₦airaland Forum

GloriousGbola:
i am sure you carefully watched the man weaving and waving his hips

Nah nah.

descarado:
Im afraid thats the type we have.

The less startch and fibrous among them. They use that one to do fried potato in the north.

Worst type is seen in the east. Takes ages to cook and so starchy. Even the pit you use to cook it is very hard to wash. You peel it, your hand will change colour. So gummy.

Wonder why our farmers don't cultivate these ones.
They are called sweet potato but not up to half as sweet as what we have. If you see them, do buy them. They are very good. The same thing with purple and orange yams

I guess times have changed and it might not be profitable for the farmers to cultivate that variant.

What's the local name of this one?

Konquest:
Whaat?! "Babatunde Adebanjo"... I'm ONLY just hearing of his mother-of-all twerking exploits and Guinness World Record for the first time ever.

That's creativity at its finest.

What a woman can do, a man can do best.

erad:
Are you freaking serious right now? Creativity?

Woaw! I give up.

Bro, if you're looking for creativity, here's a Nigerian man who broke Guinness World Record for twerking in 2024.

Leave Hilda alone and face Nigerian leaders.

Thanks.

descarado:
Nigerian varieties of potatoes are red flag that should be avoided at all cost. The worst is the one with purple back and white inside.
Aside that one we normally fry as chips but Nigerians don't want to steam of boil it.

I love eating that potato.

Oh wow.

I like boiled potatoes though.

So what variant should Nigerians eat, Des?

This should be a troll account.

GenFunction:
Then u must be a nutty girl

Lmao, I'm just a girl.

TONYE001:
Whoever teaches you guys these things has defrauded you all.

Funny how many of you think you sound smart, but in reality, your lines of thought are distant from facts.

A wife a liability? Just how? Your positions on husband-wife matters are strongly suggestive of childhood faulty family settings since our parents are the first to introduce the concept of marriage to us.

Now, I won't just stop at attacking you and your likes; I'll make frank efforts to educate you:

1. No, a wife is in no way a liability. In fact, the ideal husband-wife relationship isn't a business transaction where one can be labelled an asset, and the other, a liability. Ideally, a marriage is a setting in which a husband and a wife come together to work up a project - the family project. Both parties contribute according to their abilities; ideally, there is no fixed law guiding this collaboration. No law should dictate if the husband should bring A and the wife, B. This is because the union is fluid-like, it does not assume any particular conformation. Where one party is unable to bring A, the other party easily compensates. Like this, both husband and wife support each other, and do a lot of sacrifices backstage.

2. The African tradition has plastered an annoying stereotype in our heads. The African man easily thinks that the husband is the sole provider. In fact, this is not just a thing of tradition or culture; it actually reeks of ego, unhealthy ego and pride. DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY HOMES THAT ARE RUN BY WOMEN?? You just have no idea! In one Nigerian study, researchers noted that female breadwinning is becoming "increasingly common" in urban settings (Akanle and Nwaobiala, 2019). In another study that sampled Nigerian primary school teachers, results showed that in over 70% of families, females/wives are the breadwinners ((Nnubia, Ibeanu, and Okechukwu, 2020). The concept of female breadwinning would have been there decades before now if not for the skewed African culture many of our parents and grandparents practice(d) (this culture NEVER MADE SENSE; essentially, it is a STUPID idea to deprive women of education and empowerment, depriving women of their rights to steps that would have ensured their independence shows how insecure our forefathers were). Just imagine how the family structure has changed since females started achieving independence, especially financial independence. Now, because they now have money, wives support their families...and in multiple instances, they RUN/SPONSOR their families.

Let me explain more. Females are more motivated, more caring (biologically), and more ambitious than men (Tao, 2014; Wicht, Miyamoto, and Lechner, 2022; Naz, Shah, and Qayum, 2020). Even among Nigerian populations, the findings are similar (Ojule, 2024). With these attributes, females are likely to be more successful than males IF ALL THINGS ARE ALLOWED EQUAL. Imagine they were allowed access to financial independence long before now? If this were the case, many families would have been liberated from poverty long before the current generation. So, partly, it's the African culture that has made poverty strongly palpable across families today.

3. How can you call the woman that births your children a liability? Why did you not have those kids with the side chick? This is callous thinking and demonstrates a heightened level of irresponsibility. With this thinking, I should feel pity for any woman you end up with. Perhaps, intending spouses should be submitting their social media handles before marriage. With a post like this, I wonder if any woman would want to settle with you (that's if you aren't married already).

4. If you fall sick or run into difficult situations, who would stand by your side? The side chick? Mabel Okungbowa is a Nigerian wife who donated a kidney to her husband. Would a side chick do this? Who is present throughout the growth of the children? A side chick?

5. A more personal example. I went back to school roughly 2 years after getting married. At the time, I and my wife were concluding our master's-degree programmes. I was working, my wife was too, but not something rewarding, just something to keep her CV busy. I resigned from my work, went back to school for a third degree - MBBS. I was in medical school for 7 whole years. In these years, my wife was my strongest support system. If not for that lady, I wouldn't be a medical doctor today. She helped me realize my dream, and in so doing, she gave up some important moves that would have skyrocketed her career. My wife did a whole lot, a whooooooollllllleeee lot. Every single day of our 11 years of marriage so far, I make sure I let wifie know how grateful I am! In my family group chat, when discussing with my parents and siblings, I ensure I let them know all my wife does. I want my people to know about her sacrifices...just in case I pass on before her. And, thankfully, my family appreciates her! Is there a side chick in this whole world and in the heavens that would have done a millionth of what my wife did? Nope! How can anyone call a wife a liability?

6. Just like I had said, when it comes to husband-wife matters, many people think they sound smart, but in truth, their positions in the matter displays ignorance and poor parental orientation....like Gehgeh (or whatever he's called). Women are doing a lot on the family front. Many are sacrificing their lives just for the family to succeed. Many would have been professors, millionaires, heads of great corporations, international figures if not for the fact that they are wives and mothers......though I do not support this (I would create a thread about this one day).

Dear Nigerian women, dear wives and mothers, on behalf of the many grateful husbands of yours, I say THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO. We see your works, your sacrifices, your doings. Maybe we should be speaking out more so this horrible narrative about you won't be extended to the next generation.

NB: I'm guessing that many commenters on this thread are single young guys. This post is educative, and you all are the exact targets. You all may not accept it, but I'm grateful for those that will.

Links to References (in no particular order)

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0021909619880283?utm=

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/13668803.2020.1797634

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/341758004_Gender_Differences_in_Motivation_And_Academic_Achievement_A_Study_Of_the_University_Students_of_KP_Pakistan

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0362331914000354

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/343576708_Are_Girls_More_Ambitious_Than_Boys_Vocational_Interests_Partly_Explain_Gender_Differences_in_Occupational_Aspirations

https://www.tnhjph.com/index.php/tnhj/article/view/817#:~:text=Females%20are%20more%20motivated%20to,affiliation%2C%20and%20enjoyment%20than%20males.

Get him Sir!!!!!

Thank you for your well detailed response to him.

And may God bless your home continuously.

tuoyoojo:
Someone just said something. It's a fruit not sold in the market....I wonder why

I have not had this fruit for over 20 years

Lol It's never been sold in the market.

Awww. The tree is still in existence though, maybe it's no longer in your locality?

Nazgul:
Lol you sef carry stone de break seed. Chie.

How time flies. 😍

Ah yes oh. No time! 😂😂

I take my time to eat that fruit. The fleshy part and the nuts.

Time really does fly.

Nazgul:
A real national treasure. Back then we would roam round the school looking for the dried seeds, we'll gather them in bulk, use stone to break it and eat the groundnut like substance inside it.

It was fun back then.

I know right! 🥰

I did that a lot too.

Good ol' days.

Make I nor wear man polo?? Maka how? I go wear am oh. All those oversized polos are sweet to wear/steal.

Nazgul:
Almond fruit.

I used to eat it during my secondary school days we had the tree in my school.

Suprisingly it's the only fruit I know of that isn't sold in the market.

A national treasure.


Fill the remaining characters, Shehun.

tuoyoojo:
Seems thus fruit was found more in South south. I don't know if other regions had it

We had this big tree in my aunt's house. When ever it was raining and windy, it was free elelebor for everyone

After eating the freshy part, it has a groundnut like inside that's if u have the strength to break thru it

Ebelebor!!!!! I love it so much.

This was my childhood fruit.

It is also found in the North, funny enough.

Yoooo! You're spot on with the description. I used to break the fruit to eat the nutty part.

Good times.

Konquest:
In terms of taste buds acclimatization, I can deduce that you've almost become a far Northerner already since you like some of these meat-based cuisines above. Indeed, the peppery mix (or yaji)🌶️ consisting of dry peppers, peanuts, ginger, and some other secret spices is impressive!.

If you ever find yourself in the Allen Avenue area of Ikeja, I propose that you glide into the "University of Suya" to get some special Suya combo offers with their added "unique yaji taste" which you'll NOT find from other wannabe Suya outlets. ONLY the London-based "Obalende Suya" comes close. The Northern Hausa guy has been operating on Allen Avenue since the 1980s till it got rebranded to it's current name of University of Suya and it has a huge clientele among the Middle Class to the Upper Class.

As for the "yaji," you ordered from Kaduna for your noodles, what's significantly special about it?

Last but not least, I took the time to scan through the thread pages here and without a shadow of doubt, a lot of posters here talking down on Northern cuisines have deep-rooted prejudices and more.

Yeah, yaji is very nice and I like meat-based cuisines.

Thank you, I'd check it out.

Well, there's this taste that yaji gives to noodles. The aroma and taste is divine.

Well, Nigeria have deep-rooted prejudices regarding cuisines especially for those whose eyes eat before their mouth.

Silentgroper:
Since the very first I tasted yaji , I also don't joke with it .

E get one time wey dey chop am with bread sef ...

Very tasty thing .

I know right!!! Very tasty.

I like Dambu Nama, Suya, Kilishi, Kosai (sprinkled with enough yaji).

I'm not a fan of Masa, tuwo, or fura.

Recently, I bought yaji all the way from Kaduna for my noodles. There's this flavour it gives.

Onegai:
What did you think about that ruling, legally?

Personally I was against it because Reverend Sisters had been removing their head coverings peacefully and Unilorin seems to have a tricky reputation with extremism.

Hmmm what's the deal with Unilorin and extremism?

PS: Apologies for the late response. I've been offline.

semid4lyfe:
Ma'am, the Supreme Court hijab ruling applies specifically to the Nigerian Law School and by extension public institutions which are funded by government with tax payers money. The Nigerian Law School is one entity, and denial of peoples right to wear their hijab at the call to bar ceremony is in breach of the constitutional right of religious freedom and expression. It will also hinder people from partaking in the ceremony. I understand the SC judgement in that context.

Private schools on the other hand are not public property. They're voluntary institutions, and there are thousands of them in the country. Nobody is forced to attend them, and parents make a choice of private school knowing their rules and regulations.

For instance, my kids attend a conservative faith-based school. The school guidelines include;

◾Boys must barb only straight low cut. No flamboyant styles, no parting, no punk hair cut, dreadlocks or dada
◾Girls must not use coloured attachments, beads, or any adornment on their plaited hair.
◾Girls are permitted to wear only full-stop earrings.
◾No mufti. Only the schools ceremonial wear is permitted to be worn for school events, except on cultural and career days.
◾Only gospel music is played during school graduation, events and ceremonies.
◾The pupils and staff are anointed every beginning of term by a Pastor from the parent church.
◾Once in a while, the kids are expected to fast within a specified time period.
◾Cane and flogging is still used as a disciplinary measure.
Etc etc

I'm a moderate christian but I chose to abide by the school rules because I wanted my kids to attend the school due to its pedigree and excellent performance in Common Entrance examinations. My point is if the parents want their kids to attend the OP's school, they should abide by the school rules. Simple!.

Constitutionally, Nigeria is a secular country and Private schools operate under guidelines set by the Ministry of Education, but they also retain autonomy to set standards such as uniforms, discipline, or even religious orientation. That’s why there are Christian schools that make chapel attendance compulsory and Muslim schools that enforce Islamic dress codes and tenets.

Also, freedom of religion isn’t absolute. It can be limited in the interest of discipline, order, and the rights of others. An example is LASEPA sealing churches in residential neighbourhoods in Lagos on account of noise pollution.

The Lagos State guideline you refer to is about equal access to education. It means schools cannot deny admission to prospective students on the grounds of their religious faith, and NOT THAT private schools must abandon their dress codes or adjust their rules to match pupils religious preferences.

If every private school bend its standards for every demand, there'll be chaos and disorderliness. Schools need structure to function, and there are lots of option available to parents such as Christian, Muslim, Secular and Military schools. That freedom of choice is the balance, not forcing schools to abandon their identity

The OP's school does not allow the wearing of hijab, and he shouldn't compromise. If the hijab thing is so important to the parents, they should take their kids to schools that do. There are plenty of them in Nigeria.

Top of the morning to you.

Eyyyyyyyyyy! Oga Semi don quote epistle ontop my head.

Apologies for the late response, I've been offline since my last message to you.

I think we can agree to disagree here, Sir.

Unarguably, private schools are businesses, however, I don't see it as "abandoning" dress code to suit a religious preference.

semid4lyfe:
The Nigerian Law School is a public institution for all Nigerians. The OP's school is a private entity with their own rules and regulations.

My highly esteemed learned silk, taking this into cognisance, does the school still need to bend over to accommodate the Muslim pupils for fear of being sued for infringement of fundamental human rights and religious expression?

Hello Sir,

There are rules/guidelines for public and private schools in Nigeria. It is true that the Nigerian Law School is a public school for Nigerians whereas that of the Op is a private/business entity.

There is nothing like the school should "bend" to accomodate the Muslim students for fear of being sued.

Private schools are subject to the Ministry of Education rules, above all, the Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria (1999 as amended).
In this order:
1. The Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.
2. Private Education (Miscellaneous Provisions) Education Law (1989).
3. The National Policy on Education (2013).

Let us bear in mind that federal laws on dress code are supreme to private school regulations in Nigeria. Although the private schools have autonomy of their rules and regulations, it should also be done not to conflict/clash with fundamental constitutional rights, such as freedom of religion or expression, or violate established federal guidelines.

There is a Supreme Court ruling that Muslim female students in public schools have a right to wear the hijab. That is a precedent that apply to all schools including private schools.

Let us bear in mind that the hijab is a form of expression of one's religious beliefs.

The Guidelines for Public and Private Schools in Lagos State is also explicit.

Section 1.03
Paragraph (a) states that the purpose of secondary education is to provide students with opportunities for education of a higher quality irrespective of séx, social, religious or ethnic background or disability.

Such an interesting conversation. This reminds me of the Amasa Firdaus case in 2017.

The Nigerian Law School ordinarily allows female Muslim students to wear hijab to classes but not for Call to Bar ceremony until Amasa Firdaus in 2017 insisted that she would wear the hijab for her Call to Bar ceremony, this led to series of questions regarding freedom of religion and dress code in the legal profession.

Eventually, she was called to Bar in 2018. This set a precedence for female Muslim law graduates to wear hijab in their Call ceremony.

Just like sonnie10 said up there, follow the rules of the law. If the parents are well read, they might sue for infringement of fundamental human rights on freedom of expression, religion etc. You also need to research on schools' policies and accepted dress code/ethics governing that state.

Oh it's now a begging spot at daytime and whocup spot at night.

Best news ever.

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Nnamdipapa:
Thank you. I have my sights on fisherman soup tomorrow.

Oya nau. Carry go, enjoy!

Nnamdipapa:
Don't worry, you are doing ok. Its one of this itch I have been wanting to scratch for a long time. I won't be longing for it after this. It was very delicious.

Welcome back to Nigeria, Sir.

It sure looks tasty.

For people like me who haven't eaten Ukwa before, gather here.