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You think properly before you start family.

Access the woman you plan to marry, critically,if two of you can go through the journey till end.

Spouse must have at least 35% of all the 3 criteria I listed below, for them not to end in marriage failure.

Love, understanding and financial resources.

jeff1993:
As a Man, "your" children are more important to u than ur spouse.

Make money ... Enough money to be comfortable and meet ur needs and want cos if money no dey, ur wife fit run leave u.

Drop it Ego and apologize as a man when u are wrong.

When u have a wife who loves and respect u regardless of your financial strength, don't ever ever hurt her.

Your mentality about ur first point will definitely affect your last point. Infact, your entire opinions completely contradictory and absurd.

Think properly before you act.

Bobodee09:
The man who always put himself out there as a saint.

ObJ is the foundation of the problem we are facing today.

A very greed and selfish man. No one must outshine him ,he always has problem with anything good coming from other people.

WHY WON'T YOUR BP HIGH AS YOU CONFIRMED IN YOUR OTHER POST?

Read it again before you continuing your weeping, the man himself said, he was not about party politics but faulty foundation, but unknown man must wail to make himself happy.


Thank God another person has already shut ur mouth up, how you people use to feel happy still not known, and how people around you cope with a complete nasty and bitterness person is worrisome.

When lamentations too high it would definitely bring HP.

Mikel99:
I don't know. Whenever I make eye contact with girls or want to ask something from them, they seem to frown or kind of give me facial impression that they don't want to talk to me. This happens to me a lot at school or with random strangers. I have even noticed that I am the only one who is treated that way. In fact, girls don't sit beside me for long but you will see same girls sitting with other guys for hours. I asked my friend if it's because I am ugly. They said nothing is wrong with me that I am good looking. Trust me, I am the most cheerful guy you will ever meet and it's not as if I frown everytime or something. I sometimes think that it's because I am good looking, but what baffles me is that girls act cheerfully around guys that I can say are more handsome than me. I dress well so I don't know what is wrong.
Is there anyone here going through the same situation as me?

Ur facial expressions not friendly, to complicate it, you aren't a jovial person, so, it would take great effort to make women ur girlfriends

TimeManager:
https://www.thecable.ng/efcc-arraigns-nwabuoku-over-n1-96bn-money-laundering/

Camp

Umuinyioku:
Well, it's your opinion.

After ridiculing me with "tiny in a circle" population? And you expect tangible answers from me

Are you happy with what's panning out in the polity with troubles here and there? Is it how best to govern a country

I expect you to say Amen and appreciate me.


If someone calls you a black man,or a christian, does she insult you? So far, you are black and Christian.

If China block USA owns platform, they should also expect retaliation


That's what they call, "tit for tat"
if your enemy bilivs he has coconut head, you too, proof you have iron-head.

TruthU87:
More than 80 Palestinians killed by Israeli strikes since ceasefire ...

Source
BBC: https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/crke088e27lo

I think few miscreants here,said, Hamas won and Jew lost yesterday.

Umuinyioku:
What's your problem here?

Why not fight so hard so that Fulani hegemony and expansionism doesn't real its ugly head in Yoruba Land?

Oke Ogun in Oyo is battling Fulani influences. Ditto Oyo Town where Islamic Court is being established. These are worrisome news. But you prefer to comment on Igbo affairs.

You will all have heartache because Igbo affairs.

Mtchweee!

Are you not happy that people are joining your nation? Hope you know, you guys have been sidelined in scheme of things? No thanks to ur, "tiny in a circle" population. I biliv if you guys expand east-west & south-north. Who knows, Almighty would look down from heaven to answer your prayers.

Slytiger:
And steal the lands of minorities.

Abi, everything that would make us achieve "golden trophy", which we had been yearning for long time, but keep on eluding us.

Dot nation wants to expand at all costs.

Even the blinds see it clearly, fighting over individual you cannot match, even if you come to this world 3rd time, instead for him to cooperate fully with other players for the team to achieve much more success, he busy chasing Shadows.


No wonder Madrid is retrogressing since he joined them.

Ekele22:
my worry is if she sees me like a bad boy

No intension of seeking her attention just as I posted

If indeed, no intention to seek her attentions, you wouldn't even aware, if she is uneasy at your sight.

The way you are looking at her, has been disturbing her stability, she is not toddler, every woman knows when man has interest in her, either by his actions or Inactions.
I pray you won't be roasted as you said earlier before February ends. When your oga finally pushes you to job market, you won't tell people how you neglected work they assigned to you and instead pursuing oga daughter.

kroger:
Where is A.Y and his wife today. Wife will come and go but your mum is irreplaceable.

I STRONGLY BELIEVED THAT WAS, HOW YOUR OWN MOTHER CAME AND LEFT IN YOUR PAPA HOUSE.

I guess AY's mother has completely moved in, to stay with her darling son till rest of her life.

Meanwhile, you are going to marriage, expecting wife to come and go, was that how your mother came and left? Infact, you guys needs deliverance and your way of thinking is something else.

EmperorCaesar:


OP, thanks for the bolded sections of your article. It made the whole task easier for us all. We could see at a glance, what could have taken us 50mins of thorough search.


Congrats to them and they should keep the flag flying.


To the most important part of the message, lets discuss the ethnic origin of the aforementioned individuals on that list.

There seem to be recurrent names of people from a particular region, Why would half of the entire list be concentrated in just one region of the country?

How biased can Biden be? Whats with the Yorubanization of even a random list of excellent Nigerians that was collated 10000 miles away from the country?

We the dot-nationals no go gree.

PresidObi:
Am here to watch as those people from regions where there is Godfather controlling all their states are fighting to establish a Godfather in Rivers state so they can siphon the resources through Wiked bluetooth

At least, better for them, cos they use that tactics to lead the nation, since 4th Republic, while the big headed from tiny Republic who do not have godfather, have been looking from afar, the throne of authority.

OredoPikin:
U cant be the most educated and constantly produced leaders that forged all their educational documents
Ur leaders represent u and tells the kind of education u guys have.
For every 3 high ranking political office holder from SW
2 forged their certificates 🤣
All ur lies and propaganda have been bursted😁

I like your submission, but Igbo who are known as most educated,often ended up as spare parts sellers in a slum. Little wonder, nobody considering any "dot-national" qualified enough, to rule the nation.

......and if he doesn't go to law school ? When has it become criminal not to go to law school after completion of BSC degree in law?

wiseoneking:
Your second paragraph mocks the whole submissions. Gaza is destroyed and death toll is highest, yet you claim you did better. You are regrouping to be decimated and destroyed not knowing that Israel has increased both militarily and with far more highly sophisticated missiles. Presently, Palestinian depends on Israel for the energy, jobs etc

Stop replying mad man, .....for people looking at you,not to be thinking 2 mad men are fighting.

malakaimoscondo:
u are I'll informed....your own is just hatred toward Muslims....go see what decision pundits in Israel are saying regarding the seize 🔥 deal....they believe it a capitulation of israel to hamas.u won't understand...no one single war objective was achieved.hamas still waxing stronger ... military graves in israel is filed u..no more sight to bury fallen soldiers.u will understand better its just a matter of time...

I pity who no pity you sir. People around you should be vigilant.

MondayOmoAdugbo:
I'll fly my drone, nothing will stop it from flying High and wide.

Nonsense ingredients 😏

The picture below is youths in age bracket that executed in Congo yesterday .

The teen u see weeping, was once doing gragra than u, today he is RIP.

EVEN ONLINE THE LONG ARM OF LAW WILL CATCH ANYONE GOES AGAINST THE LAW

trium:
Also stop bringing people into your house just to return a book. Meet people outside, only bring people you want in your lives to your home or else, your house is open to all

Infact, he should stop sending her to market alone, at least to separate her from random guys.


Wen the common sense losses, the owner of the brain worse than lunatic.

Getright247:
I will need some opinions to be sure I do not blow the entire scenario out of proportion and take drastic action without justification. I will try to be as brief as possible. I married my wife, and she joined me in Netherlands where I was working. We have 2 kids, and we have had some struggles in the marriage in the past which I now attribute to family influence from Nigeria. My main concern now is that back in 2020, we had a serious argument, and she felt I was not giving her attention and that I maybe having affair outside. My conclusion at that point was that , she had too much time to chase shadows because she was not working. She has access to my phone, my social media account but that was not enough for her, at a point she was constantly suspecting who I talked to, what we talked about and so on. Then I decided to lock and privatize all my account because I felt she was only interested in finding what did not exist. I remember we once had an argument in which she said if I deprived her of sex she can go out and get it, she even said she was seeing someone. I took the statement seriously and it became a big problem my parents and her own parents back home got involved and they all concluded it was a statement out of anger. I did my investigation and found nothing and decided to let it go after she begged and apologized and claimed it was not true that she wanted to make sure I feel the pain if I was cheating. few years into our marriage after she joined me, we had a serious fight and within that period I saw she registered on a dating site, ( the profile show looking for men 30-50 in the area) I saw that screenshot the page and kept it aside and confronted her she denied that she did not know and that she just got email and thought it was like face book and she registered. That response was not adding up as she used her picture on the site. At that time, we already had our second child, after threatening to leave her, the problem escalated, and we finally settled. Even when I took it seriously at that time, I was convinced nothing has happened and we moved on.
Mid 2021 she started working as care giver, in Netherland, at the end of the year the company where she worked had a party for all staff. She attended and gave me gist of her experience and the drink and dancing etc. but never mentioned at that time about a Nigerian guy she met and was working in the same company. The same guy happens to be a junior from my school and was still a student at that time.
Knowingly or unknown to him that his colleague was my wife. The community where we leaved was quite small and I practically know 80% of the Nigerians there both student and workers. Late 2023 I got transferred to anther city in Netherland we relocated to my new city. I came across this guy just last month and he was now married with his own family and working in the same city. He was not my very close friend but someone I know. We got talking and he needed a book for research which I had and was not using. I obliged to give it to him. I sent him my address so that he can come pick it up but he was saying I can just take the book in my car so we can meet and he will collect it. After like a week he decided to come to my house for the book.

Before the guy came my wife asked who the guy I was expecting was, I showed her the guy pictured on WhatsApp and she claimed not to know the guy. She was asking if the guy was married. Unknown to her that I already saw the picture from the company party with the other colleague and the guy was boldly in the picture. (only 7 people were in the picture) I then told her the guy was also working as a caregiver in our previous city. It was at that point she said, “or is it the Nigerian guy I met at the company party that year?” I just kept quiet, knowing she was lying.
Finally, the guy came to my house, I expected he would come with his family, but he just parked outside with his family in the car and came in alone claiming they were in a hurry to meet up with another appointment. When my wife saw him, she claimed not to know him and was asking if he was at the company party, but the guy was acting confused and said he could not remember, in my presence. I gave him the book and escorted him outside and they left. Just less than 5 mins after they left my house the guy called me back that I should tell my wife that he can now remember that he was in the company party. My wife body language was not normal and she asked me who called I told her it was the guy and she was asking what did he say? I just told her something else. Throughout that day my wife was acting too nice, I could see she was trying to make everything normal. I was quiet and pretended that I did not know anything.
My main concern now is considering my wife’s statement and past attempts, did she have anything with this guy or was the guy asking her out at that time, because the guy claimed to be single at that point. Why was she lying about not knowing the guy, why was the guy so anxious to call me back to explain to me just 5 mins after leaving my house? There is something not adding up here. Is she cheating?

My guy, you dnt need prophet to tell you that, ur woman is a cheat,infact,"she is a serial cheater", but you made one "gracious" mistake. You should have used fake profile to toast her on dating site, by abruptly telling her you saw her on dating site,portraying you as a neophyte, when it comes to women's infidelity, and by extension, giving her space to give you loads of excuses and escape routes,......I called it gracious mistake because, that mistake is still the grace holding her as a married woman by now.

Anyway, you are sharp when it comes to"emotional intelligency" but you still to work more on that in other to see, all her secrets open yakata for you.

No human can do anything outside his or emotions, because emotions in human are true reflections of that person, and not what he/she saying.

For men and women who like opening bottles of drinks,( beer or soft drinks) with their mouths.

BayLord01:
The sad incidence narrated here sound like fraternity clash/score, they went straight to only him & shot him without stealing anything. Rip to him

If it's not cult related case, it would be a case of two guys fighting over a woman. (Not even a very strong member of a choir.)
Immediately I saw his picture, I knew he is a cultist.

RollinTNDA:
My Aunt is a well educated career woman. Book smart and intelligent
She did very well in school..
She also has Phd

She gave me one of her used phones.
Turns out she didnt logout from her youtube.

Anytime in on youtube, na her account i dey see.

Here is the problem
1. Despite her level of knowledge, this woman believes those AI videos are real. She subcribe to youtube channels that post fake Ai videos of America got talent.
And she totally belives it.

2. She is subcribed to many different "Prophets"
She is a huge fan of prophet lovy
A prophet with tatooo and dreads
This woman subscribe to many fake pastors on youtube...

3. She is the type to share a post on facebook saying "Share this post if you love Jesus"
They are using fools like her to generate likes and she will stupidly type "Amen"

How can a woman with such level of education still fall victim to fake Ai videos, fake christian posts.

There was a fake Ai generated video of conjoined twins singing gospel music on America got talent.

She really believed it was real
She comment "Amen" and shared the post saying. "God use them to preach gospel to americans"

How can a highly educated woman still fall victim to fake Ai videos and fake christian posts

Go and read Redpiler thread here on nairaland, and come back to tell us how your gender is slowpoke and gaulible.

Bookhub:
I have being dating this girl for about 2 month now, though she has made clear to me from the beginning that she is in a serious relationship and she is cool dating both of us,as a guyman I didn't mind as long as she is given me my share but I recently discovered that she is actually has good qualities, she is industrious and intelligent and infact she spends more time talking to me than her boyfriend,meaning she is just dating the guy out of pity.
I asked her to be bold enough and quit the relationship that I have better future plans for her i am 32 while her boyfriend is 22,i told her I am willing to wife in 3 years time if she stays loyal but the boy of 22 is not even certain about their future together she has bring crying over it since yesterday.
Women are really complicated and tricky if you ask me,this girl! her boyfriend will see her off to the bustop after they are done with class In 1 hour time she will land In my house and stay till evening the boy will think she has gone home,one day she said she will go to the boys house i rebuked her and told her not to go out of jealousy omo she obeyed me and cooked up excuse and never went to the guys house.

And you too? Haven't you sounded stupid?

Meanwhile, you deliberately not mention how you have been bombarded her with cash and gifts, that made her staying longer in ur house than original boyfriend.

Dnt you being foolish for spending higher money for hole that two of you sharing? Your own is even worse, while original boyfriend not aware, you, that have detailed knowledge of her waywardness still begging and spending more, just to give you ordinary attention.

GOFRONT:
Some will come now and tell you "Mind your bizness" ....Some will tell you "Its her opinion, not yours. Some will tell you " Live and lets live" Some will tell you "She is an adult and she is entitled to whatever she feel like to beleive"

Someone is already sayin "He blame your Aunty for giving you her phone in the first place.....

Abi, since you are the owner of universe, everything you like/ biliv, others must like/biliv it with full force, little wonder you guys are finding it very difficult to have stable relationship and having issues in ur marriages,.......you think some of us don't know, so many posts here are fake, yet we still comment, the reason why people comment are different.

Some comment bcs they must wail daily.

Some comment for fun.

Some do so to troll.

Some think they're real.

Why some know, it's fake yet people would still learn from it from their comments.

niel63:
To all Nigerians who can't differentiate what cyber bullying is. This is a typical case.
Not when the rich has the power to oppress.

Stop cyber bullying. It kills.

Simple solution, "dnt read the comments", even me here,ever since I understood how toxic this forum is,I hardly read my comments.

Country where there are laws and orders, and not 3rd world nations, where political leader is bigger than entire nation.😩

FatimaMurtala:
I thought you guys said you ain't Igbo?

Check this

...and that singular act turned that particular ethinc group to, "a dot in a circle", making them, "merry-go-round" the seat of power from afar. Till date, nobody trusts them to near the seat of power.