₦airaland Forum

irumole1975:
In the Nigerian system, the men do most of the heavy financial lifting in the family. But over there, the structure and system requires women to participate in the heavy financial lifting also. So along the line, these 9ja .women begin to get overwhelmed and they begin to loose interest in the man that took them there , because in the first place most of their reasons for settling down weren't from a strong conviction of love for the man, but just some that will lighten their financial burden.

So abroad system puts.. ...that financial burden back on them, then they find out that, they don't even love this man or need him after all. These men are innocent, it's just the women that mostly married for the wrong reason, no body treated them wrongly in Nigeria.

If for anything, the abroad is... helping to expose this Nigerian women and their ulterior motives.
Maybe if they start marrying for the right reason, then there will see that, geographical location has nothing to do here.

I guess you are leaving in 19 century!
Who told you, it's only men involving in financial contributions for marital success in Nigeria?

Better go and get ur facts recheck and stop leaving in self denial.

Naija or abroad, if the two partners not ready to compromise and fully committed to make their marriage works, it would definitely fail.

Love800:
This kind of gathering is for mentally lazy people and guys who cant go to the appropriate places to do research. I can only be in this gathering when am outside on my own, then guys starts to gather around me. But I don't waste time in it. I will eventually make my way out!

......hence ur research will always full of theoretical & hypothetical. Research on paper/library/internet which would be difficult to implement in reality.

Infact, who told you these guys were not discussing very "difficulty" course their lecturer just taught them in school that day?

Your type believe people must be on TIES & SHOES before they can engage in meaningful discussions..........

The biggest problem confronting marriage in recent times is, people married and still want to be leaving like single.

If you married (man/woman) and still want to be leaving with luxury of freedom often associated with being single, you would definitely be hurting your partner.(possibly end like this)

You want to have as many opposite partners as you desire.

You want to stay outside as you desire.

You want to eat and enjoy maximally without looking back.

Dogalmighty17:
Hmmm... Lets see.
Instead of you to focus on how you can expand your mom's shop and get it more stocked you are eyeing one of her customers.

If you make your feelings known to her and the girl starts demanding you bring her items from your mom's shop without paying for them what will that make you?

You say she is a tailor and hardly has time that means she is a very productive person. Do you think she will look to kindly on a sluggard who has nothing to do but to slag around his mothers shop doing nothing of value?

Apart from valid points you mentioned above,..the girl can use opportunity of not having time to drain him and allow him to see ordinary tip of her pant.

To be honest, how both entire govt of the day and past stood still for Babangida during the lunching of his book, showing we ready to celebrate any form of success in this country.

Indeed,the end justifies the means

NOETHNICITY:
There are more homosexuals and lesbians in Christianity than in any other religion combined, with only atheism surpassing it in this regard.

Christian churches are now seeing a surge in openly gay pastors and clergy, all of whom claim to be guided by the “Holy Spirit.”

Your types are the reason nonsense are increasing, you must attack every sensible post in other to feel relieved.

What's ur positive contribution to the post?Even if to conderm the act for once, instead shifting blame and talking like drunkard.

In this generation? Which they must attack every sensible advice and go against norms of the society.


No matter how girls dress, she must open her body before she is satisfied.

Guys must take drugs and plait hair, before he is confident in himself.

If Nigeria wants to develop indeed, they need good custom. Officer like DG SSS among the custom officers should head the agency.
95% of custom officers are thieves, infact,custom worse than police in Nigeria.

annolomy:
There's this girl who frequently comes to my mom's store to buy foodstuffs and snacks. Over time, I've developed a crush on her, but I'm struggling with how to express my feelings and start a conversation with her.

The challenge is that she always seems busy. She's a tailoring apprentice, so she’s often in a hurry and might not have time to stop and chat.

To be honest, I do have a girlfriend, but her behavior has been questionable. I have a strong feeling that she has a side boyfriend in school, and I don’t want to invest all my emotions in her only to end up disappointed.

So, I need some advice. How can I get closer to this girl I'm crushing on and make her notice my interest? Also, if there’s a way to get her contact without making things awkward, I’d really appreciate it.

.... feeding him,but planning to be be feeding dog.


Life not start destroying at 40s, 50s or 70s, but from very tender age.

Even when you were the one controlling men, while you were in marriage.

The new DSS man is doing whole lot of work to reposition DSS as secret agency, I was surprised wen they labelled DSS in the news.


DSS has changed significantly from how it used to be under Buhari, most useless head of govt Nigeria ever had.

Demajor2022:
Lack of proper education is Adeleke's greatest problem.
So he is so daft not to know that a state high court cant overrule a federal appeal court judgment?
He did not even approached a federal high court but state high court that is under his control as the state govnor.
He appointed a member of his party as INEC chairman.
This man get sense atall?
Even if election take place so he did not know that federal govt will seize local government monthly allocation?
Untill final judgement by the court.

Proper education had taken away your common sense.

Adeleke did that because he has "common sense", he used kangorro court to go ahead, after chief law officer has advised against going ahead.

If not that your own education is not functioning properly, you would know that, if APC occupies local governments,going to gubernatorial election is handicapped for Adeleke.

This man dancing his way to trap gradually.


Tinubu would make sure you put your two legs before he releases his sledge hammer.(state of emergency)

wayray:
I met a girl during a short visit to Ibadan at my uncle's place. We exchanged numbers and we got talking online. She happens to be a fresh graduate serving.

During one of our usual gist, she said since I'm based in Lagos, I should assist her to look for job by sharing her cv which I obliged. We fixed a date to lash ourselves as Omo ogbon that I am. But my stay got cut short due to urgent stuff at my workplace. ( I forgot to add that I was on leave during this visit) So I left but we still continued gisting and had the date rescheduled for Lagos at my place. When the date for the meeting came, this babe demanded for transport fare which I gave without thinking twice. But surprisingly this babe blocked me immediately after receiving the fund. As a sharp guy, I switched to plan B after waiting for a week without success. I used my other line WhatsApp to chat her and claimed to be chatting her from the company from which I dropped her cv. My people immediately, this babe unblocked me and started apologizing. I said no whala, I pretended to follow up with the company so that they can pick her.

Now I have dropped a particular address not too far from my home for her in Lagos as the location of the company? SHOULD I ALLOW HER TO EMBARK ON THE JOURNEY OR I SHOULD FORGIVE HER?

Pls. I need your advice before Monday. I apologize about the long write up typo.

Collect your money back from her, if possible in double fold, but don't let her embark on her journey, God forbid if anything happens to her, ur conscience will be guilty till rest of ur life.


NB. Women are like that, the best thing is to acknowledge their weak/wicked behaviour and keep them at distance.

kay29000:
I think it's because they usually have many options. Even while dating, they usually have a bestie and many men on their case. So it's easier for them to jump on the man they liked almost as much as their ex.

This theory is based on average men and women, not rich men and women.

So, men doesn't have many options? Maybe from ur own angle.

Men have wider options than women and it's men that move on faster than women, if you as man finding it difficult to move on wen ur woman has even forgotten he ever met you, just know you are nothing but lowlife material.

By constant remembering urself that, ONLY YOU CAME TO THIS WORLD AND ONLY YOU WILL LEAVE WHEN THE TIMES COMES.

I won't surprise if any or the two factors I want to list below affecting you.

You are a type of guy struggling to toast and stay with a lady.


You are parasite in the relationship.

If you have allowed elections into these offices immediately you came in, you would have avoided this catastrophic now.

Many of you politicians always taking decisions that would beneficial to you alone while in office even at detriment of the nation building.


You are wailing and lamenting now, becos of disadvantages the scenario would poise on your election comming this year.

You will learn in hard way.

doctore212:
Olosho work.

Before with 2k u can knack TDB but now 200k

The woman that would marry you, his definitely heading towards emptiness.

You cannot contribute meaningfully to any issue but nonsense.

Sgnificant numbers of professions have since lost respect, people now getting money by their handiwork, business, even illegal means( yahoo, ritual, bunkering)

It seems there is paragim shift from being an employee and owner of work/business, not even online stuff(legal or illegal)

Lawyer is poor profession (for significant numbers of lawyers), but tagged with big name just like accountants.

The number of lawyers available, far far outnumbered the lawyers needed, to make their matter worst, it's a profession in which, "mighty" won't allow the upcoming to make headway, unlike doctors, engineers, pharmacists or even accountants.

EVERY BIG CASE MUST GO TO SANs & OTHER BIG LAWYERS, WHILE "CHARGE AND BAILs" GO TO MUSHROOM LAWYERS.

Person that is supposed to be rotten in jail for life,vto serve as deterent to others, is being celebrated by high and mighty.

If Tinubu has become victim as others during your brutal regime, would he becomes president today?

emperor4love:
I swear who ask am,de stuff will anger tubaba, as guy no matter how broke no let gal dash u money,this gal can't get along again because no free money plus all she gotten she did not invest na y she can't move on,dependency cause,tiwa nd de like doing great no send there ex cos de are made nd hustling to mk cash but this one just de find who go work dey spend on am ,cos why won't she hv investment she made wen it was rosy with tubaba,even dubai wedding way cost lik kilode ,that dubai wedding she no remember say that guy spend alot but na bicycle she sold 22years ago person no go rest fr am

Only a fool would be spending for a woman and not getting anything from her in return. Are you CBN which can never get broke? If you go broke and ur woman has, you prefer to go to friends or to loan abi!?
Meanwhile, when the "gudigudi" ready, the same woman which you cannot take "shishi" from her, would eat the bigger chunck of the investment.
What a foolish way of reasoning!

Don't turn yourself to horseband 🏇

Makavelli001:
"BEFORE YOU DECIDE TO LEAVE ME IN BETWEEN THE CROSSROADS, REMEMBER YOUR WORDS ON THAT DAY I BROUGHT THE MONEY MADE FROM THE SALES OF MY FATHER'S MOTORCYCLE TO YOU IN FESTAC TO RECORD YOUR FIRST SONG"~~Annie Macaulay.

2 Face Idibia's estranged wife, Annie Idibia Macaulay has penned an emotional letter for her man. The lady whose battling with her mental health has taken time to address 2 Baba after the African King announced their divorce which is already in process. 2Baba went ahead to engage his new found love, Honorable Natasha.

She Wrote:

""Dear Innocent, this is my first and only true love; forgive me if I have disrespected you by calling your name.

You have left me with no choice as I am still trying to understand how you are gradually slipping away from my warm hands.

I don't want to believe you are following the money because, for over 22 years, I have been married to you; we have never lacked anything courtesy of God's grace.

I don't want to believe you are trying to make a name because your name is my last name and it is loud on the lips of everyone across Africa and beyond.

Looking at you and the sudden change in retrospection of where we are coming from and how far we have traveled through life's journey, I ask myself, where did I go wrong? How did I become so irritating to you?

Have you forgotten so soon? What happened to "Together Forever"? What happened to our mantra of never letting go no matter how hard we fight?

Have you forgotten how i had to sneak out my father's motorcycle, sold it and brought the money to you to record your first song?

Pleaae Innocent, you need time to think. Do not get carried away. I love you forever❤️""~~Annie Macaulay

Immediately man leaves woman, the only thing she would start thinking is, how the man would go down.


That's reason society is bastardised today, single mothers succeded in polluting the minds of kids. Those kids have since grown up to be menace to the society.

dollar124:
Once a woman is beautiful and rich, is natural for her to feel the world revolves around her

Even poor woman with small beauty, most especially yellow pawpaw.


I run away from yellow woman with beauty, they are too arrogant, believing at sight, world must stand still for them.

iLegendd:
https://x.com/IM_muaaz/status/1891366172009828788?t=R5NBhYGdCGaBPe-c_s8eIg&s=19

See, women, even men, are not loyal to a living thing — they're only loyal to pleasure and food and it doesn't matter if they hurt someone who trusts them to achieve it. As long as they feel they won't be caught, they'll do it.

Being caught is the only reason some faithful people are still faithful. As long as they 100% know the secret will NEVER leak, they'll do it if the outcome is excitingly erótic and pleasurable.

As a man, I love varieties and I'll tell it to your face. If you can't cope, leave. I only live once.

Women are the same, but they don't have the ball to tell their men they love varieties and if he can't cope, he should leave, hence she sneaks to sleep with multiple men even when she's married and her husband trusts her.


If Northern women that all us trust so much and swear they're saints can cheat or attempt to, what will Southern, Eastern and Western women do?

I think husbands should wake up to this reality, ........women not seeing marriage as "sacred" as it used to be in the past, women from 50 years downward don't have such mentality to hold their marriage in high esteem, and believe their body is precious to them and their husbands alone, they want to leave a life, that husband leaving.(polygamous)


My 2 cents for husbands nowadays, just be leaving in self-denial, if you want to leave peaceful life, before you go back to your creator.

Only 1 of 50 wives that still respecting her husband with her body.

Tonnyray:
Of a truth uneasy lies the head that wears the crown.
You never know the weight of some decisions that need to be taken at these levels until you are actually there and taking those decisions.
It's obvious IBB has had little sleep over that major decision.
Who know where we'd be if things had played out differently concerning the annulment?
GOD bless NIGERIA.

Oga any leader you see not taking responsibility for the mistake or failure of his leadership, run away from such man, his advice,even his excuses.(like Babangida like Buhari, like Obasanjo and like Trump)


U also know, excuses will never end in the mouth of humans, check all his comments, no where he admitted that he also a culprit even though, he was the head, ......the govt so fractionalised yet they secured him to be leading the govt

Mathewrichard99:
Probably those two guys that tried killing this idiot were justified to do so afterall.

A disaster of a President would have been averted if that bullet just gets deviated a ounce of an inch, perpendicular to the trimmed of the ear.

It would have hit exactly at the bull eyes, passing through the surface area and hitting right at angle 0⁰.

There would Still be much space to play around with, could even combine the shithole mouth with that hooked snotty nose. Really, a disaster would have been averted at that exact second.

We just need to live with the mistake that was made at that seconds, minutes, hour for the next 3 Yrs and 11months more....

The judge that refused to give judgement that would have saved America will be regretting now, despite the overwhelming evidences to nail him.

He foolish taught he was defending America democracy, not knowing he was surporting the destruction of enviable democracy.

Even the die-hard Republicans that kept on pushing lunatic to represent them as presidential candidate, will all regret their foolish acts.

The mess the madman would create for America, the next 10 presidents won't be able to clean it.

Maybe China would take nos 1 spot before madman finishes his term.

Immediately woman not emotional attached to man again, the next thing is to be looking for his downfall

madridguy:
Investigators also revealed that this was not the first attempt on Sikhosana’s life. Reports indicate that Dlamini had allegedly tried to poison him just a week before the fatal shooting. Sikhosana was on sick leave recovering from the suspected poisoning when he was gunned down.


Fear woman.

You should also fear foolish man

Lamasta:
That decision to annul the election won by MKO ABIOLA destroyed so many things that we are yet to recover from till date as a country

Mention just 2
If Buhari not given opportunity, history would be kind to him that, the most honest and incorruptible man in history of Naija, but not allowed to get there.


In as much, I wish Abiola who won to rule Nigeria, but let say he became president, he would have come and left without visible positive impacts just like others.



The one that saying he is performing surgery on Nigeria's belly now, after 8 years. He would still be complain about surgery without single recovery, and the Fulani that will come after him, will rubbish every surgery and returns Nigeria to 20 years behind as his fellow Fulani usually do, before you know. ....................circle continuing............

Penguin2:
Just because the next in line to Egbetokun is Frank Mba, an Igbo man, Tinubu arranged a Kangaroo Bill to his rubber stamp NASS to keep Egbetokun for 4 years and prevent Igbo man from becoming IGP.

But if Egbetokun is allowed to stay 4 more years after retirement, then all his coursemate should also stay 4 years with him.

And nobody below him must retire while he’s still in active duty.

If not make Egbetokun get out.

And if he goes down to pick another person and throw out dot-national who is line, after IGP Egbetokun?

I think Obi should also announce his own to pacify obedients.

What about employee that stole 100 billion naira at a go? Abi 100 billions in account not making you rich