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Future election riggers...o ya o

yaroinside:
Source: https://yaroinsider.ng/2026/07/20/calabar-pastor-sentenced-to-death-for-killing-teenage-daughter/

See people wey Mary Slessor suffer for

Antoeni:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aL1dLT928g8


https://saharareporters.com/2026/07/20/kill-nnamdi-kanu-restore-peace-south-east-businessman-tells-nigerian-govt

That's what will happen eventually. I don't see him coming out alive

Make e dodge bullet

Italy is suffering from generational talents

runsapp:
Omo I never understand the racism in Nigeria just yet. But until then make all man de en de o

That's tribalism not racism

We belong to the same race but different tribe

nlfpmod:
Here are photos and videos from the burial of Joel Toba Ajiboye, Lagos NURTW organising secretary, who was killed by gunmen in Fadeyi on 14 July. The burial held on the 21st of July 2026 drew a large crowd of mourners in Ketu.

Video of Toba Ijaya Burial: People Wey Kuku KlLL am Fit Dey Among The Crowd! pic.twitter.com/raIgtehDvM

— 36kinniun media👑 🦁 🕊 (@fattylincorn_01) July 21, 2026

“You have kpa!d out boss, that’s the only person feeding us here, you will r£gret it”

Citizens cries out as NURTW Toba Ijaya was laid to rest today 🕊️ pic.twitter.com/WB0dBAn2jP

— Oyindamola🙄 (@dammiedammie35) July 21, 2026

Schools in Fadeyi area of Lagos observe Holiday in honor of late NURTW leader, Toba ljaya pic.twitter.com/J2zofSX6bR

— Oyindamola🙄 (@dammiedammie35) July 21, 2026

Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/8709548/nurtw-secretary-toba-ajiboye-assassinated#140025124

One spanner lost

You go dey do like say you get back up...abeg next

Don't share them among your friends

WC is over..back to shelling

Ezeama400:
https://punchng.com/plateau-gov-apologises-to-igbo-over-civil-war-role/?fbclid=IwZnRzaATMPlZwZG9mBWZkaWQWUK_RU5Zrn_QVHwcKYHk6Ro_Vm-2GxmV4dG4DYWVtAjExAHNydGMGYXBwX2lkCjY2Mjg1NjgzNzkAAR7SNP8h-ibDF3UTuP57Sc8YQv2pA2WJ5MtP6iA-xqMe9EHjKZDn2tLMZ4UFng_aem_7D8nORndjS4LDn5Os7wrtw

You were not deceived, you were interested in what development oil money could bring to the state

Dont worry, Tinubu will fix this in the next 4yrs

FlamingBulb:
I use small tiger gen so 3k fuel is enough for me 8hours bc I only on Gen Wen I am working and it only works 2hrs

You are not a family man with heavy gadjets. I better pass my neighbour is not a generator

What a waste

AccidentedCars:
This will offend a lot of people.

But the men who are actually winning at life and relationships know exactly what I'm about to say.

Love is not a business strategy.

And marriage, whether you like it or not, is a business.

Two people merging finances. Sharing rent. Splitting decisions about schools, food, healthcare, family obligations, career moves.

That's a partnership. A merger. A joint venture.

And you would NEVER enter a joint venture with someone based purely on how they make you feel when the room is dark and the music is playing.

Yet that's exactly how most Nigerian men choose wives.

"I love her."

Great. Does she have a skill? A source of income? A plan? Can she manage money? Does she understand that ₦200,000 in Abuja in 2026 disappears before the month ends?

"I love her."

Okay. What happens when you lose your job? When the contract ends? When business goes dry for 3 months?

Does she have something she can activate to hold the house down while you recover? Or is the plan just "God will provide"?

"I love her."

I hear you. I loved someone once.

Let me tell you what happened.

I was with a girl for over a year. Beautiful girl. Kind heart. The type of person who would give you her last meal if you asked.

But she had no skill. No trade. No income. No hustle.

Her entire economic identity was ME.

When I was making money, we were fine. The house was good. Groceries were stocked. Fuel was in the generator. Life was beautiful.

Then I had a bad quarter. Two deals fell through. Cash flow dried up for about 6 weeks.

I didn't go broke. I had savings. But things got tight.

And the MOMENT things got tight, I realized something terrifying:

I was carrying two lives on one back.

Not because she was lazy. She wasn't. She was willing to do anything.

But "willing" and "able" are two different words.

She didn't have a skill that someone would pay for. She didn't have a network she could leverage. She didn't have a side hustle she could activate during emergencies.

She had willingness. Which is useless without capability.

Those 6 weeks nearly broke the relationship. Not because of fighting. Because of WEIGHT.

I felt heavy. Every morning. Like I was wearing a suit made of concrete.

Because I knew that if I didn't figure something out fast, two people would suffer, not one.

After that experience, I made a decision.

The next woman I commit to must bring something to the table that isn't love.

Love is the MINIMUM. Not the qualification.

The qualification is: can you hold this house down if I fall?

Here's what that looks like in practice.

I have a friend. Let's call him T.

T married a woman who runs a small skincare business from Instagram. She makes about ₦300,000 to ₦450,000 a month. Not massive. But consistent.

Last year, T's business hit a wall. A major client defaulted. He lost about ₦4 million in receivables over 3 months.

Most men in that situation would spiral. Borrow money. Take on bad deals out of desperation. Fight with their wives about expenses.

T didn't do any of that.

Because his wife's ₦300k-₦450k per month covered the essentials. Rent was already paid. She handled groceries. She handled the children's school runs. She handled utilities.

T had SPACE. Space to think. Space to restructure. Space to recover without destroying himself.

By the fourth month, he'd landed a new contract. Bigger than the one he lost.

He told me later:

"If I'd married the girl I was 'in love with' at 25 instead of the woman I chose at 30, I would have been finished. Because that girl at 25 had nothing but vibes. This woman at 30 had a business."

That's the difference.

A wife with a skill is not an insult to your masculinity. It's insurance for your household.

A wife who can hold things together during your worst quarter is worth more than a wife who looks perfect during your best year.

Now, someone will read this and say:

"So you don't believe in love?"

I believe in love the way I believe in fuel. Fuel is necessary. You can't drive without it.

But fuel without an engine is just liquid sitting in a jerry can.

Love without utility is just feelings sitting in a relationship going nowhere.

I want both. The love AND the engine.

But if you make me choose, I'm choosing the engine.

Because the engine can take me somewhere even when the fuel is low.

Feelings can't do that.

I'm in a better place now financially. I made 1.2 million from a single deal last month. Took about 4 hours of real work spread across a few weeks. The rest was waiting.

But I remember those 6 weeks when cash was tight. And I will NEVER put myself in a position where my household has one engine again.

Two incomes. Two skill sets. Two people who can carry the weight.

That's architecture.

Build a house with two pillars, not one.

Don't mind them...they ll be chasing fish brain with bum bum

Na our mama be this o

FG n audio plan

issyeddy12345:
Why is the school surrounded by bushes? is that not a sign of vulnerability?

That's nature not bush

Lets preserve our forest

ariamarks:
Every relationship has good and bad days, but some problems go far beyond normal disagreements. Knowing the Signs of a Toxic Relationship can help you protect your emotional and mental health before the situation becomes worse. When unhealthy behaviors become a pattern, it is time to pay attention and decide what is best for your future.

A healthy relationship is built on trust, respect, honesty, and support. In contrast, a toxic relationship often leaves one or both partners feeling stressed, unhappy, or afraid. While no relationship is perfect, repeated harmful behavior should never be ignored.

This guide explains the warning signals, common behaviors, real-life examples, and practical steps you can take to build healthier relationships.

What Is a Toxic Relationship?

A toxic relationship is one where unhealthy behaviors happen again and again. Instead of feeling loved and respected, you may feel anxious, controlled, or emotionally drained.

Some relationships become toxic because of poor communication, while others involve manipulation, disrespect, or emotional abuse. These behaviors usually grow over time instead of disappearing on their own.

Why Do Toxic Relationships Develop?

Many reasons can lead to unhealthy relationships, including:

Poor communication
Lack of trust
Jealousy
Controlling behavior
Emotional insecurity
Unresolved personal issues

Not every argument means a relationship is toxic. The real concern is when harmful actions become normal.

Signs of a Toxic Relationship You Should Never Ignore

Recognizing the Signs of a Toxic Relationship early can help prevent long-term emotional damage.

Constant Criticism

Healthy partners give helpful feedback. Toxic partners often criticize everything you do, making you feel like you are never good enough.

Lack of Trust

Trust is the foundation of every healthy relationship. Constant accusations without proof can slowly destroy emotional safety.

Controlling Behavior

A controlling partner may:

Decide who you can meet
Read your messages
Tell you what to wear
Control your money
Demand your location all the time

These actions reduce your independence.

Poor Communication

Instead of solving problems calmly, toxic couples often:

Shout
Ignore each other
Blame each other
Refuse to discuss problems

Without healthy communication, small problems grow into bigger ones.

Emotional Warning Signals of a Toxic Relationship

Many harmful behaviors affect emotions before they become obvious.

You Feel Drained More Than Happy

Relationships should bring comfort most of the time. If you constantly feel exhausted after spending time together, something may be wrong.

Walking on Eggshells

You may become afraid to speak honestly because you worry your partner will become angry.

Loss of Self-Confidence

Repeated criticism can slowly make you doubt yourself.

Feeling Isolated

Some partners slowly separate you from friends and family.

Common Emotional Effects
Anxiety
Stress
Sadness
Low confidence
Fear
Loneliness
Common Behaviors That Make Relationships Toxic

Not every toxic behavior looks dramatic. Sometimes small habits become serious problems over time.

Manipulation

Manipulation happens when someone controls another person's emotions to get what they want.

Examples include:

Making you feel guilty
Twisting your words
Blaming you for everything
Gaslighting

Gaslighting makes someone question their own memory or reality.

A partner may say:

"That never happened."
"You're imagining things."
"You're too sensitive."

Over time, this can reduce confidence.

Constant Jealousy

A little jealousy can happen in relationships.

However, unhealthy jealousy often includes:

Checking your phone
Questioning every friendship
Accusing you without reason
No Respect for Boundaries

Healthy couples respect personal space.

Ignoring boundaries may include:

Reading private messages
Entering personal accounts
Demanding passwords
Healthy vs Toxic Communication

Healthy communication includes:

Listening carefully
Respecting opinions
Solving problems together

Toxic communication often includes:

Name-calling
Threats
Silent treatment
Blame
Two Real-Life Examples of Toxic Relationship Behaviors

Real situations help people understand unhealthy relationship patterns.

Example 1: Emotional Abuse

According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, emotional abuse may include constant criticism, humiliation, isolation, and controlling behaviors that reduce a person's confidence over time.

Example 2: Controlling Relationships

The Mayo Clinic explains that unhealthy relationships may involve controlling behavior, fear, disrespect, and repeated emotional harm that affects mental health.

Lessons From These Examples
Emotional abuse is often difficult to notice at first.
Controlling behavior usually increases over time.
Getting support early can make a big difference.
How to Deal With the Signs of a Toxic Relationship

If you notice several warning signals, taking action is important.

Talk Honestly

Sometimes honest communication can solve smaller problems.

Stay calm and explain:

How you feel
What behavior hurts you
What changes you need
Set Healthy Boundaries

Clear boundaries protect your emotional well-being.

Examples include:

Respecting privacy
Speaking politely
Allowing personal time
Respecting personal decisions
Ask for Professional Help

Relationship counselors can help couples improve communication when both partners are willing to change.

Know When to Leave

Not every relationship can be repaired.

If there is ongoing emotional, physical, or verbal abuse, your safety should come first.

Building Healthier Relationships

Healthy relationships include:

Mutual respect
Honest communication
Trust
Kindness
Support
Shared responsibility
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
1. What are the biggest Signs of a Toxic Relationship?

The biggest Signs of a Toxic Relationship include constant criticism, controlling behavior, manipulation, lack of trust, emotional abuse, and disrespect. These patterns usually continue over time instead of improving.

2. Can a toxic relationship become healthy?

Yes, some relationships improve if both partners accept responsibility, communicate honestly, respect boundaries, and seek professional help. However, serious abuse should never be accepted.

3. Are arguments one of the Signs of a Toxic Relationship?

No. Every couple argues sometimes. The Signs of a Toxic Relationship involve repeated disrespect, fear, manipulation, and harmful behavior instead of healthy problem-solving.

4. How does a toxic relationship affect mental health?

A toxic relationship can lead to stress, anxiety, depression, low confidence, loneliness, and emotional exhaustion. Recognizing the Signs of a Toxic Relationship early may help reduce long-term emotional harm.

5. What should I do if I notice the Signs of a Toxic Relationship?

If you notice the Signs of a Toxic Relationship, communicate your concerns, set healthy boundaries, seek advice from trusted friends or professionals, and prioritize your safety if harmful behavior continues.

Conclusion

Every relationship faces challenges, but ongoing disrespect, manipulation, fear, and control should never become normal. Learning the Signs of a Toxic Relationship helps you recognize unhealthy patterns before they cause deeper emotional harm.

Healthy relationships are built on trust, kindness, respect, and honest communication. If your relationship regularly leaves you feeling anxious, powerless, or unhappy, it may be time to seek support and make decisions that protect your well-being. Remembered that everyone deserves a relationship where they feel safe, valued, respected, and heard.

Source: https://www.thehotline.org/resources/what-is-emotional-abuse/

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/domestic-violence/art-20048397

Even the best of relationships do experience some of these things

Great100000:
What Keeps Women Together?

gossip

FlamingBulb:
Let see how you will split the amount if your total earning in a month is 300,000

Me
Family of 5
Dad, Mom and 3kids (Age 4-7)

1. Work tool; Data, Fuel, Electricity, Gas, Office(4 times a month) - 63,000
2. Feeding; 30k weekly - 120,000
3. Snacks 7k weekly - 30,000
4. Toiletries - 15,000
5. Family & Friends - 10,000
6. Church - 8000
7. Hustle (Sporty 😂) - 5000
8. Savings ; Towards Fees and Rent - 50,000

Let see yours my people

na fuel go finish am. I can see that you dont have car / generator

A free man

nlfpmod:
“People Thought I Was Possessed and Called Me a Witch” — Nigerian Herpetologist Taiwo Okikiola Opens Up About Fighting Snake Myths Through Social Media

BBC Africa posts Nigerian herpetologist, Taiwo Okikiola, who uses social media to educate on snake conservation while facing accusations of witchcraft rooted in local fears and spiritual beliefs.

The video below shows Okikiola handling pythons, explaining her rescue and release work, and how family members once viewed her as possessed for her interest in snakes.

A snake sighting almost anywhere can trigger panic, often fuelled by fear, myths and spiritual beliefs. But these reptiles are so misunderstood.
Despite being called "a witch", herpetologist Taiwo Okikiola continues to use social media to raise awareness about snake conservation. pic.twitter.com/6brBlq9gMi

— BBC News Africa (@BBCAfrica) July 20, 2026

A snake playing with snakes

Diamond098454:
There's nothing wrong with his face

The guy is so cute and handsome

Go n kiss his nose

EXICON:
Five Mistakes Newly Married Couples Make (And How to Avoid Them)

Many couples don't struggle because they don't love each other—they struggle because they carry unhealthy habits into marriage.

Here are five common mistakes:

1️⃣ **Assuming your spouse can read your mind.**
Communicate your needs clearly. Love grows through honest conversations.

2️⃣ **Trying to "win" every argument.**
In marriage, it's not you vs. your spouse—it's both of you vs. the problem.

3️⃣ **Neglecting quality time.**
Work, phones, and responsibilities can steal your connection if you're not intentional.

4️⃣ **Keeping financial secrets.**
Transparency about money builds trust. Hidden spending destroys it.

5️⃣ **Comparing your marriage to others.**
Every couple has a unique journey. Focus on building your own healthy relationship, not competing with social media highlights.

💡 **Remember:** A successful marriage isn't built by perfect people—it's built by two people who keep learning, communicating, forgiving, and growing together.

**Which of these do you think causes the most problems in marriages today? Share your thoughts in the comments. 👇**

No 4 is not mistake

As a man, if you know, you know

Bluna:
They should add one Asian country to it, to make the merry go round.

lolz
Proximity is key

No Asia country share border with Africa

Truly the First..good work team

Bobloco:
•To audit systems too


https://www.vanguardngr.com/2026/07/2027-inec-to-conduct-mock-presidential-poll/

They will still disenfranchise a lot of people on that day..
Same old story

Terrible election..people were not allowed to vote

Fharahyiola:
We recently completed this living room transformation for a client, and the difference was amazing.

The goal was to give the space a more modern and clean look while keeping it comfortable for everyday living.

Swipe through the photos to see the before and after.

Which version do you prefer—the before or the after? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Before was a dead room...2nd is a living room

Wotowotoman:
Only root? Why not stem? 🤔

I sure say you never pass WAEC English

na autocorrect now 'route'

peacenow:
Please I need help with location to settle outside of Ogun and Lagos states. My remote job pays me 300k and I still make some gigs money as a multi instrumentalist and beat maker.

I want anywhere in Oyo state and Osun. This states are cnter to circumference of my gigs. Please help. Please state the cost of a room sefl- con rent in a medium rate area. No high end rent please.

Thank you in advance.

Go north if you dont mind bh n bandits attack

Lovelink1991:
A south Africa police arrested a lady who was looting foreigners shops and she was hiding the items in her jacket, jeans, and pant even as the police carefully ransacked her and brought out all the items.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iygjWEKH2v4?si=p771jc9QBZMfantq

Bunch of lazy criminals

irumole1975:
If you were offered a US 🇺🇸 passport today and a Canadian passport 🇨🇦 which would rather pick?

Likewise, I notice there is a US embassy in Lagos; I saw one on Sunday, if I walk in, is it possible to demand tor a US passport and get it printed the same day if my plan is to relocate to the USA next month for work ?

Or should I do Canada? I don’t know if there’s a Canada embassy in Lagos.

Canada offer an easier route to citizenship