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@oilfielden
Wish I could help. But I am not residing in Nigeria.  I am sure some poeple in NL might have better idea for job market. Even if there is no suitable job available right now, she can start from some volunteer work which definitely helps building her CV as well as her maturity. Just a thought, and good luck.

davidif:
fiona, ha ha ha ha, that is so true. he he he.

Just common sense

@why do married men have affairs?
Because they are married.  It will not be labelled as affairs for unmarried men no matter how many girls they are hanging out with.

@poster
She is a graduate, why don't you let her find a job where she can start learning? You cannot just coach her daily to your measures. But it is important to understand her limitation and appreciate what she is good at. Everyone has their own ability, please don't try to push her too much, that will only add more stress in this situation. Don't forget some people need a lot of encouragement in the beginning. I am sure you can help her to progress, but try not to patronise too much.

@poster
It's sharing the responsibility, my dear.
Doesn't matter who is paying for the rent and who is paying for food. Isn't it a good thing the family will still survive even if one of them lost the job?

@topic
As long as there is marriage there will still be divorce. Because some marriages work, and some don't.

jay bee:
and why do u wanna hold a guy down? don't you think it should be the other way round?
your mentality will most probably lead you to appearing like a desperado and in turn him or potentials treating you like shyte.
love yourself and the right man will do the holding the down babes.

True talk!

Nicely casual, and should not appear he cares too much about his looks.

@topic
It's all about showing respect to your partner and his own space. It might be ok for occasional surprise visits, but it can create misunderstandings if that happens regularly.

riadora:
tell him we have grown apart, and I want something different.

One can quote this time and time again

nawtiichic:
theres no need for a special 'foot cream'
just soak your legs in warm water, scrub the tough skin off your foot with one of those foot stone scrubers and then moisturize your foot with a good lotion.
and aviod walking around bare footed coz that leads to your foot becoming really hard and rough,
take care

Yes, it usually works.
And try to do it regularly, maybe every time you have shower and your feet will feel lovely and soft in no time.

Some women are just,

mntpaul:
LD's are very hard. I am in one and we are making it. It takes a huge commitment, it is the greatest emotional and spiritual commitment that I have ever had. I konw if we survive this we can survive anything. I think it is well worth it if your looking for a life mate. One thing I like about it is that in our letters and phone conversations, your more free to express how you really feel, because it seems that social barriers are let go. So LD allows for more openness, so you can really let the person know how you feel about things. Seems to be less reservations. I believe it also builds a better foundation for a relationship. I believe, if you guys make it your will be strong.

I can't agree more.
i have friends who have been through LD r/s and finally settled down with their chosen ones. So if this LDrelationship is with your chosen one for your life it's worthwhile.
I wish you all the very best.

@topic
Looks like the aim of the topic was to provoke angry response from some female members, nothing else.

@what attracts you first in a man
Manners!

snowdrops:
@ daniel.jimoh.
What gives you the impression that Nigeria is FAR better than Bangladesh? There was a Documentary yesterday by BBC on bangladesh and trust me their roads and shopping complex were superb and brings our infrastructure to shame. Our per capital income in 2006 was $692 ; Bangladesh surprise surprise US$1400!!
So young man, you are the comedian. You ve probably forgotten that Nigeria have been gradually retrogressing since independence; and comparable developing countries have since left us behind. So put that in your pipe and smoke it.

Yes, I saw that documentary too. Delicious food, fresh water fish cooked in lots of spices
i wish I could visit there and simply enjoy local food!

@topic
It's plain stupid to trade drugs in those countries with harsh penalties including death sentence. You will get caught one day and everything you have is gone!

Gabry:
Treat him like a man. Even if he is weaker than you aqt a certain area, u make as if he is the man in it. 

Man are egoistic by nature so its good to feed a little of their ego at times 

Always be there for him when he is in need.

Trust in his capabilities. (I notice thats very VERY important! and it makes him feel like a man) 

Do your job as a female. Ensure the home is tidy, be polite, listen and understand and care for him 

Yes, some truth in there!

@topic
I for one never dreamt of having a big wedding. If found someone I want to be with for years, maybe I marry without a wedding if posssible.

His/her faurite CD?
Or something that reminds you of first date ? something not expensive but romantic. I think something very expensive kills the romance.

@poster
Why don't yo ask his grandfather's half-sister's son or daughter if it is alright to hang out with this guy ?

When one is staying in a relationship and does not love one's partner, that is also cheating.

May be bread & butter
bright & brilliant

@poster

Can you not just tell him that you both need a break? period.
Why make life more complicated than is necessary?

@sexychica

I sincerely believe you want to get out of this so-called relationship. Please check out this link
http://www.gloryb.com/

@poster

Try to invest time in your hobbies. Start a new hobby if you haven't got one. Keep yourself on your toes and always welcome changes and new things in life. Make new friends and hang out with old friends too. Help others because it can be more rewarding than feeling pity for yourself.
You will find yourself too busy to feel lonely.

@poster

I just can't stop myself laughing reading through the post and some responses too.
Why are some people making this a big deal? Looks like your life must be really good.

@topic
People do not stop growing up until they get really old and incapable of doing so. In the process of growing up, their vision, taste, thinking and principles also change with time. It can become a problem when two people live together but grow up in a different direction and the marriage fall apart because of too many differences. I think, in marriage two should work hard to remain on the same course and the bond becomes invariably stronger.

I don't watch Cricket and rugby!
Cricket becasue it takes so long and i don't understand it.
Rugby becasue it's too rough.

I guess serial dating is how men react to the recent break-up.

@topic
First of all, I am not in favour of co-habitation before marriage.  I believe there are other ways of getting to know another person better than living together. 
On the other hand, there are positive aspects of this practice, depends on circumstances of parties involved. A few to mention;
it is economical, you pay less for rent by sharing a place and also sharing household chores
you can have company most of the time, as well as you maintain your space (hopefully) because you are actually not married
if you and partner decided to go separate ways at the end, it's probably less painful than having going through a divorce
you and your partner are together because you both want to, not being tied by the "I do" thing.

Well, that's it. 

@topi
If he came late and didn't say where he'd been, you would ask him, wouldn't you?
Would he keep quiet if you came home late?
This is not too complicated.