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Update147:
I've been dating a girl for some years now, and during the period of time that we dated some ugly incidents happened that made the relationship unideal for us.
So gradually we both going our separate ways, but the more I keep my distance from her, the more I want her in my life.
The worse part is, if she comes back to me I will start regretting that I don't want her in my life.
And if she goes I will start saying I want her back.
I personally do not know what is wrong with me.
Has anyone had any of such experience??
Please I want someone to tell me what is wrong.

Go and listen to Jahmiel - trust issues. You go de alright.

Adultery is the major cause of poverty in Nigeria. We are fast learning a bad lifestyle from social media exposure.

I must do politics before I leave this beautiful world.

I wan advise you op but truly “I’m words of short”…
But Tinubu is the greatest politician in the history of Nigeria what Ojukwu couldn’t achieve with violence he has achieved with just a pen. Lesson “The pen is mightier than the sword”.

Luke 21 - 20-24
20 And when ye shall see Jerusalem compassed with armies, then know that the desolation thereof is nigh.

21 Then let them which are in Judaea flee to the mountains; and let them which are in the midst of it depart out; and let not them that are in the countries enter thereinto.

22 For these be the days of vengeance, that all things which are written may be fulfilled.

23 But woe unto them that are with child, and to them that give suck, in those days! for there shall be great distress in the land, and wrath upon this people.

24 And they shall fall by the edge of the sword, and shall be led away captive into all nations: and Jerusalem shall be trodden down of the Gentiles, until the times of the Gentiles be fulfilled.

God is love and Israel should stop with the senseless killings. If you are a Christian and support this slaughter then you are worst than a jihadist.

Agriculture is bae. Man’s primary economic activity for millennia.

What’s the pay?

Firstandonly:
Lately my girlfriend is no longer comfortable leaving her phone around me, she is so close to her phone even when we are eating or early in the morning when she's supposed to start doing morning activities....
I am someone who hate the idea of partner checking each other phone and i always advise others not to look on their partners phone. Pls I just can't take it any more it's just as if am being thrown away in my relationship and there's this force that keeps pushing me. Pls if u where in my shoes will u start check on her phone or let go to prevent BP

Baba don’t stress yourself. Except you wan drink sniper. Just behave like a married man and ignore her and continue being normal, Just de Bleep her but don’t give her money. Create a story that touch to tell her when she asks, but it’s you must pray and reject this story in your mind. Life no hard.

I doubt this is true though.

EreluRoz:
So in essence the itsekiri women hoe around for influence, like seriously? Or maybe the itsekiri women are more beautiful and learned than urhobo women and as such they tend to attract men of influence

Men of influence? I don’t think you understand how influential Maj Gen Felix Mujakpero is that Ibori had to kneel down with some elders to beg him, also Late Micheal Ibru was a stupendously rich man. Hope you gud?

During the Oputa panel, Obj was tried and sentenced to death but for world intervention he was pardoned. This committee was led by prominent Urhobo sons General Mujakpero (current Orodje of Okpe kingdom) and late General Aziza. Since then Obj has been biased towards the Urhobos. We are not a tribes of cowards and certainly don’t believe in our women hoeing around for influence.

EreluRoz:
But Itsekiris are richer and more influencial than the Urhobos. Stop attributing the success of itsekiris to their women who married whites and wealthy women. Uduaghan is an Itsekiri man, so edit your writeup

But I didn’t lie in my write up,it can be attributed to their women indeed, and what gives you the impression that the Itsekiri are more richer and influential than the Urhobos? The tribes with the most military officers (rtd generals) in Delta state? Urhobo. Urhobos have produced so many prominent families Ibru (one of the richest families in Nigeria) family and Dafinone (amongst the first CBN governor), Okotie-Eboh, David Edjoor. The list is endless but I’ll stop here. Mention just one influential Itsekiri family.

Kirigidi:
You are very ignorant of Warri issues. Possibly you have never stayed in Warri City or have never even been to Warri city before. Majority of the lands in Warri City are owned and controlled by the Urhobos. The Itsekiris only occupy small parts of the city (i.e Ugbuwangwe, Ajamogha, Ekurede-Itsekiri, Pessu, GRA), while the Urhobos occupy the larger parts (i.e Agbassa, Okurode-Urhobo, Edjeba, Ogunu, Essi Layout, Eboh, Okumagba, Avenue, Okumagba layout, Okumagba Estate, Iyara, Otor Okere, etc). Forget the title "Olu of Warri", the Olu does not have control or jurisdiction over the Urhobo areas of Warri. Them no born na well to enter the Urhobo areas to carry out procession or proclaim royal orders like he does in itsekiri areas. The itsekiri king has no say or influence in the Urhobo parts of Warri. "The Olu of Warri" is a mere title crafted by the itsekiris to mislead outsiders into thinking that he rules over the entire Warri City, but that is never true . It's just like the title "Oba of Lagos" does that make the Oba control or have jurisdiction over the whole of Lagos? The answer is "no". The Oba of Lagos only have control over Lagos Island and not the whole of Lagos, there are other kings in Lagos controlling different parts of Lagos and are not under the Oba of Lagos. But going by the title "Oba of Lagos" a stranger, visitor or novice will easily think or conclude that the Oba's leadership/jurisdiction is all over the whole of Lagos. The indigenous Urhobo people of Warri have their own Kings properly recognize by the government (Ovie of Agbassa Warri Kingdom and Orosuen of Okere-Urhobo Kingdom) and are the Kings practically incharge of all the Urhobo areas of Warri.

Bro nice one. If u can remember properly there was a certain time the Itsekiri people would drive around Warri beating one spiritual drum on a truck, don’t know wat they meant by that, but Olu was cautioned by premier Urhobo kings and that tradition was quickly abolished by the Itsekiri, like u rightly said na outsider go tink say Warri belongs to Itsekiri. But we know our history and even witnessed some. Itsekiri are riverine people and their influence in the state can be attributed to Itsekiri women, from supplying the whites with enough women from Itsekiri land even giving birth for white men down to their women dating or marrying past governors and military controller. Ibori married Nkoyo an Itsekiri woman, Uduaghan too same thing Roli also Itsekiri, David Edjoor had Numa an Itsekiri woman and a serious concubine all through his time as military governor of d old Midwest.

Being single for long affects your ability to be focused when you finally get into a relationship.

Mariangeles:
🤝🏼

This two Dey arrange date una de like their comments. Oh Nigeria my country filled with so many bad peoples.

advanceDNA:
What u cannot take is what u do to other pple... If someone say something about ur book that Mohammed is not a prophet but lied he met an angel, u will scream blasphemy and bring out knife..

My guy ignore him. Christianity supercedes every religion. All religion was coined from the Old Testament. The more they kill Christians, more Christians arise.

Rexymania:
The trinity was invented by the white. God almighty can not share his glory with anyone

All those trinity na pagan worship

Like I said God have mercy on you. Only advise I have for u, wen dealing with God forget about everything u tink u knw cos it’s utter foolishness.

Rexymania:
Oga Jesus is not God, he's a servant of God

What is the Trinity?

Rexymania:
Jesus is not the son of God

Una go Jux open mouth de blaspheme anyhow. Go d have mercy on u.

Sonnobax15:

Just pray that the receiver should be a person with a good heart......

Someone did the same thing to my banny last month,but she was kind enough to send the money back to the sender after she was called.

Fortunately,the sender happened to be a neighbor of mine whom my banny do not know...

So,op, just pray.....Cuz no be everybody get evil heart.

Guyman relax and investigate the matter well u go c say na bread and butter matter.

thesicilian:
Building on this logic we can safely conclude that dragons, unicorns, centaurs and werewolves also exist

Yes boss they exist, just not in the way movies paint it out. Those things are for spiritual beings and of course life is for the spiritually minded who have been vetted.

I’m sure that’s how they used to play together while he was younger.

Eunoiaa:
Intense passion and emotional distance seem contradictory to me.

What that means is that we tend to get passionate in the heat of the moment, then boom! right after the act is done we spring out of bed and look for the next available way to upgrade ourselves and shift our passion into personal growth asap. This lack of cuddles and long talk hours on the phone makes the ladies or women in our lives feel they are being used just for sex alone. And painful thing is as a Man U can’t explain cos every word u say will be interpreted by how she feels and not what u mean. Abeg relationship matter too much, man go de think how to break free from the world order and become a main character una go de tink say na cheat e de cheat. Not good ladies

advanceDNA:
Lies....

Okies

Well according to Nairaland… Treat women with respect and take care of them = SIMP.
Treat women like shit expecting them to be around, and wen they can’t take it anymore and leave, u come online and insult all women regardless u have a mom or sisters. = REDPILLER

So you can’t forgive your son? You come allow am die instead of you? And you come social media to discuss sacred things? This man will run mad at last.

Sex is more sacred than you think. It’s beyond Jux stabbing pussy. Have u ever wondered y poverty is so much in Nigeria despite the fact we are religious. It’s cos of sex. Sex outside marriage will reduce you.

Ejo o

Is it that God is trying to tell me something. I love the aggressive gospel going on nairaland recently. It’s like all our pastors got a fresh anointing… Oga pastor yes I agree with you, without holiness you cannot see God but you see that fornication we de try overcome am but if we fall we fall as long as it’s being done in moderation. Advise for you: nor go reach old age de begin regret on something’s u nor do.

As we all once did when we were still boys, until the spirit of God took over. Masturbation and adultery are things God frowns heavily upon. Church aside even traditionalist frown heavily upon it.

hooklover:
Men who cheat deserve a cheating wife . No need wasting time as a woman if u notice ur husband like skirt just relax and do ur own 2. The same way he has feelings u have also..

B4 i was advocating 4 no cheating by ladies. With wat i have seen and heard my dear cheat in peace and do it codedly.

If u dey fear make dem no catch you but to cheat dey ur mind to revenge the cheatinv just reachout to me let me help u emotionally. I have help many ladies my record speaks for me...Many ladies bearing cheating husbands have been happy through ny work......

I just feel bad for you. You don’t know the spiritual gravity of what you are doing.
Proverbs 6:32
Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding; He who does so destroys his own soul.

Agriculture… The new gold mine.