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Generally speaking, there are women who will leave everything and just go after peace. It's not only men that like peace of mind.

Please take care of your child and stop whining, silly man.

Everywhere is HOTTTTTTTT!!!!

I wanted to make my hair for the holiday season yesterday but I changed my mind last minute. I rather be pouring water on my head for now.

joseph1832:
Now. Lemme rephrase. How will you feel/react if your boyfriend ask you for anal_ sex?

I'd politely turn it down.

GloriousGbola:
porn makes it look straightforward when it actually requires a lot of prep
example porn stars actually bleach and evacuate their a**s first

what will your reaction be as a man be looking into a standard poopy a**s

and the same goes for oral. there is a joke about eating pineapple which making c*m taste easier to swallow

sidechicks are usually much more ready to knack because unlike wives, they are not burdened by marriage issues /baggage and are as willing as the wives were when they were gfs.

there is also the for want of a better word - i don born pikin attitude of naija women which translates to - i am a secure mrs now - no more need to put up a show for an ordeal i am not interested in

Oh damnnn! I never knew those actors bleach their asses before showdown. What I was told about anál is that it's quite painful and you'd need lots and lots of lubricants.

As for the oral, I'm aware that women take pineapple, cranberry juice to taste better down there. Never knew men ate pineapples for tasty cum.

True that. Sidechicks lifestyle always look glamorous because they're not burdened with marriage wahala.

Loool. I think that's a general problem where some women resign to fate after childbirth. Well, it depends on the women cos some get their mojo back and continue their spicy sexual life.

GloriousGbola:
I think anal sex is a bridge too far [inspired by porn clips of women with washed and bleached orifices who are very eager] but yes a lot of women and men ARE sexually conservative and get more so after they get married

Thank you G.G

Some men want anál sex based on what they see from porn.

Interesting take but I'm also of the opinion that people are exploring these days and anál sex tops the charts.

joseph1832:
1. Did she inform him, before she canceled him?

2. That should tell you a thing or two.

3. I can equally blame women, who don't reveal their naughtiness when dating a man, all in the name of "he will see me as a how".

4. How will you react if your spouse ask you for anal_ sex?

1. Inform who? I thought your married friend was talking about married men in general.

2. Lol tell your fellow men to go after women that are best suited for them.

3. Oh yes, I blame women who don't show their true self in the dating stage.

4. I don't know Joe, I'm not married yet but never say never.

budaatum:
Worrying is insufficient. Women need to organise and educate and protect each from pigs.

Yes indeed, we actually need to protect ourselves from folks like that. It's quite terrible, Buda.

joseph1832:
When it comes to your spouse, enjoying sex is something very dicey. As your sexual appetite might differ from his/hers.

A married friend of mine, once told me she cringe with the way married men now crave anal_ sex. Now such appetite can only or should I say, might only be satisfied with side chics_ and hoes_ etc.

People marry according to societal expectations. And many married women are very shy and timid about their sexual appetite. They think it makes them look like hoes_ to their husbands. You can ask your female married friends, even the ones here, how many times they've ever initiated sex with their husbands. Their answer will shock you.

Many women/men are unhappy in their marriage. Don't let them fool you. Ones unhappiness shouldn't deprive the other of their wet desires....

Ah na wa. I think there should be some form of compromise in that area, I think.

Hmmm if the married men are craving for anāl sêx, the ideal thing to do is for them to unleash their fantasies on their spouses but again, people marry for various reasons quite alright but it is foolhardy to marry due to societal expectations and then cheat on your partner.

In all honesty, Men are the cause of this problem. If you like having sex so much, you're better off with someone who aligns with you on that instead of stringing along an innocent woman who has a low libido and expecting her to do prisoner style sex position or other forms of extreme positions. The solution is simple: Marry a sexually expressive woman that shares same value with you.

I have a few married women I talk to, friends and colleagues alike. I was talking with one recently and she told me she would speak to me later as she's going to do one or two, we both laughed heartily to it.

Again, there are women these days that are now really sexually expressive about what they want. I'd take my circle of friends as an example. My friend cancelled an engagement with a man after careful thinking, we asked her what's up and she said he didn't satisfy her and it was a big problem she can't allow to slide.

joseph1832:
sex to your spouse is a duty. Enjoyment is for side chics, hoes_ and the likes. Both party owe it to themselves never to deny each other that duty.

I know for a fact, women don't usually initial sex, still, it is what it is. As the title of the thread say, "withholding intimacy in marriage is abuse".

When you withhold sex from your spouse, is abuse. I get it totally if one party say he or she is tired. I totally do, but to use "unhappiness' as an excuse. Come on!.

Haba. Enjoyment shouldn't be limited to side chiçks/hoes nau. What happened to marrying the person who share same sexual libido with you?

Or am I missing something? Why do men not marry people who share same sexual libido with them? But rather do extra marital affairs.

What if the woman is unhappy in the marriage? You can't consider her feelings?

Goodluck to all married folks.

GloriousGbola:
well. . . .

https://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-d&q=maintenace+sex

https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/

Maintenance sex? That's a new terminology.

Interesting.

Goodluck to all married folks. May the force be with y'all.

joseph1832:
Happiness doesn't quite come into it. Consent is Everest. Especially when she open her legs, willingly.

Well, the title of this thread is "Withholding Intimacy in Marriage is Abuse". I'm not married but I hear lots of preachings from male and female clerics alike that even if the women aren't in the mood, they should open their legs willingly.

So the mounting activity becomes more like a "duty" or "chore" rather than enjoyment.

budaatum:
They are indeed few. Especially amongst the immature kids who engage on Nairaland.

You know them very well. Some of their comments are actually cringe and you worry about the safety of the women in their lives.

joseph1832:
THis is exactly why I said you're very naive. You think unhappiness makes women dry? Beside, whatever happen to KY jelly?
Many things...

Ugh. I know about the jelly.

I'm more concerned some folks would want to mount an unwilling mountee especially as she's unhappy.

budaatum:
Not really, you know. Not every man non-thinks with their d¹qs alone, I've found.

Some men so value themselves that they reason like you think women do when it comes to mounting relations.

Only few men don't think with their d1qs alone.

And I always admire these sexually disciplined n1ggars.

budaatum:
I don't even do gender at all, least they get blinded by t¹ts, as they do, when I'm blinding them with my mind.

josep.h1832 has been trying for weeks now but still hasn't learnt he's hopelessly failing woefully. But I'm very certain he'd get bored pretty soon and slink away or start engaging his brain to stay.

Lmao Budaa, you really don't have chills.😂😂

I wonder when Joe will read the handwriting on the wall and rest. Maybe he doesn't have diaper duties to keep him busy.

GloriousGbola:
When you get older you will find for reasons that the gateway may not be as er lubricated as it used to be.

I totally get you G.G, The Gateway to Hades might not be lubricated as it used to be due to certain factors. What I'm concerned about is the participation/mindset of the unwilling mountee.

budaatum:
Some are just selfish and inconsiderate, and don't mind stealing their pleasure at other's expense.

Such pigs likely mount and pant for 5 minutes tops and done, and often just use their hand.

It is true. Some are very selfish and inconsiderate.

Tell them you want to be eaten, they'd refuse but will gladly request a B.J The height of selfishness.

budaatum:
I think folake4u and I just don't reason like you do, but I'm very certain it bothers us not that you think we are naive.

Loool. I think men and women differ a lot when it comes to mounting relations.

budaatum:
I think this is one thing that joseph1832 does not comprehend, and he thinks he can drag others down to his level of unseriousness.

Lmao I'm telling you.

Asides being a serious fellow, I generally don't like flirting/playing around with men too much cos from small play, see finish dey start. So it's better I indulge my own gender.

GloriousGbola:

I know you can use this but if the person you're mounting isn't in the right frame of mind for such activity, I mean it's supposed to be enjoyed by both individuals and not just one party.....

budaatum:
Imagine!

One might as well mount wood. But I guess some people are so desperate to mount that they'd mount anything.

Honestly Budaa.

I don't understand some folks mounting someone who's dry and not in the mood at all.

joseph1832:
Oh Like folake you're also very naive.

What happened.

Why are you mounting someone who's dry down there? There's no pleasure when someone's writhing in pain.

joseph1832:
Your response indicate you're still naive in some areas, care for me to educate you?
Yeah right, yOu can tell that to gloriousgbola_ I'm sure the gloriousness of his gbola_ will listen.

Lol smh. So what do you want to educate me on?

Mtchewww.