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Why not? I have lots of male friends and I don't fancy most of them.

@ poster
your GF is a year older!!!! What's wrong with that?? I really don't understand this why some people see it as a problem.

What does it exactly mean someone consult the native doctor?
I am not Nigerian, so please explain.

Man, you have done the wrong thing, and telling this to your wife won't change it. It will only hurt her. Tell her only if you feel you have no choice.
Just discipline yourself so it won't happen again. Try to make up with your wife if you stay wants to be in this marriage. Make effort to see her often even if she is not in the same city.

Money, for me, is a tool to get myself freedom, comfort, and the ability to help others in need.

This is shocking! How can anyone do this to someone they once loved? This guy is lowest of the low.
Be ware of this ladies.

@George
yeah, i guess it's not appropriate to use this space to have conversation between just two people. What is another way of sending messages without intruding other people's space?

Quote from Dammy Ray:
"Haha you will surely no without knowing how or when it happend like you just find yourself smiling all alone just becuz you remember what he/she said "

Well said. It's surprising how evey words he said can be anchored in my mind for so long, and how just recall of it brings me smile and happiness.

Yeah I heard it before. But I just felt so helpless. I think we are not meant to be.
But there is always something to hope for, right. can never know what would happen the next day.
god bless you.

Can be even more exciting than dating between the same race. You would get more surprises, and of course make more effort to understand that person and his/her culture, but it's all worthwhile if that person is the one.

Which one is more destructive, physical or emotional cheating?
I don't know the answer. But I guess, they are equally powerful and can distract the parties involved. If one is sleeping with another partner other than one's married to or committed to, but not emotionally involved, it can end relatively easily and go back to "normal life" without long term emotional trauma. But it can be much more painful if two people feel connected and yet they know there is no way forward. It's like finding the right man at the wrong time.

Thanks, nice read!
The same rules apply to opposite sex too.
Everyone wants to be appreciated, comfortable, understood and be themselves with their loved ones.

hey
what are you waiting for. Text him and tell him you miss him. He will appreciate it.
It's very exhausting to just keep this inside you. Let it out to him. If he doesn't understand your feeling and no response, then maybe think again if he is caring enough for you.

I know it may not last forever. But can't help it, being in love is a wonderful thing.
hey, I didn't encourage him to come towards me.

I have not taken this man! I am just in love with him and we are not in relationship. So whatever he does with his wife, as long as he is happy in his marriage, I am happy for him. I just want to see him happy and successful. But I must admit I am miserable if I haven't seen him for a long time.

If Igbo men likes light-skinned girls, do they actually prefer to date white women or Asian girls?
just curious!

Cheating emotionally can be more destructive than physical one.
I am in love with a married man. It happened so quickly before I realised he was actually taken. sorry, but can't stop loving him. We are not seeing each other in that way, but I know he has feeling for me too. I felt devastated when I saw him so sad and confused because I thought somehow I led him into this emotional cheating. He never ever talked about his otherhalf, but I knew he is married because he has a ring. Life can be so intolerable without that special one beside me.

Doing small things for loved one without being asked. Once I ran the bath for my man before I made us dinner, then we we watched tele together. I am a private person and unable to show affection in too obvious ways.

Why should I care as long as me and my partner know we love each other. I don't think one needs to try doing that public display of affection stuff just to please one's insecure partner. But show your affection when you are with your special one privately.

Humblesoul

I can relate to you because most of the time I felt the same.
This can only change when you met someone special who you want to open up to and feel every comfortable with. I hope you will meet that person one day and don't be afraid to go after that person. Of course you won't think of marrying someone until you get that special one. You are still young.