₦airaland Forum

angelfallz:
Haba oga, that is not entirely true. I know too many guys that don't have money, but they have their fill of women.

That's what they tell you na.

Don't you knw that they are the only one who have dick?

Don't let anybody fool you, money commands human being not only woman.

A politician who knws how to spend will have die hard followers than the one who is stingy.

Guy will only tell u wen he bleeps, he won't tell you, what he went through in the hand of girls.

So many time that guys spend money in which he didnt see ordnary colo of pant. Will ur friend tell you?


Is not every girl that follows man into his house or hotel, that man bangs, the people who see them together would have believed he bleeps even went he didn't see pant

Hathor5:
Nobody said that a wife can never be frustrating. The point being made is that a husband is never justified to use a belt on his wife. And in front of the children. SMH. According to your logic a wife can pour boiling water on her husband in his sleep because frustration ... See the way you reason.

You are not in the position to teach me about marriage. You have disqualified yourself by justifying domestic brutality. It's your kind who have dysfunctional families.

.you become a mad dog just because the other guy say woman can be frustrating a times, the way you even aggressive on issue which not real but just hear opinion from public say a lot about ur personality, I salute the poor guy that you will end up in his house.


In as much as I condemn brutality from any gender,.......in every disagreement between husband and wife, 3rd party is supposed to reprimand both parties and not to blame only man irrespectful of what wife did


You are a type that will kneel down for her pastor, 3 time before service end, but see husband as servant.

If you don't change and continue do gragra , you will have problems maritally, unless you marry woman's rapper

Hathor5:
Nobody said that a wife can never be frustrating. The point being made is that a husband is never justified to use a belt on his wife. And in front of the children. SMH. According to your logic a wife can pour boiling water on her husband in his sleep because frustration ... See the way you reason.

You are not in the position to teach me about marriage. You have disqualified yourself by justifying domestic brutality. It's your kind who have dysfunctional families.

Because you re a product of dysfunction upbringing

angelfallz:
I wonder why you're surprised. Sex is cheap. With the right mentality a man has an abundance of women to indulge all his sexual fantasies.

If you're interested in such, you need to start rolling with men that always get women, let them teach you.

Oga u need money to sex women, forget about rolling with guys who sabi, human beings (guys and girls) run after who can give them money.

Omihanifa:
It's not as rampant as we are all making it sound o. apart from the normal boyfriend and girlfriend way people dey do, every other type of sex nah based on either money or the just flings and it doesn't just happen like that ( you go still suffer small before you go see the toto)

Even guy that girls friend zoned will be boasting up and down how he conquered pussssy.

UndauntedYOCA:
Thank you for not exempting men.

Guy who introduced his friend to cultism in which the friend latter be drop out, its destiny destroyer

Guy who introduced hemp and other hard drug to male friend, in which the friend become addicted or run mad, the guy is a destiny destroyer.

Guy who use girlfriend for ritual purposes, is destiny destroyer.

So many ways that one can be destiny destroyer

Hathor5:
Here ...



It's pretty obvious you think it is ok since you justify the man's action with 'I know how frustrating women use to be at times'.

I wish your future wife and in-laws would get to read the kind of comments you make here about domestic violence.

Sooooo everyone must put all blames on brother- in -law, no matter what sister do that led to fight, she should be ignored.

Is wife not frustrating a times?

Let me tell u fact, character wise, woman has 75% contribution to make her marriage work, I will indulge you to take this bitter truth to ur husband house, if you want to have peace and not ready for married and remarried.

NasMaleeq:
Heey, look at all these female members oooo
so, because I met her being punish by her own husband that she got married to and promised to stay with for better for worse
the man that brought yam, bought cloth,pays her dues
I should now start fighting abi?
what even give you assurance that I will be able to beat him sef? or do you think he would be looking like slowpoke while I'll just be beating him
Do you think I'm the Jesus you've been expecting to come again?
OK, I'm coming
my sister my carry her cross alone because I know how frustrating women use to be at times

Let them be talking as people without brains, the ways some people comment are worrisome.

If its their brother and sister fighting, will they start beating their brother too?

Is brother -in -law not part of their family?

If they ask sister to leave the house without first settle the matter, will sister join them and be part of their nuclear family?

Did they even have power to instruct married woman to leave her husband?

If they succeeded separating husband and wife for "differences that can still be settled', what will happen to kids?

If they kill husband, what will be faiths of kids, their sister and even them who commit murder

People should endeavor to think wide before they write or talk ooooo not even public forum

pyro62:
Shut up. You get luck say na nairaland be this. I would have beaten the hell out of you, and you won't even have sympathisers. Then you'll know how it feels. It is wrong to beat up another human at the least provocation because you are stronger.

Anthony Joshua.

pyro62:
Shut up. You get luck say na nairaland be this. I would have beaten the hell out of you, and you won't even have sympathisers. Then you'll know how it feels. It is wrong to beat up another human at the least provocation because you are stronger.

If your own brother is beating ur sister, I'm sure you will stab ur brother as well. At its also male vs female

osazsky:
she is no longer ur family..y did her hus even allow u into thier house..go and marry ur own..and u cant jumb into the matter cuz u dont know wat caused the problem..if they eventially settle themselves with sex in bed na u go be the topic of discussion face ur business .some girls lack up bringing and thier mouth na gun..though it is verry wrong for a man to beat his wife there is no justificaton to it.op if u get married u wont have the time to be visiting ur sis every day

Woman has 75% contribution (character wise) to make marriage works. I boldly say it anywhere.

Emperor4tune:
i will quietly relocate my sister & that will be the end of discussion with them for life..the reason why i dont want to retaliate at the spot is because i may end up killing that guy due to anger..

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And if the man is stronger than you?

I guess Your sister will join you in ur house, ....as 2nd wife? To start rivalry with ur wife?

Vlain:
A man has no reason to lay his hands on is woman. She is not a kid and certainly not his punching bag. If he wants to show he power as a man then he should walk out of that house and come face men like me make I comot him teeth just now.
I think it had to do with training and upbringing. My dad had never paid hands on my mum no matter the level.of provocation (even if she she shouting at him at the top of her voice). He either walks out or shout back at her and that is it. Consciously or unconsciously I have emulated that. No man will date lay his filthy hands on my sister and go Scott free. Is he mad?

And what did one to say for a woman?

etrange:
Those saying the woman might have led to that with her sharp mouth surprise me. Since when has it become right to beat up people cause they say what you don't want to hear? Or is it just cause you're stronger? If others beat you up each time you say what they don't want to hear, would you still be alive? If it were OK to hit anyone who says what what pisses us off, how would the world be? You think the man doesn't also say things that get on the woman's nerves?

This kind of response is the reason people don't speak up when they suffer domestic abuse. Nigerians love to blame the victim especially if the interest of their party would be protected while at it. Otherwise, why would anyone ever excuse domestic violence in this modern age? The situation of things in Africa makes me wonder if the continent is going forward or backward.

Pls keep it up, keep saying whatever in ur stomach, at least it free world, not only in marriage o, even in office, or ur environment. Only you will face the consequence, others will only show sympathies.

Tango123:
Its ur choice bro. I wasnt writing for u. I was writing for anyone who reads on nairaland.com, so they can learn or at least see my perspective

Meaning of destiny is not the bone of contention. What i am debating is the idea that destiny can be stolen through spiritual means

Stop writing jargon to mislead public

Tango123:
U dont know how old i am. I am not young by any means please.

There is something we call longitudinal research. Go and do it on the lives of those men u say their destiny was stolen

U will surely see that the root of their problem is a behavioural tendency which was there from childhood

The Igbos say that a chick that will turn male is known and begins from the hatchery. U will see it is more active and more bold

That is simply what i am saying.

I know a man who was duped of all his capital in business. I am sure he will blame the devil and blame destiny stealers. But look at his behaviour and beliefs before then. He believes u can grow rich overnight. He bets. He subscribe to the belief that one day with luck, u will hit big money. With that belief he set himself up for scammers.

But if u believe u will work hard and rise by the fruit of ur labour, if someone comes with a deal, u will first sit back and think, then u will stake only an amount u can afford to lose. Thats all

Some men think being seen with a beautiful girl is an achievement. They will spend all they have to be with the girl. In the future when they become poor they say their destiny was stolen. No destiny is stolen. It is lack of priorities

Another man i know went and married a woman who said she will never marry a guy without a car. This guy was a young and promising trader, but he loves show off and loves being hailed. He went and bought a car, and threw a lavish wedding. Surely, because he began to spend more than his profit, the only way was down. His shop dried up. He went broke. He moved from being a shop owner in a very well known big market to becoming a manual labourer. His destiny was not stolen. He spent more than he earned. He forgot that there is a difference between capital and profit. He spent his capital on car and on wedding and on maintaining the frivolous lifestyle of his wife

Take charge of ur destiny young men reading this. Set ur priorities right

By all means drink, but dont drink everyday and dont buy drinks for ur friends when u know they are richer than you. U earn 20k, and u buy drinks for everyone because u are drinking with people who earn 100k. Tell them u dont have money and dont join them all d time they drink

Dont date materially minded women.

Bleep as much as u want to Bleep, but use protection. And never ever spend on women unnecessarily. Never spend more than 1% of ur worth on any woman or women in a year, even if she is ur wife or mother, unless in cases of health and life and death.
Dont smoke weed and if u must, never be addicted. Be careful of d type of friends u keep. Keep friends who are focused and determined

Do these things and ur destiny is in ur hands. U will grow.

I don't read ur epistles pls, go and study the word Destiny , it's an English word

Tango123:
If u say someone lost out because of pussy, i know it is possible and happens

But to say the person's destiny is stolen is inaccurate in my opinion

People lose out for many reasons

I know a man who refused to send his younger brother to USA, because his brother smokes weed. Was it weed that stole his destiny? He began smoking weed as a teenager, and always prioritized weed because he is addicted to it. He has lost out on jobs and USA because of weed. And when i remember his childhood, he was always not disciplined

I know another young man who spent his money on women because of toto. His destiny was not stolen. He just doesnt know how to manage his money, and doesnt know he can get toto wothout spending money. His destiny was not stolen. He was a SIMP

You cannot achieve anything in life without discipline and control qnd determination. If u dont have these three attributes, work on getting it.

Check most of those u think their destiny was stolen, how were they behaving as kids, teenagers? U will see not doing homework, refusing to go to school, abusing teachers, generaly bad behavior.

I was also bad as a kid. But by 15 years old, i realised dt bad behaviour will not yield anything for me. I began to focus on the right things.

When i look at my secondary school mates, all those who u can class as successful were already disciplined. Somw were not academically good, but they were disciplined. Those who are not successful were like that back then. They will laugj at u if ubsay u want to study. They laughed at tjose who left secondary school to do business. Now they themselves are the failures and those wjo studied hard and who went to do business are successful

Young men reading this, learn to control yourself. Priorotise ur future over anything such as toto weed, alcohol. No one steals ur destiny. Ur behaviour secures ur future or throws it away.

You cant put ur saving on bet naija and say ur destiny is stolen

You cant drink everyday, and spend more than u earn, and say ir destiny is stolen

U cant use money to please women and when u become poor, u say ur destiny is stolen

U cant leave ur workshop at 4 to go see a friend and drink, ans whenu become poor, say ur destiney is stolen

Ur behavior secures ur future and destiny, or throws it away.

Wen you grow old you will understand life better.

Destiny is an English word, you can Google to understand the meaning

Tango123:
Y does this destiny stealing happen only in Nigeria and Africa

Why is it that rich men who Bleep around dont have their destiny stolen

I have never seen a focused wise man have his destiny stolen.

Those who will be successful in life are known from childhood. U can see it from the way they focus on their studies or trade, and how rhey handle any money they get. Useless ones show that attitude from childhood.

Advice people to learn to manage their resources and be focused in life.

Guys, Accept responsibility for what happens in ir life. Dont blame it on any alleged stolen destiny. No such thing ever happens.

If you never seen, you are supposed to have heard, rich and famous in yesteryears who is shadow of themselves today. Take it or leave, there are several destiny killers and destroyers, not only women even among men. If you are not teenager, ask about actor Anuku, you can also Google about Eboue among others, Giggs in recent time if you want White man.

Google famous and ruch who down because of pusssy if you want see it all

Nazgul:
Many guys have become very useless because they couldn't resist the temptation of a seductive girl.

When I started fearing most of these girls was one MFM program I attended, as the prayers began, men see manifestation, that's how this girl very close to me started talking o.

The one that shocked me was when she said she's on a mission to steal the destinies of men, that any guy she sleeps with automatically becomes useless.

The crazy thing was that I was even eying this girl o, very beautiful somebody. Hoping to give her a lift home and probably collect her number.

I froze right there on my seat. Men have to be very careful, the level of useless males in this country is growing at an alarming rate.

Many guys spend their whole day in bet9ja shops.

Last week sokoloan sent me a message that went thus, public service announcement a suspected criminal and a fraudster ---------- with phone numbers ---------- is wanted for defrauding sokoloan if found please report to the nearest police station.

I was shocked cos I know the guy, he used to live in my former area before I relocated. I was so confused so I called him and told me to tell me the whole truth of what is really going on.

He later told me that he borrowed money from them to play bet9ja and he lost, that he doesn't even have a penny on him.

I asked him how much the loan was he told me, crazy thing was that the money wasn't even up to 20k, I sent it to him. But the truth is that guy is so useless, I've always know him to be a chronic womanizer.

There are so many of them like that, that's why crime rate is extremely high. If I'm to advise you as a brother, I'd say stay away from girls till you're ready to settle down. Make money. Lots and lots of it. That's your mission in life. Not jumping from vagina to vagina till you bang away your destiny.

In fact I hate it with shit for woman to seduce me and fall, I take credit within myself wen I toast girl and fall for me.
At least I had more than 10 girls/women including married women who seduced me in the past that I don't look their side.

For the destiny, it real o, though not because of spiritual but principle.

Nashoji:
I wish I can like this your post multiple times. They even suck dick o, some do all manner of unmentionable things with their boyfriends yet they don't see it as foolishness but to cook food that both of them will eat becomes foolishness. This is what you get when people don't reason before they talk/write.

One don't need to reply foolish post from foolish guy, in which foolish moderator move to the front, just because of foolish traffic

Pearly255:
I’m guilty of number 3.. ONLY!


I remembered cooking for one idiotic fellow during my final year days...

So you have never shared ur secret with any of ur boyfriends before.

I pity females who go the way of rubbish that people write online, wen it backfires only you will bear the brunt.

Fact remains that relationship has no single formula and we have different destiny, what works for op may not work for readers.

But fighting tooth and nail to align with others advice, online or offline is foolishness.

That foolish monkey ready to suffocate for his slave master

Spokesman of president is seriously intoxicates him!

Jodha:
Yhure actually right op... especially staying with a man yhure not married to....he will never respect yhu or take yhu serious....

That cooking stuff sef I can't do that in the name of any foolish love.... washing yhur clothe and cooking for yhu when yhure not my husband... tufiakwa... I'll sit down and gist with yhu till yhu wash yhur clothe by yhurself and for yhurself...

May your character see you through if truly you mean every words you wrote up there.

Even those who do wash still find it hard to get. Age and bitter experience are good teachers.

I will also advice you not to wash his clothes when you guys eventually got married, at least he has two hands or forced him to buy washing marchine. For the cooking stuff, do it only on weekends, if he is angry let him go to fast food joints that scatter all places. Kitchen republic alike are meant for girls(husbands) like you.

Say no to...feminist online and potopoto' in real life.

4 and 6 ,I can also consider as being foolish, moving in with guy too but not always.

The other 6 opinions show how foolish op is.

A girl that a guy intended to marry is refusing to Cook for the guy and you expect such guy to go ahead and marry her.

Anyone can love irrespective of ages.
Some girls have suffered more than enough from hands of younger guys, who pass them around in name of' I go marry u'

Ok