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joseph1832:
sex to your spouse is a duty. Enjoyment is for side chics, hoes_ and the likes. Both party owe it to themselves never to deny each other that duty.

I know for a fact, women don't usually initial sex, still, it is what it is. As the title of the thread say, "withholding intimacy in marriage is abuse".

When you withhold sex from your spouse, is abuse. I get it totally if one party say he or she is tired. I totally do, but to use "unhappiness' as an excuse. Come on!.

Haba. Enjoyment shouldn't be limited to side chiçks/hoes nau. What happened to marrying the person who share same sexual libido with you?

Or am I missing something? Why do men not marry people who share same sexual libido with them? But rather do extra marital affairs.

What if the woman is unhappy in the marriage? You can't consider her feelings?

Goodluck to all married folks.

GloriousGbola:
well. . . .

https://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-d&q=maintenace+sex

https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/

Maintenance sex? That's a new terminology.

Interesting.

Goodluck to all married folks. May the force be with y'all.

joseph1832:
Happiness doesn't quite come into it. Consent is Everest. Especially when she open her legs, willingly.

Well, the title of this thread is "Withholding Intimacy in Marriage is Abuse". I'm not married but I hear lots of preachings from male and female clerics alike that even if the women aren't in the mood, they should open their legs willingly.

So the mounting activity becomes more like a "duty" or "chore" rather than enjoyment.

budaatum:
They are indeed few. Especially amongst the immature kids who engage on Nairaland.

You know them very well. Some of their comments are actually cringe and you worry about the safety of the women in their lives.

joseph1832:
THis is exactly why I said you're very naive. You think unhappiness makes women dry? Beside, whatever happen to KY jelly?
Many things...

Ugh. I know about the jelly.

I'm more concerned some folks would want to mount an unwilling mountee especially as she's unhappy.

budaatum:
Not really, you know. Not every man non-thinks with their d¹qs alone, I've found.

Some men so value themselves that they reason like you think women do when it comes to mounting relations.

Only few men don't think with their d1qs alone.

And I always admire these sexually disciplined n1ggars.

budaatum:
I don't even do gender at all, least they get blinded by t¹ts, as they do, when I'm blinding them with my mind.

josep.h1832 has been trying for weeks now but still hasn't learnt he's hopelessly failing woefully. But I'm very certain he'd get bored pretty soon and slink away or start engaging his brain to stay.

Lmao Budaa, you really don't have chills.😂😂

I wonder when Joe will read the handwriting on the wall and rest. Maybe he doesn't have diaper duties to keep him busy.

GloriousGbola:
When you get older you will find for reasons that the gateway may not be as er lubricated as it used to be.

I totally get you G.G, The Gateway to Hades might not be lubricated as it used to be due to certain factors. What I'm concerned about is the participation/mindset of the unwilling mountee.

budaatum:
Some are just selfish and inconsiderate, and don't mind stealing their pleasure at other's expense.

Such pigs likely mount and pant for 5 minutes tops and done, and often just use their hand.

It is true. Some are very selfish and inconsiderate.

Tell them you want to be eaten, they'd refuse but will gladly request a B.J The height of selfishness.

budaatum:
I think folake4u and I just don't reason like you do, but I'm very certain it bothers us not that you think we are naive.

Loool. I think men and women differ a lot when it comes to mounting relations.

budaatum:
I think this is one thing that joseph1832 does not comprehend, and he thinks he can drag others down to his level of unseriousness.

Lmao I'm telling you.

Asides being a serious fellow, I generally don't like flirting/playing around with men too much cos from small play, see finish dey start. So it's better I indulge my own gender.

GloriousGbola:

I know you can use this but if the person you're mounting isn't in the right frame of mind for such activity, I mean it's supposed to be enjoyed by both individuals and not just one party.....

budaatum:
Imagine!

One might as well mount wood. But I guess some people are so desperate to mount that they'd mount anything.

Honestly Budaa.

I don't understand some folks mounting someone who's dry and not in the mood at all.

joseph1832:
Oh Like folake you're also very naive.

What happened.

Why are you mounting someone who's dry down there? There's no pleasure when someone's writhing in pain.

joseph1832:
Your response indicate you're still naive in some areas, care for me to educate you?
Yeah right, yOu can tell that to gloriousgbola_ I'm sure the gloriousness of his gbola_ will listen.

Lol smh. So what do you want to educate me on?

Mtchewww.

GloriousGbola:
I raise you


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O880LqI_jxs?si=y0QfWOS5Vda0A-VL

Lol. Insightful video.

The power imbalance issue is a real problem indeed.

Then again, asides our homes, we spend more valuable time with our co-workers and it's quite normal if feelings creep in.

But then again, Yikes!

budaatum:
No one should want to mount an unhappy person for any reason unless its someone you are just paying to service you. And even then, I must wonder why any man will pay to mount an unhappy olosho.

I wouldn't even buy pepper from an unhappy market seller, so why will I mount a person who is not happy, most especially if their unhappiness is of their own doing?

Imagine mounting an unhappy person, no soft moans, dryness everywhere.

joseph1832:
So like you to ignore the humour and deflect.

I'm a serious minded individual.

joseph1832:
Oh the rules and standard thingy with women have been known to me for years...

Take the case of girls who ply their trade in brothels. It's not every customer they shag, and those they even shag, the rules usually apply: no boobs_ touching, no kissing, no sucking etc.

So, if hoes_ can have rules and standard... 🤦

Toh. Exactly.

If sex workers are like this, then imagine how it is for regular people.

GloriousGbola:



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PxuUkYiaUc8

Or better still, avoid workplace romance totally.

joseph1832:
Actually they do. If they don't, they won't set it at all, whether they like the man or not.

It is more of the case of making it very difficult for the man they don't like, that's why they set standard for them.

It's crazy that some people like Nazgul and co think women don't have standards and rules are made for only men they don't like.

A better answer indeed is the rules are stricter when they don't like you but the standard remains.

Davido and his wack insults, no creativity at all.

It gets boring when you try to use money for everything including buying someone's life with it. Very distasteful.

Bahamas95:
Lol, are you from Benin?

Lol why? 😆