers are the number one problem of Nigeria since they got themselves involved in politics since 1966.

oforjide:
I foresee a heavy clash between the nigeria army and nigeria police force before the end of this year becos the way police force is attacking army after
the taraba incident is so alarming.

Police attacking Army? Too many fools in this country.

Charmingrascal:
Buratai and other top Military Officers should be replaced for breeding undisciplined set of Officers. Very soon Soldiers will take over our streets killing and injuring civilians at any slight provocation.

Coup is coming soon
FG should do something before things get out of hand.

Soldiers are now rapists, kidnappers, armed robbers and supplier of weapons to criminals.

Buratai should be removed for incompetency, but the Nigerian Army has never been a disciplined entity. It did not start with Buratai.

ainas247:
Give them the Good Weapon and bokoHaram is a Gunner..

God bless Nigeria Army


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Not just weapons but proper training and a genuine desire on the part of the political leadership to defeat Boko Haram.

ise82:
Madness! Why did he tie the mouth? One day this guy will blame himself if care is not taken.

Blame himself? From the belly of the lion?

They should also track his financial transactions using his BVN.

SillyMods:
You're obviously consumed by hatred. Read and/or watch her again to realize that she was narrating her experience which goes beyond this current government.

Too many fools in this poo hole.

lafuria1:
Lol, when ever the culprit gets away with it, they shout herdsmen, as far as Akwa ibom is concerned , no way such crime will take place and they don't have a suspect. Herdsmen isn't a suspect. There towns and villages are small, people know each other by face.

Fool.

OROSUNBOLB:
Nothing is going to happen if we continue in our usual way of speaking grammar after each killing. What is wrong with us in this country ? Mr President said sometimes ago that the murderous herdsmen might not necessarily be Nigerians. I did not agree with him,in fact I was so furious with him until I visited Ifewara in Osun state.

Ifewara is very close to the ancient city of Ile Ife,the cradle of civilization of Yoruba race. It is one of the major gold mining centres/locations in Osun state,precisely Ijeshaland. I was rudely shocked to see quite a huge numbers of fulanis and other tribes from Senegal,Gambia,Guinea,Chad,Niger Bukina Faso etc in that sleepy village. Some few weeks ago,there was a skirmish in that village caused by these foreigners. It could have snowballed into a very serious crisis because the indigenous youth of Ifewara responded quickly and decisively to the excesses of the those foreigners. It took the intervention of the king to resolve that issue.

These herdsmen are not Nigerians. We should deal with them in such a way that they will be scared of crossing our borderlines. Agreed,it may be difficult to differentiate between local Fulani's and foreign ones. If we agree however, that our local fulanis don't carry arms,then anyone that is seen with arms should be dealt with immediately.

Any herdsmen settlement that is close to any crime scene ,like the one above, should be sacked immediately because there is collaboration therein certainly.

We cannot continue to treat the murderous excesses of these herdsmen with kid glove. We should be proactive rather than being reactive.

Good morning and may the soul of the victim rest in peace.

The problem with dealing with these herdsmen is that the Buhari government is protecting them in line with the Fulanization agenda of Buhari. Their penetration of every part of Nigeria is a deliberate move by Buhari in line with his agenda. As soon as a community takes up arms to defend themselves, the Army and Police and DSS will descend on them. Under the bigot Buhari, those Fulani militants are above the law. The Governors need to pass anti open grazing law to force them out.

All the Southern and Middlebelt States should pass anti open grazing law and require those that want to herd cattle to do it in a ranch.

Oblitz:
So herdsmen have arrived in Uyo, chai!!!

They are everywhere in Nigeria.

Difrent:
The Shiites are playing an old trick, but PMB is a master of the game, we shall see how this plays out.... I smell Iran in all this

Dullard PMB master of which game? Too many fools here.

Chepos1:
This will serve as a lesson to those who think Nigeria unity is a joke.

Another fool.