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ebila:
@fiona0007: All those pin codes etc r goin to d xtreme.But for common stuffs like textmessages,facebook password or e-mail passwords,do u mind?

Yes, I do mind if he is not married to me.
I for one, won't ask his fb password or email password. Relationships are built on trust. When I want to see what he's got in his inbox, I will ask him to show me. If he refused, I should know something is not right. But there should be no room for just plain misunderstanding, I will get the bottom it first.
he can do the same to me. Ask me when he wants to see my personal mails.
But text messages may be another matter, they are too easy to check out and not password protected. Maybe not a big deal.

@topic
To learn my partner's passwords, PIN, access codes, etc ?!!!
I am not even sure I can remember all of my passwords. God help!
When it comes to privacy question, two pople should make an agreement beforehand, otherwise misunderstanding could ruin the r/s.

@topic
Keep nagging the guy until he's fed up!
no other better idea!!

Gabry:
ok you are right in one sense. Alot of Oyinbo ladies especially the ones living in the city are indeed mostly very messy. They can't even clean their own place up and they dont even know how to cook a basic simple dish which is a shame. Most of them dont even bother to thhrow a rubbish in a bin, they just throw it all over the house and in the end they look like a bunch of horders.

You told the truth Gabry.
I guess it is happening to many asian girls too especially who grow up in cities and not being taught how to be responsible.
I have been friends with and working with people of different origins. To my liking, men from middle east and parkistan are (maybe not all) so dominant/sexist and often aggresive. People from far east are more easily adaptable and friendly, though may be too quiet and men appear not so attractive. I know some Africans, most of them fairly easy to befriend with. Whites, well, they appear ethical, friendly but very rarely comes from bottom of their heart. Was it too much generalisation?!

imhotep:
"My friend and I went to the fair. THE WORLD FAIR OF RELIGIONS. Not a trade fair. But the competition was as fierce, the propaganda loud.

At the Jewish stall we were given handouts that said that God was all-compasionate and the Jews were his Chosen People. The Jews. No other people were as chosen as they.

At the Moslem stall we learned that God was all-merciful and Mohammed is his only Prophet. Salvation comes form listening to God's Prophet.

At the Christian stall we discovered that God is love and there is no salvation outside the Church. Join the Church or risk eternal damnation.

On the way out I asked my friend, "What do you think of God?" He replied, "He is bigoted, fanatical, and cruel."

Back home, I said to God, "How do you put up with this sort of thing, Lord? Don't you see they have been giving you a bad name for centuries?"

God said, "It wasn't I we organized the fair. In fact, I'd be too ashamed to visit it"

I think he might have actually said this.

@poster
until you find someone you can't let go!

@topic
ringing me on valentine's day knowing that i am not into him. it really pissed me off.

@poster

If you live in Australia, you can certainly try some marriage counselling services. You should also look around how domestic violences were being handled locally. But, first of all try your best to change his behaviour by finding yourself too and see if you also need to change. It doesn't mean you need to be more submissive to your husband than necessary.

@poster
Your comment is absurd!
How many women have you seen on the street where you could confirmed they were without pants?

tine:
@ Hairat exactly, when there is love and respect age ceases to matter.

Turth!
Your partner can be years older or younger, what matters most is love and understanding.

We have to completely let go of all the stigma our supposed culture has barred us from. I don't see anything wrong with a man marrying who's older than him; but like you said, in Nigeria it's a big deal -- family pressure alone is enough to crash the relationship.[/color]
[quote][/quote] it's only a cultural thing, not a right or a wrong, or good or bad!

@poster
That's easy. They can take turns. If the husband is not prepared to compromise at all, I am sorry for the woman she is married to a bastard.

@toc
I think that's cool!

Aura2:
@ seeker

what baffles me is a situation where all those parameters are in place yet they take the plunge,
i dont get it
come to think of it, what more happiness do you seek when you have it all

Don't forget many people got into relationships without intention just because they were bitten by the love bug!
One may not appreciate this unless been in love for at least once.

@topic
Can the children be 'adopted' while they carry on living at the orphanage and be provided for education, health costs etc by individual donors on regular basis? This is easier way to help the child, just a thought.

@topic
very romantic! (and a little too much)
but how many men in the world are that romantic? hardly any!

@ topic
Ask him to see the dentist and hygienist. I hope they can sort this out.

A dream man for every woman! 

Looks like Mike will go back to his ex-, Susan. She's always been in his heart even when he was with Katherine. But i agree, Katherine might be a better woman for him. It's interesting.

Whenever I read a good book I only wish it won't turn into a movie.
Same with my favourite musicals.

informat09:
confirmed , it is too possible sef, i you are a guy and a lady proposes to you from yankee or uk, tll me say you no go gel.

Looking at the economic situation in nigeria and also the prospects of a brighter future abroad, most single people especially ladies even abandon their mates here in nigeria for their foreign counterparts.

I can't really blame them sha

You can't be serious!

davidylan:
why shld couples even need a FB account? I think it shld be deleted the minute you enter a serious relationship that is heading towards marriage, you dont need the distractions.

FB is just a tool for social networking with friends and family. I agree for some, it may be a flirting site too. But come to think of it, would you abandon your connection with others just because someone is in serious relationship with you?

Fhemmmy:
there are tendency that they will be talking work and profession when they are home, so better to be in different program jare

If the couple cannot find some interesting topics other than the work, then be it!

@ letter to my Ex
I wish you well and all the success.
Thank you for being there to let me experience what love is all about.
I have moved on and hope you had no regret.

confusion

@topic

There are a lot of other things which can make family life harder, than if the couple work at the same place. Of course there are positive and negative implications on the relationship married or not. If the cuople are mature and not taking each other rivals, they may even find it easier to communicate 'cause likely they are thinking and talking in the similar wave length. As a whole I think if they are in the same profession, it may be a good thing.

Depends on how you define "an attractive man". I suppose it is more than the look.

@poster
Love is blind for some people. But it means you ain't get anywhere!