₦airaland Forum

Jayhome24:
You mean Sunday Oliseh sitting in the crowd or what?

Tabletuner:
The Ugandan gk right?

Wotowotoman:
Osimen leg don dey pain am o

Akwamkpuruamu:
Any online link

lordm:
What is ikpeazu doing in Uganda

Akwamkpuruamu:
Eric Chelle never release our formation and lineup yet?

Make Una update am naa

phelonrays:
What's this (Yoruba) culture of hailing someone even if the person is in pain?

Watching that Joshua's scene video got me angry at those hooligans

jmoore:
Even the fake pastor of APC dey ask ridiculous question. Which one is washing a blocked toilet?
A blocked toilet can't be cleared by washing.

And British airways was not reacting to Peter Obi's story.

British airways was reacting to the ridiculous question by one of the fake pastors of APC.

Make una go find another propaganda from your babablu Bulabu.

Rapmoney:
When last did you eat this? It is a pity that many Nigerians can no longer afford foods that are meant to be affordable.

I remember the lyrics of late Christopher Wallace aka Notorious B.I.G. in his 1994 single titled 'Juicy'. In the song, Wallace said that he used to eat sardines for dinner way back when he was broke.

Some years back, former Manchester United's striker, Romelu Lukaku from Belgium said in an interview that he and his mum used to feed on bread and milk when they were poor. Imagine!

Now can the average Nigerian comfortably afford common foods like sardines, bread and milk for dinner? When there is inflation and the minimum wage is $47 per month?

Average Nigerians spend the larger part of their income on basic things like food. Food is one of the basic needs of man. It is compulsory for survival. It is more important than education, or any other thing.

Akwamkpuruamu:
See our line up

Curtis03360:
My friend hired a guy to run a loyalty test for his fiancée, introduction to take place middle of January just to be sure of what he is getting into but the fiancée failed the test and even though my friend told the guy to end the game, he still went ahead to sleep with the fiancée at the agreed hotel. He doesn’t know what to do because he said he could have still managed to continue had the guy not slept with her and he contemplate on taking this up legally with the guy as he already told him to end it and pay him for his services. The girl is not aware of any of this till now and that was why he couldn’t stop it from his end by telling her he’s pranking her with the said dude

DeclanR:
I'm really confused right now.
I met a lady I thought we would build our lives together, but later on, I noticed she isn't worth it.
She's not someone to Trust. The relationship was built on lies. She lies a lot. And also acts suspicious. This is why I'm doubting if I'm responsible for her pregnancy.

The first day I asked her out, and the second time we were seeing ever, I got home, we began chatting, she began making demands on me that she was hungry and craving for Draw soup and Semo to eat. I ignored her. I didn't send anything.
A month after, I learnt she's a single mother.

Again, she did abortion and denied it. Of course I wasn't responsible for it, since I was yet to sleep with her. I saw that she used her phone to search about "Abortion pills" on Facebook A.I. she claimed a friend of hers used her own phone to search it. I requested for the friend's number & called. But the friend denied it. The friend said she has an Android phone, so if she wanted to type such, she would do so with her phone and not on someone else's phone. My babe was seriously sick at that point & couldn't go to work for a week. She was throwing saliva everywhere. It was later she claimed she was on a 6-Month family planning. Why would a single lady be on family planning?
Again, I can't touch her phone. Her phone is a privacy. But same lady came into my house, grabbed my torchlight phone and began reading my messages and going through my contacts. I caught her, I asked, and she said "Is it not just a torchlight phone. What's in there?
Whenever she's with me, she won't pick her calls and wouldn't allow me see who the caller's are. I complained. She moved from that to switching off her phone and claiming that her battery was low, but immediately we part ways, her phone miraculously gets ON without having to charge it first. I complained, she again moved to putting the phone on flight mode, I still caught her. The last one was Barring all incoming calls. I was always ahead of her, so I could always catch off guard. Her reason for all these, according to her, was because she doesn't want incoming calls to disrupt or disturb the moments we are together.
She will post pictures of clothes on her WhatsApp status and ask her contacts viewing same Status to buy same clothes for her. I saw this as an attempt to invite guys into her DM. All these are signs of a disloyal girlfriend. And each time I complain, she says I complain too much.
The last straw was when I accidentally saw her call log & noticed that a particular caller was always calling her, she even calls the caller most times. I confronted her and she said there is nothing going on between her and the caller and that the caller is a married man with kids. She went further to say that the man has being so helpful to her and that if she's in danger or need today, the man will always come through for her, even before me, her guy. I was so so shocked. That moment, I politely sent her outta my house. Her friend started calling and apologizing on her behalf. But I told her I wouldn't be able to continue with the relationship due to this act and several other acts which I consider inimical and detrimental to my mental health.
Before now, each time we had issues, she would message me saying " I'm praying I don't get pregnant".
I'm really sad that it has resulted in pregnancy and I'm not the one to suggest abortion. If in th end, I discover she's actually pregnant, she will have to keep it. But we can't cohabit. I'll take full responsibilities.
She hates to apologize whenever she's wrong. Since the moment she noticed I loved her and I had no other lady aside from her, she began to misbehave. Always making senseless financial demands on me. Rude and disrespectful.

If she misbehaves and I confront her, she'll get aggressive and defensive, she'll slam my door, take her bag and leave. There was a day she did this, I was running after her to give her transport fare, I was even without a shirt, I was trying to wear my shirt while running after her, I began calling her name to stop and wait for me, but she ignored me in fact, she never looked Back. I felt so embarrassed in the public.
There's no quality In her that suggests she's good. There are so many shortcomings of hers which I can't write here.

I intend inviting her over and conducting this test again, at least, twice. Then take her to the hospital and do it again to know the duration of the pregnancy. I only just started sleeping with her towards the end of November. I slept with her last, two weeks ago and we dated for five months.

Oyinbogyal:
I’m mixed and living abroad. My mother is European and my father is Nigerian. My parents separated over 10 years ago, but they never officially divorced — they were legally separated.

The separation happened because my father did something very serious to my mother. In Europe, you cannot be removed from the family home simply because of marital problems. A married person is only forced out by the courts if something very severe happens. That is all I can say for privacy reasons, but it’s important context.

About a year after they separated, my father started begging my mother to take him back. This wasn’t occasional — it went on for years. At the same time, he was involved with a Nigerian woman from his own tribe. Behind that Nigerian woman’s back, he was still pressuring my mother to reconcile. My mum refused, but he never stopped trying.

Fast-forward to December 2025. Even this year, my father again went to my mother and asked her to get back together with him.

Then on Christmas Day, he finally admitted — not to me, not to my mother, not to all of us directly — but to my youngest sister, that he has a 9-year-old son he has been hiding from everyone. He then made my sister pass the message on to the rest of us. He could not say it to our faces himself.

What shocked me most is that this child was born about a two years after my parents separated — meaning that all the years my father was begging my mother to reconcile, he already knew he had a child elsewhere. He deliberately never told her… bear in mind this child lives in the same country as us in Europe but he is just been hidden.

When I called him to confront him, he confirmed everything. He also said something that disturbed me deeply: that he feels no real affection for the child and that the boy will never replace his “real family,” meaning us. Hearing a man speak that way about his own biological child was horrifying.

This is a fully Nigerian boy, same tribe as my father. Knowing my father’s own childhood — where he suffered badly under a cruel stepmother — I would have thought he might see himself in that child. But instead, he has completely compartmentalised him.

Meanwhile, the child’s mother still wants to marry my father. From what I can see, he continues to keep her hopeful without fully committing, while still fantasising about getting back with his legal “European wife” who doesn’t want him. He seems to keep multiple realities open at once.

What made everything click for my mother — and for me — is this:
If my mother had agreed to reconcile, my father could have moved back into the house legally as her husband. Because he would not repeat physical violence, she would have had no immediate way to remove him again via legal system/court. Only after securing his place back in the home could he then reveal that he had a child all along — effectively trapping her in a marriage built on deception.

That realisation is terrifying.

I also feel deep cultural dissonance. I told my father plainly: my mother is European. This kind of secrecy is not culturally acceptable where we live. It’s not “family affairs” or something to be normalised. Trust matters differently. Consent matters differently. So he cannot assume my mother will want him after hearing the news, she is not like the Nigerian ex you had a child with - in Nigeria it is normal for a woman to beg or wait for a man to marry you, in Europe it is shameful so he needs to stop thinking my mom will accept this.

This entire situation has destroyed my respect for him. I don’t feel anger as much as disgust and shame. I’m embarrassed to even explain this to my European friends. I feel like I’ve lost faith not just in him, but in my ability to trust what I thought were shared values.

I’m now engaged to marry a loving European man, and if I’m honest, this experience has made me afraid. Afraid of repeating cycles if I marry a Nigerian man. Afraid of normalising things I don’t believe in. I don’t reject my Nigerian heritage — I love the food, the music, the culture — but when it comes to marriage, honesty, and responsibility, I feel completely disconnected from what I’ve seen modeled.

Right now, I don’t even want to be around my father. I feel like something fundamental has collapsed, and I don’t know how to rebuild respect where trust no longer exists.

I’m sharing this here because I genuinely don’t know how to process it alone, and I want perspectives — especially from people who understand Nigerian family dynamics — without judgement.

DrAkpa:
Maybe you will give her your brother to marry, because no normal man on this earth will come near her again

mikeapollo:
Lol.
Ghana and Nigeria have a long history together.
Ghana is also where Nigerian musicians get some very good inspiration and ideas in music, and then we use our population numbers and economic power to push it farther. Fela travelled and lived in Ghana 1967-69 where he joined a band called Hedzolleh and learned the style of music called Afrobeat. But most Nigerians do not know these facts.
Detty December also started and originated in Ghana, before Nigeria joined the fray