This to me looks like a "dagbo" site. Lets wait and see, abi?

I think Hero and girl22 have made sense here. Hero and some others were focused enough to steer the response back to the original thread. Thanks!

I thought the thread was about Nigeria being corrupt and not the issues of Some Black Americans or African American. Frankly Black Americans or African American have tried very hard to survive the life in the US but NIGERIA AND SOME OF ITS PEOPLE HAVE IT ALL TWISTED SO BADLY THAT IT SHOWS ON ALMOST EVERYTHING WE DO-----------both home and abroad, i see it all the time.

We have a lot to do and the first thing on the the agenda is to ask for Divine intervention, it will take a miracle to sort Nigeria out.

A custom or Immigration guy had summoned the courage to ask me for forex-------just one time on my way out of Lagos and I tell you if the guy sees me again, he will not even try to look at me in the face.
He held on my GC and Passport and told me "give me something now". I told him i did not have anything casually and he said (Pointing to my bulging pocket-----almost touching it) "wetin dey there?".

Oh my God, I went ballistic--------shouting like a really crazy guy. NA YOU PUT AM THERE, NA YOU WORK FOR THE MONEY-----I said a lot of stuff that i cannot remember. The guy just gave me my docs really fast saying "Oga I beg dey go joo". Some of his colleagues just looked away like nothing happened.

I think the way you dress or the way you answer them will determine if they can approach you for bribe or not. Also if they think you are a younger person-----i.e than the person screening you, they will want to intimidate you.

There was once a custom guy asked me where I was living in the US and I answered him with so much disdain "If I tell you, will you know it?" He said Oga answer my question or I will delay you--------I laughed and I told him 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue, Washington DC. He said oh, I have a friend that lives in Washington DC. The people who new what I was saying just started laughing.

My advice to all travellers, is that always be composed------answer questions with short and precise answers and do not engage in small talk with this people-------thats just me.

Only a couple more unanswered questions: why does Emeka snr look Ghanaian if he is Nigerian. Which part of Nigeria does he come from. At least which state.

You sound like a dunce-------why not put your pix here and let me prove that you are a dunce. Your question sounds like one from a dolt------what kind of silly question is that?

This is a really funny thread with different emotions spilling out.

Obviously the US is better than the UK.

Most people who claim they were not impressed after a visit to the US have not seen nothing yet. Then secondly when they realise they cannot stay-----since they do not have SSN----then they become so pissed-------we see them. Patapata ur host carry u go the malls--------in the city they know------dats all------abi?

Come visit the people in the US who no how to enjoy themsleves------I guarantee you'll never want to go back.

I do not even know where to start, there is no comparisim.

But strangely I love Naija with all my skin!

You guys should stop lying, i have held an Intercontinental Bank Mastercard since 2005, i have used it in UK several times even to buy fuel at the filling station or my groceries at Tesco, i have used it on several occasions in Macy's and Jos A Bank in Atlanta, i used it to hire a car in Baltimore and Toronto just last month. I am tired of all this i use Zenith card, GTB rocks claptrap or that because of 419 the card is rejected. It is just a lie and now that i have been residing in Nigeria for the last 12 months and my wife in London, i got a counterpart card and i put dollars in the account here in Lagos and she has never had any problem accessing the cash at ATM or indeed at POS transactions. Please if u don't have the facts, don't come here and tell porkies. geddit?

Looks like this guy smoked some crack whilst in Baltimore and Toronto.

@d1tha1
Please educate people who jump the gun on this thread. You are the official keeper on this thread.

Any one here is not an employee of Zenith, Intercontinental and GTB, please raise your hand

@blacklion
That was really funny. You made me laugh after a stressful day.

Please for others who want to jump in, the issue is ONLINE PURCHASES! From there we can narrow it to Non-Shippable and Shippable Purchases to give it some sense of direction.

Please let’s list “real” sites that we shopped in “Online”, so that others who want to perform legitimate transactions can go there too.

Nigeria We Hail Thee!

I purchased some books from Amazon.com
Subscribed to some Magazines
Purchased Web Hosting and Domain Names

Right here in Nigeria, and with a Nigerian IP Address, Can even View my account Balance Online,

Its kind of good thing for Nigeria, at least we are out with something to show, I am waiting for Nigerian PayPal,

Hey friend, I hate to burst your bubble. Books and magazines are not so important to the merchants as electronics, clothes and other tagible items.
Try buying electronics and see if they will ship to you.

change is the only constant thing in life.My Grandpa proposed to Grandma 2ru an intermediary.Things must change, we can't remain in the normal way,proposal can be in any form, the only clause is IS THE GUY REALLY SERIOUS? My fiancee proposed 2 me on phone. he was on an official trip to russia, and he was scheduled to stay there for 2 years, he can't fly home to proposed, so he did it on phone.

Many face to face proposals end up in shambles, so it depends on the lovers in question.Ladies have that notion that a guy must propose to them face to face, its good but remember , things are changing.TECH DAYS

The most sensible response as far as am concerned!

Some posters have said it-------stay away from the joints, popular hang outs and if you are into nice cloths------tone it down.
All these groups have members who specifically look for new members and their most important on the list are students that they think are from rich homes or affluent parents------after that they look for tough looking guys.

So you must fall into that category or else your recruiters are either Korofo, flyers, Amingos or viki----all of them are known to recruit okada riders and secondary school students.

From experience do not try to fight these guys on your own, you will not win.

Finally call God to your life, you can be a guy man and be religious------from there you will have the born again and the unborn again chicks.

Contemplating?--------Use the oldest trick inthe book-------Start a fight today! It is not too late! I will start mine tonite.

@Zheroes

That was really good info. Thanks a lot man.

Good point Seun. He can also put it in an investment company in Lagos. There are some good ones, that are run by very credible ex-bankers in Lagos.

@ Zheroes You mentioned

then you should have at least N6m to purchase products, if into dealership with a major, you will need up to N12M to purchase products

Is there a difference in being a dealer with the major marketer and also being an independent marketer? What are the pros and cons of being an independent vs being a dealer with a major?

@+osisi

I've even looked at investing in Okrika business in Spartanburg South Carolina,the headquarters from which they head on to Naija
The only reason I didn't was fear of losing my money to rogues at the Naija end.

Hmm did not know that! Spartanburg SC is just down my alley. I guess I’ll check it out. Any advice-------please give me a street at least. I have someone in Naija that can handle stuff like that.

Used cloths are fine, as long as it is well washed etc, cos you do not want to know the diseases some Oyinbo have--------I think I went to Yaba a few times in those days to pick out a few baffs------but men the people wearing used underwear are hard oh-------I mean--------I can comprehend used brazier for women and tees for men-----but underwear-----ha! Okay oh!

Your bobo is a story teller------having extra female friends is a no no. There is no way something will not happen-------period!

Unless the guy is weird-----most guys a wired to trip over females----so just female friends------na lie.

Tell him you do not like it period------if he does not make amends----then he is not serious.

rhemmy
Thanks for your observation and response-------i thought i was the only one that could not load the page.
I was wondering what Uncle Romeo was saying, maybe he is mising Juliet.

Bia Nwando I thought you're a man, ever since I've been refering you as a man never knew you're a woman.

Oops------same here-----lol

Most parents want their daughters to marry a successful guy.

When my friend married his wife here in the US, her parents nearly disowned her. They said a lot of horrible stuff to our ears when we went to Naija to "prostrate".
"What work do you do?"
"My daughter has her house, a good job etc"
"What have you got?"
"Where are your relatives?"

It went on and on.

6 years later--------my friend is a millionaire in "dollars" and the wife's parent’s nko? --------long story!

Ladies I am sure you can identify a "goal" driven guy--------not a "gragra" “lie lie” guy.

I think it is lack of self confidence and low esteem that drives some women to look for success in a man before they marry-----why can't it be the Women who strive to be successful regardless of the mans position.

@Simibrazil

Wow! You learnt how to cook all that food. My wife makes a total mess of the Nigerian food she cooks. The best she can do is fry plantain----boil rice and make stew---which she calls sauce--------and I am very fine with that. I make the other Nigerian stuff I can whip together too-------I suck in cooking too.

But coming to you---------I am really taken aback by what your fiancé said and just like "Octopus" said-------there are some tribes/families that want their first child to marry from their tribe etc-------personally I do not know of any and I have not heard of it, but knowing Nigeria it is possible.

I am not a time waster so if I were you--------I will start making plans to move on------but if you say you are happy------maybe things might change-------then I guess you can hang in there and see what happens.

Leilah is right about how you look------I am just echoing her oh!------before some people start calling me "onishe kushe"

God Speed.

I do not know the details of the story------and frankly I try not to jump into conclusions--------the reaction in Sudan was not necessary--------the leaders and the mob there have issues. If the kid's parents have come out to say the child wanted the name--------that should help calm the tension there.

I agree-----------anybody can say or use the name Muhammed they way they want. I do not consider it as blasphemy--------the name is not reserved.

What makes you think that every one KNOWS that calling a teddy bear muhammed, after a child who wants it that way since his own name is muhammed, is blasphemy?? A lady who called in on the BBC who happened to be a muslim said it herself that she has never heard such nonsense. She even went ahead and said that her child has barbie dolls named Mariam and Fatima respectively. If she a muslim does not even know that name a teddy bear after a kid is blasphemy, how do you expect the lady to know this?? Heck, poll muslims and many of them will equally tell you, they had no idea it was blasphemous in any way @FEMIATL. Read the BBC posts and you will see that many of the muslims who posted called the claims RIDICULOUS!

That is exactly what I am saying! THE LEVEL AT WHICH PEOPLE REACT TO ISSUES-----PERIOD. That’s what I am pointing out.

I am not saying it is not ridiculous---all I am saying is "there are some things that we should just be cautious about in our surrounding".
The lady in "London" not "Sudan" said she did not know it was blasphemous-------fine-----same here-----I do not count it as a serious issue but some other people do.

If the teacher in Sudan said she did not know it will cause trouble. Fine, now she does. If she said the kids named the bear Muhammed after the kid in the class------I am still trying to see the rationale behind it since------most kids their age------ if asked to give a name to a pet or some thing will always go for a name other than theirs.

Anyway-----hmmm!

What r u saying, Is The great prophet now comparable to a CEO, this is gross HARAM andd you deserve to die for this,


@femiatl

Chap if you made the above comment in KHARTOUM , this is the Xact response you will get and we will have to start another thread in nairaland to discuss it, DO You CALL THE ABOVE RESPONSE TOLERANCE, hmmm

Oga! I hope your are not planning to drive or operate a machine in the next few hrs ------
What am i saying what are you saying.

Yes i know that some Muslims are against the issues in sudan. I am very much against it!

But what I meant was that we should all be cautious of what we say or do. I am still confused that the woman did not know it will cause a stir in a predominatly Muslim country/community that using the name Muhammed for fun is okay. Before she travelled to sudan she must have studied the culture, religion, etc. Afterall she is a teacher.

Well I give her the benefit of the doubt.

This is very crazy and I am not supprised with the response from everyone on this forum Muslims---Christrians-----davidylans-----nwandos.

Lets not forget
The woman threw caution in the air and let a group of 7 yr old control her class-------she should have not allowed the name Mohammed be selected in the pool of names for the teddy bear-------obviously she did not just land in sudan that same day from "naive" land. She went there to sudan, knowing what the country was all about. This is not just going down the street, by now she should have known how fanatical some Muslims can be.

Some people are asking why Muslims get provoked for any little reason-------why provoke them then. You call your wife or husband ugly or fat and see if he or she will give you an hug and say "thanks for calling me such nice names-------honey"!

Can anyone give me an instance where some Muslims just wake up in the morning and say-----hey nobody has provoked us in weeks, months or years------this is not normal----we need to cause trouble so that so that peope can know that we are still around, just one.

I am not saying i support there actions in sudan, but please nobody can tell me that they are not cautious in there everyday lives on anylevel what so ever.

My advice to all of you who is shouting foul, go to work on monday with a teddy bear or any other stuffed toy------tell everyone that you name the teddy bear your CEOs name and lets see if you will be there in weeks to come.

People-------all he wants to do is test------he did not say he wanted to drill-------abi wisyno back me up oh------so that they will not think we are both crazy.

It is not for you to like my comments but to realize that before we do certain things we have to be prepared.  We have enough divorces in the world right now! Just be careful thats all! You jump in and marry a man from a different culture you do not understand and you think that is a rational ingredient for a marriage?  All because you are in love.  When things start happening that she does not understand, she might start complaining about the Nigerian dude--and might be the first to call him M-F-stinking-African-George-of-the-Jungle-Bunny!  When he cooks his stockfish, you will complain that the smell wants to kill her!   We see it everyday over here!  Are you telling me what I do not know?

See? ------- That is what I am talking about--------"some Nigerians cannot give the right advice because the issue of a Nigerian man marrying a black American is uncharted waters". Now I will add hate and issues!

Why does it have to be stockfish------do we all eat it? ------even some Nigerians do not like the smell so what are you saying!
There are some Nigerians here that I know that have been married to there Naija wives since they were in Naija. Some met there wives in school------so called sweethearts---others go to Naija to find a wife-------some meet them here in the US. But guess what it is no different at all from any other. They argue about same thing every married couple argue about--------some beat themselves up everyday------others even go to the length of killing the other------tell me you have not heard of it? So what is this “jumping” you are talking about? How prepared can we be for life, talkless of marriage Is it every time you tell someone have a nice day then the person must have one?? Don’t Nigerian women complain about their husbands??Some even start doing african magic-------I KNOW A LOT ABOUT CRAZY STUFF NAIJA TO NAIJA MARRAIGE HERE IN THE US.

Just like T@meD0 pointed out

Come to think of it, you must be a very lonely and miserable lady to always want to criticize anything someone has to say.    Have a blessed day. Peace!

I am not hateful-----I wish you a blessed day too!

@Almondjoy

Did not really like your comment-----but what can I say------it's your opinion-------but you do not have to make assumptions------I am sure she definitely asked some questions and probably gathered some information somehow-------but it was not enough. Even some Nigerian women ask questions on how to behave when they are in the midst of there husbands family----especially if she is from a different tribe.

@Pmdaboh

I support what you said----it is a Two-Way Street-----the man also has to learn her own culture too.

April22
Like I said earlier-----this is uncharted waters for most Nigerians and you will not get the kind of advice you want from here.

Really some people have said it here already------"respect" for the husband’s family is important-----I am sure as a Nigerian he will have respect for your family hard-coded in him so there should be no problem from his side on that.

God Speed.

Also what expectations do Nigerian women have about marriage? Are Nigerian men expected to support their wife's parents, siblings and other family members (in addition to his own)? If so, I wonder how that's playing out in the US., Canada and Great Britain where the cost of living is higher than in Nigeria.

Nope! Don't think so------if he does not have the capacity to do so he will not------most Nigerians do not need to support their immediate family on a constant basis------but like every Man regardless of race and culture---------there are some times when you support a member or some members of your family-----just because you have it.

I guess your post should draw more interest from the Nigerian men and women who are much more liberal in their choice of who they get married too. Some are a bit reserved------I attribute it to fear of navigating uncharted waters.

Generally I think it is the upbringing of the man or woman that determines how the union will be regardless of race. Then culture (if any) comes second.

Regardless of who makes the most money, some Nigerian women support their husbands when the needs arise-------and some might hide their money from their husband. But mostly the men will like to always be in charge as always---regardless of who makes the most-----or else he becomes the “do boy”-------which we all know is not a good idea.

Do Nigerian women have a yardstick used in measuring the man based on his career, how much he makes etc--------off course-----I think it is all women-----worldwide--------do they enforce that ideology?--------depends on her age and how long she has been in the market.

But if you say culture-----personally I think that word is fast fading away in some circles in Nigeria. Nigerian Men when exposed to other culture now marry where their heart leads them------do they turn to tradition later on? It depends on the level or depth at which they want to go. Same goes with the Nigerian Women but at a very small percentage-----why? ------Parental influence is stronger.

Personally I have friends who are Nigerian and if you ask them they do not want to marry a Nigerian woman because of various reasons-------and most of them have the same reason either top or second on the list------which is------they do not want to deal with the traditional and cultural drama of being married to a Nigerian woman-----family et al.

On the other hand, some Nigerian men prefer their Nigerian women. Mind you, a lot of factors influence this----every single person has a reason ------no matter how dumb, smart, funny, cynical etc. it may be.

So please do not generalize with Nigerian women----there are lots of flavors. I think you should just be yourself.

I have a saying which is close to my heart-------you cannot teach an old dog new tricks------period!


Gosh i talk too much!

@Adebisi-------i like your idea.

I think it will be best to come up with the list in this way-------only if it is a serious post------it will be a verrrry long list.

Let every person come up with 5 unique names. Unfortunately I have been out of Naija for a while but I will do my best in coming up with my names. I will use this format close to the Forbes

Name:
Source of wealth:

Any other field will be welcome

Davidylan-------I can see you salivating as you type-------your pupils almost giving each other a hand shake-------that must be painful in what it is remaining of your brain.

Quran 5.46
"And We caused Jesus, son of Mary, to follow in their footsteps, confirming that which was (revealed) before him in the Torah, and We bestowed on him the Gospel wherein is guidance and a light, confirming that which was (revealed) before it in the Torah - a guidance and an admonition unto those who ward off (evil). "

If you cannot undertand this then I am afraid I cannot waste my time on re-booting you crashed drive.

Just rying to be nice------lol

Ah! I am back!

Davidylan------how come you are sooo determned to make Islam look bad-------na wa oh!

Beside it looks like you keep pulling all the bad stuff you can get from the internet. I see your "trend" is to use google to quickly search for all the bad stuff.

All the content you have is all propaganda used to discredit Muslims and Islam as a whole, by people who know the truth and cannot admit it.

See Muslims will not bother to argue with you because people like you are bound to come out once in a while so no poblem.

I guess you stick to wht you like doing best----------@#%$^&&*((+_":.

But i will like to leave you with something because you did not even provide the entire extracts from your quotes.

Quran 5.46
"And We caused Jesus, son of Mary, to follow in their footsteps, confirming that which was (revealed) before him in the Torah, and We bestowed on him the Gospel wherein is guidance and a light, confirming that which was (revealed) before it in the Torah - a guidance and an admonition unto those who ward off (evil). "

I am sure i was nice with my response.

Hey Come on--------i have not even started with the insults-------I am going to applebees to eat and the menu will not contain pork-----then i'll settle down to see how you can be cured----if that will ever happen.