₦airaland Forum

ayukdaboss:
Lies

ayukdaboss:
Youu don't mean it. GEJ renewed our last OIC registration. Maybe he wants to Islamize Nigeria, or what do think?

agrovick:
Nna, it is vely vely funny

agrovick:
Hahaha, somebody uses this as a moniker

Misblah:
warris FFO?

SAMBARRY:
ahen this is a better way to address me

SAMBARRY:
what the CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM will achieve is that next time or maybe they have another occasion to do like naming ceremony or child dedication that's after the wedding she can at least make her make up moderate because there's an addage my mom says.she says less is more


At least now she's been informed about strapless bras and that it's affordable and her hair as to be prim and proper as a lady.lobatan

SAMBARRY:
Happy married life and why is blush so much on your wife's cheeks plus wrong colour. Same witheexcessive eye shadow in her traditional wedding

white wedding untidy hair and displaying of white bra 60+women use.haba! She no employ make up artist that will ensure nothing about her looks flops

safarigirl:
let's say you fall ill and need a kidney transplant in 1 week which costs 5 million else you die and your babe decides to do ashawo work for a couple of days, or even sleep with a man that has said amount just once to save your life.

Will you dump her after the surgery cuz of what she did?

echobee:
Mind your business . No matter how far lies runs,one day truth go catch am. Dont be d reason for their break up . Shalom

FlirtyKaren:
http://www.lailasblog.com/2014/12/mikel-obi-boo-olga-secretly-engaged-see.html#sthash.Lr9e6lkq.dpuf

Sweetmarriage:
Hello, I've posted your question to our community facebook page, where others will give you more advices.

Here is the page
https://www.facebook.com/pages/Nigerian-Papalette/312263085651212?ref=hl

lovinam:
Above all don't cheat on her when she says no to kpekus. Some women have very low libido when pregnant. Try to be understanding

Sparkle777:
Aww, so sweet of you. Just be by her and love her more despite anything. God will bless and favour you for donig this.

HFOG:
Yes o. Me brother is talking from experience. @OP, Help her carry/move heavy objects. You might need to help with cooking depending on how each pregnancy affects her. Washing clothes too. She would need to bend less as the pregnancy advances. Be ready to buy weird stuffs for her as her appetite demands. Some of the things she'll end up not eating them sef. She might throw up, spit out, urinate etc very often. Control whatever irritation you might feel. Remember it's your baby and she's your wife. She might wake you severally at night depending on how undisturbed her sleep is. And of course be patient and understanding if her desire for sex drops drastically. Just know that she's struggling to understand herself. Don't compare her with any other woman. We're all different and each pregnancy is different too. All the best. The joy of holding your baby will be worth whatever inconvenience you'll face now. Enjoy the season while it lasts and make it a pleasant one for her

LordReed:
His role is to support his wife during the period. Help her perform things she'll normally be able to do but become difficult with her protruding tummy. He is also to make her feel loved by doing little things to alleviate any pain or discomfort she may have, like foot massages backrubs and so on. Pregnancy can be a trying time for some women so any help a man can render will be necessary.

aisha2:
Help any way you can.
Some women are strong during pregnancy some are weak throughout. If she cant cook, help her.
Rub her back when she needs a rub, listen to her when she complains dont compare her with other pregnant women pregnancy is different for each woman.

Have her doctors number handy, monitor her temperature, ask after her blood pressure count after each antenatal visit.
Google to learn about the stage of her pregnancy and the challenges she may be facing with it.

Try to ensure she avoids too much activities that involves bending

If you can go on evening walks with her.

Get fruits and fresh vegetables for her.
Most importantly listen to what she wants

illicit:
NFA = NO FUTURE AMBITIONS
FFO = FOR FOOD ONLY
CEO = CHIEF EXECUTIVE OMOITA

TheRealMrStan:
http://pulse.ng/gist/no-dulling-nigeria-ranks-among-countries-with-highest-number-of-criminals-in-the-uk-id3341310.html

blesie:
So i narrated how little i can of my ordeal since i got married to this man here last week - https://www.nairaland.com/2030889/he-punishing-me-honey-moon

While i got alot of advises from our dear Nairalanders, i had resolve before not to tell the pastor or my parent but to talk to him as many advised, i couldn't look him in the eye actually, i tried to do that many times since that Friday but I couldnt, so i said ok, after sunday service i will build up courage to confront him and voice out my opinion to him.

So on sunday, it was going to be our first sunday after wedding, i had arrange our wears, his and my own, i woke up early to make breakfast for him and prepare him for church, before he woke up i was already in the kitchen so i ask him to take his bath and lets go early.

He took breakfast (i don't take breakfast so i didnt eat), we were all fully dressed and ready to set out, i packed our bible and writing note into the car and the gift we wanted to give our pastor too inside the car.

it was almost time and i said, so shall we, he said not yet and i said what is remaining, he said you're remaining, you havent given me nothing this morning, i said but you just took breakfast, he said nope, i haven't had you. This is like 10minutes for church to start oo.

He came closer and i said please dont let us waste time lets go. He changed. Don't let us do what? did you just say waste time? he dragged me down the couch and started what i will call rape again, at the process he had rough handled everything i wore, roughen my hair, i started crying, he walk down the wardrobe pick up something and ask me to wear it, i told him i'm not going to church again, he started begging that i can't do that but i keep refusing.

He shouted i should let us go, and i refused. He came back and raped me again till i agree i will go. So i dressed up and just ran into my own car, took off.

He thought i was going to church, he also entered the car and make his way to church. When he got to church he called me. I didn't answer the phone. i came home and was lying on the bed thinking of what next to do. i was actually thinking of running away without a word so he can come look for me forever.

So he got to church and the pastor and wife ask him about me, he said i must be inside. The pastor sensed something. did you say she must be inside? Did you two not come together bla bla bla. After serious enquiries he opened up that we had an issue in the morning.

I was lying down and i heard the door bell, i thought he was the one, i did not open it. The bell rang a thousand times i ignored it. The pastor wife called but i didn't answer, so because my car was parked inside they knew i was around. Finally i opened and here my pastor and wife have left the congregation standing there with him.

So they came in and ask me what happened, i told them i wanted a divorce, that my husband was killing me. They ask me what happened, if he was beating me or denying me of sex of not providing etc. I told them he raped me everything over everything and that my greatest surprise was to know he is doing all of these because i couldn't let him have sex with me while we were dating.

They then turned to him and ask him what happened. I never knew some people can talk so well that will make a bad case look good. Anyway he's a barrister.

He said: "Pastor i don't know why this happen but i knew i never ask God to give me a virgin as a wife. My brother married a virgin and till today he cannot enjoy sex so he has resulted to having sex outside wedlock but i have promised myself that i wont do that. Whether she likes it or not, she must satisfy me.

Ever since i met her over 3 years ago, i loved her, even though she told me no sex, i thought she was just been careful so i left her. For 3 years i never touched any woman. Here i was thinking she was practising romance, or sex style she will give me on wedding night because she did not have any virgin trait on her. She was exposed (works in the media), talks fearlessly, gives me headache so i thought oh she is a tough girl.

But on our wedding night, my wife here comes into the room. Before i could finish a call, she rushes to take her bath, cover herself up like she is going for a Mecca trip. She comes here lying with her back facing me. I thought to myself, but this is the same lady that smiles and laughs throughout na. What would have happened? i said ok pls come and bath me. She refused. i had to beg. Then she came standing 50 metres away, throwing water on my body, i got so angry i wanted to beat her up but i calmed down and before i could say jack, she got angry that she is not bathing me anymore. I met her again in the room and she said she tired and want to sleep, i tried to beg her she refused I then say to myself, so after begging her for 3 years to date me, kneel down to propose, beg her parent, beg the church i have to beg again for sex in this house. Not in my life! So i had my way, and i made sure i wasn't hurting her because i realised the first time she was a virgin.

Just to please her that she was a virgin which wasnt much of a big deal to me, i entered a car shop, got her a car, i told her this is for you, she said thanks like i bought her a biscuit and the next morning she left to her office in her own car.

She returned and i wanted to kiss her and she said i was disturbing her that she is tired. I was so angry. Whenever i I'm angry, i just have sex with her to calm myself down so i dont go drinking or even beat her. The only day i can admit to raping her was when she returned from work and i had sex with her. She stayed on the couch crying. I took wine in two glasses, gave her one but she pushed the wine glass away from me.

He continued. "I then said jokingly, 'you see its your time to cry now, im giving you those hot sex so you remember the times you used to punish me, insult me and make me go through hardtime but you've got to change now because I'm your husband, if not you will be crying like this.

Then my wife stood up and said to me, 'God will judge you for your wickedness!'

What!!! So i am wicked for having have sex with my wife? The same woman i paid a huge ransom to her calabar relations to marry her? I got so angry so i raped the hell out of her that day. She almost fainted, though i felt bad afterwards.

So this morning, we were set for church. I wanted to kiss her and just touch her a little because she was looking beautiful. She started that stubbornness again. She pushed me away like trash so i showed her I'm more powerful by having sex with her and she said she wasn't going to church anymore.

I brought something else for her to wear she refused and i remember she does anything i want her to do while having sex with her so i gave her another round and she ran out to the car. I thought she has left for church but no. So, this is what i have been passing through."

My pastor wife was first to comment. She said "What!!! Did you do all that i heard?"

I said, "No ma, he is not saying it the way it is. He raped me."

So they started asking the questions one after the other. ''Did you bath only you on your wedding night?''

My husband jumps in. "Ask her if she ever bath with me together since we were married!"

At that point, i felt like asking him to stop talking. My pastor said, "how old are you again? In case i have forgotten". i said "26, sir".

He said "Why na.. why, did you not read? But you are learned na. Why did you have to do all of these?"

The pastor turns to the wife and said, "mummy, did you not put her through counselling?"

They all started blaming me and apologizing to my husband. My pastor's wife had a one on one with me. They asked me to kneel to beg him.

They ask me to dress up lets go to church, it was suppose to be our thanksgiving sunday. I told them, "i wont be able to go as my eyes was already red". In my mind I'd rather sit and start thinking of how i can satisfy this man.

As advised, i bath with him last night, as expected he had sex with me in the bathroom, i felt like fainting but i kept quiet this time. I bear it like its a price i have to pay.

We had sex 3 times before the night was over. Now he is happy.

HONESTLY IF I KNEW THIS IS WHAT MARRIAGE IS ALL ABOUT, I WOULD HAVE JUST STAYED IN MY MOTHER'S HOUSE. THEY DID NOT PURSUE ME OUT