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Because women/ girls might have drained, more than half of energy they are supposed to use for longevity wen they were younger.
.........since women no dey use eyes see tall guys.

I biliv it affects in old age.

Sharpsharp00123:
how old were u in 1996?

Every action and inaction of Abacha regime, I was fully matured to read it on newspaper then,page to page.

In fact, I started being known much about current affairs since days of Abacha.

I think I will be the one to ask Ur age and if you mature then, did u know much about current affairs and reality? "if you have mature then, you will know that the endorsement different political parties giving Tinubu now, is similar to how the then 5 parties doing for Abacha".

As it stands today, Nigerians facing excruciating pains far more than anytime in history, ......if the TINUBU himself could admit that, who are to keep arguing in surport.

hakeemhakeem:
Some time I laughed when they compare abacha term with this.is it because of hatred or an act of ignorance,newspapers archive are there for references.pry and secondary school teachers were on strike, people were cooking with sawdust, activist were killed and people can't gather in 5 to discuss.

.......life far far far better then, apart from, "today power grabbers" which junta was pursuing up and down then......if you are taken responsibilities today, you would understand the difference.


I also biliv you know, technology revolution never took place then,.......if military still in power, people won't use saw dust again, after all, people even going back to firewood, after 2 decades they left it.

Zonefree:
Nigerians jubilated more than this on hearing the news of Abacha's death.

Decades later, same Abacha's evil government is far better than Tinubu's government.

In fact, I'm begging for Abacha regime to come back, ( if possible) since it can't, let any military govt. I have since realised that, yesteryears freedom fighters, were fighting then, just to grab power, and not because of their love for masses, as they made us realized then.

Celestialsword:
Talk about the living and not the dead.Be positive in your comments

As I said, if humans think that they don't leave all their life as youth,...... that you will, "one day be in the grave,", it is highly inevitable.

Learn how to think and talk about it once in a year, maybe it would allow you to think like rational human beings

To me, if Tinubu brings back subsidy.

2. If Nigeria wins world cup.

2 days in the grave it becomes eye sore, in fact, in old age, it's eye sore already.


Why humans think only about youthful age alone still surprising me.

Herkim:
All these brown roof people, Na den with no shame.

This is known as women emancipation and civilization

I guess dot-nation is now Paris. Even in your dreams .

Thundafireseun:
Fake news

Yes, but married a single mother which her husband still hale and hearty and seeing urself sharing her with him.


Even single ladies with no kid, husband still struggling to separate her and exes.

What about smart phones that connected to internet? Because you can hardly gone to social media without seeing several nude/semi nude/sexy dressing, many if all of which you don't subscribe to.

LordBiden:
This is not Africa where leaders can do anyhow.There are strong institutions to checkmate.

Musk contributes alot to America,

Is Trump not doing anyhow now? Trump has nothing to loose, this is his second term, it's Musk business that would badly affected.

Freedom fighter of yesteryears usually become dictator if given power. The likes of Gadaffi, Mugabe, Gbagbo, Outtara once behaved like freedom fighter until they become demi-gods, we never see anything until wen his second term is about to end, so many people will die and maim in other for despot to sit tight in power.

The same man would ready to do anything to defend Islam oooooo. Yet doing what Islam not telling him to do.


People and the way they handle religion, tribe and political party, reason why so much problem in the world.

dominique:
We have better things to do with our time and our lives than wailing endlessly over men and waking up at odd hours to write crap about men. Why not channel your energy into more productive things other than wailing endlessly about women? Thats a piece of advice your fellow alfa males will never give you

The better things women are doing that are not translating to financial gains for you, if it is translating, your gender wouldn't continue seeing men as ATM and form of financial security.

Kingpele:
All this yeye talk upon fornication...nawaoh for Nigerian youths

Pls list Ur innovation for us, let us start patronising.

Keep on working working working without fun ok, with or without you society would keep going in all fronts

Innovation, fun, education, technology, sex etc

Dpsychologist:
There is an Unspoken Frustration of Modern Men

“If we’re partners, why am I the only one paying all the bills?”

This question doesn’t come from greed.
It doesn’t come from bitterness.
It comes from exhaustion.

In a world where relationships are marketed as equal partnerships, too many men are realizing they’re carrying the entire load—financially, emotionally, and sometimes even logistically. All in the name of “being a man.”

But how fair is that, really?

Let’s dig deep into the hypocrisy, expectations, and emotional toll behind this simple but powerful question.


💑 The Myth of Equal Partnership in an Unequal Economy

We live in an era where women are more empowered than ever. They earn degrees. They run businesses. They vote. They drive. They have the choice to pursue careers or stay at home.

And yet—when it comes to who pays the bills, many still revert to old-school expectations:

“The man is the provider.”

Wait…what?

You can’t preach gender equality on one hand and demand traditional privilege on the other.

If we’re truly partners, the responsibility to build the home should be shared—not dumped on one person.


🧾 The Reality of One-Sided Provision

Let’s be honest about what it means when only one person pays all the bills:

Stress: One person constantly worries about rent, food, utility bills, car maintenance, kids’ school fees, and emergencies.

Resentment: Over time, the provider begins to feel used, especially if their efforts are not reciprocated emotionally or practically.

Burnout: They may work long hours or take multiple jobs, sacrificing their health and mental well-being.

Imbalance of Power: Ironically, some partners who don’t contribute financially still want to be “50-50” in all decisions.


It’s not just about the money—it’s about effort, respect, and equity.



💬 When “Support” Means Watching From the Sidelines

Many partners—especially in modern dating—say:

“I support you emotionally.”
“I cook sometimes.”
“I clean, I’m present, I’m loyal.”

That’s good. But here’s the reality:

If bills aren’t emotional, your contribution can’t just be emotional.

You can’t hug a landlord instead of paying rent.

You can’t cook love for NEPA to give you light.

Support should be multi-dimensional. It should stretch across finances, emotional encouragement, domestic contributions, and shared responsibilities.

Being in a relationship where one person is the ATM and the other is a “life coach” is not partnership—it’s imbalance.

🧠 What the “All Bills Must Be Paid by the Man” Mentality Really Does

Let’s strip the filters and IG captions.

This mindset:

1. Devalues Men Emotionally: If all a man is good for is money, what happens when he can’t provide?

2. Discourages Intimacy: Resentment grows in silence. A man who feels financially exploited may detach emotionally and physically.

3. Creates Silent Pressure: Most men don’t complain—they just suffer in silence. Until they break down… or walk away.


The result? Lonely marriages. Emotionally distant relationships. Secretly bitter breadwinners.

🧮 What Does Partnership Really Mean?

Let’s define the word “partner.”

A partner is:

Someone who shares the burden, not just the benefits.

Someone who contributes based on their capacity, not just their gender.

Someone who’s willing to build together, not just spend what someone else builds.


If a man is paying the rent, utility bills, school fees, and fuel, while the woman’s income goes to personal things, beauty routines, and weekend brunch—that’s not partnership.
That’s sponsorship.


🙅‍♂️ The “He’s the Man, He Should Provide” Argument Is Lazy

Many defend financial imbalance by quoting tradition:

“A real man should provide. That’s what our fathers did.”

Fair. But let’s finish the sentence:

“Our mothers also woke up at 5 a.m. to cook, raised six kids, ran businesses from home, respected their husbands, and never tweeted about oppression.”

In the past, yes—men paid for everything.
But women worked differently, and they respected the effort. The labor was divided in a way that felt mutual.

Today, women want modern freedoms with zero traditional responsibilities.

That’s not equality.
That’s selective feminism.

❤️ What Men Actually Want: Contribution, Not Control

To be clear: Most men are not asking women to split every bill down the middle.

They just want:

To feel supported, not used.

To see effort, not entitlement.

To experience gratitude, not guilt-tripping.

If your partner earns more, maybe they contribute more. If you earn less, maybe you do more at home. If you both earn equally, find balance.

It’s not about 50/50.
It’s about 100/100 in effort.

🧘 Final Thoughts: Partnership Is Built, Not Demanded

If you’re in a relationship where one person is doing all the financial lifting, it’s not just unfair—it’s unsustainable.

Partnership means:

⚡Carrying the weight together.

⚡Adjusting when one person is weak.

⚡Respecting the silent sacrifices.


So the next time someone asks:

“If we’re partners, how come I’m the only one paying all the bills?”

Don’t just roll your eyes.

Answer them honestly.
Or contribute more actively.
Because love without effort… is just dependence in disguise.

Is ur father sharing responsibilities with your mother?

Meanwhile, if ur dad and mum are partners, why did all ur brothers and sisters bear the name of ur father alone?

Johnpat198:
The man get big problem, when tinubu gives presidential ticket to Muslim, Muslim Muslim he didn't talk,

If the man is in Saudi Arabia, he would be in jail, but in lawless country, they would allow him to continue incite the public, yet they want peace in the society.

Bestwt001:
It's really understandable why MURIC is upset about the train rides. When you see free rides for Christmas but not for Eid, it absolutely feels like a double standard. Professor Akintola makes a strong point about fairness, and it's especially jarring when the government is led by Muslims.
This isn't just about train tickets; it's about feeling equally valued in your own country. The government really needs to explain this disparity or, better yet, fix it to show all Nigerians that they're treated with the same respect and consideration.

How many holidays FG use to declare for Muslims in a calendar year compare to Christian? I think we should start from there.


Meanwhile, you people should try to leave to proof that religion is a peaceful religion as u claimed

Chienex24:
I guess the mind of Biden is more stable

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.....Abi ooooo, unstable surporters must support, unstable president, come rain, come shine.


If Ur Trump has stable mind, he won't sack American poor who are federal government workers and redirect the money to rich as a constituency projects.

Peakdesign23:
Why is it always about women?

Why women too weak to write about men? Abi men no dey lie for women?

A man that puts lion as a pet,would surely ended in his belly.

We told you, but you said Trump is the best man for the job....... entrusting billions of human lives globally to the hands of unstable mind. It too sickening to comprehend!

You never see anything, one by one, wild animal would be using you guys to count scores.

If naija politicians believe on people's votes.


......but they think nothing, but dictator at centre, he puts and removes whoever he wants, yet he is democrat to the core and yesteryears freedom fighter.


If you have gone round indeed and opinions favour you, you wouldn't have threatening to sack any commissioner that is not following you.

immortalcrown:
Explain the difference between trusted people and untrusted people.

Which part of my comment deserves this response from you? Or, are you just responding without thinking properly? Does my comment say that there are no good or bad relationships?

Just analysis, u can go back to read edited, still editing wen u reply.

immortalcrown:
"Sorry I missed your calls. I slept early yesternight."

Be careful when doubting this one. Even you yourself sleep early sometimes. Doubt her only when it is a regular occurrence or when you have proof that she was awake.

You should doubt only for the trusted ones, but for the rest, do that at Ur own, "serving you breakfast soonest".

If you are opportune of meeting/dating girls who really like and love you before, you would understand how beautiful relationship can be with women.

They make the relationship easy and enjoyable for the guy, but for the girl who doesn't like u, it would be like hell on earth. Most especially if the guy likes the girl die.
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....a girl who likes and loves u deep in her heart, would either tell you, before she sleeps, if she wants to put her phone in silence, or not putting her phone in silence for the sake of Ur calls.

Celestialsword:
It's their nature it's femline,You will believe when you are love.

A dog that wants to die doesn't hear his master's whistle

Most especially let see tomorrow, and she says ok.


I pity guys that have started dreaming different styles he would practice with her, but if woman ready to come to man, in which the man disappoints, hell will let loose!

He is just a friend.

Let do video call, but I have low battery.

I have just 2 body counts.

I was busy.

Trust me.

It was a mistake.

Sorry I missed your calls. I slept early yesternight.

I didn't know what came over me .

Forgive me, it was Devil.

You ask her to date you, she says ok.

I went to female friend for weekend.



You can add yours!

fergie001:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UUnF3wuAJFw?si=9CJhdqmM_aLY-yGA



William Ruto
President, Republic of Kenya


Pics Description: 1 at another wedding to a Nigerian man

2 when his first daughter married a Nigerian man

Nigeria men/guys too strong to compete with globally, in fact, several Naija guys too, struggling to cope within, that's why, when you open social media threads, you see guys lamenting daily, no reason beyond inability to successfully see woman calling their girlfriends.

You urself had skeleton in cupboards while you led pH as sector commander in EFCC.