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RomanceLove Formulae by fajani(op): 10:21pm On Apr 22, 2015
U dote her too much love, she resists it, u shw her small, she asks for more.. It is just like a love formulae


Hiding your feelings might be a key to a long life relationship...
EducationArticles- Self Reliance By Ralph Waldo Emerson.. by fajani(op): 8:31pm On Apr 22, 2015
read the other day some verses written by an eminent
painter which were original and not conventional. The soul
always hears an admonition in such lines, let the subject be
what it may. The sentiment they instil is of more value than
any thought they may contain. To believe your own thought,
to believe that what is true for you in your private heart is
true for all men, — that is genius. Speak your latent
conviction, and it shall be the universal sense; for the inmost
in due time becomes the outmost,—— and our first thought is
rendered back to us by the trumpets of the Last Judgment.
Familiar as the voice of the mind is to each, the highest merit
we ascribe to Moses, Plato, and Milton is, that they set at
naught books and traditions, and spoke not what men but
what they thought. A man should learn to detect and watch
that gleam of light which flashes across his mind from within,
more than the lustre of the firmament of bards and sages. Yet
he dismisses without notice his thought, because it is his. In
every work of genius we recognize our own rejected
thoughts: they come back to us with a certain alienated
majesty. Great works of art have no more affecting lesson for
us than this. They teach us to abide by our spontaneous
impression with good-humored inflexibility then most when
the whole cry of voices is on the other side. Else, to-morrow
a stranger will say with masterly good sense precisely what
we have thought and felt all the time, and we shall be forced
to take with shame our own opinion from another.
There is a time in every man's education when he arrives at
the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is
suicide; that he must take himself for better, for worse, as his
portion; that though the wide universe is full of good, no
kernel of nourishing corn can come to him but through his
toil bestowed on that plot of ground which is given to him to
till. The power which resides in him is new in nature, and
none but he knows what that is which he can do, nor does he
know until he has tried. Not for nothing one face, one
character, one fact, makes much impression on him, and
another none. This sculpture in the memory is not without
preestablished harmony. The eye was placed where one ray
should fall, that it might testify of that particular ray. We but
half express ourselves, and are ashamed of that divine idea
which each of us represents. It may be safely trusted as
proportionate and of good issues, so it be faithfully imparted,
but God will not have his work made manifest by cowards. A
man is relieved and gay when he has put his heart into his
work and done his best; but what he has said or done
otherwise, shall give him no peace. It is a deliverance which
does not deliver. In the attempt his genius deserts him; no
muse befriends; no invention, no hope.
Jokes EtcRe: What A Runs Girl Gave Me That Made Me Faint After We Had Finished by fajani(m): 4:28pm On Apr 22, 2015
[sup][/sup][right][/right][color=#550000][/color]Life for rent
Jokes EtcRe: What A Runs Girl Gave Me That Made Me Faint After We Had Finished by fajani(m): 4:27pm On Apr 22, 2015
Life for rent
PoliticsBuhari Fails To Attend TIME 100 Gala by fajani(op): 4:16pm On Apr 22, 2015
The TIME 100 is an annual list of 100 most
influential people in the world whose works are
changing the world, regardless of the
consequences of their actions.
President-elect, Maj. Gen Muhammadu Buhari (retd), who
was named in the Time Magazine annual 100 influential people in
the world list, did not attend the Gala held at Lincoln Center in New
York. The gala is put together to celebrate the 100 influential
people in the world.
The TIME 100 is an annual list of 100 most influential people in the
world whose works are changing the world, regardless of the
consequences of their actions.
Buhari made history in March by becoming the first candidate to
oust a sitting Nigerian President through the ballot box and was
described as ‘A new choice for Nigeria’ by TIME.
Former Minister of Education and Bring Back Our Girls
campaigner, Obiageli Ezekwesili attended the gala and called on
President Barrack Obama of the United States of America to help
find the girls abducted by Islamist group Boko Haram.
PoliticsRe: Buhari In Closed-door Meeting With Obasanjo by fajani(m): 3:56pm On Apr 22, 2015
well, it might be a good omen
PoliticsRe: Ondo Deputy Governor Committed Impeachable Offenses--state Lawmakers by fajani(op): 3:11pm On Apr 22, 2015
Presided over by Speaker Jumoke Akindele, the assembly claimed
that Mr. Olanusi committed offenses that contravene section 188
(2) of the 1991 constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.
The clerk of the state assembly, Bode Akinyelu, read the seven-
count charges allegedly committed by the deputy governor at a
poorly attended plenary session.
"Pursuant to the provision of section 188 of the Constitution of the
Federal Republic of Nigeria, We the undersigned members for the
Ondo State House of Assembly pursuant to our enabling powers
under section 188 (2) of the 1991 constitution of the present to the
Speaker the following allegations of gross misconduct against the
Deputy Governor, Alhaji Ali Olanusi.”
The majority leader of the Assembly, Ifedayo Olugbenga
Akinsoyinu, representing Ondo West Constituency II, moved the
motion for impeachment and was seconded by Adeyinka Banso
representing Akoko North West constituency I.
Saharareporters exclusively got copies of the seven allegations of
gross misconduct against Mr. Olanusi, including names of the
lawmakers that signed the impeachment notice.
However, two lawmakers,Fola Olasehinde and Gbenga Edema, who
defected to the All Progressives Congress (APC) from the Peoples
Democratic Party (PDP), were absent at the session.
Below are the alleged offenses leveled against Mr. Olansui and
obtained by SaharaReporters.
1. “That Alhaji Ali Olanusi, being the holder of the office of Deputy
Governor, permitted and condoned the perpetration of fraudulent
activities in the office of the Deputy Governor in that Alhaji Bola
Idris Olanusi, the younger brother and Special Assistant in the
office of the Deputy Governor procured false LPO’s with the
knowledge of Alhaji Ali Olanusi and obtained from one EHISO
RESOURCES INTERNATIONAL LIMITED, two (02) Trucks of AGO
with forged documents and for personal benefits, thereby putting
the office of the Deputy Governor into Disrepute
2. “That Alhaji Ali Olanusi being the holder of the office of Deputy
Governor of Ondo state and having full knowledge that his younger
brother, Alhaji Bola Idris Olanusi, who at all material time was his
personal staff had engaged in activities unbecoming of officials of
Government refused to sanction, query or discipline the said staff,
thus, bringing the office of the Deputy Governor into disrepute”
3. “That Alhaji Ali Olanusi, being the holder of the office of Deputy
Governor of Ondo State engaged in Press Release and interview
with various media outlets especially at pages 50 and 51 of the
Saturday Punch of April 18, 2015 publication wherein false
allegations were leveled against the Governor who was falsely
portrayed as
(i) A person who instigated the carting away of Ballot
Boxes.
(ii) A person who instigated the killing of people in Ondo
state.
(iii) A person who disrespects the Judiciary.
(iv) A person who worked against the interest of the President.
(v) A person who bribed the electorate.
When the said Alhaji Ali Olanusi was at all materials times, the
Deputy Governor in the same Government, an act which amounts
to gross misconduct under the Constitution.
4. “That Alhaji Ali Olanusi, being the holder of the office of Deputy
Governor of Ondo State, engaged in Absenteeism and truancy by
regularly absenting himself from office, place of work and ll other
official engagements especially on 13th, 14th, 15th, 16th, and
17th of April and Monday, 20th of April , 2015 without lawful
excuses or authorization but generally acting in a manner
inconsistent with the dictates and expectations of the high office of
the Deputy Governor of a State, thus, undermining the governance
process, an act which amount to gross misconduct under the
Constitution.
5. “That Alhaji Ali Olanusi, being the holder of the office of Deputy
Governor on or about Wednesday 15th April 2015 caused his
security aides to shoot indiscriminately at peaceful protesters
along Fiwasaiye/Oba Adesida Road in Akure thus creating panic,
breakdown of law and order, and general sense of insecurity within
the State under pretext that the said protesters disrupted his
convoy, an act unbecoming of holder of high office of the Deputy
Governor.
6. “That Alhaji Ali Olanusi, being the holder of the office of Deputy
Governor at various dates collected various sums of money for the
purpose of traveling and medical bill as follows: 2009 (N8, 175,
410), 2010 (N8, 952, 600), 2013 (N10, 833, 200) and 2014 (N11,
328, 100) when in actual fact, the said Alhaji Ali Olanusi did not
travel on the said specified dates or did not travel at all and, or did
not expand the approved medical bills as appropriate, thereby
unlawfully enriching himself and/causing loss to the State
Government.
7. “That Alhaji Ali Olanusi, being the holder of the office of Deputy
Governor engaged in political conduct designed to undermine the
office of the Governor by ensuring political disaffection and
deliberate working at cross purpose with the Governor and the
Executive Council of the State with a view to destabilizing the
State government by openly canvassing for the impeachment of
the Governor following the Presidential Election conducted on 28th
of March, 2015 which amounts to an act of gross misconduct
under the provisions of the Constitution”, the accusation read.
Speaking after the sitting, the Chairman of the House Committee on
Information, Kunle Olujuyigbe said the allegations leveled against
the Deputy Governor is yet to be substantiated and would be given
opportunity to defend himself.
“The allegation is not substantiated yet. It is for him (Ali Olanusi)
to defend himself. The Deputy Governor would still be giving
opportunity to defend himself”, Olujuyigbe said.
But, the Deputy Governor, Ali Olanusi has reacted to the noticed of
impeachment saying he was yet to served any noticed officially
adding that he would fully reacts to the any allegation against him
when he is lawfully informed.
"I am yet to be officially informed about this development. The
Ondo State House of Assembly is note and familiar with making
Laws and passing resolutions without sitting or recording. There
are many repetitive events in this regard.
“A case in hand was the passage of the OSOPADEC budget last
year 2014. You will get my full reaction if and whenever I'm
officially and lawfully informed", Ali said in terse sent to
Journalists.
The House of Assembly has adjourned their sitting till today
Wednesday by 10 AM.
PoliticsOndo Deputy Governor Committed Impeachable Offenses--state Lawmakers by fajani(op): 3:06pm On Apr 22, 2015
The Ondo State House of Assembly on Tuesday
said it had served Deputy Governor Ali Olanusi a
notice of impeachment based on seven counts of
alleged gross misconduct in office.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Nairalanders Im In Love With Flawles: "The 1st Time I Saw Her My Heart Pounded. by fajani(m): 10:15am On Apr 22, 2015
falconey:
happy for you

This is what you will do: view her profile pic and grab your vaseline.

You even have bad taste.
Can't STP
laughing. u don spoilt...
Romance9 Things You Do For Love. by fajani(op): 9:48am On Apr 22, 2015
1.Go to places you wouldn't ordinary be caught dead in.
To be with him you'd go to a dive, play pool and drink beer
despite your refined qualities and Vassar diploma. Sure, you'd
prefer an elegant candle-light dinner for two at a 5-star
restaurant. But the lava lamps are amusing, especially when they
shine against the tequila bottle with that little worm inside. And
you don't mind the musty smell, the sawdust on the floor and the
bartender who speaks gibberish. Why? You are with him at "his"
favorite place. If you consistently lower your standards to honor
his comfort zone, soon you'll tolerate anything. Love is an
environment you create between you.

2Pretend you enjoy watching brutal sports.
In the name of togetherness, you put on a football jersey,
memorize NFL statistics and root for his favorite team. Every time
the offense tackles you grimace, close your eyes and feel pain in
your bones. But you realize football is a religion and women only
"rise from the fall" by joining in. So you echo his cheers, mimic
his groans and settle in for a few hours of brutality. You vow later
to light candles for the injured. Love tolerates no brutality.

3.Get a tattoo to match his.
Yes, you want him to think of you as his soulmate. So, you get a
tattoo to match his or one that is complementary and have it
inked on a discrete spot. When it's revealed he'll think, "What are
the odds of that?" He'll naturally claim you are "the one". Playing
a cosmic joke just to be cute is one thing, but tricking a guy into
thinking you are his destiny, may force fate to reveal the truth in
way you won't like. Love is etched in the heart not on your skin.

4Spend two hours in front of the mirror so that you look adorable.
Pigtails in the morning, hair draping over your shoulders in the
afternoon, hair up in the evening, you change your look to suit his
mood. There is nothing wrong with wanting to put your best face
forward, but never allowing him to see your blemishes or hair
mussed only proves that you believe beauty is only skin deep. If
it is love you are after let him see you "au naturel". Loving eyes
see no imperfection.

5.Put up with a boyfriend's rude friends.
Yes, crude, sloppy and unruly is the way you'd describe his
friends. And their disgusting "women jokes" make you choke. But
they are your love mate's choice in friends after all and
confronting their rudeness might upset the apple cart. So, you
bite your tongue and serve them plenty of snacks. Occasionally,
you even laugh along as they Insult womanhood. Yes, it would be
nice if he would confront them, but he only smiles and winks at
you. If he truly loved you he would stand in the fire of their
disrespect and ask them to stop. True love never tolerates
disrespect.

6.Ooze pleasantries.
Yes, nice girls say only nice things, flatter their man, and sing his
phrases. No, you don't want to say the wrong thing. So, you put
on a smile and tell him you had the perfect day at work when in
truth it was the worst workday in your history. Maybe your
mother told you a man doesn't like a complaining woman or one
who is opinionated. So you stick to the pleasantries until you can
trust he can handle a complaint or two. Love isn't always about
saying pleasant things. Nor is love oozy and sticky. Love is
powerful and says it all.

7.Drive across town for his favorite pizza when you are in the mood
for Chinese.
There is nothing wrong with going out of your way to please a
guy. But when you drop everything and hit the Los Angeles
freeway during rush hour driving 20 miles in the pouring rain for
his favorite thick-crust pizza, don't you think you are going
overboard? Proving your love for him shouldn't be that much
work. You want to wet his palate for you not for pizza. Love is
food.

8. Overspend on his necessities.
Maybe your motto is: "Bar no expense to make him happy." Sure
you'll consider his expenditures on your credit card a loan. And
why not cosign on a car loan because his credit score is 300, the
lowest score possible. And just because he always seems to
have forgotten his wallet when you go shopping doesn't mean
he's dishonest and a leach. You're sure he will reciprocate as
soon as he finds a decent job. If your guy thinks your bankroll is
his "destiny", he'll consider it his "privilege" to sap you dry.
Remember! "Money can't buy you love."

9. Befriend his parents thinking they hold the key to his heart.
You make it a strategy to befriend his parents. Your thinking is
that if you can win their affection, he's in your pocket. So you
spend more on them at Christmas than on your own parents,
drive his mom anywhere she wants to go, paint her toenails to
match yours and rethink her wardrobe to give her a boost.
Finally, you tell her you always wanted a big sister. And dad?
You let him think you need his fatherly advice at least twice a
week. The funny thing about it all is that you do like them.
Therefore, it is easy to schmooze them and slide into the security
of knowing you won their hearts. But this strategy may backfire if
your guy thinks you have teamed up with his parents against him.
Love needs few reinforcements.Ultimately, if it's love you want
then love for yourself comes first. Consider your needs before you
consider his. Rather then moving into his life bring him into yours
so that he can see a woman's world is soulful. Then feed his soul
not his habits.


Ladies If u are not fit to do the above things, May be u are not fit to Love.......
RomanceRe: Please Help!!!!! See What I Saw In My Gf's Bag by fajani(m): 2:33pm On Apr 21, 2015
Iamfrank:
Have bn dating dis gal 4 2yrs nw... Sh went to her hometown 4 easter, she came back jst yesterday, sh jst came to c me today, due to d size of d big hand bag she carried... I decided to check her bag n I saw dis little tin inside, its all wrapped with feathers all over, am so very shocked, I asked ha wats it, she jst said its nothing.... Pls does any1 here knws wats it... Coz it luks so fetish to me
It is nothing but a love portion, looking into her eyes is like when u have been confessed... you can Sell all your properties and give it out to her, if she demands it..... Fear her.. being with her is like being in bondage.... Go far far away for such girl if you need your life.. make sure she didn't have ur picture.. bro, fast and pray....
RomanceRe: Relationship/friendship! by fajani(m): 8:55am On Apr 21, 2015
Lala247:
Dont do wts app or bb u cn pm if u want
U mean our friendship could not be more than this..
PoliticsNigerians Protest At MTN, Multichoice, And Shoprite Offices' Outlet by fajani(op): 8:47am On Apr 21, 2015
Hundreds of Nigerian protesters on Monday stormed the offices of South African companies in Abuja and Benin City, Edo State, to protest the ongoing xenophobic attacks on foreigners, especially Nigerians, in South Africa.

In Abuja, the protesters, led by media personality and President of the Berekete Family, Ahmad Isah, marched to the regional headquarters of MTN Nigeria Communications Limited in Maitama, as well as Shoprite and Multichoice, owners of DSTV.

At MTN, the protesters, who carried placards with various inscriptions condemning the attacks on Nigerians and their businesses in South Africa, were joined by Nigerians in the area where the office is located.

One of our correspondents learnt that a senior official of MTN whose identity was not known, addressed the crowd of protesters who wore yellow T-shirts, the traditional colour of the South African telecommunications company.

The official reportedly told the protesters that the company was not in support of the attacks on Nigerians and other Africans in South Africa.

He also told them that the MTN operation in the country was MTN Nigeria and that the company only has a few South Africans working in the country.

When our correspondent visited the Maitama office of the company, policemen in a patrol vehicle were seen stationed just across the telecommunication firm’s office to forestall possible breakdown of the peace.

In Benin City, some youth protesters stormed the MTN office on 3rd East Circular Road, Muritala Muhammed Way.

The youths, under the aegis of The Flagship, threatened to shut down South African firms operating in Nigeria over the attack on Nigerians in South Africa.

The protesters carried placards with various inscriptions.

The messages in the placards include, “Xenophobia is inhuman,” “Zuma call your boys to order” and “S/Africans can’t be making money from us, killing us.”

Spokesperson for the group, Austin Enabulele, described the attacks as inhuman and condemnable, explaining that the protest was a warning to the South African government to put a stop to the attacks on Nigerians or risk losing its investments in the country.

Enabulele said, “We are all Africans; we wonder why they should attack our fellow Nigerians who are doing their legitimate businesses in South Africa, when we have shown them love to operate in Nigeria.

“We have come here to say to (President Jacob) Zuma to call his people to order because if he fails to call them to order we will do the needful. We are aware of all their businesses in Nigeria; we know of MTN, we know of Shoprite, we know of Multichoice company, and we know of all the other companies that belong to South Africa.

“We will shut down all their services, if they continue the killing of our brothers and sisters. So, we have come here to tell them to put an end to the killing of our brothers and sisters who are doing their legitimate jobs in South Africa.”

The vice president of the group, Gloria Noren, decried what she described as the ingratitude of South Africans, whom she said received financial support from Nigeria during the apartheid era.

Noren urged the Federal Government to commence the immediate evacuation of Nigerians from South Africa, in order to forestall further havoc.

She said, “We have videos of Nigerians that have been killed; I personally watched the video. How can someone come out to say that we are taking their jobs from them? What about the money they are making from us?

“Nigeria spent over N60bn fighting apartheid for them. Why should we extend love to them and they extend hatred to us. It is totally inhuman, distasteful and disgusting.

“We are sending this message to our Nigerian government to go ahead and evacuate all Nigerians from South Africa because we cannot continue to lose our brethren.”

The Nigerian Consul-General in South Africa, Amb. Uche Ajulu-Okeke, had on Sunday said that Nigerians had lost more than N21m to the attacks in South Africa.

Ajulu-Okeke said the loss included looted shops, burnt shops, two burnt mechanic workshops, 11 burnt cars and two stolen cars, among others.

“Nigerians have compiled the cost of the damage to their property and it is totalling about 1.2m Rand or N21m, which will be sent to the Federal Government for further action,” the ambassador had said.

She said that two of the three Nigerians who were wounded during the attacks in Durban had been treated and discharged from the hospital.

The consul-general said that she would go back to Durban to assess the situation on ground and meet with the provincial authority on the security of Nigerians in the province.
http://www.punchng.com/news/nigerians-protest-at-mtn-multichoice-shoprite-offices-outlets/
RomanceRe: Relationship/friendship! by fajani(m): 10:11pm On Apr 20, 2015
Lala247:
Really shocked
Yes... Let me add u on whatsapp
RomanceRe: Reservations: Don't Read If You Don't Wanna Get Wet by fajani(m): 10:10pm On Apr 20, 2015
nnaemy2013:
I really hated the staff retreats. It was a bother to my time and my person in general but being the only manager and woman in my team, I had to go. The guys were having the best time of their lives but no one dare talk to me. As their superior and a woman, I had learned to be tough. I did not want any disrespect of any sort. This worked so well for me until we hired Dayo.


Dayo was a good-looking, dark skinned not too built, sexy man. He was the kind of man that would attract me and set my body on heat every time I laid my eyes on him. The special turn off was his attitude. Dayo was very cocky. Knowing how fine he was and how much girls from the other departments at work wanted him, he was so proud. He would verbally disobey my direct orders with a smile or a wink but at the end of the day, whether doing it my way or his; he got the result I wanted. He was an asset to the office but a liability to my body because anytime he came close, his smell drove me insane. His big hands got me thinking about what he could do, what he could grab; how I would feel if he inserted just two fingers into my pussy. The wet thoughts I had made me be overly harsh towards him.

Now we were all in the retreat and everyone was picking roommates. As the only woman and their superior I was entitled to my own room. Until the receptionist slapped me in the face with her words

“We do not have any extra room madam”

“What?” I was totally confused. My secretary had booked a separate room for me. I was sure of it. Would I have to share a room with a man? I didn’t think so. “Who doesn’t have a roommate?”

Dayo put his arm up. All I could think was anyone but him. We never got along and the pheromone he released was exactly what triggered every sensitive spot I have but I was his superior.

“Does the room have two beds at least?” I had to make sure.

“Yes, it does. It is a full suite with a living room, bath tub, shower and a kitchen area.” The receptionist made me so relieved. If there was any problem, I could kindly ask him to sleep on the couch or take the couch position myself.

Throughout this confusion he didn’t say a word. He just whispered with the other guys and they would occasionally laugh. I figured they were making fun of me but I had to be professional.

“Can everyone go to their room; I’ll have to sort out some few issues down here.”

They all collected their keys and left. I signed a few papers and went up to my room as well.

When I opened the door, my heart was beating so fast. Dayo was seated on the couch with all of his bags.

“Is there a problem with the room?” I asked to seem concerned at least.

“No, I just thought I should probably take the living room space. The shower is out here and the bath tub is in there.”

“Great!” I walked into the room and shut the door. How I was going to cope was still a mystery to me. I mean I hadn’t had sex in over three years and I felt like a virgin. Knowing there was a sexy man in the same room as me was a complete turn on. But at least I have my rabbit; there’s nothing like having that special battery operated boyfriend to calm your nerves when the real thing seems unavailable.

There was a knock at the bedroom door after like 30 minutes.

“Yes?” I answered warily. Was he trying to hit on me? Was he as Hot as I was? I didn’t know.

“I’m going to sleep. Goodnight.” That was all he said and I was heartbroken. I was hoping he was checking to see if I was asleep so he could take me and I could act like I didn’t want it but he didn’t need to rape anyone. A snap of those sexy fingers and women will be falling at his feet begging to be bleeped.

“Goodnight.” That was all my voice could carry.

I waited for about an hour, turned the TV up louder than normal, laid down in the nude on my bed and brought out my rabbit BOB. I put the vibration to the highest because I was too wet to take the slow angle. I slipped it into my pussy and I arched my back. The vibration touched my clit with so much force I let out a moan so loud I had to hold my hand over my mouth. He was fast asleep anyways so he couldn’t have heard that. I continued to push my BOB in and out, my breathing got too heavy even for me. I could feel Dayo’s arms around me. I felt like it was his dick in me right now. I wanted to wrap my legs over his waist and not ever let go. I could feel every wall I had shattering, this orgasm taking over me was new.

“I never knew you masturbated”
u just make that lil bro erect
RomanceRe: Relationship/friendship! by fajani(m): 10:01pm On Apr 20, 2015
Lala247:
Huh?
seriously Lala247 I want to be ur Frnd apart of this Nairaland.
RomanceRe: Relationship/friendship! by fajani(m): 9:27pm On Apr 20, 2015
Lala247:
Hey peeps

Ok, this is a big issue in realtionship .

Ladies/ guys would you allow ur bae to be friendly with your friends or bestfriend?
Have you ever liked your baes friend and wish you could swap ?
Can you forgive a guy/chic that cheated on you with your bestfriend? Can you forgive the friend?

Do you think confiding with friends can be the downfall of a relationship? ..

Discuss! smiley
Share your experience.
Advice.

Cc

Lalasticlala
Ishilove
I sight you......
RomanceRe: Relationship/friendship! by fajani(m): 9:24pm On Apr 20, 2015
As the Adage says,''Trust no one'', We are dealing with human being with blood flowning through their Vein.. The relationship of my Best friend to my GF will have a class or level, Dodge a Satan to dodge you. I won't give a chance of putting flame on a roof..... If the landlord is not vigilant enough then his properties belong to the thieves..... becareful, relationship is a fragile thing. handle with care...
RomanceRe: 5 Sure Signs He’s Losing Interest In The Relationship by fajani(m): 9:07pm On Apr 20, 2015
vjsmiles:
[size=14pt] that is your phcking opinion not mine....

and how does my post affect yho? [/size]
[size=14pt] guy I guess u take dope........ [/size] [/font]
vjsmiles:
[size=14pt] that is your phcking opinion not mine....

and how does my post affect yho? [/size]
[size=14pt] guy I guess u take dope........ [/size] [/font]
vjsmiles:
[size=14pt] that is your phcking opinion not mine....

and how does my post affect yho? [/size]
[size=14pt] guy I guess u take dope........ [/size] [/font]
RomanceRe: 5 Sure Signs He’s Losing Interest In The Relationship by fajani(m): 9:00pm On Apr 20, 2015
Orlahmeedey:
My BF does all of this....
you are in a wrong place madam
RomanceRe: 5 Sure Signs He’s Losing Interest In The Relationship by fajani(m): 8:59pm On Apr 20, 2015
pls post Ladies own. I love reading anything abt Ladies, but for guys I am into it already....
PoliticsRe: Showdown In Ekiti As Fayose Mobilises Okada Riders,nurtw by fajani(op): 8:48pm On Apr 20, 2015
tabaralph:
i told everybody that fayose is a leopard that can never safe his spoty skin,is this not the same fayose that was sending pastors and imams to plead with the 19 apc law makers last week,,,,i said it he was only trying to buy time so that the new assembly will be inaugurated on may29 then he will show his true colour to the opposition......eti roun enwaooo ekiti kete
He said '' my plead was not a cowardice''. Dnt u see he is a beast of the highest order, God father of the touts...... TOUT///// Tyranny will only bring destruction....... Blind fool of Ekiti State I bid u farewell........
RomanceRe: Tell Us- Must She Really Needs To Tell You She Love You B4 The Game On by fajani(op): 2:02pm On Apr 20, 2015
FLAWLES:
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RomanceTell Us- Must She Really Needs To Tell You She Love You B4 The Game On by fajani(op): 1:43pm On Apr 20, 2015
Back when we were dating, I told my wife I loved her before
she was ready to say it back.
I was totally okay with this and here's the reason why:
I have always been the "safe guy" who waited for my
previous girlfriends to fall for me before I even considered
falling for them. I was very guarded in my emotions...too
guarded. Previous girlfriends have always expressed more
than I could reciprocate. Subsequently, I was never
emotionally challenged or vulnerable. Love came too easy. I
never fought for it. In fact, this had been a significant
contributor for my failure in progressing in previous
relationships - a failure to fully commit my emotions to my
partner. In my 30's, I began to fear that I was too far set in
my ways.
When I met my wife, I knew I had fallen for this woman. I
struggled internally about when to express this love. The old
part of me wanted to wait as I usually did for some
guarantee that she would reciprocate. But something about
her made me impatient, crazy and excited. To quote a movie
"When you meet the person you want to spend the rest of
your life with, you want the rest of your life to start right
now!" I came to the realization that I needed to break out of
my safe zone. It was more important that I say those three
words than to hear them said back. I needed to confirm to
myself that I was wiling to change for this woman, that I was
willing to fight for this woman.
I knew with certainty that she wasn't ready to reciprocate
when i told her I loved her. She deeply thanked me and
instantly I was in uncharted territory. But even in the face
of her uncertainty, I was even more certain that I had found
my soulmate - someone that I was willing to change for,
someone that I was ready to be 100% vulnerable
for...because that's what love is, isn't it? The ability to
intertwine your life with another - and there's nothing more
unsafe about it yet nothing more comforting when realized.
P.S. she has since said she loves me...and everyday
afterwards.
BusinessRe: Man Must Survive, See What This Lady Is Doing To Survive by fajani(m): 9:28am On Apr 20, 2015
many likes to that
PoliticsRe: Bet Me, Before Handover Date They Will Say: Chibok Girls Found by fajani(m): 7:01am On Apr 20, 2015
Na. if Na before that day Na GEJ DO am but if Na after like a week Na GMB DO am..
PoliticsRe: Xenophobic Attack; Nigeria Counts Losses by fajani(op): 6:49am On Apr 20, 2015
South African, south African south African. how many times did I call you.. I swear with my Whole life. u will come begging, unresisting one..... we will look you and smile and say you are our boys...
PoliticsXenophobic Attack; Nigeria Counts Losses by fajani(op): 6:46am On Apr 20, 2015
Following xenophobic attacks by South Africans against
foreigners, particularly those of African descent, Nigerians have
been counting their losses with the Nigerian Consul-General,
Ambassador Uche Ajulu-Okeke saying the loss by Nigerians
included looted shops, burnt shops, two burnt mechanic
workshops, 11 burnt cars and two stolen cars, among others.
Speaking with News Agency of Nigeria, NAN on phone,
Ambassador Ajulu-Okeke said “Nigerians have compiled damages
to their property and it is totalling about 1.2 million Rand or N21
million, which will be sent to the Federal Government for further
action”
She said that in Durban, two of the three Nigerians who were
wounded during attacks had been treated and discharged from the
hospital.
The consul-general said that she would go back to Durban to
assess the situation on ground and meet with the provincial
authority on security of Nigerians in that Province.
“The Nigerian mission in South Africa is on top of the situation. We
are working hard to protect Nigerians in South Africa.
“Though, the task has not been easy, we are trying our best. In one
of the hot spots at Jeppe, near Johannesburg, the mission
assisted about 50 stranded Nigerians to re-settle.
“I have also visited the site of the attacks in Johannesburg to
assess the damage and it was enormous,” she said.
She said the Nigerian mission would meet with all Nigerian Union
chapters in the nine provinces of South Africa to find strategies on
how to check the attacks.
“I am bringing all Nigerians together so that we work out a
vigilance and alert mechanism; they will also tell me what their
challenges and issues are,” she said.
Okeke said the mission and the Nigerian Union had been working
cordially to meet the challenges caused by the xenophobic attacks
on Nigerians.
SAFA moves against xenophobia, plan football matches
Meanwhile, alarmed by the attacks, South African Football
Association, SAFA, Chief Executive Officer, Dennis Mumble said
the country’s national team will play two international friendly
matches against neighbouring countries in a bid to sensitise the
public on the evils of xenophobia.
“We want to use the two high-profile international friendly
matches as an instrument to unite this continent. What has been
happening in the past few days have really left most people in a
shock and dismayed,”he said
According to him, “Nelson Mandela spoke of the power of sport in
uniting people from different walks of life and we want to use the
power of football to unite this continent and kick out this scourge
within certain malcontents in our society. We are one continent,
one Africa, we are all Africans and we say no to xenophobia,”
Mumble added.
South Africa has in recent days witnessed a spate of some of the
most violent xenophobic attacks with at least seven people killed
in Durban and Johannesburg.
NLC, COSATUU condemn attacks
Reacting to the attacks, the Nigeria Labour Congress (NLC) in a
statement signed by its Deputy President, Isaa Aremu said it joined
its counterpart Federation, the Congress of South African Trade
Unions (COSATUU) “to condemn the reckless violent attacks on
African working people and nationals in South Africa with
unacceptable resultant avoidable destruction of lives and
properties”. According to the statement, “the latest round of
attacks was reportedly instigated by the Zulu King in the
Kwazulunatal region in South Africa.
It has since spread to other commercial cities like Durban and
Johannesburg. Kindly note that similar attacks in January this
year claimed several lives. In January, looters burned businesses
owned by foreigners. In 2008, Seven years ago, in Johannesburg,
anti-immigrant violence claimed many innocent lives. Most of the
victims were Zimbabweans who had fled repression and dire
economic circumstances. As many as 200 people were arrested on
various charges, including rape, murder, robbery and theft.
These serial xenophobic attacks on innocent African workers are
grossly unwarranted, condemnable and unacceptable.
“We believe that African workers have a right to seek legitimate
work anywhere in the continent based on the dream and ideals set
by the founding fathers such as Kwame Nkruma, Julius Nyerere,
Abubakar Tafawa Balewa, Nnamdi Azikiwe, Nelson Mandela
among others.
“The xenophobic attacks in South Africa is a reflection of the crisis
of governance in Africa as reflected by the worsening poverty and
unemployment rate in the continent”.
“We therefore call on the African Union to prevail on the South
African authorities to take immediate measures to protect and
safeguard the lives and properties of migrants and indeed all
nationals resident in South Africa and ensure that real
compensations are paid to the families of all who lost their family
members and relations and also for the loss of properties.
“It is time that Governments on the continent are compelled by
their citizens to work for the common good of the people. In this
direction, we will liaise with our counterpart in South Africa to join
in the struggle to ensure that migrant workers do not suffer
irresponsible losses anymore”.
Multichoice reacts
Also reacting, MultiChoice Africa, the continent’s premier pay-TV
company, has described as appalling the violence being visited on
foreigners in South Africa. MultiChoice Africa in a statement said
“those affected by the wave of anti-foreigner violence happen to be
brothers and sisters to their assailants which is abominable and
strongly condemnable”.
It urged Africans to see themselves as one irrespective of
differences in nationalities, traditions and religions. “As a
multicultural African organisation, we respect and embrace
diversity, and all the different traditions and religions across the
continent. This is demonstrated through our multinational staff
complement, rich African programming and channels on both our
DStv and GOtv platforms,” the statement said.
It will be recalled that the South African Ambassador to Nigeria,
Mr. Lulu Mnguli, on Saturday promised that the interest of Nigeria
would not be hurt by criminals’ activities in South Africa.
Mnguli said that since Nigeria played a key role in helping South
Africa to get freedom, it would be wrong for Nigerians to be
attacked in that country by any group of persons.
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PoliticsShowdown In Ekiti As Fayose Mobilises Okada Riders,nurtw by fajani(op): 6:03am On Apr 20, 2015
Tension is building up in Ekiti State as Governor Ayo Fayose asked the people to defend the mandate they gave to him following the impeachment process initiated by the All Progressives Congress lawmakers in the state assembly.

Already three groups, the Okada Riders Association, Road Transport Workers Association of Nigeria and National Union of Road Transport Workers have put their members on notice to look out for the APC lawmakers apparently to forestall their impeachment.
The 19 APC lawmakers in the Ekiti State House of Assembly had two weeks ago served a notice of impeachment on Mr. Fayose, a member of the Peoples Democratic Party, who was sworn into office last October.

The lawmakers were away from the state until recently, following the victory of the APC in the presidential election. During their absence, seven PDP legislators were performing legislative duties which many consider illegal.

Mr. Fayose, who sounded conciliatory after the Supreme Court affirmed his election last week, made a live television broadcast on Sunday asking Ekiti people to defend their mandate from the APC lawmakers, who he claimed were invading the state to impeach him.
He urged drivers and okada riders in particular to move out en masse to defend his mandate, saying: “My mandate is your mandate and you must defend it.”

The governor made the broadcast about twenty minutes after leaving a church service where a clergyman advised him to embrace peace and reconcile with the APC lawmakers by restoring their salaries and other benefits to enable them do their jobs.

Shortly after leaving the church, two statements emerged on the state radio as public announcements that were being broadcast intermittently.
A public announcement by the Chairman of the Okada Riders Association, Niyi Dahunsi “All Okada riders in Ekiti State are enjoined to be on the look-out for strange faces in the state from tomorrow. This is because it has been gathered that APC lawmakers working with Dr Adewale Omirin are planning to truncate the peace of the state by planning to invade the state with armed thugs.

“All Okada riders in the state should be mobilised to the House of Assembly by 6am tomorrow. Governor Fayose’s mandate is the mandate of okada riders. We must defend it with the last drop of our blood.”

The Chairman of Road Transport Workers Association of Nigeria, Samuel Agbede, and his counterpart in the National Union of Road Transport Workers, Clement said, “Information available to us is that the APC lawmakers are planning to invade the state with lorry-loads of thugs recruited from Lagos and Osun states tomorrow.

“The APC lawmakers have vowed to kill any one that stands on their way to achieving the plot of impeaching Governor Fayose and his Deputy, Dr Kolapo Olusola.

“We therefore alert all members of our union to be on the look-out from tomorrow. All driver unions’ members should be prepared to defend the mandate freely given to Governor Fayose.

“Our members should monitor movement of vehicles into Ekiti State from today so as to prevent invasion of thugs whose only intention is to kill our people. We gave our mandate to Fayose and we must be prepared to defend it.”
http://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/top-news/181731-impeachment-tension-in-ekiti-as-fayose-mobilises-okada-riders-drivers-against-lawmakers.html

RomanceHow To Gain A Woman's Trust When She Has Been Hurt In Her Past by fajani(op): 5:44am On Apr 20, 2015
How to Gain a Woman's Trust When She
Has Been Hurt in Her Past
by Emma Wells, Demand Media
Trust issues can be hard on both partners in a relationship,
even if the trust issues belong mostly to the one person who
is carrying the major baggage. Trust issues take time for both
partners to overcome; however, with some sensitivity and
patience, it is very possible to build a new relationship with a
solid foundation of trust.

Listening
Ask her for her story. Finding out her fears can go a long
way toward recognizing when your actions or words trigger
those fears and cause her to lash out or distance herself from
you. Ask her to reveal only what she feels comfortable
revealing, and don’t push any further. A study conducted in
2012 by Sandra Murray, Ph.D. and other psychologists for
the “Journal of Personality and Social Psychology” was based
on the principal that trust is a matter of risk assessment:
people trust their partners only when they assess that there
is a low risk of rejection or betrayal involved in getting closer
to him or her. A woman who has been hurt in the past may
still have her guard up and choose not to tell her whole story
to you immediately for fear of risking vulnerability, so be
patient with her.
Schemas
The emotional patterns people develop in childhood continue
to resurface throughout our lives, says psychologist Tara
Bennett-Goleman, Ph.D. and author of the book “Emotional
Alchemy”. The emotional pattern for your partner may be an
issue of trust broken in childhood. The way to avoid fighting
when two people have different emotional patterns, say
Bennett-Goleman and her husband, psychologist and author
Daniel Goleman, is to recognize each other’s emotional
“schemas” and work with them. Analyze your partner’s
emotional patterns and your own. If, like Daniel, you are a
perfectionist who works long hours, but your partner, like
Tara, feels abandoned when you’re gone often, you two can
address why you have your particular schemas and find a
compromise.
Honesty
A woman who has been hurt in the past is likely to be
assessing the risk of growing close to you all of the time, at
least for a while. It’s important to be honest with her, even
about the little things. If she discovers that you’re lying
about where you go with your friends on a Saturday night or
even what you ate for dinner, she might wonder what else
you’re hiding from her. It’s better to have a policy of honesty
if you want to earn her trust.
Actions
You might say that she can trust you and that you’ll be there
for her, but actions always speak louder than words. People
develop trust on three scales, including faith in the partner’s
love, faith in the partner’s emotional closeness, and
evaluations of the partner’s character, Murray and her team
found. If you want your partner to evaluate your character
favorably, show her that you’re honest, open, and loving
instead of judgmental or closed-minded. Actions that inspire
trust could be making special time for her on a weekly basis
and sticking to your commitment, or sharing a personal story
that you wouldn’t share with anyone else.
HealthHow To Gain A Woman's Trust When She Has Been Hurt In Her Past by fajani(op): 5:35am On Apr 20, 2015
How to Gain a Woman's Trust When She
Has Been Hurt in Her Past
by Emma Wells, Demand Media
Trust issues can be hard on both partners in a relationship,
even if the trust issues belong mostly to the one person who
is carrying the major baggage. Trust issues take time for both
partners to overcome; however, with some sensitivity and
patience, it is very possible to build a new relationship with a
solid foundation of trust.

Listening
Ask her for her story. Finding out her fears can go a long
way toward recognizing when your actions or words trigger
those fears and cause her to lash out or distance herself from
you. Ask her to reveal only what she feels comfortable
revealing, and don’t push any further. A study conducted in
2012 by Sandra Murray, Ph.D. and other psychologists for
the “Journal of Personality and Social Psychology” was based
on the principal that trust is a matter of risk assessment:
people trust their partners only when they assess that there
is a low risk of rejection or betrayal involved in getting closer
to him or her. A woman who has been hurt in the past may
still have her guard up and choose not to tell her whole story
to you immediately for fear of risking vulnerability, so be
patient with her.
Schemas
The emotional patterns people develop in childhood continue
to resurface throughout our lives, says psychologist Tara
Bennett-Goleman, Ph.D. and author of the book “Emotional
Alchemy”. The emotional pattern for your partner may be an
issue of trust broken in childhood. The way to avoid fighting
when two people have different emotional patterns, say
Bennett-Goleman and her husband, psychologist and author
Daniel Goleman, is to recognize each other’s emotional
“schemas” and work with them. Analyze your partner’s
emotional patterns and your own. If, like Daniel, you are a
perfectionist who works long hours, but your partner, like
Tara, feels abandoned when you’re gone often, you two can
address why you have your particular schemas and find a
compromise.
Honesty
A woman who has been hurt in the past is likely to be
assessing the risk of growing close to you all of the time, at
least for a while. It’s important to be honest with her, even
about the little things. If she discovers that you’re lying
about where you go with your friends on a Saturday night or
even what you ate for dinner, she might wonder what else
you’re hiding from her. It’s better to have a policy of honesty
if you want to earn her trust.
Actions
You might say that she can trust you and that you’ll be there
for her, but actions always speak louder than words. People
develop trust on three scales, including faith in the partner’s
love, faith in the partner’s emotional closeness, and
evaluations of the partner’s character, Murray and her team
found. If you want your partner to evaluate your character
favorably, show her that you’re honest, open, and loving
instead of judgmental or closed-minded. Actions that inspire
trust could be making special time for her on a weekly basis
and sticking to your commitment, or sharing a personal story
that you wouldn’t share with anyone else.
HealthRe: Pesticides 'behind 18 Nigeria Deaths'bbc by fajani(m): 5:24am On Apr 20, 2015
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