₦airaland Forum

ppogba:
Nice observation.

To me, it is. more of an induction into " The Married before association of Nigeria".

With this induction comes training about how to enter the " market" fully and enjoy. the life of your head.

Unfortunately, there is hardly anything for the newcomer to " sell" again.

Thousands of boys and men already line up as news broke, to taste what baba had been enjoy alone for long, they line up with millions of naira to dash away if she opens it, when they finally tasted it, they would feel like "alpha male" and won imaginary trophy.

cococandy:
What’s bad influence?

If you cannot see those two women are bad women influence, which every decent person should avoid like plaque, ......I mean "DECENT" OOOO, IM NOT TALKING SOMETHING ELSE BUT "DECENT", THAT PERSON HAS SKELETON IN CUPBOARD.


ADAGE. ....SHOW ME YOUR FRIEND AND I WILL TELL YOU WHO YOU ARE.

BIBLE ......CAN TWO WORK TOGETHER WITHOUT AGREEMENT? AMOS 3:3


BYE.

cococandy:
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Right. Because they’re two women who left bad marriages instead of staying like Annie did. Thus compromising her mental health in the process.

This is what I’m talking about. Y’all shame women who leave. The ones who stay are expected to suck it up and be okay no matter what the man puts them through. As soon as they can take it anymore and leave (or die), the rhetoric changes to “why didn’t they leave sooner”. All the while actively shaming those who left. Women will never do anything right in y’all’s eyes.

Cc otherway

I don't shame women who left, but strongly against bad influence

If you urself can't see, the two friends are bad influence, well.

papyjaypaul:
Don't forget she is an actress. This couple seems to love the drama of the public. I suggest they meet their family people to resolve their differences PRIVATELY.

When I observed the drama around this news, I remembered both of them are into showbiz Nd this is not the first time they are in marital controversy.

The marriage parked up no be today, the marriage don be toxic for years, baba only revealed it to the world in other to officially update his marital status.

DyshApp:
Actress Annie Idibia has reportedly been admitted to a rehabilitation centre following the public announcement of her separation from her husband, legendary musician 2Baba.

This update was shared by controversial journalist Stella Dimoko Korkus, who revealed that Annie is currently in a “very bad state.”

According to the journalist, the actress is being cared for by her close friends and co-stars, singer Tiwa Savage and media personality Toke Makinwa.

In a post captioned:



https://www.instagram.com/p/DFUt-Nkse8o/?igsh=MXd2anJ1eDRuajhpOA==.

The news comes shortly after 2Baba publicly confirmed their separation, with the finalization of their divorce reportedly underway. The announcement sent shockwaves across social media, as the couple, who have faced public scrutiny in the past, had been regarded as one of the most iconic celebrity unions in Nigeria.

Fans and well-wishers have since taken to social media to express their concern for Annie, wishing her strength and recovery during this challenging time. Neither Annie Idibia nor her representatives have made an official statement about the reports.

This development marks another chapter in the turbulent relationship between the actress and the music star, whose marriage has often been plagued by public controversies.

Ooooooooh, you made Tiwa and Toke ur very close friends and you are not preparing to become single mother.

How would those bad influences be a close friend to a married woman, without poisoning her mind and making the marriage unbearable for husband?

I usually tell married woman, wen u married, avoid man as friend, the same way you avoid single mother(DIVORCEE like plaque) no good advice that would ever come out from them.(90% not all anyway)

Gandollar:
Stop regurgitating. You can't even string two words together but you keep ranting like a goat on heat.

I guess you are from dot-republic, even though your moniker suggest you are from family that do steal money under babariga, anyway,all nah business.

Edygrin:
I so much admire what the royal fathers did and I respect Afe Babalola for withdrawing the case out of respect.

If Nnamdi Kanu had not insulted everybody down south, everyone would be pleading on his behalf but man felt he was the only righteous man and everyone else was either a saboteur or stupid.

They pleaded and govt forgave him, only to go back and did more, "bobo" latter realised that, his action was bringing whole lots of free millions in dollars from gaulible Biafrans, that was why Ekpa quickly entered his shoe wen "bobo" entered trap in Kenya. Again,Ekpa continue getting free money all over the world from citizens of dot nation until his own cup too full.


It seems every Biafruaud now fear to continue free money enterprise, because they now realise that, no free money even in Freetown, it's a bait.

She was cheating and you can't leave her? You must date her by fire by force.

You that committing Fornication, God never strike you dead o, but for you, you quickly carried out judgment, for the lady they haven't given you as a wife.

Flows001:
What the f*ck is wrong with RWANDA?

As tiny as the country, it has been a major instigator of the Congolese war since the late 90s, that is so bad, and I wonder why DR Congo cannot also attack Rwanda, DRC is the second most populated country in Africa, but how they keep tolerating the excesses and killings from both the Rwandan army and Rwandan backed rebel groups.. It is so annoying

No be by size ooooo, buffalo bigger than wild dogs oooo, but wild dogs often turn Buffalo to carcass.

Nothing stops Nigeria to use the same approach to oust dictator in Niger.


Every stronger nation is subduing the Weaker nations, not even when an imperialist has taken over most powerful nation.

Lampy336:
I just pray no one should experience infidelity then you will know that it's not an easy thing to keep catching a cheating wifey..

So, it difficult thing to tell promiscuous wife to leave your house.

Well you will find it easy to spend most of your productive years behind the bar, before you come out, the wife would have been officially assign to ur neighbour as wife.

The least fraud now starting from 1 billion, nobody fraud millions again.

Abee79:
You know, you didn't need to respond to my comment . . .

Ok, but erase the notion that they can't eat or drink if you dnt send them money.

Next time she ask, tell her to focus and hold tight her marriage in high esteem.

Wealthoptulent:
Women will only lady, when they KNOW they OWN THE HOME, wise Woman builds, foolish one SCATTERETH!
He makes the money, he owns the Fame, def it comes with SHORT COMINGS(SHORT COMINGS = CROSS)

Even when the man is devil incarnate

Even when the man treat the woman like slave

Even if he tells the woman to eat his shit.

The wise woman must endure to build her home.

Husband and wife must hold their marriage in high esteem, what you dnt want husband to do to ur daughter, dnt do it for your someone daughter. The same goes to wife.

mu2sa2:
Funny, isreali army so good and efficient they could capture hezbollah weapons but couldn't locate hostages held in tiny Gaza trip. Hahahaha, world's most fearsome/efficient army indeed! Hamas is coming, run, run for cover!

Retarted boy doesn't know that, if they want to forcebly locate and rescue those abducted, they are putting their lives in danger.


When u are looking for something precious to you, you must put maximum cautions in other not to loose them, together with stealer (thief)

Almiron:
These people think Biden is still in office. This is Trump's era, mess around and find out. This will send a clear message to others not to mess with Trump. He can cripple your economy with a stroke of a pen.

Some misguided liberal apologists and those pushing the Russia fake news propaganda are celebrating in another thread. Y'all are either misinformed or uninformed. This is Trump 2.0, not 'sleepy' Biden, if you act carelessly, you’ll face the consequences.

Nlfpmod frontpage boss

And you think Trump is a world field Marshal?.

Anyway, a slave cannot reason like Freeborn.

Bola4boy:
oponu, you're quick to call me broke because of my opinion. Pele, mikano generator owner.
The woman was there for him all these while but they still divorced and only bill gate was ranting rubbish, abi he was forced to sign divorce papers ni?
Ati bill gate o, Melinda o, and yourself are all confused entities.

In as much that you acted similar to what the girl called you, but for me, I think you commented base on ur age and experiences,I won't surprised if you are 30 yrs or below.

Let me analysis Gate's situation.

This is a man, who has, at least 100 billion dollars and aged 70+, the years remaining for the man before he leaves his money/assets, for people to use the way they want, "let say 20", so, how much did he want to give the ex wife, that born all her children for him, that would make him feel bad?

The remaining assets, can he finish it, even if God extends is life span to 150 years? NO.


You guys, maybe as a result of age or ignorance, perhaps just to troll. .........The space wife/husband occupies in human heart is too precious,not even woman, that had been with u since your youth, the woman that you spent almost all ur entire adult life with.


Thre is no way, a rational man won't be jealous wen he sees ordinary ex girlfriend with another man, let alone, a whole wife that born all ur children for you, most especially if she doesn't offend you, but separation caused by the man himself. My friend, not easy to see woman you will love and share affection with at your old age ooo......


Mr Gate is already aged, he needs caring woman by his side now, more than any other time.

PresidObi:
It's a crying shame that Lagos couldn't generate at least 180 trillion dollars from our ports and all our company headquarters stationed there. I think there is heavy fraud going on there. They must be hiding some revenue.

It's a shame on you that ,the money generated from ports is not VAT, (vat means value added tax.)


Money generated in port is levies/charges

VAT is Consumption TAX.

use energy you are using to wail on every thread, to upgrade yourself in areas of politics and governance.

Westves:
Thank you, my brother. Incompetence permeates all that we do, even down to porn, agriculture, primitive industries you'd assume we should have perfected due to experience. We simply stagnate mentally

Regarding electoral malpractice, low intellect can't be blamed. We borrowed a culture that doesn't work. Yes, democracy is more civil than monarchy and dominion, but we lack the means to achieve it: INTEGRITY. Simple and short

We don't possess the basic honesty to carry out one election without misconduct and rigging. Democracy itself is even flawed because of a number of factors:

1) age is too rudimentary a criteria to make one eligible as polity

2) many who know an aspirant is not worth his salt should not made to pay for the delusion of other voters

3) net worth is a poor determinant for highlighting political candidates. Being rich should not be enough for one to standout as our only options for leaders

It's a long list in my document but these are the ones that come to mind quickest. At the very least, we were supposed to improve on the system we plagiarised. Instead, we not only copied it verbatim but bastardized it

So these are the issues that should be addressed before elections can be reliable. If the process is gotten right, NOBODY will contest or dispute the results. Because then, you know it's not an emotional decision or one that favours you on an personal level. It's not about what horse you're backing but, objectively, the best in the race

The reason there is still a smokescreen of bribery, violence, ballot snatching etc, is because there is a platform for doing so. Bvas came close to fixing it but nothing was transmitted. Results were announced in the middle of the night. Everybody was gloomy for a day or two and went about their businesses

I'm not a violent person and I acknowledge the catastrophic effects of war. Before I suggest physical harm, it's because it's the only way there is to upheaval the mess, overhaul and try something more foolproof

It's a hill I'm willing to die on. We can NEVER conduct a fair election as is, and announce that result. We are not honest enough, ESPECIALLY in our everyday lives. Has nothing to do with poverty or malnutrition. I will say it's more of orientation, standards. We grow up content with the bare minimum and that cutting corners makes one a sharp guy. From the cradle, it's institutionalised

If we practice military and latter democracy, and still fail, which one are you now suggesting it would work?


Stop blaming things that are not working as a result of democracy you said you borrowed, mention one thing your country is doing that's working? EDUCATION, RELIGION, INTERNET etc.

If these things aren't working, it means, it's not because we are practicing democracy, that making things not working, but ourselves. we need revaluation and reorientation.


Let leave politics & governance and come down to we the masses, the way masses are dealing with one another, by way of cheating, manipulations, extortion and lord over one another, is that the way nations progress?

Jakumo:
Fela's open confrontation with the Nigerian government paved his path to destruction. He failed to realize that popularity does NOT equate with power, so he became open in his disapproval of what powerful men were doing in government positions.

It was only a matter of time before the fate of all dissidents against despotism in the Third World would befall Fela, when his house was burned down and his mother murdered right before his eyes by federal troops sent on a mission of comprehensive destruction that was intended to serve as a cautionary tale for all potential agitators.

You guys must blame govt for everything, at least to make urself happy.

Fela destruction is self caused and stop attributing it to govt of the day, Fela wasn't first and won't be the last to confront govt of the day.

Fela destroyed as a result of wayward lifestyles (AIDS, DRUGS etc) and not govt.

meobizy:
Good. The same holy book says a Christian shouldn’t judge. Live life as you deem fit and let the other person do the same.

Yet, in the Bible, thre was so many figures appointed to judge over people. Infact, a chapter in the Bible coined Judge 1&2.

eepeepook:
Somebody will create a thread asking “what is the state of Nairaland?” Nairaland will remain useless as long as stupid topics like this make front page.

The topics that people will learn from, full inside, but useless and uneducated topics keep hitting the front page, their missions still not clear.


IS IT BY FORCE TO MARRY A PREGNANT LADY? This type of topic hitting front page, on Sunday morning.

I imagine the personality of the mod that pushes this type of topic to front page, we are expecting them to push several topics that would demean Christian faith soonest.

AfroKnight:
Emmmm no.

Belle no be proposal.

If you believe your girlfriend is terrible and she would turn out to be a bad wife, my brother, avoid marrying her. Avoid a situation where she has legal rights to your abode, your food, your property and finances.

Highest! She go swear for you.

No be today. You too, swear for her back.

If her parents use oloopa to carry you, say you no wan marry their pikin, ehn no wahala, when you come out you too, use oloopa to carry her papa.

Give them craze for craze to the extent that her parents will be the ones advising her to avoid “useless husband”. Don’t be so shy or timid that you’d enter serious problem.

A bad wife is not an easy affliction to endure.

However, if your babe is your dream girl with compatible character and values, don’t miss the opportunity to marry her.

Regardless of your decision, be financially responsible for her during pregnancy.

Caveat: Do this last one ☝️ if you know the baby is yours.

.....and you started your life journey with married & remarried?

The reason why you guys, don't considering your own life utmost priority first, with proper planning, but always, so concerned about women is saying alot about Naija men, was this how our father did during their times?

Why won't we have disorganised and disjointed society? You know she would latter be a bad wife,yet you were doing flesh to flesh. You didn't flee the very first time you aware of her useless character.

Wike a wicked man will be the last man to effect it, that was how he stopped promotions for years in Rivers, but had money for own personal profigacy, the money to go to media to show case, spoon he bought will be readily available.

For humans development it's zero.

Kobojunkie:
The right to bodily autonomy — the right to one's body without fear of violence or discrimination — is not given up in marriage. I do agree that a woman or man should not be blamed for refusing his/her partner's sex even in marriage. Of course, this also means that a man or woman has every right to get a divorce if he/she is not comfortable with being denied sex.

Don't rewrite your opinion to win point, answer the question OP posted.

Who should be blamed for divorce" which caused by lack of sex from wife.

1. HUSBAND

2. WIFE

3. DEVIL

4. IN LAWS

5. NAIRALANDERS.

MONEY247:
Don't blame serialists and psychotic people when they misbehave.... some times life happened to them and and they take on new characters forms and habits that become psychologically irreparable and damaging to society and their self...


1) Loss
It could be loss of anything
2) Association
Mingling with the wrong people.
3) Environment
Tough and criminality thriving environments can alter people identity
4) circumstances
Situations they find out themselves at a particular present time...
5) Experience
What some have gone through in life can alter their beliefs and behavior...

If you feel you and deviating from societal values and Start cravings for things unusual
Like
Suicide, to rape the opposite gender, to kill someone, to revenge, or just anything that makes society not safe...
Please relate to your pastor or spiritual leader and also seek God's mercy.....
It's well with us in Jesus name

Spiritual fathers? Can they do it like clinical psychologists? I doubt if you ever known, a profession who is professional in diagnosis and treating psychological traumas.

All these pastors, imams or babalawo cannot treat psychopaths "effectively".

Everything about spiritual people is devil caused it and 75% of psychopaths aren't spiritual related.

franchasofficia:
That's also true.


But most times its three things that brings disagreement or fight in most marriages. They are:


1.) Sex matters

2.) Food

3.) Money

4.) Some in-laws


As the man, if you can avoid complaining about the 4 things I mentioned above by not expecting much from the start and manage the situation like nothing, believe me you will enjoy less issues in your marriage

If man avoids ur 1st-3, what remains? Tell me the reasons of going into marriage outside your number 1 -3?

Indeed, you are a great judge!

goodman41:
Update on https://www.nairaland.com/8304810/want-arrest-wife-family

My wife went to women afair to report me. So I got invitation letter to come to women afair next week.

I don't think I will go there because am planning to go to court to seek for custody of my two boys. I don't want to be sending her money for my boys. Please what do you suggest should I go or not?

If indeed you are clean , you won't fear to go to women affair, meanwhile, the court you are heading to, hope you know, you will also meet women affair there? I doubt if you know that you aren't going to regular court but family Court. In family Court, woman affaira is also represented there.

Abee79:
Na them dey miss me! 😅🤣🤣
They still call me for financial support, even though they are both married.
Thank God for the heartbreaks and disappointments. God is indeed a wise God 🙏

If you position yourself as father Christmas, people would bill you until you bleed,even if they are comfortable. That's naija people (man and woman) for you, it's not necessary they aren't doing fine over there.(Stop giving them henceforth, and see, if they won't survive without you)


Only a fool spending his hard earned sweat on exes(not even married ones), by believing false narrative within himself that, he is better than those who replaced him.

gloryman91:
A Nation full of deceits will continue to fool herself.

How does this affects order faiths?

This is meant for only Muslims interested in their religion.

God's Guidance.

Abi oooo,but start fooling yourself first, before castigating others.
Go to Kano and see how Hisbah affects other faiths.


The last time I checked, you are supposed to be slave to Allah and not religion. But when religion takes away common sense from you, you become a slave to that religion and start causing a threat to peace in the society.

Wizardslayer:
The problems with Islam ..

They always want special treatment, while neglecting the feeling of others. They go about doing it forcefully with threats and violence.

Just imagine what will happen if Christians go about demanding for canon laws in every place they are.

@ ur striked, they always want to dominate

Just imagine, if world super-powers which are mostly Christians forcing their religion on Muslims which are mostly weaker nations.

Think about the feelings of others before you act, leave and let leave.

mrvitalis:
Yess ooh and what can you do about it

If you people don't like it you know exactly what to do

Tell political leaders from dot-nation to do the needful, they prefer to be "Govs, Senators and most importantly ruler over more than 200 million people, they want to have access to Crude oil, Gold, Gas, they don't want to be president over their own tiny nation.

So, if political gladiators ready, they know what to do.