How come you know so many unsuccessful people in the continent, Asia, Europe and the rest...No one is successful lol... Abroad is not easy nonetheless but do whatever that rocks your boat success can't be duplicated follow your instincts and destiny abroad is not for everyone but life is good on the other side than Nigeria.





quote author=Johnchizoba post=77836625]GOING ABROAD DOES NOT AUTOMATICALLY MAKE YOU SUCCESSFUL

Back then in 2014 during my Polytechnic days, I had one man in the village asked me this question:

“How many of the sons and daughters born by your father are in Abroad. How many of them are graduates by the way? Do you have a Doctor, lawyer, Teacher, or anything in your family?”

I picked and saved this statement in my heart. I told myself that I would write about it maybe when I travel to overseas or maybe when I’m still in Nigeria here. I vowed to write about these things. Perhaps, the man in question will end up reading it or not. But I have it in mind that I must let some people know that going to overseas or Abroad does not automatically make you rich or wealthy, staying in Nigeria also does not give you this success automatically; you have to work for it anywhere. There are people in Europe, America, Asia that those in Nigeria are better than.

So many people go abroad for one reason or the other. The reasons or the opportunities that took Emenike abroad may be different from yours. He might have better opportunities than you. Life, I understand are of chances. It is made of choices. Some people will choose to go abroad to suffer than staying in their country home even if the suffering is of the same level. I have heard so many stories of Nigerians who went abroad and was taken as refugee in a refugee camp. They were taken care of till a certain period. I have heard several stories of those who were gunned down by the laws of the country. I have heard of many who went abroad to wash plate, some are in the mortuary taking care of Corpses. Some are roaming the streets of Europe and America. Perhaps, before you could think of leaving Nigeria to another country for school, jobs or what have you, you should be able to plan yourself very well.

There are some people over there whose lives are miserable. There those out there in some of these European countries that those in Nigeria are better off. Not everybody that Abroad would favour. Not everybody would go to London, USA, Ghana, Australia, Canada or Malaysia and make it. there are people in Nigeria that made it bigger than those people that spent all their life savings to travel abroad. I hate it when parents compare their children with Emeka that travelled to Malaysia. I hate it when mothers and fathers accused their children of wasting away while Chidi and Femi are in USA sending Money to their Parents.

I heard a mother one day spitting fire on her daughter. She told her that Patience has

gone to Italy and she had being sending money to her parents from Italy. She even pointed to her Daughter the house that Patience built for her people. The girl started crying. She shamed the girl publicly. She made her daughter a laughing stock.

She never asked herself what Patience is actually doing in Italy. She don’t know if Patience is a runs girl over there or she is into “Drug tracking or not. All she cares to know was that Patience was sending money to her parents from Italy. And Patience has built houses for her parents. Patience mother and father are riding the latest cars. This is the mistake some of our parents make. Stop comparing your daughters or sons with those people that went to abroad for greener pasture. They are not better than your children. Some of them are drug dealers, some are human traffickers, some are in fraud, and some are into many things which are not what you’ll dream of your sons and daughters to do. Why push him or her into the dungeon to be devoured by the demons?

However, I have sworn to deal with any old man and woman from my village or anywhere who ever will open his mouth to compare me with my mates in Abroad. These days, it has become a norm to qualify a rich family in our villages with their sons and daughters who are in Abroad. It was children during the days of my father that was why my father had many wives who birthed him many children. Then, it was believed that these children helped their parents in farm during planting. So therefore, the more children you have as a farmer, the more land you cultivate during planting season. Nowadays, we have old men and women, young men and women, boys and girls in the village qualifying a rich and wealthy family through many children they have abroad and how many graduates are there in the family.

Believe me, every one mustn’t go to London or Russia. If have your way go, but if you don’t have your way stay. me personally, I prefer to stay back in a country where I will have my freedom to do whatsoever I like than going to another land where my freedom is limited. I prefer staying in my home country where I will have peace of mind than going to London where Tax and being black would make me a less human than others. We can’t continue running. This is our home and we must be the one to build this home. This is our land no matter how rotten it is.

One of my friend who travelled to China once told me that it is not easy in China. The language barrier, the cold and many other things is really affecting him and aside that; he has not settled down as a human being. This guy I’m talking about spent two million naira to process his papers from Nigeria to China. The last time we spoke, he told me in tears that in China, once a any black man commit any offense other blacks would be on the run. If the case last for two weeks or one month, other black men would still be their hiding place until the case is resolved.

I have another one who stays in London. He told me that life there for him is miserable. He said he could have stay back in Nigeria. He regretted moving out of Nigeria to London without making the necessary plans he ought to have made. Don’t allow anyone to push you or deceive you, no matter how this country is; I think it is better than a place where your freedom of movement is somehow restricted.

I know we don’t have light here but they do. I know things or standard of living may be high over here but theirs are little fairer. This is our home and we can’t run away from it. if you see the opportunity of going out, prepare yourself very well. Make the necessary plans on how you can be of help to yourself over there. Don’t just move because Nduka asked you to come over.

Someone once told me that when one of his friend invited him to Spain. He was excited to leave Nigeria to Spain. This man promised him heaven and earth whenever he gets to Spain. He promised him Jobs, Accommodation and many other things when he gets to Spain. My brother packed all the necessary things he needed and travelled to Spain. He said on getting to Spain, the number of this man went dead. He didn’t see him in the Airport to pick him as both of them have agreed. He was stranded in the Airport. What he did was to book for a cheaper hotel in Spain and lodged. One week turned to two weeks to three weeks and to a month and he could not find a trace of this his friend. He gave up looking for him. He became miscreant in the streets of Spain. He did many menial jobs just to survive. At the end of the day, his luck caught up with him and he was deported back to Nigeria after many escapes. He said he was grateful that he came back to Nigeria than staying there. To some, it could have been a different story.

I had another story of one man who left my village, Nkporo and went to Scotland. He spent 20 years in Scotland and came back with nothing. Many of his mates in Nigeria were far better than him. he died of depression many months later. I was told that he sold many of his father’s lands to travel to Scotland when many of his friends were traveling there. Abroad shouldn’t be a do or die affairs. Abroad shouldn’t be where someone will brainwash you to go without your own necessary plans.

One of my neighbours sold most of his wares to then his apprentice. He was selling palm oil in drums at Ikotun Market. He had close to four shops and warehouses where his depots were. He was doing fine, business was moving very well. However, He wanted to change business because a friend who stayed in China told him that he can come down to China with the money he had and start importing cars and other commodities. He sold everything he had then to his Apprentice and moved to China. Fast forward to five years later, the business wasn’t moving for him. he left China back to Nigeria and discovered that that his Apprentice he sold all his goods and four shops and warehouses to has become a bigger boy and he was broke. He became poor and did not know what else to do with his life. He started serving his former boy just for him to feed himself and his immediate family.

Please don’t let anyone teach you what to do, not everyone who travels abroad make it big. All fingers are not the same as destiny differs.

©John Chizoba Vincent
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Betting is a great evil, true wealth can never be made through gambling...Gamblers do end up losing there life savings in a twinkle of an eye, you might be winning now but the end story is you will lose all at the end.. Stay away from betting it has destroyed lives

Stdannyel:
Good evening guys, please does anyone here have information about SPIDER SHIELD SECURITY in Dubai, they offered me a security job but are demanding for a certain amount.
I needed to confirm their authenticity because the rate at which people are being scammed ds days no be small.
Kindly help with your Response.

Is it the one around union metro station?

It's only a fool that saith in his heart there is no God Psalm 14:1...

OJB55566:
Please I'm also in need of the bed space in Dubai, coming in on November 3rd. I don't know anywhere in Dubai but will like it to be close to the city where I don't be spending much on transport searching for job

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This news is a lie o! What kind of fake news is this? This event happened at ahoada ...they killed an innocent person who is unarmed I witnessed it because I was returning to port Harcourt from delta state this morning at around 10.30hrs this morning...The youths in d village went for a violent protest after the sad event though I don't know how d event ended..

The last time I mistakenly said that to a lady na slap I receive, the next question was " What do you take me for?" before I could get myself and answer the question she has left and till date, I haven't set my eyes on the girl again...

ilobasama:
you need a job. Not likes

Because I posted this never meant am jobless, you just need to get a life bros..

Happy birthday to me, please nairalanders I need More than 100likes..

May your soul find peace in God your maker..

This one is Amebo news....How does it affect the rate of the naira?

How does this affect the rate of naira? This is amebo news..Next news please!!!!

These siblings especially the psquare brothers always behave like kids,each time they have misunderstanding they post it on social media why can't they settle their issues as a family ...Indeed age is just a number and not sign of wisdom or maturity..

The person above me though!!! Just wanted to be FTC come where are the mods check the guy above me I wonder how he got the FTC..

The impostor above me though, Are you sure you are not from DASUKI'S lineage because you just bribed the mods to make you the FTC...
What kind of Stupid intelligence did they discover that we are hearing about it is not as if they have stopped the attack but just an INTEL this will make them now to revisit their planned attack an come out with a bloodier plan...And some gullible individuals will commend the people who released this to the press
I know this is one of APC lies for us to believe the government is working if I hear...$1=305 and still counting (under 8months)..

Please they should remember to put personal driver and possibly a car park for the man so that he could see where to park this G-wagon when he reaches his destination.... End Time burial arrangement

Is he related to LAI MOHAMMED?

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He is enjoying his sleeping allowance...Just dreaming about how to loot from the budget

MRBrownJ:


of course i will!! just because many dumbass people are having children that they cannot care for, does not mean this is the RIGHT thing to do



if she does it at a proper clinic, the chances to die or damage her womb are minimal. stop focussing on religion/BS, and instead think on the RIGHT thing to do for them.



its gullible people like you who are not making any sense, bringing NO valid solution to this issue, and automatically dismissing valid options to correct their wrong.



i guess you think that having a child is a game, right? these immature kids dont have the means to care for their own damn self, and here you are saying that they should have a child, bwaaaaah! this is what is best for YOU, not them. they have NO education, NO jobs, NO income, NO house of their own, NO prospect, NO valid plan... and yet you say they should have that kid?! i suggest you stop believing in miracles and instead live in the real world. absolute utter NONSENSE!



i am speaking from experience too, go look at any crossroad, traffic jam, and see all the unwanted kids that are there suffering because their parents wanted to have a kid at all cost (or were forced to have one from people like you), yet couldnt provide for it; check all the housegirl/boy that are ill treated and abused daily because their parents couldnt cope and abandoned them; or go to any orphanage and listen how children rarely get adopted in Nigeria because of foolish beliefs that these kids are possibly possessed, OR that only impotent men adopt (god forbid, no 9ja man wants to be viewed as impotent).



once a girl is forced into having a child that A) she cant possibly care for and B) she does not want, her life AND THAT OF HER FUTURE CHILD will never be the same, psychologically, mentally, emotionally and otherwise.
you certainly cannot make a proper doting caring mother by force. then next, you will come on NL and hear about a child that was thrown in the dustbin at birth, or found dead in a car because mama couldnt care less and went to a party... and you people will wonder what happened (while you are indirectly responsible for it)



stop being a religious hypocrite, only choosing to follow from your holy book what fit your selfish agenda. when was the last time you stoned somebody to death, like your bible tells you to?! NONSENSE religious sheep!!!!

How can you forget religion which is an integral path of ones life? Oga if aborting an innocent child is a solution to this issue I bet you are gullible...Every human action as a chain reaction and on this isuue the two teenagers should bear the blunt. A child who is dancing SURUGEDE should know that it is the dance of the spirit....Had it being your mother aborted you will you be posted this dastard comments on nairaland...

MRBrownJ:


bro, FIRST AND FOREMOST, in order to stop her from having an abortion, you need to LISTEN and UNDERSTAND her problem. why does she want to abort?! she does so because of her school and shame from the community. so you need to sit down and ask yourself what you can do to solve that. searching for "good businesses", thinking that it will solve the problem, shows us all that you are not listening to what she is saying.

FURTHERMORE, having a child is no joke!!! here you are talking of having this baby while you dont even have a JOB or steady income of any sort. how are you going to FEED/CLOTHE/CARE/ACCOMMODATE/EDUCATE that child for 18yrs, when you cant even care for your own self?!

LAST BUT NOT LEAST, right now your only option is to ABORT, as both of you certainly aint mature enough (aka emotionally/financially/physically ready) to have a child. here is a clue: you should BOTH finish your education, BOTH get a job, then get married, get a house... and only then should you dream of starting a family.

If the girl in question happens to be your sister will you support her to abort a child? What if she dies in the process or damage her womb? I wonder what made you type such words as if there are wisdoms in it and some gullible nairalanders are giving you likes and on your mind you will conclude that you have made a valid assertion and thus providing a solution to a complex problem like this..
There is a price for every action in this scenario the best thing for these teenagers is to keep the pregnancy and build a home it won't be easy, people will cajole and crucify them but in years to come that child that they didn't abort will be a blessing to them... I am talking from experience and I hope you tap from this experience.. Once a girl aborts a child her life will never be the same,but psychologically, mentally, emotionally and otherwise..

This piece of write up is timely because of my scary experience last night, with a guy that is staying with with my uncle...A 26year old man,full of life, just wanted to take his dear life by drinking SNIPER (An insecticide) and he has refused to say the main reason for attempting to kill himself but we suspect its because of a house help in our house that he is secretly dating whom he recently discovered that the girl has a boyfriend somewhere else...He nearly died if not for the Godly intervention because he was half past dead before he was rushed to a military hospital here in Port harcourt.. Now he is ashamed of his actions...

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disloman:
You are only mentioning Biafra.I doubt it if you know what that mean.Go and study what isbiafra and what it entails.You will be shocked.A country within a country?You guys will be landlocked.How will you survive?

Shurup there; how did biafrans survive after the civil war? Biafrans are not boko haram that kills innocent people, we are agitating for liberation from the illusion of ONE NIGERIA, Is just like asking CATALUNYA how they will survive without Spain or how RUSSIA will survive without SOVIET UNION

Is not all about generating revenue its about using it judiciously so that the common man in Nigeria will feel the impact of his taxes, Nigeria have a record of generating revenues but not using it for the interest of the common man in Nigeria but only for the glorification and happiness of our government

Congrats bro, I tap into your blessings..Amen