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JuanDeDios:
Imo. Abia. Kebbi. Cross River. Ondo. I want to be like una when I grow up.

So, you want monkey dey work, baboo dey kolect the royalty for headquarters?

Contributed according to locations of Headquarters and not actual amount.

Preston114:
Recently one of my sisters went to visit our elder sister and found out that her husband has been assaulting her. According to my sister who went visiting, she said the first time she noticed this, she perceived some struggles in the apartment and decided to check what exactly was happening only to find my elder sister pinned to the wall by her husband and held tightly on her neck that she was grasping for breath.

When I was informed about this, it felt so disheartening. I called my sister in question and enquired what was happening as none of us ever knew that she was going through such in her marriage. She swept the topic under the rug with an excuse that it had never happened before and it was just a misunderstanding. I felt something off but I thought we should let it slide since my sister does not seem interested in us taking actions.

Early this morning, I got another call from my other sister that the husband is assaulting her again and this time it was more serious. She shared a video evidence with me and it sincerely broke my heart. However, I asked her to delete the video so it does not erroneously get to the public as she was naked in the video.

It's important to mention that they have been married for more than 10 years. I sincerely don't know the root cause of their issue. However, I find it hard to understand how fellow men get to this point of battering their wives without any sense of remorse.

I'm not in Nigeria so I'm constrained on the actions I can take from my current location. I was making an arrangement with a friend to help me deploy some soldiers do their house but I had to pend it as I was informed that he has left the house and when he does that he probably stays out for a week before coming back home. I guess this is part of the issues they are having.

My parents are quite old hence, I would like to coordinate necessary actions on this issue myself. Although my sister is appealing that we overlook the matter as her concern is to keep her marriage. She's not even considering her safety.

Can I file a report with human rights activist on behalf of my sister? If yes I would appreciate advice on how to do this.

You dnt know the root cause of their fighting, yet you want to file a report.


How did it even sound to you, comming to report your sister's husband to public without having a single clue of root and immediately cause of their marital differences?

The other sisters used to eavesdrop whenever couples are fighting, why can't they use the same tactics to know the root causes?

Nyascobar1414:
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Go chat this to your dad,he really needs it👌

Abi ooo, like father, like son, holes that ur father pursued through out his productive life,by running kiti-kata, which made him abandoned you for proper caring and upbringing, has already turned you to hopeless and useless vagabond, a frustrated mofo, looking for every available chance to see woman's pants.

You never see anything, ur seeds will finish as a result of masturbations before you even plan to start procreation.

Lukgaf:
Sharia in Yoruba land: a call for constructive engagement

By Barrister Muideen Olagunju

In most nations of the world, cultural and religious homogeneity is rare. Even in countries where there is a single or predominant religion, there are tribes or races. Where people differ in cultural, tribal and religious beliefs or practices, there comes obligatory rights.

One of such rights is the right or freedom of thought, conscience and religion. In Nigeria, that right or freedom is guaranteed under Section 38 (1) of the 1999 Constitution. Article 18 of the Universal Declaration on Human Rights states that “everyone has the right to freedom of thought, conscience and religion; this right includes freedom to change religion or belief, and freedom, either alone or in community with others and in public and private, to manifest his religion or belief in teaching, practice, worship and observance”.

Upon return to democratic rule in Nigeria in 1999, 12 Northern states agitated for and got the nod for the adoption of legislations in Islamic criminal law to regulate the conducts of Muslims alongside the long established non-criminal Muslim personal law which covers issues like marriage, divorce, inheritance and maintenance. The North has always had Sharia Court and Sharia Court of Appeal just as the South has always had Customary Court and Customary Court of Appeal. Even in the appointment of Justices to the Court of Appeal and the Supreme Court, there are requirements to the effect that certain number of the appointments must go to Justices who are learned in Islamic personal law for the purpose of being expertly poised to take appeals bordering on Islamic law from a Sharia Court of Appeal. There is a similar provision for appointment of Justices who are learned in customary law to take appeals from a Customary Court of Appeal.

For emphasis, ONLY MUSLIMS can have their conducts regulated under Sharia Law, whether personal (civil) or criminal. It is should be mentioned though that the constitutionality of Islamic criminal law is still up in the air with many questioning the jurisdictional contradiction with the entrenched principle of law that for anyone to charged with a criminal offence, such offence and its punishment must be contained in a written (legislated) law. Since the Glorious Quran and the criminal principles expressed in the four schools of Islamic jurisprudence (Hanafiyyah, Malikiyah, Shafiyyah and Hanbaliyah) are NOT considered written law in Nigeria, it is believed that the 12 Northern states that adopted Islamic criminal law only scaled through because the then president, Olusegun Obasanjo, deliberately withheld the political will to block the adoption, particularly since the adoption was deemed to be well-received in the states and since non-Muslims retained their rights not be subjected to the law.

Muslims in the South of Nigeria, especially in the South West, are many. There has always been agitations, though subdued until recently, for the adoption of MUSLIM PERSONAL LAW which will cover only issues like marriage, divorce, adoption, inheritance and maintenance.

It appears that the agitation is getting louder but taking the WRONG approach of trying to ram it down the throat of government leaves a lot to be desired.

COMMUNICATION is a word we hear every day but it has very wide and important ramifications. In every agitation, “communication” is key.

The approach of suddenly fixing a date for the launch of Sharia Court in Oyo State with Oyo Town being the test case is inherently wrong. On what basis are the founders acting? On account of whose approval? Who builds the courts? Who appoints the judges? By what modes will proceedings, record keeping and enforcement take place?

The news of the launch caused concerns. Some Muslims were asking for more information and the extent of the law. I am sure the dominant concern is about the criminal aspect of Sharia. For non-Muslims, for the lack of adequate information, justification for concern is founded on whether or not it will affect their own rights.

To quell all concerns and objections, Muslim personal law is HARMLESS. Even in some countries, notably India, where Muslims are in the minority, Muslim Personal Law has taken roots and is covered by legislation. In the UK, while Sharia has no force of law, the Muslim Law (Shariah) Council UK is recognized by the government as an organization that offers mediation services to Muslims in UK.

In Nigeria, Muslims in the South are actually at a jurisprudential disadvantage as a result of the absence of Sharia courts. I’ll explain why.

Most Muslims conduct marriage under Islamic Law officiated by Islamic clerics, which for jurisprudential purposes, is at par with Customary Law that is widely in operation among locals in all parts of the South. However, when Muslims embark on divorce proceedings or jostle over inheritance, they have no Islamic court to turn to. They instead often resort to customary courts where there is no guarantee that Muslims will form the panel of judges. Even if the judges are Muslims, they are constrained to apply only customary law. The pertinent question is: why are Muslims able to start their marriages under Islamic law but forced to officially end the marriages under customary law when Islamic codes of conduct are significantly different from Yoruba law and custom?

On the strength of the irrefutable position that Muslim personal law is a right of Muslims that does not in any way clash with the rights of non-Muslims, a strategy of constructive engagement with community stakeholders and the government is the only way to see it through. It will continue to hit the brick wall with the kind of gung-ho approach recently undertaken by the Supreme Council for Shari’ah in Nigeria.

Muslims in Nigeria have to move away of ignorance-sounding rhetorics and actions. What happens to the principle of “in’iqad”? When matters will concern the general public, it is always best to convene meetings to listen to opinions, particularly from experts. I doubt if the Sharia proponents in Oyo State and, by extension, the South West consulted Muslim lawyers and even judges to find a road map to constructive engagement with government and the general public.

Despite the set-back of getting the issue blown out of proportion to the extent that the federal government becomes concerned about security threats in the South West, a proper convention should be held and the right proposals be made to the government.

The ethos of a Muslim community is decidedly higher and MUST ALWAYS take the interest of everyone as important in every conversation. When words and actions cause panic, it’s a big sign that the ethos have fallen short.

Let us learn the art of COMMUNICATION! Depending on how you use it, be sure it opens doors faster and be sure it can get doors slammed in your face.

Allahu A’lam.

Call for engagement! Yet you don't deem it fit to start here by open the thread for wider participations.

Two things I take out from his campaign.


1. It's not forced on non-muslim.

2. It's harmless.

Bellotelli:
Stop this rubbish talk my friend. What do you call the action that sparks up the reaction?

I biliv as ur moniker goes, you take after the footballer that bear the name.

You too need to check ur inflated ego in check, because it destroys Destiny.

Nyascobar1414:
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This sexual market game ain't fair..
Imagine what men are doing in exchange of having kids or sex😹😹..

What if I can control my sexual urge,then I'll be detached from this loosing game..

Men can't just see that nature made us losers😊..

Its okay though..
Friedrich Neiztche has already made me to stare into the abyss,same way the abyss have stared into me🚶

If every woman that men want to dig her hole, open it without resistance, did you ever imagine how world will look like?

Stop thinking like shallow minded and stop killing yourself because of holes, face your life, it's more important to you than that.

7upnigeria:
This decision might be good for Nigeria. I dont see China, America's biggest trade partner agreeing to that order, it could increase China's trade relationship with Africa IF AFRICAN LEADERS use their sense. That decision could be use to balance Africa's currency with China, it can also reduce AFRICA'S dependence on the dollar. Its up to Tinubu to take initiative and work with other African leaders.

I biliv that is signal Tinubu saw in few months ago, that he "re-awaken" the swap deal agreement of currency swap with China. If Trump misbehaving, nations would find alternative way for payment system and move towards China for trade. Before he knows, Trump will be helping China thinking he wants to hurt them

ehikwe22:
Trump is 100% deluded. Out of touch with reality

They call such, "voodoo economist", the reality would soon be done on him in next 6-8 months. That was how he did wen COVID 19 just started, until hundreds of thousands of Americans paid for it, yet humans will never learn,they still insisted he is the man to lead them.

When you start trade war with other nations, will they pay you back by importing from you?

[i]If they stop import from you, what would happen to the USA economy? Will Americans consume everything they want to be producing [/i]themselves?

He is only promoting China to take over world's economy indirectly. Nations would shift attentions to China to trade with them.

Tjra:
So America should import from China what they can manufacture in their country?

In this era of automation, cheap labour overseas isn't an excuse anymore.

Na you no get sense bro.

So other nations should move to USA to establish, what they can do in their own countries?

So every nation should be onlookers and import everything from America while there own economy is in ruin, yet this is America he wants to build a wall round to fence everybody out from.

valiju:
I have vast knowledge about spiritualism and Africa Voodoo,I can bet with my life money ritual is not real.It is a folktales from the pit of hell

Well, your knowledge is shallow and highly Ill informed, nevertheless, be careful in other not become victim.

Many of coconut heads like u, usually know the truth when they reached down the 6 ft.

May your own not be like them, I won't be surprised if you are 30 below.

CommonSense1967:
The saddest part is that so many gullible people in Nigeria still believe that anyone can really become rich via this killing or whatever.
The level of gullibility is very saddening.
The govt and schools should start educating the youths. Money ritual rubbish should also be banned in movies.

I pity who no pity you, ur ignorance is beyond repaired.

I pray ritual killing won't happen to close relations until you know.

The govt u are clamouring to do sensitisation are all culprits in using human body for power, fame, money and protection.

Up Biafra!

Igbo Nation!

Igbo Kwenu!!

SultanOfAbia:
If i arrange a date with a girl and on that day.
When its time to meet I call her
Her phone rings she dosent pick
I give a gap of 30 minutes

The moment i call the 2nd time and she dosent pick up
I block her number immediately

This has resulted to girls in campus gossiping that i have hot temper amd cant take no for an answer.

Me i like being straightfoward
If you agree on a date and on the day of the date, you give excuse or no pick up calls.
I immediately block the girl

I dont care what happened
I block and move on
Some of them come back to explain omo i don move be say i don move.

My sisters are warning me that im being extreme with women. And it will backfire on me. But i no send them

Go and read about NARCISSISM" you are a NARCISSIST.

If you don't keep ur inflated ego in check, it will destroy.

Chinjo2:
If Nigeria was a sane country, that Wike's cousin who was the resident electoral commissioner should have been cooling off in prison by now.
But this is Nigeria where criminals are rewarded.

If Nigeria is a sane country, Obaseki wondnt have become Gov, let alone backing someone for governorship position.

If Nigeria is a sane nation, 9 out 23 won't be lawmakers for whole 4 years to form legislative arm of government in a state.

Great100000:
[b]First AI university to open in Nigeria.



Source: https://techpoint.africa/2025/01/21/techpoint-digest-1011/

I pray it won't just be University of "AI" only in name?


It would have better if you site an institution in form of professional body, where the graduates will come out as a thorough bred AI professionals.

Just like LONDON SCHOOL OF ECONOMICS.

Bendeco02:
What is brothel known for?

Do you go to brother in search of true love?

Brothel is where you goes to have sex and pay for it.

Why not tell me how you toast them and they fall for you without exchanging your money for the love

You're yet to understand the point

Oya go and date or marry the ones in brothels na

Relate my comment to ur comment and not trying to win point.

this is ur point, .........."you have to make sure ur pocket is deep before asking for Igbo lady around you for relationship"?

Meanwhile, Did you want to buy "love"of Igbo girl, to have relationship with you?

rickleye:
At a barbershop man …… not exactly the best place for a civilized conversation. Have the convo at a bank or church crowd go different now

That's the best place to gather such opinions, where you will hear undiluted minds pouring out, besides, such category of people form majority of the population.


Poor people are farrrrrrrr wicked than the rich

CallTheCops:
So I was at the barbershop to cut my hair, and a discussion arose about the timileyin guy who murdered and behead an innocent girl..

I couldn't believe what I was hearing from the men there, I was shocked!!

One man said "i no go too blame the guy, country hard"
Another said "You know wetin the girl do am wey make am kill her?, we no know so make we no judge".
And the most shocking was when another man said " the guy sef no get sense, how you go carry person head wey blood still dey drip put am for one paper bag, na him loose guard himself, if na experienced person, he for tie the head inside like 4 paper bags, e no get how anybody for suspect anything. People dey run am na, no be today".

These were mature men o, not young boys.
I was so surprised and sad.

Most Nigerians lack empathy and conscience. It's why corruption, fraud and blood rituals are in prevalence all over the country.

I guess you are a stranger on this forum, if not, this forum is enough for you to know who WE really are in Naija.

That's more reason , you should have little clique of friends, the more of friends, the more you endanger your life to heartless people, that gathered together to form a nation.

Bendeco02:
My point is that, they marry them due to their status.

Of course, all women (@least over 90%) target is to marry wealthy husband.

The guy i replied was trying to make it look as if there's special character or behavior that attracts Igbo women to Yoruba guys which all of us know it's a fallacy. Which one is liberal ?

You sef check the Igbo girls around you as yoruba guy you're. Can you toast and date any of them without your pocket speak for you?

If Igbo girl really want to date for true love, they go for fellow Igbo guys.

Talk in your experience and exposure ok. Several Igbo girls littered streets, looking for who will be their man.

When you are a guy, who has "nothing & nothing" to show as quality man, he would be thinking his pocket must deep at all cost before going to certain woman.


As if Igbo ladies/women not among females in brothels, in which anybody digging kobokobo.

madridguy:
Since they're still unidentified then how come they tagged them as Nigerians? What if they're from Congo or Malawi.

Check their faces, you will not only identify if they are Nigerians ,but also the tribe they belong.



Na business!

DuttyChuks:
Liars! I heard that the man paid for his freedom!

You won't read with patience but rushing to attack like mad dog, the statement says, "the ransom was recovered from the criminals",

Well, maybe you don't know the meaning of the word RANSOM"

kingbee90:

That is one thing with these people.
They have the highest number of Daddy G. Os and alfas in the country but are notorious for ritual killings, human flesh consumption & skull mining.

I guess this is one the G O's!

2aces:
Men of these days are becoming too emotional, an emotional man is a ticking time bomb waiting to detonate.

We are transforming from past to present, (A CONFLICTING NORMS OF THE SOCIETY, IN THE PAST & PRESENT). Women not ready to leave like in the past, on the other hand, men not ready to accept reality of the present.

WOMEN NO LONGER SEE SEX AS SACRED, THEY GIVE IT OUTSIDERS, WITHOUT GUILTY CONSCIENCES, MEN NOT READY TO ACCEPT SUCH BITTER AND UGLY REALITY,

Bookhub:
If you meet 10 rich Yoruba men its likely 7 will marry igbo women, infact it's the dream of most Yoruba men to marry igbo women but the major challenge they have is the cost so it's left for the rich or financially capable.

Yoruba men love to marry igbo women for just one reason and that reason is loyalty,igbo women are not perfect and yes igbo women love money but once they see a man capable of taking care of them they stay loyal and supportive ,don't get me wrong I am not saying all igbo women are loyal but let's tell our selves the truth between a married igbo lady and married Yoruba lady which is easier to get into their pants you guess Is as good as mine, so when you see Yoruba men simping for igbo women there is a logical reason foe it and it's an acceptable simping.

Hypocrite boy, u no talk on post they post on front page Ni? We are expecting your foolish and myopic opinion oooo.

Bobloco:
https://dailypost.ng/2025/01/22/transfer-my-case-to-southeast-nnamdi-kanu-to-chief-judge/

Better tell her to re- assign your case to a dot-national's judge.

Domainer1999:
Only if he met you a Virgin otherwise, our Elder Stateman @Lalami3232 has the golden message for you.

Is ur gender met her as virgin too? When did it start that only one gender must remain virgin before marriage?


Stop taking drink that too harmful to ur mental health for you not to become useless father without proper sense of judgement.

budaatum:
The false assumption here is that a behaviour is innate, when behaviours are actually things you learn by repeatedly behaving.

If an introvert decides to stop behaving introvertishly, and instead learns and starts practicing the behaviours of an extrovert, that person will stop being an introvert and become extrovertish.

As for how long, that depends on the individual and how much work you put in to changing your behaviour. And for conflict, a wise person would know when it pays to be an introvert or an extrovert, and will see them more as tools or weapons in their armour to be used when circumstances require.

Your submission is 100% inaccurate, if not fallacy, some behaviours are innate, most especially introvert and extrovert in which it's almost impossible to learn, a jovial person would just be seen herself/himself friendly with people around him effortlessly,while someone who is not jovial would be struggling to be friendly with people, infact, the more he tries to do, the more he behaves abnormally or even end up embarrassing himself.
Gift/Tallent that God not embedded in you, wen doing it, you would notice that, no matter how resilient or practice you put up, you will "never-ever" meet up with person who has it as innate.

In local parlance they do say...........ABINIBI DIFFERENT FROM ABILITY!

verminnel:
Wondering if there's possibility for one to learn new behavior, like an introverted person changing to be an extrovert through learned habits? How long on average does it take for habit to be ingrained as behavior in an individual? Will the old and new behavior conflict in the individual's disposition?

Every behaviour can be learnt, innate or otherwise, it would only take time but you cannot be good as the one God originally deposited into your body as genetic makeup.

That's why you see some people single or acting effortlessly while others would be struggling to do it, but both are still doing it.

Meanwhile, if an introvert wants to become extrovert, he would start going outside more, and be interacting with people, to make it easier,start with "friends of ur friends", you will become friend with them and the chains continue.


NB. My good advice to you is,.....better be an introvert and have few friends than extrovert with many friends, having lots of friends won't be beneficial to you, if you wish to progress and go far in life, so many people are bad and parasites, the more you have them, the more the chance to enter you negatively.

Bookhub:
If you meet 10 rich Yoruba men its likely 7 will marry igbo women, infact it's the dream of most Yoruba men to marry igbo women but the major challenge they have is the cost so it's left for the rich or financially capable.

Yoruba men love to marry igbo women for just one reason and that reason is loyalty,igbo women are not perfect and yes igbo women love money but once they see a man capable of taking care of them they stay loyal and supportive ,don't get me wrong I am not saying all igbo women are loyal but let's tell our selves the truth between a married igbo lady and married Yoruba lady which is easier to get into their pants you guess Is as good as mine, so when you see Yoruba men simping for igbo women there is a logical reason foe it and it's an acceptable simping.

Do away with jingoism mentality, if you wish to go far in life!

If your spouse/lovers(man or woman) is having affairs outside, you dnt have problems with the person but your partner, still not clear why you would leave your partner and be fighting outsider, when it's ur partner is the main culprit.

Sirchiboy:
From experience.
This is 100 percent fact.
May God help us

If you are indeed introvert, staying indoor wont be an issue to you, since your genetic make up has built to absorb it, meanwhile, if ur genes make up is wired towards being an introvert, thre is noway, it can damage ur mental health .


I think it's poverty that consuming your mental health.