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This man shouldn't be allowed close to female children. Where is the indecent dressing please?

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Konquest:
@Folake,

Let me break the ice here.

I like the way YOU'VE been operating in "stealth mode." It reveals a lot about the inner workings of the resident ex-Uniben "In-house Counsel."

This is the end of May 2025 and you NEVER bothered to say one word of "hello." It shows you can be a "hard-minded" lawyer.


Really? Ah! "What are you "transitioning" into outside law Folake?"



Anyways, enjoy your day, and the rest of 2025 leading right into 2026.

Ciao.

Hi Sir. Happy New Year.

All these big big grammar though. Lol.

Truly, I'm a hard minded lawyer, it's a good thing though.

I hope you've been fine as well.

Well, I can transition into anything. Teaching, strip dancing, Prophetess etc.

Klass99:
Ehn ehn, is that so, @ the bolded? Were you and Farfalla not the ones trying to convince me otherwise about procreation one time? Or am I mistaking?

How did you get to this point of procreation being secondary for you? I'm curious o, because the society will have us women believing we want children more than we crave air to breathe and water to drink.

Are you into litigation or corporate law practice?

Lol it's not me oh, Klass. You're mistaken.

Oh, it's ALWAYS been like this for me. I'm a very selfish woman.

I'm an In-house Counsel. Wanna transition outside Law soon though.

Klass99:
Mwaaahh , kisses to you too. How is the lawyer life going after law school? Why does No.4 resonate with you?

🥰🥰

Lawyer life nor easy but we keep pushing through. Thanks for asking.💜

Well personally, I believe in Marriage for companionship purpose. Procreation is secondary in my books.

Proserpina:
Nigerians dey always overdo things nah.


From what I've seen so far, there's no correlation o

Normally.

There's no correlation but you know how the thing dey go.

Gerrard59:
Based on the followers' message restriction settings, I agree with Mrjavas. It's going to be hard. Well, na for those wey wan woo ladies online.

I'm so old school. It has to be face-to-face.

I get your point. But I dont think it's all females that restrict access to DMs.

Lmao that's also okay.

Klass99:
I think you have a good point but Pansophist also made some valid points, your response and reaction to him wasn't necessary.

Let's try and debate the issue sensibly and in a civil manner.

1. The difference between parents and children is that, parents made a choice to have children and that choice comes with responsibilities and obligations some of which you listed above. Children on the other hand didn't make a choice to come into this world, to have parents or to have the sort of situation OP is in thrust upon them. As children we try to make the best of it, by doing good, doing right and doing well by our parents.

2. It is a natural course of life that children will grow up one day and leave home. This is a normal and old practice, even the bible talks about a man leaving his parents to cleave to his wife. We leave the nest to build our lives and live out our dreams or purpose, most times that means physically parting from parents and leaving them behind.

3. Parents and children were never meant to be together until death do them part. That is an exclusive reserve of married couples. The OP"s parents are the ones who should be together till death does them part. I understand the sentiment you expressed about parents being old, doing things for us and wanting us around in old age, but I think what most of them truly need is companionship.

4. It can be companionship from one another as a couple, from their friends, church community, or a group of people with same interests, etc. It must not necessarily be from the physical presence of their children. This is one of the reasons why I believe companionship is more important in marriage than children. I also don't like this idea we have of birthing kids so they can look after us in old age. It creates scenarios like the one OP is in now and emotional blackmail as well.

5. I cannot relate to the desire or need, to bring non-existent people into existence, just so they can take care of us in old age. It is a lot work if you ask me, because the work you will do for those children before you reach old age, will be more than the work they'll do for you in return. And if they are children who refuse to catch sense, premium heartache and pain awaits you in old age.

6. So, yes, while parents fed us and took care of us, it was their responsibility and duty to do so, as a matter of the choice they made to bring us into this world. While we also have a duty to do right by them as godly and sensible children, we can do that without necessarily living with them.

My own mother told me once that while they do not see me often they feel my impact from miles away through the financial support I provide. Pansophist is not wrong when he says they should adopt children, in my case, we have a young girl of University age who lives with my parents.

She's in her 3rd year now, she's not a blood relative, I don't know how or where my mum found her but they've put her through primary and secondary school, now she's almost through with University.

I am more quick to send that girl pocket money for her personal use, than I am, to send to some of my own blood relatives. Blood is not thicker than water for me when it comes to that girl, the value she has provided and continues to provide exceeds the value some blood relatives have provided.

7 kisses to you, Klass.

No. 4 resonates with me very well.

MrJavaS:
And get blocked right?
Even if you have good intentions, they just won't give you the time of the day.

Besides Instagram is the best place to meet people you may find attractive because it's a photo sharing app, we all know that guys are attracted to looks at first before anything else.

I've removed my hand from Instagram girls, it's a lot better to meet girls offline.

😂😂😂😂 Why are you prepping yourself to get blocked? This is so funny.
Certainly, I don't think 10 girls will block you. 1 must somehow click.

Just try, you hear.

MrJavaS:
Funny how it's impossible (1%) chance of getting a lady's attention on Instagram, they set their accounts to private and then set up the account to only receive message requests from accounts they follow. To be honest I don't believe it's possible to find love online.

Lol it is possible to find love online.

You can target comment section of popular posts on IG and Twitter, and from there follow-up on any lady that you fancy, I guess.

Proserpina:
I'm on season two but I can say it's worth my time. Sometimes I get bored and see some cartoons in-between else I would have watched farther. I really have short attention span for things these days.

Oh if you watch it you will understand. Any small thing Valhalla, Ragnarok... Odin signs , hall of what self . They made it sound like people who fear death are not serious with thier lives🙄🙄 . Them do carry that Valhalla for head abeg.

Naturally, I have short attention span but cartoons, Korean movies, music have my heart always. But yeah, I get your point.

Anyways, Valhalla get another meaning to Nigerians sha. E dey give cult vibes and stuff.

😂😂😂😂

Proserpina:
Funny how I'm recently watching vikings and I see this.

Valhalla ko Malaria ni

Oh really? Nice. I haven't watched Vikings though.

Pina why?😂😂😂😂😂

Nazgul:
We're coming back stronger next season. That's a guarantee.

Naz, you said this last season. Please give up!

[quote author=Nazgul post=135502226][/quote]Lmao 🤣😂😂.

I've told you. Leave ManYoo for your mental health's sake.

Valhalla.

AmazonTopaz:
I am even more keen on kids than marriage.

A man who shares my vision and ideas is whom I will marry. I just haven't met the person and I am willing to do life without getting married.

I have learned to decenter men from my life.

Aww that's cool. I'm more keen on companionship than kids. Since my childhood, I've never really toyed with the idea of having mini-mes but let's see how life goes.

And Insha Allah, you will get your heart desires.

Same here, I catch my cruise with them and keep it moving.

Gerrard59:
The way they even say young boys will impregnate these advanced aged women tells a lot about their mentality. Not even that a fellow 50-year-old man will approach her, but a lad.

Indeed, it was disgusting when I saw young men say "Until them lodge one Mama for hotel before others go hear word". A harmless and fun trend by women was sexualized by men.

Disgusting lots.

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Gerrard59:
When you say many men haven't changed at all, is this from actual physical conversations/interactions across the spectrum of men or online conversations?

Mine is from studies such as women preferring to be child-free because men haven't changed alongside them regarding childbirth and other women's issues. Additionally, women demanding more as major/equal players in the corporate world. Another one is women becoming more sexually free or expressive compared to a decade or two ago. Many men are yet to come to terms with this.


I know that section like the back of my palm.

Yes, all of the above, Gerrard.

Oh nice. Welldone.

Talk and Do!!!! Nor be Cho Cho Cho.

We were saved from noise pollution by the useless Manure United. Alhamdulilah.

Gerrard59:
She is right though. I think the Nairalander Tightpussy2024 stated something similar. Men will want to follow every woman, but believe theirs are untouchable. Things have changed on most social issues, so have most women (globally speaking), but it seems many men haven't changed as well. Maybe the effects of testosterone and nature are too strong.

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I no know say this kind section dey for this our forum o. We learn daily.

Many men haven't changed at all and so women are following in their footsteps. A win-win situation, if you ask me.

Haha. There's also the Sexuality/Ashewo thread. Have you seen that?

Nazgul:
Our useless coach is yet to make any changes. So what he's saying is that he's OK with what his players are playing on the pitch?

Amorim suppose dey do mishai. 😂😂😂😂

Nazgul:
Just wait and see.

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Useless club. Red devils indeed.

Gerrard59, this is what I was telling you earlier.

Gerrard59:
Thanks for explaining.


What I meant is that those Southeastern men who don't give head because of tradition have nothing to do with me. So my Igboness does not reach that side. I was not called headmaster for no reason. Why you think say I would rather reside permanently in a Black dominated environment?b

You're welcome.

Ohhhhhh!!! I get your point now.

Headmaster aye? Let Igwe give you the Headies Award plaque nau.